Project Parenthood
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Project Parenthood, hosted by clinical psychologist and respectful parenting advocate Dr. Nanika Coor, offers a refreshing alternative to traditional parenting advice. We believe raising the next generation involves fostering intentional, collaborative relationships with all children—whether you're a parent, teacher, mentor, or caregiver.
Each week, we dive into the depths of childhood, giving voice to young people and exploring their complex humanity. Through real conversations, expert insights, and a commitment to intergenerational healing, we'll learn how to empower children, approach them with curiosity, and build inclusive communities where every child, especially those from marginalized groups, feels seen, heard, and understood. Join us as we work together to create a world where children thrive and understand one another, breaking harmful cycles and building a future of empathy and respect. Because if trauma can be passed down, so can mental wellness and collective understanding.
Each week, we dive into the depths of childhood, giving voice to young people and exploring their complex humanity. Through real conversations, expert insights, and a commitment to intergenerational healing, we'll learn how to empower children, approach them with curiosity, and build inclusive communities where every child, especially those from marginalized groups, feels seen, heard, and understood. Join us as we work together to create a world where children thrive and understand one another, breaking harmful cycles and building a future of empathy and respect. Because if trauma can be passed down, so can mental wellness and collective understanding.
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Dec 15, 2025 • 23min
How do you get your kid to take accountability for their mistakes?
815. Why do kids sometimes get defensive, shut down, or lash out after they’ve made a mistake, broken a rule or hurt someone’s feelings? In this episode, Dr. Nanika Coor explains how to compassionately help children notice their impact without shame, while helping them take meaningful steps toward repairing relationship ruptures through the action-based making of amends. Sources:McCloud, C. (2018). Buckets, dippers, and lids: Secrets to your happiness. Bucket Fillers.Sandland, B. (2025). Neurodivergent Experiences of Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria Expose the Environmental Factors too Often Overlooked. Neurodiversity, 3. https://doi.org/10.1177/27546330251394516Related Project Parenthood Episodes:Stop forcing your child to apologizeRepairing the Break: How to Fix Things with Your KidThe First Step to Solve Child Behavior ProblemsDr. Coor’s Related Blog: A Stitch in Time Saves Nine: Relational Repair After Parent-Child ConflictsFind a transcript here.Have a parenting question? Email Dr. Coor at parenthood@quickanddirtytips.com or leave a voicemail at 646-926-3243.Find Project Parenthood on Facebook and Twitter, or subscribe to the Quick and Dirty Tips newsletter for more tips and advice.Project Parenthood is a part of Quick and Dirty Tips.Links: https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/subscribehttps://www.facebook.com/QDTProjectParenthoodhttps://twitter.com/qdtparenthoodhttps://brooklynparenttherapy.com/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Dec 8, 2025 • 12min
How do you get your kid to speak up for themselves?
814. Is making sure your child isn’t a doormat feel fraught with worry about them being “too aggressive”? In this episode, Dr. Nanika Coor guides parents through the foundational skills of respectful self-advocacy and how to cultivate them in your child, helping your child move through social challenges with more self-understanding and ease.Related Project Parenthood Episodes:Navigating the "cringe": How to parent kids who hate emotionsDitch Roadblocks, Build Connections: Unlocking Effective Communication with Your ChildDr. Coor’s Related Blog: Supporting Your Child’s Self-Worth: A Daily Practice of AcceptanceFind a transcript here.Have a parenting question? Email Dr. Coor at parenthood@quickanddirtytips.com or leave a voicemail at 646-926-3243.Find Project Parenthood on Facebook and Twitter, or subscribe to the Quick and Dirty Tips newsletter for more tips and advice.Project Parenthood is a part of Quick and Dirty Tips.Links: https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/subscribehttps://www.facebook.com/QDTProjectParenthoodhttps://twitter.com/qdtparenthoodhttps://brooklynparenttherapy.com/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Dec 1, 2025 • 11min
8 ways to help your child develop gratitude and thankfulness (Reissue)
Have you ever felt embarrassed because your child forgot to say "thank you"? This week, Dr. Nanika Coor answers a listener email and gives you 8 tips for helping your child develop gratitude. (Originally published November 21, 2021.)Project Parenthood is hosted by Dr. Nanika Coor.Find a transcript here. Have a parenting question? Email Dr. Coor at parenthood@quickanddirtytips.com or leave a voicemail at 646-926-3243.Find Project Parenthood on Facebook and Twitter, or subscribe to the Quick and Dirty Tips newsletter for more tips and advice.Project Parenthood is a part of Quick and Dirty Tips.Links: https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/subscribehttps://www.facebook.com/QDTProjectParenthoodhttps://twitter.com/qdtparenthoodhttps://brooklynparenttherapy.com/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Nov 24, 2025 • 14min
Am I failing my child if they need a screen to cope at family gatherings?
813. Does your child’s screen use spark tension when you get together with extended family? In this episode, Dr. Nanika Coor unpacks why family gatherings can amplify digital-device disagreements and how understanding your child’s needs can help you set boundaries with more clarity and calm. Learn how to protect your child’s unique needs and stay connected when opinions collide.Related Project Parenthood Episodes:How to Handle Holiday Parenting Stress8 Ways to Help Your Child Develop Gratitude and Thankfulness Dr. Coor’s Related Blog: Crush Your Parenting Overwhelm: Better Communication With The People You LoveFind a transcript here.Have a parenting question? Email Dr. Coor at parenthood@quickanddirtytips.com or leave a voicemail at 646-926-3243.Find Project Parenthood on Facebook and Twitter, or subscribe to the Quick and Dirty Tips newsletter for more tips and advice.Project Parenthood is a part of Quick and Dirty Tips.Links: https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/subscribehttps://www.facebook.com/QDTProjectParenthoodhttps://twitter.com/qdtparenthoodhttps://brooklynparenttherapy.com/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Nov 17, 2025 • 19min
Why does my kid always push my buttons?
812. In this episode, Dr. Nanika Coor explains how unresolved relational trauma can fuel a parent's reactive anger, and how understanding your own nervous system can help you respond to your child in more connected, calm, and intentional ways.Sources:https://cptsdfoundation.org/what-is-complex-post-traumatic-stress-disorder-cptsd/ Related Project Parenthood Episodes:How to Manage Your Anger and Frustration as a Parent 5 Steps to Becoming a Cycle Breaking Parent What is Respectful Parenting? Dr. Coor’s Related Blog: Supporting Your Child’s Self-Worth: A Daily Practice of Acceptance Find a transcript here.Have a parenting question? Email Dr. Coor at parenthood@quickanddirtytips.com or leave a voicemail at 646-926-3243.Find Project Parenthood on Facebook and Twitter, or subscribe to the Quick and Dirty Tips newsletter for more tips and advice.Project Parenthood is a part of Quick and Dirty Tips.Links: https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/subscribehttps://www.facebook.com/QDTProjectParenthoodhttps://twitter.com/qdtparenthoodhttps://brooklynparenttherapy.com/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Nov 10, 2025 • 15min
Is my ADHD kid deliberately uncooperative and ungrateful?
811. When your ADHD child is struggling, do you worry they’re acting out on purpose? In this episode, Dr. Nanika Coor unpacks the concept of executive function deficits in young people, and how shifting your perspective from "won't" to "can't" can help you respond to big emotions and challenging routines with more compassion and connection.Related Project Parenthood Episodes:Should you punish your ADHD child?How to reduce parental stress with mindfulnessBrain Boosters: powering up your child's executive functioning Dr. Coor’s Related Blog: Crush Your Parenting Overwhelm: Better Communication With The People You LoveFind a transcript here.Have a parenting question? Email Dr. Coor at parenthood@quickanddirtytips.com or leave a voicemail at 646-926-3243.Find Project Parenthood on Facebook and Twitter, or subscribe to the Quick and Dirty Tips newsletter for more tips and advice.Project Parenthood is a part of Quick and Dirty Tips.Links: https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/subscribehttps://www.facebook.com/QDTProjectParenthoodhttps://twitter.com/qdtparenthoodhttps://brooklynparenttherapy.com/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Nov 3, 2025 • 17min
Why is getting my kids out the door so chaotic?
Do your mornings feel like chaos on repeat? In this episode, Dr. Nanika Coor guides parents through creating calmer, more connected morning routines - even when executive function challenges, sibling conflict, and real-life pressures make smooth starts feel impossible. Learn practical tools for cooperation, compassion, and ease before your day even gets going.Related Project Parenthood Episodes:https://project-parenthood.simplecast.com/episodes/how-to-live-with-fighting-siblingshttps://project-parenthood.simplecast.com/episodes/10-ways-to-help-your-child-cooperate-without-using-punishmentsDr. Coor’s Related Media:https://brooklynparenttherapy.com/blog/low-pressure-parenting/https://brooklynparenttherapy.com/blog/become-a-wants-something-whisperer/Find a transcript here.Have a parenting question? Email Dr. Coor at parenthood@quickanddirtytips.com or leave a voicemail at 646-926-3243.Find Project Parenthood on Facebook and Twitter, or subscribe to the Quick and Dirty Tips newsletter for more tips and advice.Project Parenthood is a part of Quick and Dirty Tips.Links: https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/subscribehttps://www.facebook.com/QDTProjectParenthoodhttps://twitter.com/qdtparenthoodhttps://brooklynparenttherapy.com/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Oct 27, 2025 • 13min
Releasing the urge to fix your kids’ problems
809. Why does the urge to intervene feel so overwhelming? In this episode, Dr. Nanika Coor unpacks the anxiety and external pressures that fuel your need to "fix" your child's life - and how noticing your own internal experience can help you respond with respectful, connected, and liberating presence instead.Find a transcript here.Have a parenting question? Email Dr. Coor at parenthood@quickanddirtytips.com or leave a voicemail at 646-926-3243.Find Project Parenthood on Facebook and Twitter, or subscribe to the Quick and Dirty Tips newsletter for more tips and advice.Project Parenthood is a part of Quick and Dirty Tips.Links: https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/subscribehttps://www.facebook.com/QDTProjectParenthoodhttps://twitter.com/qdtparenthoodhttps://brooklynparenttherapy.com/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Oct 20, 2025 • 20min
How do you get your kids to talk to you?
808. Why does asking about your child's day often result in a frustrating "Fine" or "Nothing"? In this episode, Dr. Nanika Coor unpacks why kids of all ages sometimes don’t share much, what can lie beneath parent-child conversational disconnection, and how to build micro-rituals that foster more collaborative and connected communication.Find a transcript here.Have a parenting question? Email Dr. Coor at parenthood@quickanddirtytips.com or leave a voicemail at 646-926-3243.Find Project Parenthood on Facebook and Twitter, or subscribe to the Quick and Dirty Tips newsletter for more tips and advice.Project Parenthood is a part of Quick and Dirty Tips.Links: https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/subscribehttps://www.facebook.com/QDTProjectParenthoodhttps://twitter.com/qdtparenthoodhttps://brooklynparenttherapy.com/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Oct 13, 2025 • 16min
Why is my child so lazy?
807. Have you ever worried that your child’s “laziness” means they’ll never reach their potential? In this episode, Dr. Nanika Coor explores how internalized messages shape the way you understand motivation, and how you can replace frustration with curiosity and compassion, helping you and your child thrive with more connection and self-trust.Sources:Laziness Does Not Exist By Devon PriceRelated Project Parenthood Episodes:How to resist grind culture in your familyThe First Step to Solve Child Behavior ProblemsFind a transcript here.Have a parenting question? Email Dr. Coor at parenthood@quickanddirtytips.com or leave a voicemail at 646-926-3243.Find Project Parenthood on Facebook and Twitter, or subscribe to the Quick and Dirty Tips newsletter for more tips and advice.Project Parenthood is a part of Quick and Dirty Tips.Links: https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/subscribehttps://www.facebook.com/QDTProjectParenthoodhttps://twitter.com/qdtparenthoodhttps://brooklynparenttherapy.com/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
