
For The Love With Jen Hatmaker Podcast
New York Times bestselling author Jen Hatmaker and her longtime friend, Amy Hardin, have arrived in the middle years — and they couldn’t be happier about it. Each has navigated the ins and outs of life — from careers, to parenting, marriage (and, for Jen, divorce), spiritual evolution, and the joys of being hardcore Gen Xers.With each weekly episode, Jen and Amy serve as our “everywoman” guides to all the seasons — past, present, and future — as they walk excitedly and tenaciously into the second half of life.While Jen and Amy have plenty of wisdom to share — and some pretty hilarious stories, too — they don’t claim to know it all. That's why they invite some of the most interesting and accomplished guests to the podcast, bringing insight, expertise, and understanding to the most relevant topics of our time. From Jen and Amy’s compelling conversations with guests to their witty banter (and the occasional eye-rolls at the absurdities of life), they’re here reassure you that you’re not alone in this game of life. It’s “For the Love” of all that is good, justified, exasperating, exhilarating, real, fun — and so much more.
Latest episodes

Feb 26, 2025 • 1h 10min
Midlife Renaissance: Building Your Belonging Circle with Dr. Thema Bryant
Title: Midlife Renaissance: Building Your Belonging Circle with Dr Thema BryantDescription:Today, we’re revisiting a popular topic on this show: Friendships. More specifically, the revival of our friendships and our capacity for friendships in midlife. How many of us have sacrificed a relationship or a piece of ourselves in order to fulfill the implied demands of our role as a wife or mother or woman with a career? Dr. Thema Bryant is a renowned psychologist, author, professor, sacred artist, and minister, who empowers women to connect with themselves and to others by exploring fun and comfortable topics like our control issues and emotional unavailability with practical activation activities and teaching how to shift our mindset and patterns.Today, we’re delving into the impacts of loneliness, the complexities of navigating new and evolving friendships in midlife, and the importance of self-love and “coming home” to ourselves before we can build a community that can support us in the way we need it to.Aha moments from this episode include:
Common reasons why midlife can feel isolating to some women
The role major life changes (e.g., career shifts, divorce, empty nesting) play in creating a sense of disconnection
Signs that a friendship or community is not serving us well, including navigating shifts in those friendships and letting go of what no longer serves us and welcoming new connections
Practical activation exercises, such as writing vows to yourself, that you can practice to strengthen your relationships with yourself and others
Plus, Jen and Amy debut a new segment called “Zero Damns to Give” where they suss out what stuff really matters in this stage of their lives and what can be cast off, allowing them to step into full authenticity—without guilt, shame, or over-explanation.***SegmentsZero Damns to Give: Unapologetic midlife editionThought-provoking Quotes:When I observe someone making a polite but clear boundary, I respect it. I’m impressed. – Jen HatmakerCan you come to the place where you admit, I miss myself? And myself is not my labor. Myself is not my roles. Myself is a living soul and one of the things that feeds my soul are my friendships but those got neglected because I was told that to be a good leader or to be a good mom, I had to deprioritize the things that nourished me. – Dr. Thema BryantIf a community is not ready-made, something for you to join, it’s something for you to create. – Dr. Thema BryantOur wellness is more important than our loyalty. – Dr. Thema BryantResources Mentioned in This Episode:Matters of the Heart: Healing Your Relationship with Yourself and Those You Love by Dr. Thema Bryant - https://amzn.to/40XMql6Homecoming: Overcome Fear and Trauma to Reclaim Your Whole, Authentic Self by Dr. Thema Bryant - https://amzn.to/4hVYQ4cThe Homecoming Podcast with Dr. Thema Bryant - https://soundcloud.com/dr-thema-bryant-davisGuest’s Links:Thema’s website - https://drthema.com/Thema’s Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dr.thema/Thema’s Twitter - https://x.com/drthemaThema’s Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/ThemaBryantDavisThema’s YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxpb1ZdNd6M99Fhaw09H81QThema’s Podcast - https://soundcloud.com/dr-thema-bryant-davisConnect with Jen!Jen’s website - https://jenhatmaker.com/Jen’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/jenhatmakerJen’s Twitter - https://twitter.com/jenHatmaker/Jen’s Facebook - https://facebook.com/jenhatmakerJen’s YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/user/JenHatmakerThe For the Love Podcast is presented by Audacy. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Feb 21, 2025 • 1h 15min
Winning at Travel with “The Points Guy’s” Brian Kelly
Back in the olden days of the 1990s with our dial-up internet and AOL accounts, twelve-year-old Brian Kelly was at home honing his budding interest in travel planning by booking his family vacations and maximizing the reach of his family’s points and frequent flyer miles. Cut to a few decades later and that hobby (which started as a small-time blog powered by affiliate-marketing, which his mom was convinced was a scam) has evolved into a whirlwind operation that the world now knows familiarly as “The Points Guy”. Brian Sherpas us through all of the twists and turns of booking travel to eliminate the headaches and get THE MOST bang for our buck.Highlights from this chat include:
Why Brian thinks this is “the Platinum Age of Travel”
Mastering family travel – Brian has been to sixteen countries with his two-year-old and is currently planning a month-long trip to Thailand with his newborn so he’s figured this out!
How, when leveraged correctly, you can finance your travel using your loyalty points
The 3 main types of rewards to have on your radar
Surprisingly helpful hacks to avoid jetlag
And Jen shares a hilarious story about a flight to Spain seated next to a nun that quickly got out of hand
Segments:Rant or Rave: Early Airport ArrivalsGenXCellence: 80s/90s Travel***Thought-provoking Quotes:When people tell me that because of my knowledge, they were able to get the family together this year, that’s why I do what I do.– Brian KellyHaving points in a transferable currency is like an insurance policy. – Brian KellyFind where the deals are. That’s how you really save. Let the deal define your destination, especially if you’re booking multiple tickets. That’s when you save real money. Spend your money on the horseback riding experience, spend it on the meals, and the fun. – Brian Kelly You need to be your own advocate. I see people melting down in airports and getting bullied around, screaming at airline agents – the ones who hold all the power. I think people need a mentality shift because they assume they are owed something when they’re not. You need to know when to ask for favor and when you are owed something. It makes all the difference. – Brian Kelly To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Feb 19, 2025 • 1h 12min
Using Storytelling to Address Complex Social Issues: Dr. Tressie McMillan Cottom
Description:Jen first met Tressie McMillan Cottom the way most normal people meet – under the bright lights on the set of an Oprah special, invited by Ms. Winfrey to speak on a panel, along with other influential voices including Rebel Wilson, Amber Riley, Katie Sturino, Jamie Kern Lima, Busy Philipps and others to talk about diet culture, the harmful narratives we have surrounding our weight and our bodies, and how we can begin reframing the conversation away from one centered in shame to one focused on body acceptance. The entire studio was gobsmacked by Tressie which is fitting given that she is a prominent cultural commentator and Professor at UNC Chapel Hill. Her work explores the loaded and nuanced ideas like racial capitalism, beauty standards, the exploitation of higher education systems, but in a way that we ordinary Joe’s can understand. We knew immediately that she was destined to be a guest on our show and today is the day.Segments:Bless & Release: The News Cycle***Thought-provoking Quotes:I think every life has a trauma so there’s nothing really special about mine. But whatever your trauma is, you are usually faced with a decision, which is, do I want to be who I was before this or am I going to be something different? – Tressie McMillan CottomI love really hard questions. I am my happiest, most connected, most joyful, when I am trying to disentangle a really hard social problem that I think everybody has got wrong. I’m really attracted to those things where our beliefs are totally counter-intuitive, where our gut is telling us something is there but the picture is fuzzy, and I think I’m attracted to that because my path was so abnormal and so unique and I know that I wouldn’t have existed if people had just gone along with what was supposed to be. – Tressie McMillan CottomI thought my grandmothers sounded as intelligent as my professors and so I really struggled with the idea that there was something counterfeit or illegitimate about them and their stories and the things that I had learned from them. - Tressie McMillan CottomHistory is weirdly comforting when we can look at our worst impulses and know this isn't the first time we’ve faced this level of chaos and inequality and systemic injustice. It’s just our generation’s turn. – Jen HatmakerResources Mentioned in This Episode:Leave us a voicemail- https://jenhatmaker.com/podcast/ Click the “Send Voicemail” tab on the right side of the pagePantsuit Politics - https://www.pantsuitpoliticsshow.com/Allison Gill - https://allisongill.com/The Daily Beans | News with Swearing - https://www.dailybeanspod.com/Lower Ed: The Troubling Rise of For-Profit Colleges in the New Economy by Tressie McMillan Cottom - https://amzn.to/4hv6dPFThick: And Other Essays by Tressie McMillan Cottom - https://amzn.to/3Co8gWXDr. Tressie McMillan Cottom’s New York Times newsletter - https://www.nytimes.com/by/tressie-mcmillan-cottomTressie’s MacArthur Fellowship - https://www.macfound.org/fellows/class-of-2020/tressie-mcmillan-cottomOprah + Weight Watchers: Making the Shift special - https://www.weightwatchers.com/makingtheshift/?srsltid=AfmBOortVultNvf8Oy7KWezSW1X6uVsvMm9ziScOvAzxUg3XsWQ_2H44Guest’s Links:Dr. Cottom’s website - https://tressiemc.com/Dr. Cottom’s Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/tressiemcphd/Dr. Cottom’s Twitter - https://x.com/tressiemcphdDr. Cottom’s Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/tressiemcmillancottom/Dr. Cottom’s podcast - https://tressiemc.com/podcast/ Connect with Jen!Jen’s website - https://jenhatmaker.com/Jen’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/jenhatmakerJen’s Twitter - https://twitter.com/jenHatmaker/Jen’s Facebook - https://facebook.com/jenhatmakerJen’s YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/user/JenHatmakerThe For the Love Podcast is presented by Audacy. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Feb 14, 2025 • 59min
No Such Thing As Good or Bad Kids: Dr. Shefali on Conscious Parenting
Title: No Such Thing As Good or Bad Kids: Dr. Shefali on Conscious ParentingDescription:Today, we’re taking a trip into the archives to revisit a 2023 episode with renowned clinical psychologist and listener favorite, Dr. Shefali Tsabary, where we dove into the deeply-layered topic of conscious parenting. Those of us in the middle of life, still parenting kids at home, adjusting to parenting adult children who just launched out into the world. or in any season of the parenting journey, really, will find much to learn as we look back (and forward) at our parenting patterns.Highlights from this convo include:
Defining conscious parenting and the three stages of the parenting map
Debunking the notion that as parents we are supposed to create happy, perfect superhumans by following traditional parenting rules
Dismissing the notion that there are good kids and bad kids—and how to avoid using these labels
Revealing the five ego patterns that parents might not even realize inform their quest to raise amazing children
The three reasons why children act out or misbehave and how you can learn not to shame them for it
The results of over-parenting and how it shows up in your adult children
How it’s never too late to become a mindful parent
Segments:Bless and Release: Avoiding difficult conversationsThought-provoking Quotes:The evolution of the planet depends on the evolution of the parent. – Dr. ShefaliEveryone wants a new tomorrow. But what we don’t realize is that a new future comes with an absolute willingness to disrupt the past. – Dr. ShefaliThere is no such thing as a good kid or a bad kid. So, what kind of kids are there? Just kids – just humans who are terribly flawed like we are, and terribly, but amazingly blissful like we are. They’re just this unique combo and they defy labels. – Dr. ShefaliPunishment, shaming, blaming is never sustainable. I cannot tell you how many times a day I tell parents, ‘Listen, you appear to get control in the moment, but long term, it’s going to be unforgiving.’ – Dr. ShefaliHow do we constantly show our presence [to our adult children]? Unequivocal cheerleading. ‘I’m thinking of you. I miss you. I’m remembering you. I adore you.’ Let them know they are on your mind but not involved in their day-to-day. – Dr. ShefaliWhen the ego crumbles, proportionately the heart expands, and you then are just this heart-centered being able to connect to the other people in a very attuned, compassionate, genuine way. And your children will feel it. – Dr. ShefaliResources Mentioned in This Episode:The Conscious Parent by Dr. Shefali Tsabary - https://amzn.to/4aNAPd8The Parenting Map by Dr. Shefali Tsabary - https://amzn.to/3EER148Dr. Shefali’s previous interview on For the Love:Releasing The Fantasy of “The Good Girl” with Dr. Shefali Tsabary - https://jenhatmaker.com/podcasts/series-35/releasing-the-fantasy-of-the-good-girl-with-dr-shefali-tsabary/Guest’s Links:Dr. Shefali’s website - https://www.drshefali.com/Dr. Shefali’s Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/doctorshefaliDr. Shefali’s Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/doctorshefaliDr. Shefali’s YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/DrShefaliDr. Shefali’s TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@doctorshefaliDr. Shefali’s Podcast - https://www.drshefali.com/podcast/Connect with Jen!Jen’s website - https://jenhatmaker.com/Jen’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/jenhatmakerJen’s Twitter - https://twitter.com/jenHatmaker/Jen’s Facebook - https://facebook.com/jenhatmakerJen’s YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/user/JenHatmakerThe For the Love Podcast is presen To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Feb 12, 2025 • 1h 15min
What Time Is Noon (and Other Nonsense We Couldn’t Make Up If We Tried) with Chip Leighton
Description:Chip Leighton is a guy whose kids describe him as an “unemployed, middle-aged TikTokker“. He has turned the chaos of parenting kids – teens, in particular, into comedy gold. By taking hilarious text from teens and turning them into reels, he keeps the internet in stitches. With his hilarious take on raising teenagers that is so relatable and mirrors so many parents' exact experiences, Chip helps countless moms and dads know that they are not alone in their wild journey. Now he’s compiling the best conversations from texts and real-life moments into his new book, What Time Is Noon?Chip and Jen talk about:
The names we are given as parents of teens: Gangster, Bruh, or Jen’s favorite….Pimp
Ridiculous questions our kids have asked, such as: Did grandma have kids? Am I a notary? Am I on Medicare? What’s a stamp?
Savage burns Chip’s kids have made about his wardrobe: Our favorite – “that looks like the material they make tents from”.
Endless instructions from the teens on how not to be embarrassing in front of their friends
Also, Chip tells the story of deciding to leave his corporate job to try his hand at standup (at the urging of one Caroline Rhea).
Segments:Bless & Release: The clothes we made our kids wearGenXCellence: Parenting in GenX versus GenZ ***Thought-provoking Quotes:I’m nostalgic about the feral children going out riding their bikes, building forts, staying out till the streetlights came on. – Amy HardinIt’s universal, it’s all teens. They don’t know how to dress properly for the weather. But they know what we (the parents) are doing wrong. – Jen Hatmaker and Chip LeightonYou wouldn’t have predicted that I would be funny. Neither of my parents were performers. I wasn’t the class clown. I’ve always had a dry sense of humor and I’ve appreciated that type of comedy, I’ve just kept it inside all these years. – Chip LeightonI do believe that everybody has some strengths and interests and talents that aren’t necessarily fully leveraged in the typical career or job that they have and these new platforms help bring that out and there are more creative people able to connect with an audience now. – Chip LeightonResources Mentioned in This Episode:What Time is Noon?: Hilarious Texts, Ridiculous Feedback, and Not-So-Subtle Advice from Teenagers by Chip Leighton - https://amzn.to/4hp7qrHCaroline Rhea - https://carolinerhea.com/Guest’s Links:Chip’s website - https://theleightonshow.com/Chip’s Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/the_leighton_show/Chip’s Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/theleightonshow/Chip’s YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCzdstcflneJKZ_Qi5TQAvQQChip’s TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@the_leighton_showConnect with Jen!Jen’s website - https://jenhatmaker.com/Jen’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/jenhatmakerJen’s Twitter - https://twitter.com/jenHatmaker/Jen’s Facebook - https://facebook.com/jenhatmakerJen’s YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/user/JenHatmakerThe For the Love Podcast is presented by Audacy. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Feb 7, 2025 • 57min
Title: January 2025: Ruth Ware’s The Woman in Cabin 10
Description:It seemed like a good idea at the time… a twisty, suspenseful thriller set on a cruise ship. How could this not be the perfect story to build a little buzz and excitement in my community ahead of our upcoming Jen Hatmaker cruise? Did we get more than we bargained for?Ruth Ware’s writing has rightfully been compared to that of suspense-queen, Agatha Christie, for featuring everyday female protagonists often white-knuckling it through some treacherous situations in places where they are isolated from any rescue – a glass house in the woods, an excluded ski resort, a remote tropical island, a boutique cruise ship! Today, Jen sits down with the author of our January 2025 JHBC pick to navigate the many twists and turns of The Woman in Cabin 10 and why so many of our readers are losing sleep this month thanks to her innate skill of setting a heart-pounding scene. ***Thought-provoking Quotes:People are comparing me to Agatha Christie which is kind of terrifying. The thing that is so brilliant about some of Christie’s books that I love the most is the closed room setting: the terrifying storm-wracked island, the luxury train in the middle of the snow storm, or the Dahabiya drifting down the Nile. What she does so brilliantly is that sense of corrupted luxury, that setting that should be really idyllic turns out horrific and becomes more and more claustrophobic and more terrifying. – Ruth WareI have never been on a cruise but I had a chance to look around a ship as a day passenger and I was so surprised by how much I got right. There was so much that I had guessed at and I turned out to be more correct than I ever could have imagined. – Ruth WareThe way in which you write fear, to me, it feels the truest version of it when it’s not screaming, ‘you’re so scared, you can’t make a sound’ or ‘you’re so scared, you’re frozen – you can’t move.’ That to me, rings true. – Jen HatmakerI do try really hard to drop clues and play fair with the reader. I know as a reader, the feeling that I hate most, is what I feel like the writer has cheated me and there was information that I couldn’t possibly have known, stuff I couldn’t have guessed and that I find deeply irritating as a reader. I try always to feel like I played fair with the reader and they did have a chance of guessing it even if they didn’t get there. – Ruth WareIsn’t that why we love reading crime? It’s because you can have bad things happen in a fictional world. It doesn’t always get tied up in every single respect and yes, there’s sadness in terms that someone is usually dead. But there is some kind of restorative justice at the end. – Ruth WareResources Mentioned in This Episode:The Woman in Cabin 10 by Ruth Ware - https://amzn.to/3DKHCrHIn a Dark, Dark Wood by Ruth Ware - https://amzn.to/400kQ6gAgatha Christie - https://www.agathachristie.com/Below Deck tv show - https://www.bravotv.com/below-deckThe Woman in Suite 11 by Ruth Ware - https://amzn.to/4gKYDk1The Woman in Cabin 10 on Netflix - https://www.netflix.com/tudum/articles/the-woman-in-cabin-10-release-date-photos-newsWe Live Here Now by Sarah Pinborough - https://amzn.to/4h7kkKNGuest’s Links:Ruth’s website - https://ruthware.com/Ruth’s Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/ruthwarewriter/Ruth’s Twitter - https://x.com/RuthWareWriterRuth’s Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/ruthwarewriter/Ruth’s Threads - https://www.threads.net/@ruthwarewriterConnect with Jen!Jen’s website - https://jenhatmaker.com/Jen’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/jenhatmakerJen’s Twitter - https://twitter.com/jenHatmaker/Jen’s Facebook - https://facebook.com/jenhatmakerJen’s YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/user/JenHatmakerThe For the Love Podcast is presented by Audacy. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Feb 5, 2025 • 1h 6min
Title: Big Time Adulting with Caitlin Murray
Description:In this funny, refreshing, and irreverent conversation about parenting, Jen welcomes Caitlin Murray to the show to talk about her Big Time Adulting community space, the blog (and now podcast) that Caitlin started when her 5-year-old son was in cancer treatment for Leukemia, as a place to connect with other moms and parents craving funny, provocative, no-nonsense entertainment to distract themselves from the hamster wheel of lifeLike a big sister, Jen offers encouragement to guide Cailin through the years to come, with the two ultimately agreeing that early childhood is hard but middle school is the real shit show.They commiserate over:
Spirit Weeks, PTA obligations, and signing reading logs
The idea of the 'Hardship Olympics' that creates unnecessary competition among women / moms
Comparison parenting and why authenticity resonates more with their communities than curated perfection
How community and humor that can be found in the everyday chaos of parenting
***Thought-provoking Quotes:I had begun writing as a therapeutic outlet to family and friends. It was really just for me to put out there how I was feeling on these long days at the hospital and the things that I saw going on around me – the emotion and the stress of it all. I felt like I was protecting myself by saying exactly how I was feeling about what we were going through rather than having anyone assume what I was feeling or thinking. – Caitlin MurrayBy the time I had been through hell and back for over three years of pediatric cancer with my son, I knew my worth as a mother. I don’t give a f*ck about what anyone has to say about who I am. I know I am a good damn mom. – Caitlin MurrayThe things that you lay in bed at night and obsess over – things that you did poorly, when you lost your shit, you missed something or you messed up – it just falls right out of your kids' brains. It’s not the bones; it’s the soft tissue that sticks and makes it into their adult psyche. ‘I was deeply loved, I lived in a safe, secure home / family, my mom was into me, my mom thinks I’m funny, we laughed a lot in our home.’ That’s the stuff that lasts. Everything else turns into funny, comedic material. – Jen HatmakerResources Mentioned in This Episode:McSweeney’s article - Did You Even Consider Every Possible Lived Experience Before Recklessly Posting Your Chili Recipe on Social Media? - https://www.mcsweeneys.net/articles/did-you-even-consider-every-possible-lived-experience-before-recklessly-posting-your-chili-recipe-on-social-mediaAnne Lamott - https://amzn.to/4h6cwcODavid Sedaris - https://amzn.to/3E48QtmEdith Eger - https://amzn.to/4hoXdM4You’ll Grow Out Of It by Jessi Klein - https://amzn.to/40oiSNmGuest’s Links:Caitlin’s website - https://bigtimeadulting.blog/Caitlin’s Big Time Adulting podcast - https://open.spotify.com/show/7nBEnM3JLnpSsyzxWyKZJJ?si=3b76f80afad345b7Caitlin’s Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bigtimeadulting/Caitlin’s Twitter - https://x.com/Caitlin98714163Caitlin’s Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/OfficialBigTimeAdultingCaitlin’s Soul Snacks Newsletter - https://bigtimeadulting.beehiiv.com/Connect with Jen!Jen’s website - https://jenhatmaker.com/Jen’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/jenhatmakerJen’s Twitter - https://twitter.com/jenHatmaker/Jen’s Facebook - https://facebook.com/jenhatmakerJen’s YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/user/JenHatmakerThe For the Love Podcast is presented by Audacy. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jan 29, 2025 • 1h 17min
Finding Freedom with Mel Robbins and Two Little Words: Let Them
Buckle up, listeners. It was only a matter of time before our paths crossed with Mel Robbins, one of the most respected experts on change and motivation in the zeitgeist, and today is that day. Known for being the host of the #1 ranking education podcast in the world, bringing deeply relatable topics, tactical advice, tools, and compelling conversations to her audiences, Jen and Amy spend today’s hour diving into Mel’s “Let Them” theory, which is taking the world by storm, already delivering instant peace and freedom in the lives and relationships of people putting it into practice.Together, they discuss:
The difference between “Let Them” and “Let Me”
Learning to release the white-knuckle grip we hold over other people’s behavior (and other things beyond our control)
Reframing disappointment to view it as a gift (yes, it’s possible!)
Repositioning self-worth inward, rather than leaving it dependent on others' opinions.
***Thought-provoking Quotes:“For a lot of women, we spend so much time upstairs in our heads as people-pleasers and over-analyzers, over-thinking and ruminating, trying to get things perfect. That’s the last place I should be, personally. I need to drop into my body and get out of my head.” – Mel Robbins“People reveal who they are and what they care about through their behavior. Ignore their words. Watch their behavior. Let people be who they are. Let them do what they’re going to do. Focusing on them is not where your power is.” – Mel Robbins“The difference between ‘not my business’ and ‘let them’ is worlds apart. When you say, ‘not my business’, you’re scolding yourself. With, ‘let them’, you’re in the power position because you see what’s happening and are choosing to allow it without allowing it. You’re rising above it.” – Mel Robbins“There’s something about learning that [people] aren’t ever going to change but that doesn’t mean your relationship can’t change for the better. When you let them be who they are, you create space for acceptance, the whole energy shifts.” – Mel RobbinsResources Mentioned in This Episode:Demotivators - https://despair.com/collections/Effin Birds on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/effinbirds/Van Morrison - https://www.vanmorrison.com/No Hard Feelings by the Avett Brothers - https://open.spotify.com/track/0bgQ1hQrpP6ScdBZlDfLE2Foo Fighters - https://foofighters.com/DePeche Mode - https://www.depechemode.com/The Cure - https://www.thecure.com/Taylor Swift - https://www.taylorswift.com/The 5 Second Rule: Transform Your Life, Work, and Confidence with Everyday Courage by Mel Robbins - https://amzn.to/427OHwuThe Let Them Theory: A Life-Changing Tool That Millions of People Can't Stop Talking About by Mel Robbins - https://amzn.to/4hc53bEThe Mel Robbins Podcast - https://www.melrobbins.com/podcastThe Four Questions: For Henny Penny and Anybody with Stressful Thoughts by Byron Katie - https://amzn.to/3C7tKXTMy Legacy Podcast - https://www.iheart.com/podcast/1119-my-legacy-podcast-255793246/Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl - https://amzn.to/4ajbyazDr. Stuart Ablon - https://www.stuartablon.com/The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life by Mark Manson - https://amzn.to/3PCqxmiGuest’s Links:Mel’s website - https://www.melrobbins.com/Mel’s podcast - https://www.melrobbins.com/podcastMel’s Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/Mel’s Twitter - https://x.com/melrobbinsMel’s Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/melrobbinsMel’s YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/melrobbinsMel’s TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@melrobbinsConnect with Jen!Jen’s website - https://jenhatmaker.com/Jen’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/jenhatmakerJen’s Twitter - https://twitter.com/jenHatmaker/Jen’s Facebook - https://facebook.com/jenhatmakerJen’s YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/user/JenHatmakerThe For the Love Podcast is presented by Audacy. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jan 22, 2025 • 1h 24min
Tell Me More: The Power of Hard Conversations with Kelly Corrigan
Description:In this thought-provoking conversation, Jen and Amy speak with “poet laureate of the ordinary” Kelly Corrrigan about the valuable lessons from life she’s reflecting on in this season: the significance of saying hard things, the power of listening and understanding in relationships, observations from parenting and from a career as a writer, podcaster and storyteller, and the importance of participating in democracy, regardless of who is in power. In this episode, which was recorded on Election Day 2024 (prior to knowing the outcome) Kelly uses her trademark wit and steadfast wisdom to offer listeners evergreen words of encouragement for our political landscape and for our lives in whole.Segments:Bless & Release: Lies we tell ourselvesGenXcellence: MTV music videos***Thought-provoking Quotes:“We have created this way of interpreting someone changing their mind as a flip-flopper and we have left no room for someone to grow.” – Kelly Corrigan“Making is good for individual well-being. Having an inventor’s or innovator’s mindset is just good for society.” – Kelly Corrigan“Once you say something out loud, it just gets smaller. It packs less of a punch. It’s the stuff that we’re holding and never saying to anyone that’s going to be the death of us.” – Kelly CorriganResources Mentioned in This Episode:The Strumbellas - https://thestrumbellas.ca/Arcade Fire - https://www.arcadefire.com/Mt. Joy - https://www.mtjoyband.com/Bless and Release sweatshirt - https://shop.jenhatmaker.com/collections/apparel-accessories/products/bless-release-sweatshirtJamie Wright - https://www.instagram.com/jamietheveryworst/MTV - https://www.mtv.com/American Bandstand TV show (1952-1989) - https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0049993/Madonna - Like a Virgin - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s__rX_WL100American Top 40 with Casey Kasem (1970-1988) - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/American_Top_40The Middle Place by Kelly Corrigan - https://amzn.to/3AgM14gTell Me More: Stories About the 12 Hardest Things I'm Learning to Say by Kelly Corrigan - https://amzn.to/3UGcjUfKelly’s IG post about the NYC Marathon - https://www.instagram.com/p/DB7IZumy6aR/National Lampoon’s Animal House film (1978) - https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0077975/Nantucket Project - https://nantucketproject.com/Nantucket Project 2024 - Kelly Corrigan’s Annual Wrap-Up - https://nantucketproject.com/2-2024-gathering/Aspen Ideas Festival - https://www.aspenideas.org/TED - https://www.ted.com/Marianne the Maker by Kelly Corrigan and Claire Corrigan Lichty - https://amzn.to/4hBUY92George Sweetland (illustrator) - https://www.georgesweetland.org/Bryan Stevenson on Kelly Corrigan Wonders - https://www.kellycorrigan.com/podcast/category/Bryan+StevensonJennifer Garner and Christy Turlington Burns on Kelly Corrigan Wonders - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/jennifer-garner-and-christy-turlington-burns-talking-moms/id1532951390?i=1000654904522Steve Kerr on Kelly Corrigan Wonders - https://www.kellycorrigan.com/podcast/kerrkamauGuest’s Links:Kelly Corrigan Website - https://www.kellycorrigan.com/Kelly Corrigan Wonders Podcast - https://www.kellycorrigan.com/podcastKelly Corrigan Books - https://www.kellycorrigan.com/booksKelly’s Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/kellycorrigan/Kelly’s Facebook -https://www.facebook.com/kellycorriganauthorKelly’s YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@kellycorriganvideoConnect with Jen!Jen’s website - https://jenhatmaker.com/Jen’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/jenhatmakerJen’s Twitter - https://twitter.com/jenHatmaker/Jen’s Facebook - https://facebook.com/jenhatmakerJen’s YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/user/JenHatmakerThe For the Love Podcast is presented by Audacy. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jan 17, 2025 • 53min
Unlocking Presence (and Other Woo-Woo Sh*t We Like) with Activations and Mimi Bouchard
Description:Life throws some challenging stuff at us. Sometimes we rely on traditional therapies and resources trusted in Western medicine to help us through. And sometimes, we need to look to alternative and newly emerging tools to experience the relief or breakthrough that we need. In today’s conversation, Mimi Bouchard, founder of the Activations app (formerly known as Superuman) shares her transformative journey from a troubled adolescence marked by substance abuse and self-doubt to becoming a successful entrepreneur and advocate for personal development. She discusses how her unique approach to 'activations' has helped her and so many others achieve emotional and mental wellbeing by utilizing unique audios that are a mix between a motivational podcast, cinematic music and guided visualization.From guided visualization practices and breathwork to grounding, reiki, and other body work Jen and Amy also talk about other “woo-woo” wellness approaches that have been useful for them in their healing needs. For The Love listeners have an opportunity to try Activations at a steep discount on a yearly subscription by visiting activations.com/jen.***Thought-provoking Quotes:It was the beginning of a completely new life for me. I’m not going to say that I woke up the next day and I was perfect and completely transformed. It’s obviously a mega-journey and it’s not linear and growth is so messy. – Mimi Bouchard I had to believe in myself. The only thing that got me there was just this core deep belief in myself that I had to develop. I didn’t have that in my younger years. Doing this work of personal development was the only thing that mattered when everyone else doubted me. It drove me. At the end of the day, it’s a very lonely journey at the beginning. I had to be alone a lot. I had to be the only one who deeply believed in myself. – Mimi BouchardWhen you’re feeling alive, it slows down time. What a blessing to be able to slow down time – life goes by so quickly. The more things we can do to slow down time, the better our lives will be, and more clear. You have to unnumb yourself. When you numb yourself so much, it’s very hard to get clear or get unstuck. It’s very easy to stay in your old ways and just numb, numb, numb until you just feel nothing anymore. – Mimi BouchardI think so much of it is the intention with which you do things. If you are open-hearted and seeking, a lot of tools can benefit you. – Amy HardinResources Mentioned in This Episode:The Success Principles: How to Get from Where You Are to Where You Want to Be by Jack Canfield - https://amzn.to/3CYaVq7Activations App - https://www.superhuman.app/homeActivate Your Future Self: The Secret to Effortlessly Becoming the Happiest, Healthiest and Wealthiest You by Mimi Bouchard - https://amzn.to/4gck8t6Guest’s Links:Mimi’s website - https://www.mimibouchard.com/aboutMimi’s Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/mimibouchardMimi’s Twitter - https://x.com/mimibouchardMimi’s Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/officialmimibouchardActivations App - https://www.superhuman.app/homeConnect with Jen!Jen’s website - https://jenhatmaker.com/Jen’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/jenhatmakerJen’s Twitter - https://twitter.com/jenHatmaker/Jen’s Facebook - https://facebook.com/jenhatmakerJen’s YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/user/JenHatmakerThe For the Love Podcast is presented by Audacy. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices