

A Millennial Mind
Shivani Pau
A Millennial Mind is a podcast about perspective, because when you understand someone’s mind, you understand their world. But we all live with limited data. Our beliefs, experiences, and knowledge are just a few dots. And if you don’t collect enough dots, you can’t connect them and you can’t grow.That’s why this podcast exists: to gather those dots.Each episode, I invite experts, thought leaders, and change makers to challenge how I think, on everything from mental health, hormones, and habits to relationships, identity, and success. We bust myths, reframe narratives, and explore what it really takes to shift your mindset. Because when you change your mind, you change your thoughts.And when you change your thoughts, you change your life. So if you’re ready to think differently, welcome to the reimagined A Millennial Mind.Hit subscribe and let’s start connecting the dots together.
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Aug 15, 2025 • 13min
Dr Tara: How Swinging And Sex Parties Can Save Your Relationship! | AMM Minutes
In this small section from this week's episode, I sit down with Dr. Tara to explore the fascinating world of swingers, especially within the Indian community. We break down the key differences between swingers and sex parties, the unique symbols used within the swinger community, and the vital importance of communication and consent in non-monogamous relationships. Dr. Tara also sheds light on overcoming societal stigma and the benefits of hiring a non-monogamy coach. Tune in for an insightful and candid discussion that challenges traditional relationship norms.
00:00 Introduction to Swinging in the Indian Community
01:17 Exploring Swingers and Their Signs
02:26 Rules and Communication in Swinging
04:30 Sex Parties: What to Expect
06:25 Navigating Non-Monogamous Relationships
10:04 Overcoming Stigma and Building Supportive Relationships
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Aug 12, 2025 • 1h 2min
Non-Monogamy: Is Sexual Monogamy the Downfall of Relationships? Sex & Relationship Expert Dr Tara
This week on A Millennial Mind, I'm joined by Dr. Tara, a leading expert in sex and relationships, to dive deep into the realities and misconceptions surrounding monogamy. We explore whether monogamy actually works, discuss the rise of ethical non-monogamy, and highlight the importance of communication and consent in all relationships. Dr. Tara also shares her personal journey from a conservative background to becoming a sex-positive influencer.
What we'll cover:
00:00 Introduction: Does Monogamy Actually Work?
00:51 Sponsor Message: Lovable AI Platform
01:46 Exploring Modern Love and Relationships
03:04 Guest Introduction: Dr. Tara's Expertise
05:13 Defining Monogamy in Today's Society
07:21 The Challenges of Sexual Monogamy
09:03 Evolutionary Perspectives on Monogamy
14:24 Ethical Non-Monogamy and Self-Worth
22:03 Understanding Different Types of Non-Monogamy
30:48 Communicating Non-Monogamy in Relationships
32:29 The Goal of Parenting and Emotional Infidelity
35:25 Cultural Misconceptions and Upbringing
37:52 Journey to Sexual Liberation
40:55 Swingers and Sex Parties
45:37 Navigating Non-Monogamous Relationships
53:13 Respect and Value in Relationships
56:53 Concluding Thoughts on Monogamy and Non-Monogamy
Whether you're curious, open-minded, or questioning traditional views on love and commitment, this episode promises to challenge your perspectives and encourage meaningful conversations. Join us as we uncover what it really means to build a relationship that reflects your values.
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Aug 8, 2025 • 12min
How To Be Successful But STILL Find Joy! | AMM Minutes
In this clip from this week's full episode, I sit down with Dr. Judith Joseph to explore the nuances of high functioning depression, a condition still not widely recognised by the medical community. We discuss the critical role of identifying early signs and symptoms, such as anhedonia and psychomotor agitation, before they escalate into a crisis.
Dr. Joseph highlights the disparity between advancements in physical and mental health approaches and stresses the importance of incorporating daily moments of joy to achieve a balanced and fulfilling life. Tune in for practical advice on how to manage success without sacrificing happiness.
00:00 Understanding Anhedonia and High Functioning Depression
00:47 The Renaissance in Physical Health vs. Mental Health
01:31 Identifying Signs of High Functioning Depression
02:43 The Impact of Restlessness on Joy
06:16 Balancing Success and Joy
08:49 The Role of Gratitude and Other Emotions in Happiness
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Aug 5, 2025 • 55min
5 Signs You're Living With High Functioning Depression | Top Psychiatrist: Dr Judith Joseph
In this insightful episode, I sit down with Dr. Judith Joseph, a leading psychiatrist and author of 'High Functioning: Overcome Your Hidden Depression and Start to Reclaim Your Joy.' We delve deep into the often misunderstood realm of high-functioning depression—where individuals maintain external success while silently struggling with inner turmoil.
Dr. Joseph explains the differences between happiness and joy, the symptoms of high-functioning depression, and the crucial concept of anhedonia (a lack of joy and interest). She also shares practical advice on how to detect and address hidden depression before it leads to a crisis. This episode is for anyone who has ever been told, 'but you don't look depressed' and is seeking to understand the science of joy and happiness.
Tune in to gain a fresh perspective and practical tools for reclaiming your mental well-being.
00:00 Understanding Clinical Depression Beyond Sadness
00:13 The Divide Between Happiness and Joy
01:46 Introducing Dr. Judith Joseph and Her New Book
02:12 Exploring High Functioning Depression
05:26 The Science of Happiness and Joy
10:05 Identifying and Addressing Anhedonia
14:16 The Importance of Preventative Mental Health
20:24 Balancing Success and Joy
27:34 The Impact of Social Circles on Joy
27:50 The Struggle of Sharing Difficulties
29:00 Invalidation and Toxic Friendships
29:57 Cultural and Religious Invalidation
31:26 Understanding High-Functioning Depression
32:41 The Importance of Validation
38:48 Mental Health Across Cultures
41:19 Supporting a Partner with Depression
48:16 Lifestyle Changes for High-Functioning Depression
50:55 Final Thoughts on High-Functioning Depression
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Aug 1, 2025 • 17min
Living In Circadian Alignment Will Make You Live Longer! | AMM Minutes
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This week's guest is Ayurvedic health consultant, Dr Sam Watts. In this small section of our full weekly episode, we dive deep into the fundamental importance of circadian alignment for not only cancer prevention but overall health and longevity.
Sam breaks down the science behind circadian medicine, including its Nobel Prize-winning recognition in 2018, and explains how even our ancient Palaeolithic genome influences our need for natural light exposure. We discuss the detrimental effects of circadian misalignment, now classified as a type 1A carcinogen, and provide practical tips for achieving optimal circadian rhythms by aligning sleep and wake cycles with natural light patterns.
Join us for a comprehensive guide on how to live a healthier, happier life through circadian alignment.
So tell me... Did we change your mind? 🤔
00:00 The Importance of Circadian Alignment
01:30 Circadian Misalignment: A Modern Carcinogen
01:58 The Evolutionary Perspective on Circadian Rhythms
03:26 Personal Struggles with Circadian Rhythms
06:25 The Science Behind Circadian Rhythms
11:06 Consequences of Circadian Misalignment
13:29 The Role of Light in Regulating Circadian Rhythms
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Jul 29, 2025 • 1h 40min
"Ayurveda DOES Help Cure Cancer Even At Stage 4!" Dr Sam Watts Explains
In this comprehensive episode, I sit down with Dr. Sam Watts, integrative healthcare consultant and author of 'The Ayurvedic Approach to Cancer,' to build an understanding of how Ayurveda can play a critical role in supporting conventional cancer care.
We examine the time-tested principles and individualised approach of Ayurveda, its origins, and the unique benefits it offers.
Dr. Watts shares compelling research on how lifestyle adjustments, diet, herbal remedies, and circadian rhythm alignment can offer significant support to those diagnosed with cancer.
We delve into real-life examples of those who have beaten the odds, addressing misconceptions and the powerful role of mindset and purpose in healing. Practical steps are shared for cancer patients to empower themselves and foster hope. This impactful conversation aims to merge ancient wisdom with modern medicine for a holistic approach to cancer treatment.
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00:00 Introduction to Ayurveda and Cancer
00:36 Daily Routines for Cancer Patients
01:06 Personal Stories and Testimonials
01:27 Sponsor Message: Lovable AI Platform
02:23 Exploring Integrative Cancer Care
05:20 Understanding Ayurveda and Doshas
07:56 Challenges and Misconceptions of Ayurveda
23:24 Public Perception and Acceptance of Ayurveda
25:17 Integrative Cancer Care and ECAPs
36:22 A Remarkable Cancer Survivor's Story
37:37 The Power of Purpose and Belief
38:17 Skepticism and the Reality of Cancer
39:16 The Complexity of Cancer Prognosis
41:13 The Role of Personality in Cancer Survival
46:46 Steps to Take After a Cancer Diagnosis
47:50 The Importance of Structured Cancer Care
57:21 The Science Behind Herbal Medicines
01:02:00 Circadian Alignment and Cancer
01:07:16 Struggling with Circadian Rhythm
01:07:48 Understanding the SCN and Circadian Alignment
01:08:41 The Importance of Morning Light Exposure
01:13:09 Consequences of Circadian Misalignment
01:17:41 Ayurveda and Circadian Health
01:22:28 Optimizing Your Daily Routine
01:26:14 Ashwagandha: Benefits and Misconceptions
01:28:38 Ayurveda and Cancer Treatment
01:34:52 Finding Hope and Purpose
01:37:16 Final Thoughts and Gratitude
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Jul 25, 2025 • 15min
Nicola Adams: Redefining Beauty Standards & Building Self-Worth | AMM Minutes
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Join me and the incredible Nicola Adams in this segment from this week's full episode in partnership with Dove's Self-Esteem project, where we discuss how we can move beyond complimenting each other solely based on appearances.
In this insightful conversation, we talk about the significance of valuing inner qualities and shared experiences over looks, societal conditioning, and the power of authentic connections. Nicola opens up about her journey of unlearning traditional beauty standards and embracing her true self.
We also introduce practical exercises, like the Dove Body Confidence Journal, to help you reflect on self-talk and build meaningful relationships. Tune in to learn how to celebrate strength, bravery, and individuality in yourself and others. Don't miss this enlightening discussion!
00:00 Introduction: Moving Beyond Looks
00:15 Shifting the Conversation
00:50 Breaking Stereotypes
01:43 Focusing on Inner Qualities
02:51 Self-Reflection and Growth
06:37 Redefining Confidence
10:44 Embracing Authenticity
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Jul 22, 2025 • 51min
How to Build Authentic Confidence: Why Appearance Isn’t Everything with Nicola Adams
AD | In this powerful episode of Millennial Mind, we sit down with boxing icon Nicola Adams to explore the impact of toxic beauty ideals, body talk and the journey to self-confidence. From breaking barriers in a male-dominated sport to pushing back against the narrow standards of the Y2K era, Nicola shares how she embraced authenticity over appearance.We also cover the concept of "Body Talk" the everyday comments, whether well-meaning or critical, that reinforce narrow beauty standards and shape how we see ourselves. Nicola opens up about how these messages have affected her and how we can all work to change the conversation. Together, we explore how shifting our focus from appearance to effort, energy, and personal strength can alter the way we perceive ourselves and others.This episode is presented in partnership with Dove and their Self-Esteem Project, which offers science-backed tools to help improve body image and build lasting confidence.Join us in this inspiring discussion about confidence, self-worth, and the small shifts that can lead to big changes.If you want more support, Dove has created a journal full of body confidence exercises. You can find it at dove.com/why2k 00:00 Introduction to the Competitive World of Sports
00:27 Media Influence on Beauty Standards
01:08 Partnering with Dove for Change
02:47 Exploring the Y2K Era
03:34 Challenges of Conforming to Beauty Ideals
05:05 Breaking Stereotypes in Sports
09:11 Navigating Female Friendships and Cliques
14:53 Impact of Body Talk and Social Media
21:52 Shifting the Narrative on Appearance
23:13 Interactive Exercise for Listeners
23:22 Reflecting on Appearance-Based Comments
25:28 Impact of Positive Non-Appearance Compliments
29:43 Shifting Conversations to Values
37:32 Redefining Confidence and Body Image
45:22 Concluding Thoughts and Encouragement
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Jul 18, 2025 • 15min
Processed Meats and Alcohol Are More Dangerous Than You Think: Rhiannon Lambert | AMM Minutes
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Join us in this insightful segment from a larger conversation featuring nutrition expert Rhiannon Lambert.
In this section, we delve into the alarming truths about processed meats and their severe impact on health, especially focusing on their classification as class one carcinogens. We discuss the rise in bowel cancer rates and the life expectancy concerns due to food choices.
Rhiannon also sheds light on the misleading health claims of ultra-processed foods, the impact of alcohol on cancer risk, and the criticality of fiber in our diets. Tune in for a comprehensive look at how our everyday food choices can have significant long-term health impacts.
00:00 The Fear of Processed Foods and Cancer
00:14 The Dangers of Red and Processed Meats
01:37 Celebratory Foods and Their Health Impacts
02:01 Choosing Healthier Alternatives
04:13 Alcohol and Its Carcinogenic Effects
05:06 The Confusion Around Health Studies
06:25 The Role of Sun Exposure and Vitamin D
08:47 The Consequences of Cutting Out Ultra Processed Foods
11:55 The Importance of Fiber in Our Diet
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Jul 15, 2025 • 1h 7min
What Ultra-Processed Foods Are REALLY Doing To Our Health: Nutritionist Rhiannon Lambert
Join me on 'A Millennial Mind' Podcast in this fascinating episode featuring Rhiannon Lambert, a renowned registered nutritionist and bestselling author. We unravel the complexities and hidden truths of ultra-processed foods, challenging many common beliefs about diet and health.
If you think avoiding every packet on the supermarket shelf makes you healthier, think again. Rhiannon brings to l the nuanced reality of UPFs, revealing that not all processed foods are inherently bad and how they fit into a balanced diet. Discover why obsessing over perfect eating can do more harm than good and how small, informed changes can improve your overall well-being. This episode will make you rethink everything you thought you knew about food.
So tell me, did we change your mind? ✨ Let me know in the comments!
00:00 Introduction to the Processed Foods Debate
00:39 Welcome to Millennial Mind
02:40 Defining Processed Foods
05:39 The Impact of Ultra-Processed Foods
07:00 Daily Diets and Ultra-Processed Foods
10:47 Health Anxiety and Food Choices
11:37 The Role of the Food Industry
19:59 Nutrition Education and Personal Responsibility
22:36 Raw Milk and Other Controversial Foods
30:18 Processed Meats and Health Risks
34:18 Balancing Personal and Family Nutrition
34:33 Alcohol and Cancer Risks
35:25 Debunking Health Myths
36:45 Sun Exposure and Vitamin D
39:06 Ultra-Processed Foods and Health
46:04 Fertility and Nutrition
50:09 Food Shaming and Psychological Impact
57:02 Practical Dietary Changes
01:02:00 Concluding Thoughts on Nutrition
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