A Millennial Mind

Are you staying because you want to… or because you’re scared to leave?In this solo episode, I talk about what happens when nothing is “wrong” but staying no longer feels honest. On the surface, this episode is about me and my partner becoming digital nomads and testing life in Dubai, Miami, and LA. But underneath that, this is really a conversation about choosing the unknown when staying feels safer but smaller.This episode is for you if:You’re in a relationship that looks fine but feels misalignedYou’re stuck in a job you’ve outgrownYou’re scared to start over, speak up, or choose yourselfYou keep waiting for certainty before you make a moveWe talk about:Why “good enough” is the hardest place to leaveThe fear of being judged for your choicesThe sunk cost fallacy (and why it keeps you stuck)Why trying is not the same as committing foreverHow to stop living through the eyes of other peopleYou don’t need certainty.You don’t need permission.You just need courage for the first step.🎧 If this episode resonated, make sure you subscribe — it helps this conversation reach the people who need it most.Thank you for being here 🤍🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Babbel: Learn a new Language and get up to 60% off your subscription at Babbel.com/milllennialmindShopify UK: Sign up today for your £1 a month trial with Shopify and start selling today for at shopify.co.uk  When a relationship looks perfect on the outside but feels deeply wrong behind closed doors, leaving can be one of the hardest decisions you’ll ever make ❤️‍🩹 In this episode of A Millennial Mind, I sit down with Nelly Patel, known from Married at First Sight UK, to talk openly about her marriage to Steven Springett, what really went on behind the scenes, and why she ultimately chose to walk away. Nelly shares the reality of being in a toxic relationship under public scrutiny, the emotional confusion that comes with mixed signals, dishonesty and power imbalances, and how cultural expectations made leaving even harder. We talk about losing self-trust, recognising red flags too late, and what it actually takes to let go of a relationship that’s hurting you. This is an honest conversation about toxic dynamics, self-worth, and choosing yourself - even when it’s painful, public, and misunderstood. 00:00 Trailer: leaving a toxic relationship 01:12 Meeting Steven on MAFS UK 04:05 Early red flags in the marriage 07:40 What the cameras didn’t show 11:10 Feeling confused and doubting myself 15:05 Dishonesty and broken trust 19:30 The impact of public pressure and opinions 24:10 Cultural expectations and staying too long 29:45 Realising the relationship was toxic 34:20 The moment I knew I had to leave 38:50 Life after MAFS and rebuilding self-trust 43:30 What I’ve learned about relationships 47:55 Advice for anyone in a toxic relationship 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you’ve been doing all the “right” manifestation work but still feel stuck, frustrated, or like nothing is landing — this episode is for you. In this conversation on A Millennial Mind, I sit down with renowned astrologer Debbie Frank to explore why manifestation often feels blocked, and how understanding timing, alignment, and your own inner patterns can change everything. We talk about divine timing, free will vs fate, and why forcing outcomes can actually create more resistance. Debbie explains how astrology isn’t about prediction, but self-awareness — helping you understand when to push forward, when to pause, and how to work with your natural rhythms instead of against them. This episode is a grounding, practical reframe of manifestation that feels calm, empowering, and deeply reassuring. 🤍 Who This Episode Is For: Anyone who feels stuck despite trying to manifest change People frustrated with manifestation that “isn’t working” Those curious about astrology but sceptical of fluff Anyone navigating a transition or waiting for clarity People wanting to understand timing, alignment, and readiness Listeners feeling behind, blocked, or out of sync with life ✨ What You’ll Learn: Why manifestation can feel blocked even when you’re doing the work The role of timing and alignment in creating change How astrology can support self-understanding (not control) The difference between forcing outcomes and allowing flow Why feeling stuck doesn’t mean you’re failing How to let go of pressure and work with your natural cycles A calmer, more grounded way to approach manifestation 00:00 Trailer: Manifestation, timing & astrology 01:05 Why manifestation feels blocked 05:10 Astrology explained without prediction 08:00 Free will vs fate in manifestation 11:15 Why timing matters more than effort 15:05 Wanting something vs being ready for it 19:00 How forcing outcomes creates resistance 23:40 Understanding divine timing 28:25 How astrology helps you align with your cycles 33:00 Signs you’re pushing the wrong chapter 37:10 Letting go without giving up 42:00 How to stop forcing manifestation 47:05 What alignment actually feels like 52:30 A calmer way to manifest change 57:10 Trusting the timing of your life 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

One of my goals this year is to create with more intention and that starts with audio. If you’re starting a podcast, filming YouTube videos, or recording voiceovers, sound quality matters more than people realise. You can have the best ideas in the world, but if the audio isn’t clear, people click away.I’ve been using the Shure MV7i, and it’s genuinely become part of my setup clean sound, easy to use, and perfect whether you’re recording at home or on the go.If your New Year intention is to stop overthinking and just start creating, this is your reminder: raise your standards, back yourself, and begin. Get you mic here: https://tinyurl.com/bdchrs3n AD  Self-doubt can quietly shape your decisions, relationships, and confidence often without you even realising it. In this episode of A Millennial Mind, I sit down with behavioural scientist and performance expert Dr Shadé Zahrai to unpack why so many of us struggle with self-trust, imposter syndrome, and feeling “not good enough”. We explore the psychology behind self-doubt, why confidence doesn’t come before action (it comes after), and how your self-image directly influences the life you build. Dr Shadé shares science-backed tools to stop second-guessing yourself, challenge your inner critic, and start backing yourself — even when it feels uncomfortable. If you’re stepping into a new chapter, navigating change, or simply tired of holding yourself back, this conversation will help you move forward with more clarity and self-belief. Who This Episode Is For: Anyone struggling with self-doubt or imposter syndrome People who constantly second-guess themselves High-achievers who feel like they’re “faking it” Those wanting to build real self-trust and confidence Anyone stuck in overthinking, comparison or fear of failure What You’ll Learn: Why self-doubt isn’t a personality flaw The science behind self-trust and confidence Why action builds confidence — not the other way around How imposter syndrome actually works How to quiet your inner critic Practical tools to stop overthinking and start acting Whether personality really can change (and what science says) 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Use code CHRISTMAS20 for 20% of tickets to my workshop- valid for 72hours only! Get your tickets here: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/pages/upcoming-workshopIn today’s solo episode, I’m sharing the most vulnerable decision Nikhil and I have ever made. We’re moving abroad. Not because we have everything figured out, not because life pushed us, but because we’re choosing growth over comfort, even when it feels terrifying.This episode is the real story behind why we’re moving, what led to it, and the fears, guilt and emotions that come with leaving family, friends, work, and the only place I’ve ever lived.I talk about:🌍 Why we’ve always dreamed of living abroad☀️ How weather, energy and environment impact your happiness💭 The mindset of moving before you feel ready🏠 Renting, break clauses and the judgement we received👪 The guilt of leaving family + future kids growing up differently💸 Money, ambition and wanting more for your future💛 Choosing opportunity instead of waiting for permission✈️ The cost of change and why we’re doing it anywayIf you’ve ever felt stuck, afraid to take a risk, or worried about making the “wrong” decision… this episode will feel like a conversation with someone who gets it. 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this insightful interview, director Neeraj Ghaywan and cast members Ishaan Khatter and Vishal Jethwa discuss the themes of classism and casteism explored in the Netflix movie 'Homebound.' They share personal experiences and reflections on how caste and class discrimination still permeates Indian society today, despite assumptions that such issues are outdated. The conversation delves into the impact of systemic discrimination, the importance of education for marginalised communities, and the transformative experiences the cast underwent while preparing for the film. 00:00 Introduction: Is Classism Still an Issue? 00:19 Personal Experiences with Class and Caste 01:14 Understanding Caste in India 02:31 The Impact of Caste on Identity 05:16 Experiences of Discrimination 08:20 Exploring Caste in Rural India 13:03 Moments of Unity and Generosity 15:33 Navigating Social Expectations 16:02 The Privilege of Career Choices 16:43 Survival vs. Ambition 18:29 Microaggressions and Their Impact 19:03 Taking Back Power and Dignity 20:14 Identity and Social Capital 25:32 Education as a Path to Empowerment 26:29 Challenging Assumptions and Division 28:06 Final Thoughts and Reflections 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

USE CODE PODCAST10 TO GET 10% OFF TICKETS TO MY WORKSHOP HERE: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/pages/upcoming-workshop In this week's episode of A Millennial Mind, I sit down with Savannah Sachdev, who bravely shares her journey with food, body image, and self-worth. Savannah opens up about her struggles with body image, the impact of society's judgment, and her transformative decision to undergo breast reduction surgery. We delve into how her relationship with exercise and food evolved, the importance of self-reflection, and the power of setting boundaries. Savannah also touches on the challenges and joys of becoming a stepmom and how that has shaped her self-acceptance process. This episode is a must-watch for anyone dealing with similar issues, offering a profound look at the complexities of self-worth and the importance of healing from within. Savannah’s story will inspire you to take actionable steps toward a healthier and happier life. Don't forget to subscribe, follow, and have your notepad ready for this enlightening conversation. 00:00 Introduction: The Complex Relationship with Food 00:07 Personal Struggles and Body Image 00:15 The Turning Point: Seeking Validation 00:21 Addiction and Self-Worth 00:31 The Impact of Judgment and Boundaries 00:57 The Longest Relationship: With Yourself 01:16 Guest Introduction: Savannah Sev 02:01 Savannah's Journey: From Struggle to Healing 02:56 The Influence of Body Image on Self-Perception 03:44 The Role of Confidence and Authenticity 11:38 The Impact of Breast Reduction Surgery 26:00 Changing Relationship with Food and Exercise 29:56 Discovering Self-Worth Beyond Appearance 30:13 The Turning Point: Embracing Fitness and New Identities 33:22 Overcoming Insecurities and Finding Comfort in Your Own Skin 35:29 The Role of Friends in Personal Growth 38:36 The Impact of Relationships on Self-Perception 40:23 Finding Solace in Running and Routine 45:38 Navigating Cultural Expectations and Personal Choices 55:12 Balancing Personal Happiness and Relationship Dynamics 59:07 Balancing Career and Personal Life 01:00:07 Navigating Relationship Dynamics 01:01:14 Becoming a Stepmom 01:02:24 Journey to Content Creation 01:03:18 Managing Multiple Jobs 01:09:03 Dealing with Disordered Eating 01:12:53 Finding Balance and Happiness 01:14:53 Advice for Overcoming Challenges 01:22:50 Concluding Thoughts on Growth Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Motherhood is often sold as “natural” and intuitive - but for so many women, it feels overwhelming, confusing and nothing like they expected. In this episode of A Millennial Mind, I sit down with parenting expert Zoe Blaskey to explore the real, science-backed identity shift of motherhood, from hormonal changes and brain remodelling to the emotional load no one prepares us for. We talk about why becoming a mum can feel like a second adolescence, how societal pressure fuels burnout, and why guilt shows up even when we’re doing our best. Zoe shares practical tools for setting boundaries, finding yourself again, strengthening your partnership, and making motherhood feel lighter, calmer and more intentional. If you’re a mum, planning to be one, or simply curious about the truth behind the transition into motherhood, this conversation will help you feel seen, supported and less alone. Who This Episode Is For ✨ Mums feeling tired, overwhelmed or burnt out Women struggling with the identity shift of motherhood (matrescence) Anyone carrying “good mother” guilt or pressure Parents wanting healthier boundaries and calmer homes People curious about the science behind motherhood What You’ll Learn ✨ Why motherhood feels harder than we’re told The science of matrescence (your “second adolescence”) How to set boundaries without guilt How to lighten the mental load How to strengthen your partnership after kids Practical ways to enjoy motherhood more of the time 00:00 Introduction to Motherhood Myths 00:08 Guest Introduction and Initial Reactions 00:17 Understanding Mares Essence 00:53 The Neuroscience of Motherhood 01:39 Podcast and Book Journey 03:44 Personal Development and Coaching 04:58 Navigating Motherhood Challenges 06:36 Self-Compassion and Resilience 29:26 Debunking the 'Having It All' Myth 41:26 The Guilt of Self-Care for Moms 42:38 The 'One for Me, One for You' Tool 43:55 Challenging the Selfless Mother Narrative 45:32 The Concept of Minimum Viable Needs 46:17 The Mental Load and Super Mom Myth 47:17 Mother Kind Toolkit: Identifying Pressure Sources 51:10 Navigating Family Expectations and Boundaries 01:08:39 The Value of Caregiving and Shared Responsibilities 01:14:42 The Physiological Changes of Parenthood 01:17:47 Final Thoughts and Self-Compassion 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you feel lost right now, stuck in the same routines, or like your life has stopped feeling like your own - this episode will feel like a deep exhale. This week on A Millennial Mind, I sit down with Mimi Ikonn to talk about one of the most universal experiences we go through as adults:outgrowing your old life… but not yet knowing who you’re becoming. Mimi opens up about identity shifts, evolving relationships, ego deaths, career changes, intuition, and what happens when your “perfect life” no longer fits. If you’re navigating a transition or craving reinvention, this conversation is for you. This episode is for you if you are: • feeling lost or “stuck” in life • outgrowing old identities, habits or relationships • craving a fresh start but scared to make a change • navigating big life transitions (career, relationships, motherhood, purpose) • wanting to reconnect with yourself again • ready to reinvent your life from the inside out In this episode, we dive into: • why you feel stuck - and what that feeling is really telling you • how to recognise when you’ve outgrown your old life • the psychology behind feeling lost • how to create a life that actually fits who you are now • what identity shifts feel like in real time • how to level up without burning your old life to the ground • how intuition guides reinvention • practical steps for starting over 00:00 Introduction: Embracing Change 01:14 Guest Introduction: Mimi Ikonn 02:46 Navigating Life Transitions 04:28 Facing Fear and Embracing Growth 06:42 The Importance of Self-Awareness 18:18 Modeling Healthy Boundaries 26:07 Overcoming Self-Sabotage 46:41 Facing Self-Doubt and Embracing Vulnerability 50:13 The Fear of Success and Its Implications 51:34 Balancing Ambition and Personal Life 56:51 The Reality of Parenting and Sacrifice 01:07:04 Preparing Mentally for Parenthood 01:15:32 The Power of Affirmations and Growth Mindset 01:24:24 Living Boldly and Embracing Adventure 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast This week's episode includes a paid advertisement by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try and get your exclusive discount at betterhelp.com/millennialmind to become your best self ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why do smart, strong women fall for toxic people? This week on A Millennial Mind, Anchal returns to share the full, unfiltered truth about being love-bombed, manipulated, defrauded and stalked by someone she thought she could trust. I’ve known Anchal for a long time now - but I never knew the depth of what she survived. This isn’t just a “bad breakup story.” It’s a traumatic experience of narcissistic abuse, coercive control, love bombing, gaslighting, trauma bonds, financial manipulation, stalking behaviours and the psychology behind why victims stay. But most importantly: how she rebuilt her life, healed her self-trust, and took her power back. If you’ve ever questioned your intuition, blamed yourself for ignoring red flags, or felt ashamed for being manipulated — this episode will change the way you see yourself forever. 💚Who This Episode Is For: Women who’ve experienced love bombing, people pleasing, guilt-tripping or emotional manipulation Anyone recovering from a toxic relationship, narcissistic partner or financial betrayal People who want to understand the psychology of narcissists and trauma bonds Survivors of stalking, harassment, obsession, coercive control or emotional abuse Anyone who wants to rebuild boundaries, confidence and self-trust ✍🏼What You’ll Learn: How narcissists use love bombing, guilt and mirroring to gain control Why strong, independent women still get targeted How manipulation escalates into financial fraud, stalking + psychological fear The mindset traps that keep victims from leaving How to recognise early red flags before they escalate How to rebuild your identity after abuse, trauma and shame Why it is never the victim’s fault Real examples on how to rebuild peace, safety and boundaries 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices