A Millennial Mind

Shivani Pau
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Jan 6, 2026 • 1h 31min

Change Your Life This Year & Say Goodbye To Self-Doubt | Dr Shadé Zahrai | A Millennial Mind

One of my goals this year is to create with more intention and that starts with audio. If you’re starting a podcast, filming YouTube videos, or recording voiceovers, sound quality matters more than people realise. You can have the best ideas in the world, but if the audio isn’t clear, people click away.I’ve been using the Shure MV7i, and it’s genuinely become part of my setup clean sound, easy to use, and perfect whether you’re recording at home or on the go.If your New Year intention is to stop overthinking and just start creating, this is your reminder: raise your standards, back yourself, and begin. Get you mic here: https://shorturl.at/j7uGN AD  Self-doubt can quietly shape your decisions, relationships, and confidence often without you even realising it. In this episode of A Millennial Mind, I sit down with behavioural scientist and performance expert Dr Shadé Zahrai to unpack why so many of us struggle with self-trust, imposter syndrome, and feeling “not good enough”. We explore the psychology behind self-doubt, why confidence doesn’t come before action (it comes after), and how your self-image directly influences the life you build. Dr Shadé shares science-backed tools to stop second-guessing yourself, challenge your inner critic, and start backing yourself — even when it feels uncomfortable. If you’re stepping into a new chapter, navigating change, or simply tired of holding yourself back, this conversation will help you move forward with more clarity and self-belief. Who This Episode Is For: Anyone struggling with self-doubt or imposter syndrome People who constantly second-guess themselves High-achievers who feel like they’re “faking it” Those wanting to build real self-trust and confidence Anyone stuck in overthinking, comparison or fear of failure What You’ll Learn: Why self-doubt isn’t a personality flaw The science behind self-trust and confidence Why action builds confidence — not the other way around How imposter syndrome actually works How to quiet your inner critic Practical tools to stop overthinking and start acting Whether personality really can change (and what science says) 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Dec 23, 2025 • 40min

SURPRISE ANNOUNCEMENT: WE'RE LEAVING THE UK!

Use code CHRISTMAS20 for 20% of tickets to my workshop- valid for 72hours only! Get your tickets here: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/pages/upcoming-workshopIn today’s solo episode, I’m sharing the most vulnerable decision Nikhil and I have ever made. We’re moving abroad. Not because we have everything figured out, not because life pushed us, but because we’re choosing growth over comfort, even when it feels terrifying.This episode is the real story behind why we’re moving, what led to it, and the fears, guilt and emotions that come with leaving family, friends, work, and the only place I’ve ever lived.I talk about:🌍 Why we’ve always dreamed of living abroad☀️ How weather, energy and environment impact your happiness💭 The mindset of moving before you feel ready🏠 Renting, break clauses and the judgement we received👪 The guilt of leaving family + future kids growing up differently💸 Money, ambition and wanting more for your future💛 Choosing opportunity instead of waiting for permission✈️ The cost of change and why we’re doing it anywayIf you’ve ever felt stuck, afraid to take a risk, or worried about making the “wrong” decision… this episode will feel like a conversation with someone who gets it. 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Dec 16, 2025 • 30min

Homebound Movie: The Modern Impacts Of Classism and Casteism | Cast Interview | A Millennial Mind

In this insightful interview, director Neeraj Ghaywan and cast members Ishaan Khatter and Vishal Jethwa discuss the themes of classism and casteism explored in the Netflix movie 'Homebound.' They share personal experiences and reflections on how caste and class discrimination still permeates Indian society today, despite assumptions that such issues are outdated. The conversation delves into the impact of systemic discrimination, the importance of education for marginalised communities, and the transformative experiences the cast underwent while preparing for the film. 00:00 Introduction: Is Classism Still an Issue? 00:19 Personal Experiences with Class and Caste 01:14 Understanding Caste in India 02:31 The Impact of Caste on Identity 05:16 Experiences of Discrimination 08:20 Exploring Caste in Rural India 13:03 Moments of Unity and Generosity 15:33 Navigating Social Expectations 16:02 The Privilege of Career Choices 16:43 Survival vs. Ambition 18:29 Microaggressions and Their Impact 19:03 Taking Back Power and Dignity 20:14 Identity and Social Capital 25:32 Education as a Path to Empowerment 26:29 Challenging Assumptions and Division 28:06 Final Thoughts and Reflections 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Dec 9, 2025 • 1h 28min

Healing Your Relationship With Food & Yourself | Savannah Sachdev | A Millennial Mind

USE CODE PODCAST10 TO GET 10% OFF TICKETS TO MY WORKSHOP HERE: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/pages/upcoming-workshop In this week's episode of A Millennial Mind, I sit down with Savannah Sachdev, who bravely shares her journey with food, body image, and self-worth. Savannah opens up about her struggles with body image, the impact of society's judgment, and her transformative decision to undergo breast reduction surgery. We delve into how her relationship with exercise and food evolved, the importance of self-reflection, and the power of setting boundaries. Savannah also touches on the challenges and joys of becoming a stepmom and how that has shaped her self-acceptance process. This episode is a must-watch for anyone dealing with similar issues, offering a profound look at the complexities of self-worth and the importance of healing from within. Savannah’s story will inspire you to take actionable steps toward a healthier and happier life. Don't forget to subscribe, follow, and have your notepad ready for this enlightening conversation. 00:00 Introduction: The Complex Relationship with Food 00:07 Personal Struggles and Body Image 00:15 The Turning Point: Seeking Validation 00:21 Addiction and Self-Worth 00:31 The Impact of Judgment and Boundaries 00:57 The Longest Relationship: With Yourself 01:16 Guest Introduction: Savannah Sev 02:01 Savannah's Journey: From Struggle to Healing 02:56 The Influence of Body Image on Self-Perception 03:44 The Role of Confidence and Authenticity 11:38 The Impact of Breast Reduction Surgery 26:00 Changing Relationship with Food and Exercise 29:56 Discovering Self-Worth Beyond Appearance 30:13 The Turning Point: Embracing Fitness and New Identities 33:22 Overcoming Insecurities and Finding Comfort in Your Own Skin 35:29 The Role of Friends in Personal Growth 38:36 The Impact of Relationships on Self-Perception 40:23 Finding Solace in Running and Routine 45:38 Navigating Cultural Expectations and Personal Choices 55:12 Balancing Personal Happiness and Relationship Dynamics 59:07 Balancing Career and Personal Life 01:00:07 Navigating Relationship Dynamics 01:01:14 Becoming a Stepmom 01:02:24 Journey to Content Creation 01:03:18 Managing Multiple Jobs 01:09:03 Dealing with Disordered Eating 01:12:53 Finding Balance and Happiness 01:14:53 Advice for Overcoming Challenges 01:22:50 Concluding Thoughts on Growth Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Dec 2, 2025 • 1h 20min

For burnt-out mums: Becoming a 'good parent' without the pressure! | Zoe Blaskey | A Millennial Mind

Motherhood is often sold as “natural” and intuitive - but for so many women, it feels overwhelming, confusing and nothing like they expected. In this episode of A Millennial Mind, I sit down with parenting expert Zoe Blaskey to explore the real, science-backed identity shift of motherhood, from hormonal changes and brain remodelling to the emotional load no one prepares us for. We talk about why becoming a mum can feel like a second adolescence, how societal pressure fuels burnout, and why guilt shows up even when we’re doing our best. Zoe shares practical tools for setting boundaries, finding yourself again, strengthening your partnership, and making motherhood feel lighter, calmer and more intentional. If you’re a mum, planning to be one, or simply curious about the truth behind the transition into motherhood, this conversation will help you feel seen, supported and less alone. Who This Episode Is For ✨ Mums feeling tired, overwhelmed or burnt out Women struggling with the identity shift of motherhood (matrescence) Anyone carrying “good mother” guilt or pressure Parents wanting healthier boundaries and calmer homes People curious about the science behind motherhood What You’ll Learn ✨ Why motherhood feels harder than we’re told The science of matrescence (your “second adolescence”) How to set boundaries without guilt How to lighten the mental load How to strengthen your partnership after kids Practical ways to enjoy motherhood more of the time 00:00 Introduction to Motherhood Myths 00:08 Guest Introduction and Initial Reactions 00:17 Understanding Mares Essence 00:53 The Neuroscience of Motherhood 01:39 Podcast and Book Journey 03:44 Personal Development and Coaching 04:58 Navigating Motherhood Challenges 06:36 Self-Compassion and Resilience 29:26 Debunking the 'Having It All' Myth 41:26 The Guilt of Self-Care for Moms 42:38 The 'One for Me, One for You' Tool 43:55 Challenging the Selfless Mother Narrative 45:32 The Concept of Minimum Viable Needs 46:17 The Mental Load and Super Mom Myth 47:17 Mother Kind Toolkit: Identifying Pressure Sources 51:10 Navigating Family Expectations and Boundaries 01:08:39 The Value of Caregiving and Shared Responsibilities 01:14:42 The Physiological Changes of Parenthood 01:17:47 Final Thoughts and Self-Compassion 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Nov 25, 2025 • 1h 29min

Get Unstuck: How To Change Your Life When You Feel Lost | Mimi Ikonn | A Millennial Mind

If you feel lost right now, stuck in the same routines, or like your life has stopped feeling like your own - this episode will feel like a deep exhale. This week on A Millennial Mind, I sit down with Mimi Ikonn to talk about one of the most universal experiences we go through as adults:outgrowing your old life… but not yet knowing who you’re becoming. Mimi opens up about identity shifts, evolving relationships, ego deaths, career changes, intuition, and what happens when your “perfect life” no longer fits. If you’re navigating a transition or craving reinvention, this conversation is for you. This episode is for you if you are: • feeling lost or “stuck” in life • outgrowing old identities, habits or relationships • craving a fresh start but scared to make a change • navigating big life transitions (career, relationships, motherhood, purpose) • wanting to reconnect with yourself again • ready to reinvent your life from the inside out In this episode, we dive into: • why you feel stuck - and what that feeling is really telling you • how to recognise when you’ve outgrown your old life • the psychology behind feeling lost • how to create a life that actually fits who you are now • what identity shifts feel like in real time • how to level up without burning your old life to the ground • how intuition guides reinvention • practical steps for starting over 00:00 Introduction: Embracing Change 01:14 Guest Introduction: Mimi Ikonn 02:46 Navigating Life Transitions 04:28 Facing Fear and Embracing Growth 06:42 The Importance of Self-Awareness 18:18 Modeling Healthy Boundaries 26:07 Overcoming Self-Sabotage 46:41 Facing Self-Doubt and Embracing Vulnerability 50:13 The Fear of Success and Its Implications 51:34 Balancing Ambition and Personal Life 56:51 The Reality of Parenting and Sacrifice 01:07:04 Preparing Mentally for Parenthood 01:15:32 The Power of Affirmations and Growth Mindset 01:24:24 Living Boldly and Embracing Adventure 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast This week's episode includes a paid advertisement by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try and get your exclusive discount at betterhelp.com/millennialmind to become your best self ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Nov 18, 2025 • 1h 39min

He SCAMMED £1.2 MILLION! Swindled By Anchal's Stalker Ex-Boyfriend | A Millennial Mind

Why do smart, strong women fall for toxic people? This week on A Millennial Mind, Anchal returns to share the full, unfiltered truth about being love-bombed, manipulated, defrauded and stalked by someone she thought she could trust. I’ve known Anchal for a long time now - but I never knew the depth of what she survived. This isn’t just a “bad breakup story.” It’s a traumatic experience of narcissistic abuse, coercive control, love bombing, gaslighting, trauma bonds, financial manipulation, stalking behaviours and the psychology behind why victims stay. But most importantly: how she rebuilt her life, healed her self-trust, and took her power back. If you’ve ever questioned your intuition, blamed yourself for ignoring red flags, or felt ashamed for being manipulated — this episode will change the way you see yourself forever. 💚Who This Episode Is For: Women who’ve experienced love bombing, people pleasing, guilt-tripping or emotional manipulation Anyone recovering from a toxic relationship, narcissistic partner or financial betrayal People who want to understand the psychology of narcissists and trauma bonds Survivors of stalking, harassment, obsession, coercive control or emotional abuse Anyone who wants to rebuild boundaries, confidence and self-trust ✍🏼What You’ll Learn: How narcissists use love bombing, guilt and mirroring to gain control Why strong, independent women still get targeted How manipulation escalates into financial fraud, stalking + psychological fear The mindset traps that keep victims from leaving How to recognise early red flags before they escalate How to rebuild your identity after abuse, trauma and shame Why it is never the victim’s fault Real examples on how to rebuild peace, safety and boundaries 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Nov 11, 2025 • 1h 11min

THIS Is Why You're A Chronic People Pleaser! (+ How To Fix It!) Annalie Howling | A Millennial Mind

Are you tired of saying yes when every part of you is screaming no? In this week's episode of A Millennial Mind, I sit down with Annalie Howling — performance coach, trauma specialist, and boundaries queen — to unpack the truth about people pleasing, approval addiction, and why so many of us feel guilty putting ourselves first. We dive deep into the psychology behind saying yes, how it’s linked to childhood conditioning, and what it actually takes to stop caring what everyone thinks. If you’ve ever been called “too nice,” struggled to set boundaries, or felt drained trying to please everyone — this one’s for you. ✨ Who It’s For: Chronic people pleasers who can’t say no Anyone struggling with guilt, shame, or overgiving Women tired of being the “good girl” Anyone learning to protect their peace & energy 💡 What You’ll Learn: Why people pleasing starts — and how to break the pattern How to set boundaries without guilt or fear The link between self-worth and saying no Practical tools to stop overgiving & reclaim your energy If you’ve ever thought, “I’ll just do it to keep the peace,” this is the episode for you. It’s time to stop being 'liked' - and start being respected. 00:00 Introduction – Why We People Please 01:05 Meet Annalie Howling: Turning Pain into Purpose 04:20 The Truth About People Pleasing and Self-Abandonment 08:30 When Helping Others Becomes Self-Harm 12:45 The Guilt of Saying No 15:20 The Connection Between Guilt, Shame, and Self-Worth 18:40 Trauma, Control, and Learned Helplessness 23:10 Why Some People Resist Healing 26:00 Narcissism, Victimhood, and Emotional Boundaries 31:10 How to Set Boundaries Without Feeling Selfish 35:45 Understanding Shame in People Pleasing 40:15 Fawning: The Hidden Trauma Response 45:30 Healing from Childhood Shame and Conditioning 49:50 Recognizing and Validating Your Own Trauma 54:10 Breaking Generational Patterns of Guilt 58:30 Setting Boundaries with Family and In-Laws 01:02:10 Why “Good Girls” Struggle to Say No 01:05:00 Speaking Up When It Feels Uncomfortable 01:09:30 Letting Go of the Need to Please 01:12:00 Final Reflections – Living Unapologetically 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Nov 4, 2025 • 1h 21min

Can Energy Healing Really Fix You? Scientist & Reiki Master Explains All | A Millennial Mind

What if everything you’ve been taught about healing is only half the story? In this episode of A Millennial Mind, I sit down with Lekhmi, founder of The 111 Approach - a celebrity Reiki Master and intuitive healer who blends science and spirituality to explain how energy healing really works. I used to think Reiki and energy work were a bit “woo-woo,” until my own experience changed everything. We talk about the science of energy healing, how your nervous system and emotions affect your body, and the small ways you can start to self-heal and reconnect with your intuition. If you’ve ever wondered “is energy healing real?” or just want to feel more grounded, calm and connected - this episode is for you. ✨ Who It’s For: Skeptics who want to understand the science behind energy healing Anyone curious about Reiki, vibration, and holistic health People looking to reduce stress, regulate their nervous system, and reconnect with themselves ✨ What You’ll Learn: How energy healing and Reiki actually work The link between emotions, the nervous system, and physical health Why intuition and frequency are key to self-healing How to tell real healers from fakes in the wellness space Simple ways to restore balance and heal your body naturally 00:00 Introduction and Initial Skepticism 00:51 Exploring the Concept of Energy Healing 01:16 Guest Introduction: Luck Me and Her Unique Approach 02:53 Personal Experiences and Changing Perspectives 04:34 Understanding Reiki and Energy Healing 05:55 Childhood Intuition and Suppression 12:09 Reconnecting with Intuition and First Reiki Experience 14:36 Skepticism and Scientific Perspective 18:32 The Science and Practice of Reiki 28:29 Personal Stories and Spiritual Connections 38:20 A Childhood Intuition 39:34 The Power of Intuition and Skepticism 40:38 Gut Health and Intuition 41:23 Energy and Vibrations 42:30 Embracing Emotions and Healing 42:46 Connecting with Intuition and Energy Healing 44:42 Personal Stories of Energy Healing 49:22 The Placebo Effect and Healing 51:04 Scientific Studies on Energy Healing 52:13 Reiki in Hospitals 52:48 Identifying Genuine Practitioners 57:03 Empowering Self-Healing 01:03:23 One Minute Wellness Practice 01:09:12 The Power of Collective Meditation 01:14:11 Crystals and Energy 01:17:39 Final Thoughts on Energy and Intuition self 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Oct 28, 2025 • 1h 5min

Biohack Your Way to Health (On a Budget!) | Coral Pearl | A Millennial Mind

What if you could feel incredible with more energy, focus and calm without spending a fortune? In this week's episode of A Millennial Mind, Coral Pearl breaks down the truth about biohacking: what it really means, how to start biohacking on a budget, and why you don’t need expensive supplements, trackers or cold plunges to optimise your body and mind. Coral shares practical, science-backed ways to support your nervous system, balance your hormones, improve gut health and boost natural energy. She explains how small, affordable biohacks — from better sleep and sunlight to real food and mindset shifts — can transform your wellbeing, longevity and mental clarity. We talk about the habits our ancestors lived by, the modern wellness myths that keep us sick, and how to eat, move and live in a way that supports your biology. I wanted to have this conversation because Coral makes wellness and biohacking feel achievable again. No elitism, no pressure — just simple, evidence-based tools to reconnect with your body and feel like yourself. If you’ve ever felt lost in the health space or overwhelmed by expensive trends, this one will remind you that real health starts with simple, accessible habits. These are all real-world examples that Coral has tried and tested herself to turn her life around and, she says, improve her health for the better. ✨ Who this episode is for Anyone curious about biohacking, wellness or longevity but unsure where to start Listeners tired of expensive wellness trends and quick fixes People looking to improve gut health, nervous system balance and natural energy Those wanting to understand the science of stress, recovery and nutrition Millennials searching for affordable, realistic health and lifestyle habits 💡 What you’ll learn What biohacking really means and how to do it on a budget The low-cost daily habits that improve focus, energy and mood How to regulate your nervous system naturally The connection between nutrition, inflammation and mental health Why modern wellness gets health wrong and how to simplify it 0:00 - What if everything you’ve been taught about health is wrong? 1:00 - Why Coral stopped trusting traditional medicine 3:05 - The “ancestral living” lifestyle explained 5:00 - Biohacking isn’t just for the rich — here’s how to start for free 7:30 - Grounding, breathwork, and sunlight: the ultimate morning trio 9:45 - Coral’s wild morning routine (and the headband hack!) 11:10 - How biohacking changed her energy, sleep & focus 13:20 - The truth about mouth taping and deep sleep 15:10 - Why blue light might be ruining your health 17:00 - How to calm your nervous system instantly 20:00 - The trampoline trick that boosts your mood 25:30 - Coral’s 5AM morning routine & discipline secrets 29:00 - Her full step-by-step health routine revealed 33:00 - From vegan to ancestral eating — why she switched 36:00 - Are plant-based diets actually bad for you? 39:00 - What pesticides are doing to your gut 42:00 - The 3 foods Coral would *never* eat again 45:00 - The shocking truth about milk and pasteurisation 47:00 - How to find what really works for your body 49:00 - Coral’s message for anyone feeling stuck in their health journey Follow Coral Peal: https://www.instagram.com/coral.peal 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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