All Therapists are Jerks, and . . .

Episode 58. Theory(s) of Stuckedness. Ulland and Jo re review Jo’s Theory(s) of Stuckedness. This had been discussed in the previous episode of Turning the Mind. More examples are given and some different examples to high lite how awareness is often central to being stuck, as well as other factors for why change is so difficult.

Episode 57. Pefrectionism as it Relates to Body Image, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder and anger. Ulland and Jo discuss some ways that perfectionistic thinking can reinforce concern for the appearance of one’s body. OCD is also discussed as it can be common for individuals who also have body image issues, and shares some similar thought patterns. OCPD is discussed as a different process than OCD, and how it is related to anger and conflict in relationships without the individual experiencing much anxiety.

Episode 56. Prefectionism: Depression, SAD and GAD. Ulland and Jo discuss perfectionism and how it relates to depression and the most common anxiety disorders people experience. They review how social anxiety can be influenced by perfection in parents and adults who are critical of adolescent experiences. Ulland shares at least one socially traumatic experience from middle school—there are so many of them, really, to choose from.

Episode 55. Thoughts and Behaviors of Perfecionism. Ulland and Jo review thoughts and behaviors strongly associated with perfectionism. Look for these in yourself and in other people. Try and reduce them if you can. Will you accept the challenge?

Episode 54. Origins of Perfectionism. Ulland and Jo decide to take on perfectionism. With mistakes. This episode reviews what it is, what it looks like, and where it may come from. Some skills are suggested. Ulland complains about Facebook. Again.

Bloopers for Assumptions. Ulland hits record and Jo doesn’t know as usual, since no one tells no one what to do. A short conversation unfolds about how assumptions of intent are made and then often argued ineffectively in conversations with others. Suggestions for what to do are made, and not just becoming an old, really old Zen Master.  

Episode 53. Dialectical Response to Trauma. Ulland and Jo discuss common responses to trauma. The dialects are drawn similarly to how the Secondary Targets are drawn, and Ulland will have to talk with IT about getting a picture up on the website. Please review the Secondary Targets in Episode 19 to see how similar these dialects are, with regards to how emotions are processed. For instance, apparent competence also occurs with invalidation of emotion, or emotional over control.  

Episode 52. The Three Buckets of Shame. Ulland and Jo review Jo’s insightful idea about three major ways that shame can manifest itself. Perfectionism, fear of being seen and taking up too much space in the world. Several examples are given. Jo even does opposite action to shame after saying “Um” like, seriously, way too many times. Jo steps into her light, and her shame. Not for the faint of heart. Ulland reveals that at one time he was, indeed, 2 legit to quit.

Episode 51. The Forgotten Pandemic. Ulland and Jo review statistics regarding mental health burden, and cost. Some of the statistics reviewed suggest that mental health has been and continues to be quite prevalent, and cost effective to treat. Much suffering could be prevented if we chose to be concerned with mental health after the COVID pandemic. Currently, as a society we would rather invest in treatment and research of less common, less impactful illnesses.

Episode 50. The KingVirus. Ulland and Jo discuss some statistics about COVID, suggesting different perspectives of the reality we find ourselves in. As always, listeners are referred to skills they may find helpful. Keep isolating even if boring, anxiety provoking or . . . lame. And stay healthy.