Awesome Marriage Podcast

Can we implement boundaries with our spouse? Is it loving? Is it Christ-centered? Boundaries in marriage may seem counterintuitive to some, but we believe it should be normal and natural in a marriage. In this episode, Dr. Kim and Christina share about boundaries with your spouse: why you need them, examples of what they might be, and how to implement them. If you have never thought about boundaries with your spouse, we hope this conversation is helpful to you and that it provides you with some great talking points that you and your spouse can explore as you work to have a healthier, happier, holier marriage. NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "You can help your spouse see that they might need to set a boundary with someone by asking them questions." - Dr. Kim "You can encourage your spouse to learn about boundaries but also be willing to walk with them through what that will look like." - Christina "Always offer your thoughts on your spouse's situation as a suggestion, not as a solution to their problem." - Dr. Kim "You might need to set a boundary with someone if you're taking on their consequences." - Christina "If you've never set boundaries before start setting them in safe places first." - Christina "Remember that if someone doesn't respond to the boundaries that you set in a healthy way, you can only control yourself, you can't control how they will react." - Dr. Kim "It sounds silly but role playing setting boundaries with your spouse can be really helpful for them to prepare for those hard conversations." - Christina "Let your spouse know that you are not going to stop loving them if they set a healthy boundary with you." - Christina SPONSORS Thank you to Honoring Intimates for sponsoring this podcast episode! Honoring Intimates is a safe place for believers to learn about marital sex and shop for the highest quality lubricant, lotions, and lingerie items at reasonable prices. There are no inappropriate images on the site and the company uses mannequins to display their lingerie. Use the code "AWESOMEMARRIAGE" to receive 20% off your entire order. RESOURCES As we approach the holidays, it's so important to make time for your spouse. Plan to spend some quality time with your sweetie by grabbing our FALLing For You Date Design here! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!

Can we implement boundaries with our spouse? Is it loving? Is it Christ-centered? Boundaries in marriage may seem counterintuitive to some, but we believe it should be normal and natural in a marriage. In this episode, Dr. Kim and Christina share about boundaries with your spouse: why you need them, examples of what they might be, and how to implement them. If you have never thought about boundaries with your spouse, we hope this conversation is helpful to you and that it provides you with some great talking points that you and your spouse can explore as you work to have a healthier, happier, holier marriage. NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "Boundaries with your spouse can actually draw you closer together." - Dr. Kim "Having boundaries in your marriage isn't meant to be a punishment, it's meant to be freeing for you and your spouse." - Christina "You can't have true intimacy without boundaries." - Christina "I tell singles that I counsel, you have to show the person you're dating the real you at some point during the dating process." - Dr. Kim "It's unloving and unwise to not set boundaries where they need to be." - Christina "To rescue people from the natural consequences of their behavior is to render them powerless." - Dr. Henry Cloud & John Townsend (from Boundaries book) "It's so important to talk about boundaries in your sexual relationship." - Dr. Kim "Boundaries helps you understand your marriage relationship better." - Dr. Kim "Your spouse's comfortability should matter to you more than what you want for yourself." - Christina "Boundaries are about controlling the only person that you can control: yourself." - Christina "Don't set boundaries to manipulate or control your spouse." - Dr. Kim "If you're in an unhealthy relationship, be prepared for setting boundaries to cause a lot of conflict." - Dr. Kim "A boundary without consequences isn't a boundary at all." - Christina SPONSORS Thank you to Honoring Intimates for sponsoring this podcast episode! Honoring Intimates is a safe place for believers to learn about marital sex and shop for the highest quality lubricant, lotions, and lingerie items at reasonable prices. There are no inappropriate images on the site and the company uses mannequins to display their lingerie. Use the code "AWESOMEMARRIAGE" to receive 20% off your entire order. RESOURCES As we approach the holidays, it's so important to make time for your spouse. Plan to spend some quality time with your sweetie by grabbing our FALLing For You Date Design here! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!

Everyone has the same amount of time - 24 hours in a day. But so many of us struggle to manage this time well. Some of us say yes to way too many things and then that leaves us burnt out and miserable. Others of us don't use our time wisely enough and don't steward their time well to get done what they need to get done. In the fast paced, hustle glorified, culture that we live in where everyone has access to you all the time it can be really hard to set limits on our time. But if we don't plan well, our time will just pass us by. But if we do plan well and set up healthy boundaries, we can have healthier relationships, a better marriage, and get off the "hustle til you're burnt out" game that way too many of us are playing. In this episode, Dr. Kim and Christina share about the importance of setting up time boundaries and how to implement them. NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "You have to be an example for your kids of what it looks like to prioritize your spouse." - Dr. Kim "You have to manage your time to plan for the future." - Christina "Make sure your schedule reflects your priorities." - Dr. Kim "Make a habit of doing the things that are important to you." - Dr. Kim "When we feel like we're constantly busy we often don't take the time to do things that are going to have long-term benefits on our marriage." - Dr. Kim "There's no shortcut to having time with your spouse; you have to make quality time with them happen." - Dr. Kim "We had to learn to say no, even to good things, if they would get in the way of us spending quality time together and investing in our marriage." - Dr. Kim "Decide as a couple where you want you want to prioritize your time and then build the rest of the things you do in life around that." - Dr. Kim "It's a red flag that you're not doing a good job of prioritizing your marriage if you haven't talked to your wife in so long that you forgot what her name is." - Dr. Kim "Take the time to address red flags in your marriage as soon as you see them; it will save you so much time in the long run." - Dr. Kim SPONSORS Thank you to Plant Package for sponsoring this podcast episode! With Plant Package, the prep work of gardening is done for you. Plant Package is delivered straight to your door with easy instructions on how to plant your fun new plant that even someone with a black thumb could execute! Plant Package selects durable seasonal plants, an appropriate and stylish container, sends just the right amount of soil and plant food, and includes instructions for assembly and plant care. The Plants can thrive indoors or outdoors – the choice is yours! Use the code "awesome" to receive a FREE Starter Kit with your order. Starter kits include gardening gloves, a gardening shovel, and farm hand's soap. Simply select "ADD STARTER KIT" and enter the code AWESOME on the payment checkout page. RESOURCES Need help building unity in your marriage? Snag our brand new resource Diary of An Awesome Marriage: The Couple's Unity Building Journal today! This resource is a 23 page PDF, with 9 sections on common areas that marriages. Each section has questions for you to reflect on, pray about, answer, and then discuss with your spouse. Get closer by getting more unified on the things that matter! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here! Dr. Kim's new book, 14 Keys to Lasting Love, came out earlier this year. If you haven't ordered your copy yet, what are you waiting for? Order here now.

What does it look like to honor our marriage, protect our marriage, and still have honoring relationships with our brothers and sisters in Christ? So many couples want to know what is okay and not okay when it comes to friendships with the opposite sex. In this episode, Dr. Kim and Christina share about safe boundaries, why they are important, and how to implement them practically. NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "Establishing boundaries with the opposite sex is one of the ways we accomplish the goal of having an awesome marriage." - Dr. Kim "Having boundaries in place with the opposite sex protects you and your marriage." - Dr. Kim "Never say you can't be tempted; we are all sinners and can be tempted." - Dr. Kim "Boundaries aren't a lack of freedom; they're ensuring the safety of your marriage." - Christina "You're not going to have a good marriage if you're only thinking about yourself." - Christina "A good thing to ask yourself is, 'Am I ok with my spouse seeing this text or email that I'm sending to someone of the opposite sex?'" - Dr. Kim "It's much easier to ignite a flame that's already been lit than to start a new fire; don't keep in touch with your ex boyfriends and girlfriends." - Christina SPONSORS Thank you to Plant Package for sponsoring this podcast episode! With Plant Package, the prep work of gardening is done for you. Plant Package is delivered straight to your door with easy instructions on how to plant your fun new plant that even someone with a black thumb could execute! Plant Package selects durable seasonal plants, an appropriate and stylish container, sends just the right amount of soil and plant food, and includes instructions for assembly and plant care. The Plants can thrive indoors or outdoors – the choice is yours! Use the code "awesome" to receive a FREE Starter Kit with your order. Starter kits include gardening gloves, a gardening shovel, and farm hand's soap. Simply select "ADD STARTER KIT" and enter the code AWESOME on the payment checkout page. RESOURCES Need help building unity in your marriage? Snag our brand new resource Diary of An Awesome Marriage: The Couple's Unity Building Journal today! This resource is a 23 page PDF, with 9 sections on common areas that marriages. Each section has questions for you to reflect on, pray about, answer, and then discuss with your spouse. Get closer by getting more unified on the things that matter! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here! Dr. Kim's new book, 14 Keys to Lasting Love, came out earlier this year. If you haven't ordered your copy yet, what are you waiting for? Order here now.

Well we love it when you guys send it topics you want us to cover! One listener recently suggested we cover what it means to "come alongside your spouse." It's something Dr. Kim says a lot, what does it practically mean? How would Dr. Kim define this method that he so often encourages us to do? In this episode, Dr. Kim goes deep into describing it and defining it for us. NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "Coming alongside your spouse is the visual representation of walking in unity together and supporting one another as a married couple." - Christina "Coming alongside your spouse is the manifestation of being on the same team as your spouse." - Dr. Kim "Something is wrong if you're in a marriage and you feel like you're all alone." - Dr. Kim "How you come alongside your spouse might look different from how your spouse comes alongside you; we all receive love and support in different ways." - Dr. Kim "Ask yourself: is what you're doing right now going to help you have an awesome marriage?" - Christina "If it's important to your spouse make it important for you." - Dr. Kim "The worst loneliness is when you're in your house with your spouse and you feel lonely. You're not coming alongside each other in your marriage, you're just coexisting" - Dr. Kim "It's so important to have empathy in a marriage." - Dr. Kim "We may not always understand why our spouse feels the way they do but we can accept that they are feeling that way and come alongside them." - Dr. Kim "How you handle your differences in marriage will either draw you together or tear you apart." - Dr. Kim SPONSORS Thank you to Plant Package for sponsoring this podcast episode! With Plant Package, the prep work of gardening is done for you. Plant Package is delivered straight to your door with easy instructions on how to plant your fun new plant that even someone with a black thumb could execute! Plant Package selects durable seasonal plants, an appropriate and stylish container, sends just the right amount of soil and plant food, and includes instructions for assembly and plant care. The Plants can thrive indoors or outdoors – the choice is yours! Use the code "awesome" to receive a FREE Starter Kit with your order. Starter kits include gardening gloves, a gardening shovel, and farm hand's soap. Simply select "ADD STARTER KIT" and enter the code AWESOME on the payment checkout page. RESOURCES Need help building unity in your marriage? Snag our brand new resource Diary of An Awesome Marriage: The Couple's Unity Building Journal today! This resource is a 23 page PDF, with 9 sections on common areas that marriages. Each section has questions for you to reflect on, pray about, answer, and then discuss with your spouse. Get closer by getting more unified on the things that matter! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here! Dr. Kim's new book, 14 Keys to Lasting Love, came out earlier this year. If you haven't ordered your copy yet, what are you waiting for? Order here now.

In this episode Caroline Harries joins Dr. Kim to talk about waiting and how God is good even in the waiting. They talk about infertility, support groups, and how infertility and waiting can affect your marriage. Caroline is an author of a 60-day devotional 'In Due Time' as well as the founder of 'Moms in the Making' faith based infertility support groups. She shares her story and talks open and honestly about her waiting and their marriage in the waiting. Chances are you are waiting on something. Maybe it's a baby, maybe it's a house, a job, a fresh start, or restored relationship. Whatever it is you're waiting on - this conversation is going to encourage you. NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "1 in 8 women experience infertility; it's not as rare as you think." - Caroline Harries "We have to make God the focus of our lives, no matter what season of life we're in." - Caroline Harries "In every trial you face you choose to run to or away from God." - Caroline Harries "It's important to not make having a baby an idol or put that in the place of pursuing a relationship with God." - Caroline Harries SPONSORS Thank you to Plant Package for sponsoring this podcast episode! With Plant Package, the prep work of gardening is done for you. Plant Package is delivered straight to your door with easy instructions on how to plant your fun new plant that even someone with a black thumb could execute! Plant Package selects durable seasonal plants, an appropriate and stylish container, sends just the right amount of soil and plant food, and includes instructions for assembly and plant care. The Plants can thrive indoors or outdoors – the choice is yours! Use the code "awesome" to receive a FREE Starter Kit with your order. Starter kits include gardening gloves, a gardening shovel, and farm hand's soap. Simply select "ADD STARTER KIT" and enter the code AWESOME on the payment checkout page. RESOURCES Buy Caroline's Devotional 'In Due Time' here. Join a Moms In The Making Infertility Support Group today. Need help building unity in your marriage? Snag our brand new resource Diary of An Awesome Marriage: The Couple's Unity Building Journal today! This resource is a 23 page PDF, with 9 sections on common areas that marriages. Each section has questions for you to reflect on, pray about, answer, and then discuss with your spouse. Get closer by getting more unified on the things that matter! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here! Dr. Kim's new book, 14 Keys to Lasting Love, came out earlier this year. If you haven't ordered your copy yet, what are you waiting for? Order here now.

The holidays can highlight grief and loss in our life. It's a time that is centered around nostalgia, memories, and family. So it's no surprise that the holidays can bring up a lot of grief for people who have experienced loss. In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina talk about grief and how to support each other as a married couple as one or both of you grieve. NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "During the holidays, set aside time to think about the person you've lost. " - Dr. Kim "Don't smother your feelings, take time to grieve your lost loved one." - Dr. Kim "Don't feel like you have to say the perfect thing to your grieving spouse. Just be there for them." - Dr. Kim "The way you deal with grief is by going through it." - Dr. Kim "You can cling to the promises of God found in the Bible when you're grieving." - Christina "Jesus shows us that it's ok to grieve." - Dr. Kim "God can handle your questions and anger." - Christina "Everyone experiences grief differently." - Dr. Kim "Give your spouse lots of grace as they grieve." - Dr. Kim "You can't fix the situation for your spouse but you can walk with them through it." - Dr. Kim SPONSORS Thank you to Plant Package for sponsoring this podcast episode! With Plant Package, the prep work of gardening is done for you. Plant Package is delivered straight to your door with easy instructions on how to plant your fun new plant that even someone with a black thumb could execute! Plant Package selects durable seasonal plants, an appropriate and stylish container, sends just the right amount of soil and plant food, and includes instructions for assembly and plant care. The Plants can thrive indoors or outdoors – the choice is yours! Use the code "awesome" to receive a FREE Starter Kit with your order. Starter kits include gardening gloves, a gardening shovel, and farm hand's soap. Simply select "ADD STARTER KIT" and enter the code AWESOME on the payment checkout page. RESOURCES Need help building unity in your marriage? Snag our brand new resource Diary of An Awesome Marriage: The Couple's Unity Building Journal today! This resource is a 23 page PDF, with 9 sections on common areas that marriages. Each section has questions for you to reflect on, pray about, answer, and then discuss with your spouse. Get closer by getting more unified on the things that matter! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here! Dr. Kim's new book, 14 Keys to Lasting Love, came out earlier this year. If you haven't ordered your copy yet, what are you waiting for? Order here now.

The holidays are coming and that excites some of you but stresses others out. The holidays season, especially Thanksgiving and Christmas can put a lot of extras on our calendars and in our budgets. It can be a time where couples fight a lot or expectations aren't met. All of us want to have good holidays with our spouse and family, but often we don't prepare well so that we can execute that well. In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina talk about holiday marital stress and how to prepare for the holidays with your spouse. Tune in to learn how to prepare well for the holidays! NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "You have to increase your knowledge and awareness of each other in your marriage." - Christina "Don't wait until the week before a holiday to let family know if you're changing your usual holiday plans." - Dr. Kim "Have your holiday plans set by October to avoid stress later on." - Dr. Kim "Have conversations with your spouse about how to make the holidays less stressful." - Dr. Kim "Make sure there's alone time for just you and your spouse in the holiday plans." - Dr. Kim "Decide what your priorities are for your family for the holidays." - Dr. Kim "Boundaries aren't punitive, they're for saving relationships." - Dr. Kim SPONSORS Thank you to Plant Package for sponsoring this podcast episode! With Plant Package, the prep work of gardening is done for you. Plant Package is delivered straight to your door with easy instructions on how to plant your fun new plant that even someone with a black thumb could execute! Plant Package selects durable seasonal plants, an appropriate and stylish container, sends just the right amount of soil and plant food, and includes instructions for assembly and plant care. The Plants can thrive indoors or outdoors – the choice is yours! Use the code "awesome" to receive a FREE Starter Kit with your order. Starter kits include gardening gloves, a gardening shovel, and farm hand's soap. Simply select "ADD STARTER KIT" and enter the code AWESOME on the payment checkout page. RESOURCES Need help building unity in your marriage? Snag our brand new resource Diary of An Awesome Marriage: The Couple's Unity Building Journal today! This resource is a 23 page PDF, with 9 sections on common areas that marriages. Each section has questions for you to reflect on, pray about, answer, and then discuss with your spouse. Get closer by getting more unified on the things that matter! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here! Dr. Kim's new book, 14 Keys to Lasting Love, came out earlier this year. If you haven't ordered your copy yet, what are you waiting for? Order here now.

What does it mean to be a husband and how can Christian men prepare well to become godly husbands? There are a lot of messages out there today about men and what it looks like to a husband, but what does God say about being a husband? How can modern men prepare to be Godly leaders in their home? In this episode Colby Taylor joins Dr. Kim to talk about that. Colby is a Pastor at Life.Church and good friend of mine. Together Colby and his wife, who you heard from on Tuesday, lead the Engaged Events we put on to help couples prepare for a marriage that's even more beautiful than the wedding. The next Engaged Event in OK is THIS month so be sure to grab tickets on our website before they sell out. Tune in to learn how to prepare to be a husband! NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "There's a lot more sacrificing in being a husband than I ever anticipated." - Colby Taylor "As long as you're married you're always learning things about each other." - Dr. Kim "You can't give yourself to your wife if you don't give yourself to Jesus first." - Colby Taylor "Seek out someone you see as a Godly man and ask them to mentor you." - Dr. Kim "Don't be afraid to be honest and vulnerable about your feelings." - Colby Taylor SPONSORS Thank you to Plant Package for sponsoring this podcast episode! With Plant Package, the prep work of gardening is done for you. Plant Package is delivered straight to your door with easy instructions on how to plant your fun new plant that even someone with a black thumb could execute! Plant Package selects durable seasonal plants, an appropriate and stylish container, sends just the right amount of soil and plant food, and includes instructions for assembly and plant care. The Plants can thrive indoors or outdoors – the choice is yours! Use the code "awesome" to receive a FREE Starter Kit with your order. Starter kits include gardening gloves, a gardening shovel, and farm hand's soap. Simply select "ADD STARTER KIT" and enter the code AWESOME on the payment checkout page. RESOURCES You can snag our FREE Weekly Engaged Check Up Guide to help you practically keep the peace and keep your relationship good during your wedding planning. Register and attend the Engaged Event in Oklahoma. Need help building unity in your marriage? Snag our brand new resource Diary of An Awesome Marriage: The Couple's Unity Building Journal today! This resource is a 23 page PDF, with 9 sections on common areas that marriages. Each section has questions for you to reflect on, pray about, answer, and then discuss with your spouse. Get closer by getting more unified on the things that matter! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here! Dr. Kim's new book, 14 Keys to Lasting Love, came out earlier this year. If you haven't ordered your copy yet, what are you waiting for? Order here now.

What does it mean to be a wife? How can we prepare well to be good wives? In a world where the world "wife" is displayed so differently depending on where we are turning to, it can be really confusing. Christian women who are planning to get married have desires to be a godly wife. But most of us don't know how to prepare for that. In this episode Amanda Taylor joins Dr. Kim to talk about preparing to be a wife. Tune in to learn how to prepare to be a wife! NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "When you prioritize your spouse over your children, you are modeling a healthy marriage for your kids." - Dr. Kim "You have to depend on Jesus in order for your marriage to work." - Amanda Taylor "Selfishness can wreak havoc on a marriage." - Amanda Taylor "I think selfishness is the biggest problem we struggle with in life." - Dr. Kim "Ask women whose marriages you admire for advice and wisdom." - Amanda Taylor "The couples that I see that are doing well in their marriage are always working on their marriage." - Dr. Kim "You can avoid a lot of potential trouble when you're married if you lay a strong foundation when you're engaged." - Amanda Taylor "Putting your husband's needs above your own can be so hard but it's worth it." - Amanda Taylor "Really think through your marriage vows and what they mean before you say them on your wedding day." - Amanda Taylor SPONSORS Thank you to Plant Package for sponsoring this podcast episode! With Plant Package, the prep work of gardening is done for you. Plant Package is delivered straight to your door with easy instructions on how to plant your fun new plant that even someone with a black thumb could execute! Plant Package selects durable seasonal plants, an appropriate and stylish container, sends just the right amount of soil and plant food, and includes instructions for assembly and plant care. The Plants can thrive indoors or outdoors – the choice is yours! Use the code "awesome" to receive a FREE Starter Kit with your order. Starter kits include gardening gloves, a gardening shovel, and farm hand's soap. Simply select "ADD STARTER KIT" and enter the code AWESOME on the payment checkout page. RESOURCES You can snag our FREE Weekly Engaged Check Up Guide to help you practically keep the peace and keep your relationship good during your wedding planning. Register and attend the Engaged Event in Oklahoma. Need help building unity in your marriage? Snag our brand new resource Diary of An Awesome Marriage: The Couple's Unity Building Journal today! This resource is a 23 page PDF, with 9 sections on common areas that marriages. Each section has questions for you to reflect on, pray about, answer, and then discuss with your spouse. Get closer by getting more unified on the things that matter! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here! Dr. Kim's new book, 14 Keys to Lasting Love, came out earlier this year. If you haven't ordered your copy yet, what are you waiting for? Order here now.