Awesome Marriage Podcast

In this episode we have Beth McCord joining Dr. Kim to talk about How to Have A Thriving Relationship with an Enneagram 1. For the next several weeks Beth will be breaking down some real, practical tips for being married to each Enneagram number. If you are married to a 1 this is YOUR episode. But even if you aren't married to a 1, we know you will find this episode helpful in learning more about your 1 friends. Part of loving people is knowing people. So use this series as a tool to know your people better, understand them deeper, and love them better. Beth McCord founded 'Your Enneagram Coach' and has been an Enneagram speaker, coach and teacher for over 17 years. She is seriously the best of the best so we are so blessed to have her share her time and expertise with us. Having been trained by the best Enneagram experts and pouring hundreds of hours into advanced certifications, Beth is leading the industry in simplifying the deep truths of the Enneagram from a Biblical perspective. Beth does one-on-one coaching, in-person events and workshops and online courses. She also offers training and support for those interested in becoming an Enneagram coach. So make sure you give her a follow on Instagram @yourennegramcoach and check out her website yourennegramcoach.com for more great info. We pray you enjoy learning more about 1s in this episode! NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "We try to make Type 1's understand that their inner critic is not the Holy Spirit." - Beth McCord "Type 1's long to hear, 'You are good.' Christ satisfies this longing." - Beth McCord "When Christ comes into a Type 1's life there can be a peace that this person has never experienced before." - Dr. Kim Kimbelring "For Type 1's it's all about ethics, morals, procedures, and things being done the 'right' way." - Beth McCord "Understand that the Type 1 has a harsh, condemning inner critic that is constantly berating them." - Beth McCord "1's value problem solving over emotions, so it's better to wait to approach a Type 1 until your emotions are at a more balanced place." - Beth McCord "It's important to give your Type 1 time and space to process." - Beth McCord "Type 1's have a hard time being spontaneous because it feels irresponsible to them." - Beth McCord -"It can be helpful to ask your Type 1 to rank how loudly their inner critic is berating them on a scale of 1-10 so you know how to approach them." -Beth McCord "Hard as it might be to believe, most of the time Type 1's are offering criticism and correction from a genuinely helpful place." - Beth McCord "If you're married to a Type 1 you have to accept who they are, not discount their inner critic, but learn how to come alongside them and encourage them toward Christ." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "It's not that the inner critic is inherently bad, it's just that when we allow the inner critic to go offcourse and let it misalign with the truth of the Gospel, that is not going to be helpful to the Type 1 or anyone else they are around." - Beth McCord "Encourage a Type 1 when you see them succeeding and doing well in what they are doing." - Beth McCord "The list of things that need to be corrected, improved, and fixed never ends for a Type 1." - Beth McCord "The core weakness of a Type 1, resentment, is actually underlying sorrow." - Beth McCord "Type 1's are striving for perfection when Christ is already perfect for them." - Beth McCord "A healthy Type 1 has to learn to set boundaries for their inner critic." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "Type 1's have a gut instinct and wisdom of knowing what is morally right." - Beth McCord "Type 1's are amazingly detail-oriented." - Beth McCord "Type 1's see the world as it is and they want to improve it." - Beth McCord "It's like Type 1's can remember what earth was like before the fall and they want to do everything they can to bring us back to that perfect place." - Beth McCord SPONSORS Thank you to Groove Life for sponsoring this podcast episode! Groove Life has the Groove ring that is the world's first breathable active ring that is not only super comfortable but functional. Born from need, GROOVE raises the bar on traditional silicone, activewear rings with its flexible material, patent-pending, inner breathable design, and beautiful colors. You can use the code "awesomemarriage" for 15% off your order! RESOURCES Find everything you need at becomingus.com! Including the course for YOUR marriage's Enneagram combination. Beth & Jeff have a 'Becoming Us Course' for each couple type combination. That is 45 courses customized for each couple type combination. They go deeper into the "dance" (relational dynamics) and give you practical resources and insights to help transform your marriage. Buy 'Becoming Us' today! Not sure what your Enneagram Type is? You can take the free assessment here! Also be sure to take the FREE MARRIAGE ASSESSMENT here. Learn more about each type with this FREE SUMMARY! Check out more great insights by Beth on her blog. Discover your Enneagram number with the Discovering You course. Already know your Enneagram Type? Then it's time to take a deeper dive with the Explore You course. You can get some one-on-one coaching with Your Enneagram Coach here. Do you or your spouse struggle with confidence? You aren't alone if so! Snag our new resource Confidence Busters & Boosters to help cultivate confidence in each other and build up your marriage. Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!

This episode is a real treat because we have Beth & Jeff McCord joining Dr. Kim. Beth founded Your Enneagram Coach and is an Enneagram speaker, coach and teacher. Beth & Jeff live outside of Nashville and have been married for 24 years. Combining the gospel and the Enneagram has been instrumental in Beth and Jeff's marriage and parenting. The Enneagram is simply a map for self-discovery and personal growth based on 9 basic personality types. When we come to know what's at the root of our thoughts, feelings and actions, we can stop placing unhealthy and unrealistic expectations on our spouses to "fill us up." Our marriages can be transformed when our eyes are open to the unique ways our spouse was created, allowing us to better love, serve, communicate and resolve conflict. The Enneagram is simply a tool to self discovery and others discovery. And like Dr. Kim is always saying, we need to be "a student of our spouse." The Enneagram is one way to do just that. In this episode Dr. Kim, Beth & Jeff share about how they have used the Enneagram to help create a thriving, gospel-centered marriage. NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "When a heart is at rest from the truth of the Gospel, all kinds of fruits come from that." - Jeff McCord "The Enneagram is like a rumble strip on the highway; you can use it to wake yourself up and not fall into the common pitfalls that you have before." - Beth McCord "The Enneagram gives you a way to navigate and understand marriage in a way that you might not have been able to before." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "The Enneagram accelerates growth and transformation when you use it correctly." - Beth McCord "We can be assured that God cares about our marriages, maybe even more than we do." -Jeff McCord "The Enneagram is a tool that gives us vocabulary and an organized way to understand our spouse's personality." - Jeff McCord "The Enneagram allows us to speak to each other in one another's personality dialect." - Beth McCord "Using the Enneagram is a great way to become a student of (or study) your spouse." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "Two people that are the same Enneagram number can look and act radically different depending on their levels of health." - Beth McCord "The Enneagram gives you an opportunity as a married couple to embrace your differences." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "The Enneagram shows us that we all see the world differently." - Beth McCord SPONSORS Thank you to Groove Life for sponsoring this podcast episode! Groove Life has the Groove ring that is the world's first breathable active ring that is not only super comfortable but functional. Born from need, GROOVE raises the bar on traditional silicone, activewear rings with its flexible material, patent-pending, inner breathable design, and beautiful colors. You can use the code "awesomemarriage" for 15% off your order! RESOURCES Find everything you need at becomingus.com! Including the course for YOUR marriage's Enneagram combination. Beth & Jeff have a 'Becoming Us Course' for each couple type combination. That is 45 courses customized for each couple type combination. They go deeper into the "dance" (relational dynamics) and give you practical resources and insights to help transform your marriage. Buy 'Becoming Us' today! Not sure what your Enneagram Type is? You can take the free assessment here! Also be sure to take the FREE MARRIAGE ASSESSMENT here. Learn more about each type with this FREE SUMMARY! Check out more great insights by Beth on her blog. Discover your Enneagram number with the Discovering You course. Already know your Enneagram Type? Then it's time to take a deeper dive with the Explore You course. You can get some one-on-one coaching with Your Enneagram Coach here. Do you or your spouse struggle with confidence? You aren't alone if so! Snag our new resource Confidence Busters & Boosters to help cultivate confidence in each other and build up your marriage. Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!

In this series we have been dissecting the Top 8 Marriage Issues in 2019. These 8 issues are the top 8 issues that Dr. Kim has seen this year with marriages. In this episode Dr. Kim & Christina talk about the #1 biggest issue in marriages this year which is: infidelity. An affair always rocks a marriage. Some couples are able to ride that rocky storm and see God's grace and redemption in amazing ways. Other couples choose to end a marriage after an affair, and that's okay too! But in this episode Dr. Kim & Christina talk about why affairs happen and answering the question- can we affair proof a marriage? NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "The worst thing we can do is to think that we're not vulnerable to having an affair or being unfaithful in our marriage." - Dr. Kim Kimbelring "A lot of couples don't realize how valuable trust is in their marriage until it's broken." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "If at all possible, try not to be alone with someone of the opposite sex who isn't your spouse." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "Don't stay friends with old boyfriends and girlfriends on social media." - Dr. Kim Kimberling SPONSORS Thank you to Groove Life for sponsoring this podcast episode! Groove Life has the Groove ring that is the world's first breathable active ring that is not only super comfortable but functional. Born from need, GROOVE raises the bar on traditional silicone, activewear rings with its flexible material, patent-pending, inner breathable design, and beautiful colors. You can use the code "awesomemarriage" for 15% off your order! RESOURCES Do you or your spouse struggle with confidence? You aren't alone if so! Snag our new resource Confidence Busters & Boosters to help cultivate confidence in each other and build up your marriage. Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!

In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina talk about the 2nd biggest issue in marriages this year which is: sexual differences, specifically how to deal with libido differences or loss. We are happy to be a safe place where you can learn about sex, find yourself relating with other couples in the stories we share, and most importantly - work hard to have great sex in marriage and enjoy this gift God has given us. In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina share about how to deal with sexual differences in marriage. NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "When you're not married Satan tries to keep you in the bed, when you are married Satan tries to keep you out of the bed." - Christina Dodson "Don't start conversations with your spouse about differences in desire and libido when you are frustrated." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "Because of our culture we all drag sexual baggage into marriage." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "One of the coolest things about sex in marriage is how it continues to evolve and grow as you learn more about each other." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "You have to be intentional about discussing problems in your sex life, you can't ignore these issues when they come up." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "There's so much more to sex than just the physical act." - Christina Dodson "Your spouse needs to know that they are more important that your sexual relationship." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "Sex is an important part of a marriage but it's not THE most important part of a marriage." Dr. Kim Kimberling "Sex alone isn't enough to hold a marriage together." - Dr. Kim Kimberling SPONSORS Thank you to Groove Life for sponsoring this podcast episode! Groove Life has the Groove ring that is the world's first breathable active ring that is not only super comfortable but functional. Born from need, GROOVE raises the bar on traditional silicone, activewear rings with its flexible material, patent-pending, inner breathable design, and beautiful colors. You can use the code "awesomemarriage" for 15% off your order! RESOURCES You can snag Dr. Kim's ebook on the different types of bonding here: Bonded Together: Understanding God's Plan For Marriage In A World That Doesn't. Do you or your spouse struggle with confidence? You aren't alone if so! Snag our new resource Confidence Busters & Boosters to help cultivate confidence in each other and build up your marriage. Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!

We are doing a series on the Top 8 Marriage Issues in 2019. These 8 issues are the top 8 issues that Dr. Kim has seen this year with marriages. We will be breaking them down starting with #8 and working our way towards the #1 marriage issue. In this episode Dr. Kim & Christina talk about the 3rd biggest issue in marriages this year which is: values and beliefs. Our value system and belief system is foundational to all our other opinions and actions in life. So when a couple isn't on the same page, it can naturally cause many issues. In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina share about values and beliefs in marriage and how to cope when you and your spouse aren't on the same page. NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "If your spouse doesn't agree with you on something it can be helpful to rate how important something is to you on a 1 to 10 scale to help your spouse understand how important (less important) something is to you." - Christina "Find the hot button topics in your marriage and agree on how to talk about them or agree to disagree with each other if that's healthier for your marriage." - Christina "There are some things in marriage it is absolutely ok to compromise on; one thing you should not do is allow compromise with your spouse to cause you or them to sin." - Christina "If you aren't married yet, be prayerful before going into marriage with someone who's values and beliefs are much different than your own." - Dr. Kim "Pray and ask God for wisdom on how to handle conflict in your marriage in a way that honors Him and honors the vows you made to your spouse, and let Him lead you through it." - Dr. Kim "God will sometimes give you more than you can handle so that you turn to Him for help." - Dr. Kim SPONSORS Thank you to Honoring Intimates for sponsoring this podcast episode! Honoring Intimates is a safe place for believers to learn about marital sex and shop for the highest quality lubricant, lotions, and lingerie items at reasonable prices. There are no inappropriate images on the site and the company uses mannequins to display their lingerie. Use the code "AWESOMEMARRIAGE" to receive 20% off your entire order. RESOURCES Plan to spend some quality time with your sweetie by grabbing our FALLing For You Date Design here! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!

We are doing a series on the Top 8 Marriage Issues in 2019. These 8 issues are the top 8 issues that Dr. Kim has seen this year with marriages. We will be breaking them down starting with #8 and working our way towards the #1 marriage issue. In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina talk about the 4th biggest issue in marriages this year which is: life stages We all go through different life stages. One thing is for sure, life does not stay the same. But will we adjust as life goes on? Or will we not adjust? Our marriage needs to grow and adjust in every new life stage. In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina share about how to adjust to life stages and keep your marriage strong over the test of time and life's changes. NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "The things you do to connect and have a good marriage will change throughout your marriage." - Dr. Kim "There's value to being and living in the present." - Christina "What does it look like to be fruitful where you are right now in life?" - Christina "As long as you're on this earth God has a plan and a purpose for you and for your marriage." - Dr. Kim "If you talk about it with your spouse then you can plan for it." - Christina "If your marriage isn't growing in each stage of life, that should be a red flag that you need to do something different." - Dr. Kim "Don't let your stage of life define you, you are more than where you are currently at in life." - Christina "If your spouse is struggling with adjusting to a new phase of life, come alongside them and let them grieve the loss of the previous season if they need to." - Dr. Kim "Find a mentor couple who is ahead of you in life to learn from." - Christina "You'll need to learn to say no to different things in different life stages." - Dr. Kim SPONSORS Thank you to Honoring Intimates for sponsoring this podcast episode! Honoring Intimates is a safe place for believers to learn about marital sex and shop for the highest quality lubricant, lotions, and lingerie items at reasonable prices. There are no inappropriate images on the site and the company uses mannequins to display their lingerie. Use the code "AWESOMEMARRIAGE" to receive 20% off your entire order. RESOURCES Plan to spend some quality time with your sweetie by grabbing our FALLing For You Date Design here! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!

We are doing a series on the Top 8 Marriage Issues in 2019. These 8 issues are the top 8 issues that Dr. Kim has seen this year with marriages. We will be breaking them down starting with #8 and working our way towards the #1 marriage issue. In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina talk about the 5th biggest issue in marriages this year which is: traumatic situations. Because we live in a broken and fallen world, so many couples end up facing traumatic situations. Death of a child, abuse, suicide of someone close to you, assault, a life-changing diagnosis, war, natural disaster, the list goes on. Often times when faced with traumatic situations, naturally, couples struggle to cope and many end up losing their marriage over it. But does a life changing event have to mean the end of your marriage? Dr. Kim has walked alongside countless couples through life-changing events. A traumatic situation does not have to mean the end of your marriage. In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina share about how to cope with life-altering and traumatic situations in a way that builds up your marriage instead of tearing it down. NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "A traumatic situation is anytime life goes differently than we thought it would." - Dr. Kim "Your grief might look different from your spouse's grief and that's ok." - Dr. Kim "Nobody can't define what grief looks like for you." - Dr. Kim "Allow your spouse to express whatever emotions they feel when they're grieving." - Dr. Kim "Put God in the middle of your grief." - Dr. Kim "Be present with your spouse when they're grieving, don't put pressure on yourself to say the right thing, your presence alone will help them." - Dr. Kim "Be honest when you're communicating with your spouse about your grief." - Christina "Blaming is not going to heal anything." - Dr. Kim "After a life-altering event you have to find a new normal." - Christina SPONSORS Thank you to Honoring Intimates for sponsoring this podcast episode! Honoring Intimates is a safe place for believers to learn about marital sex and shop for the highest quality lubricant, lotions, and lingerie items at reasonable prices. There are no inappropriate images on the site and the company uses mannequins to display their lingerie. Use the code "AWESOMEMARRIAGE" to receive 20% off your entire order. RESOURCES You can check out Lysa Terkeust's book It's Not Supposed To Be This Way here. You can check out Craig Groschel's book Hope In The Dark here. Check out the devotional Dr. Kim mentioned here: Grieving the Loss of Someone You Love: Daily Meditations to Help You Through the Grieving Process Plan to spend some quality time with your sweetie by grabbing our FALLing For You Date Design here! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!

We are doing a series on the Top 8 Marriage Issues in 2019. These 8 issues are the top 8 issues that Dr. Kim has seen this year with marriages. We will be breaking them down starting with #8 and working our way towards the #1 marriage issue. In this episode Dr. Kim & Christina talk about the 6th biggest issue in marriages this year which is: stress. So many of us deal with stress on a regular basis. Being stressed out makes it hard to be a good spouse. It's hard to be intentional in your marriage or really even focus on your marriage at all when you are consumed with stress. It's bad for our health and our mental space. Stress piles negative emotions on to our marriage and steals joy. In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina talk about what stress does to marriages and how to deal with stress in a healthy way as well as some tips to help you eliminate any unnecessary stress in your life. NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "People died of diarrhea back then." - Dr. Kim "Deciding what you can and can't do something about can help you be realistic about what you're stressed about." - Christina "If there is nothing that you can do about something, the best (but not always easiest) thing to do is pray about it and leave it in God's hands." - Dr. Kim "Our emotions are good indicators but they're not good truth tellers." - Christina "Ask your spouse to come alongside you and help you deal with your stress." - Dr. Kim "Take the time to empathize with your spouse when they're stressed." - Dr. Kim "To the moms: the best thing you can do for your kids is to take care of yourself." - Christina "Don't buy into the lie that stress is just the way you are; there's an answer to stress." - Dr. Kim "God gave you a spouse to walk through life with, don't push your spouse away in times of stress, embrace them." - Dr. Kim SPONSORS Thank you to Honoring Intimates for sponsoring this podcast episode! Honoring Intimates is a safe place for believers to learn about marital sex and shop for the highest quality lubricant, lotions, and lingerie items at reasonable prices. There are no inappropriate images on the site and the company uses mannequins to display their lingerie. Use the code "AWESOMEMARRIAGE" to receive 20% off your entire order. RESOURCES Plan to spend some quality time with your sweetie by grabbing our FALLing For You Date Design here! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!

For the next few weeks on the podcast we are doing a series on the Top 8 Marriage Issues in 2019. These 8 issues are the top 8 issues that Dr. Kim has seen this year with marriages. We will be breaking them down starting with #8 and working our way towards the #1 marriage issue. In this episode Dr. Kim & Christina talk about the 7th biggest issue in marriages this year which is: boredom. With time, some spouse's become bored with their relationship. Boredom in marriage is a dangerous thing to dwell on and can easily slip into even bigger issues. It also doesn't help that our culture is telling us that monogamy and marriage is boring. But marriage does NOT have to be boring. There are real, practical things you can do to keep boredom at bay and protect your marriage from boredom. NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "Connection = Zero Boredom in marriage." - Dr. Kim "You don't have to be screaming and yelling and throwing things at each other for you to go to marriage counseling." - Christina "Boredom can happen if we're not intentional about giving to our marriage as much as we're taking from it." - Dr. Kim "Be intentional about having fun with each other, even when life gets busy; remember there's something that got you to the altar in the first place." - Dr. Kim "Find creative questions to ask each other." - Christina "There are going to be times you get bored in your marriage, it's about recognizing when that's happening and committing to reconnecting so you don't stay bored and disconnected." - Dr. Kim SPONSORS Thank you to Honoring Intimates for sponsoring this podcast episode! Honoring Intimates is a safe place for believers to learn about marital sex and shop for the highest quality lubricant, lotions, and lingerie items at reasonable prices. There are no inappropriate images on the site and the company uses mannequins to display their lingerie. Use the code "AWESOMEMARRIAGE" to receive 20% off your entire order. RESOURCES Plan to spend some quality time with your sweetie by grabbing our FALLing For You Date Design here! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!

For the next few weeks on the podcast we are doing a series on the Top 8 Marriage Issues in 2019. These 8 issues are the top 8 issues that Dr. Kim has seen this year with marriages in the counseling room. We will be breaking them down starting with number 8 and working our way towards the number 1 marriage issue in 2019. Today we are kicking off the series with talking about the 8th biggest issue in marriages this year which is: jealousy. Jealousy puts a real strain on your marriage. When you have jealous feelings it affects you, your spouse, and your marriage. In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina talk about this issue and how to deal with it in a healthy way. You may think jealousy isn't a struggle for you, but there are some subtle ways this often plays out that doesn't always get noticed and addressed. NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "A lot of times jealousy can be tied to insecurity or discontentment." - Christina "Paul in the Bible is a great example of being content with whatever he had and whatever situation he was in." - Dr. Kim "You can get so consumed with jealousy that you neglect your marriage." - Dr. Kim "Jealousy affects your ability to be present in your marriage." - Christina "If you are willing to be honest with yourself and why you're jealous, these jealous feelings can be an opportunity for God to grow and teach you." - Christina "You have to run your race, you can't run someone else's race." - Christina "If your spouse is struggling with jealousy, it gives you an opportunity to come alongside them and help them work through those feelings." - Dr. Kim SPONSORS Thank you to Honoring Intimates for sponsoring this podcast episode! Honoring Intimates is a safe place for believers to learn about marital sex and shop for the highest quality lubricant, lotions, and lingerie items at reasonable prices. There are no inappropriate images on the site and the company uses mannequins to display their lingerie. Use the code "AWESOMEMARRIAGE" to receive 20% off your entire order. RESOURCES Plan to spend some quality time with your sweetie by grabbing our FALLing For You Date Design here! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!