Money For Couples with Ramit Sethi

Ramit Sethi
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6 snips
Jul 12, 2022 • 1h 25min

51. “We went bankrupt, but I still have no boundaries with money”

Katie and Cal are in their mid-twenties and, after moving around a bit, they live back home in Alaska with their young children. They bring in about $100k a year and have a good chunk of debt, about $25k of that they transferred to Katie’s mom for a better interest rate—a move which has hopelessly entangled her in their finances.What do you do when a family member who means well (they all do) oversteps the line? Listen in to hear how Katie and Cal come to terms with the truth—that her mom’s influence has got to go—and how they might start to enact that very difficult change in their lives.Connect with Ramit Website Instagram Twitter Facebook YouTube Linkedin If you and your partner have a money issue and you want my help, I occasionally select a couple to work with, free of charge. Apply for my help here.Produced by Crate Media Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Jul 5, 2022 • 48min

50. “Maybe buying this condo was a mistake” (Part 2)

In part 2 of Elena and Eric’s story, we learn about the deep emotional ties that Elena associates with the condo that’s draining their savings account—and why she’s so anxious about outside opinions in the event they decide to sell it. To recap, they’re 25 and make $160k/year combined. They love to go to music festivals and bought a condo (with a down payment gift from their parents) about seven months ago. “Society” tells them that’s great, so they think they’re doing great.They’re not. Between transaction fees, mortgage, and maintenance, the purchase has bombarded them with phantom costs that require them to spend $2,000 a month from their savings to stay above water. At this rate, they’ll be broke in two years.No amount of cutting back on sushi or music festivals will solve this problem. This one’s all about money psychology. Eric and Elena have some tall emotional hurdles to get over before they can make the right decision and stand confidently in their truth to outsiders. Listen in to see if they can commit to selling their home and living their Rich Life. Connect with Ramit Website Instagram Twitter Facebook YouTube Linkedin If you and your partner have a money issue and you want my help, I occasionally select a couple to work with, free of charge. Apply for my help here.Produced by Crate Media. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Jun 28, 2022 • 1h 9min

49. “Our housing expense unexpectedly went up $2K when we bought our first home” (Part 1)

Elena and Eric are both 25. They live in Toronto, and they make $160k as a household. They love going to EDM festivals and spend thousands of dollars every year traveling to them—it’s their Rich Life! The problem is that they also own a condo that’s draining their savings at a rate of $2k every month. They’ll be broke in two years.Before this call, Elena and Eric made a pact that they would NOT consider selling their condo, no matter what I said. But we learn that they’re committed to keeping the condo for all the wrong reasons.What will it take for both of them to see the truth in their error? To admit a mistake and commit to moving on as a team? First, we need to see if either of them are even willing to budge on the subject. Listen in to find out.Connect with Ramit Website Instagram Twitter Facebook YouTube Linkedin If you and your partner have a money issue and you want my help, I occasionally select a couple to work with, free of charge. Apply for my help here.Produced by Crate Media. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Jun 21, 2022 • 1h 14min

48. “My husband needs a better job, but he hates the idea of earning more”

Kara and Sean make $150k annually, with $100k of that coming from Kara’s salary in healthcare. They have a baby daughter, and Kara would like to take a step back in her career in order to spend more time with her. The problem is, Sean’s happily (and hopelessly) stuck in a dead-end job.What do you do when one partner is passive when it comes to money? It’s so easy to make things personal, to escalate and unravel, but I steer this conversation to the numbers—where it’s illustrated, plain as day, what Sean needs to do. But will he see it? And if he does, will he actually make any changes? Let’s see if I can get Sean to start dreaming bigger.Connect with Ramit Website Instagram Twitter Facebook YouTube Linkedin If you and your partner have a money issue and you want my help, I occasionally select a couple to work with, free of charge. Apply for my help here.Produced by Crate Media. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Jun 14, 2022 • 1h 27min

47. “We make $500k. Why are we carrying a balance on our credit cards?”

Ashley and Charles are in their early forties and have been married for six years. Together, they have five children from previous relationships. They live in a high-cost-of-living area—but, collectively, they earn over half a million dollars per year.Because of Charles's investments and stock options, their income feels erratic, and Ashley is having a hard time making sense of it all. Ashley needs a better understanding of the family's finances to feel more at ease with their future, but a serious lack of transparency stands in the way.Have you ever felt like your partner was hiding something from you? Something big? And how long can two people stick it out when something as basic as trust is an ongoing issue? This is a huge job. Ashley and Charles have a lot to work on, but nothing is impossible. I'm going to help them simplify their money, so they can stop worrying about their spending and start envisioning a Rich Life.Connect with Ramit Website Instagram Twitter Facebook YouTube Linkedin If you and your partner have a money issue and you want my help, I occasionally select a couple to work with, free of charge. Apply for my help here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Jun 7, 2022 • 54min

46. “The ghost of FIRE still haunts our money mindset—we can’t enjoy money”

Carolyn and Gavin have been married for ten years. They have three small children and bring in about $130k annually—with a healthy $500k in investments. So what’s the problem? Once we look closer, specifically at their obsession with money mechanics, we see a deeper issue.They learned these bad habits as members of the FIRE community, a lifestyle they’ve left behind but that continues to haunt their money mindsets to this day. To make matters worse, Carolyn has disassociated from the family’s money conversation completely.How do you work as a team when one member refuses to participate? And how can you reset your instincts related to saving and spending after so many years repeating bad habits? Listen in to find out.Connect with Ramit Website Instagram Twitter Facebook YouTube Linkedin If you and your partner have a money issue and you want my help, I occasionally select a couple to work with, free of charge. Apply for my help here.Produced by Crate Media. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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May 31, 2022 • 1h 11min

45. “She tells me that it’s my fault we can’t live the life we want to live”

Sarah earns more than Andrew. They’re unmarried but imagine a future together, or would like to. The problem is that Andrew’s existing money scripts (and $65k in debt) have him frozen—unable to spend but also unwilling to seriously plan a way out.She wants to spend money on things like vacations, but he doesn’t feel like he can afford to spend. To make things worse, he feels terrible about money in general because that’s how his dad raised him—his presence looms over the conversation.We need to cut out the negative judgments and help Sarah see things from Andrew’s perspective. Then we can talk to Andrew about the mindset to overcome his past—and current—money issues.Connect with Ramit Website Instagram Twitter Facebook YouTube Linkedin If you and your partner have a money issue and you want my help, I occasionally select a couple to work with, free of charge. Apply for my help here.Produced by Crate Media. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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May 24, 2022 • 1h 3min

44. “Trust in the universe and it (or my partner) will provide”

Today’s couple is actually on the same page when it comes to their Rich Life, but they’re not making much progress toward it. Alex brings in $70k from a full time job. Charlotte runs their joint business that isn’t making much money yet, but should be soon. They both know what they want, they just have different perspectives on how to get there.Despite their income recently doubling, they are living paycheck to paycheck—while outright ignoring over $200k in student loan debt. Charlotte believes the universe will take care of them … but when it doesn’t, Alex feels like he has to step in and fix everything.Charlotte is highly intuitive, but intuition alone won’t get you to a Rich Life—you also need to be able to analyze your situation. Hearing Charlotte and Alex work toward common ground may help you realize where you’re playing small in life by relying too much on one skill set while ignoring the other.Connect with Ramit Website Instagram Twitter Facebook YouTube Linkedin If you and your partner have a money issue and you want my help, I occasionally select a couple to work with, free of charge. Apply for my help here.Produced by Crate Media. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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May 17, 2022 • 1h 11min

43. “Our $300k income is variable and declining but we aren’t adjusting our lifestyle”

How do you manage your finances when your monthly pay is inconsistent? Vince makes around $300k a year in the mortgage industry, while Kasey focuses on raising their kids at home.Despite that rather high average income, the actual monthly takeaway is incredibly variable—one month could be $25k, the next month just $2k. That uncertainty is causing Kasey a lot of stress. On top of that, Vince’s income has been steadily decreasing. Vince chooses to remain positive; Kasey is afraid of the worst happening. But neither of them is willing to look at what they will do if that worst-case scenario does happen. When times are good, they spend guilt-free. But when times aren’t as good, they begin to worry that they’ll never come back out of that hole.There are reasonable concerns when it comes to not knowing how much money you will have coming in month to month. There are also ways to work around this. Let’s find out exactly how worried Kasey and Vince should be, and what they can do to set themselves up to feel more secure.Connect with Ramit Website Instagram Twitter Facebook YouTube Linkedin If you and your partner have a money issue and you want my help, I occasionally select a couple to work with, free of charge. Apply for my help here.Produced by Crate Media. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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5 snips
May 10, 2022 • 1h 15min

42. “We’re worth $5.7 million but we’re arguing over the price of chocolates for Valentine’s day”

Making a lot of money is surprisingly easy. But if you’ve lived with too little of it most of your life, getting over the fear of spending it can be another story completely.Nicole and Michael have a combined net worth of over $5.7 million—yet they find themselves arguing over the price of a minor car repair. Nicole has crippling anxiety when it comes to spending any amount of money, no matter how insignificant it may be in the long term. While her fears may have once been justified, they haven’t caught up with reality. Now, with a house stacked with boxes of free items and bulk discount junk, and with Michael meticulously strategizing how to break the news of any minor expense to his wife, they both need to wipe the slate clean and reset their thoughts about money… before the financial wedge in their relationship drives them to divorce.Connect with Ramit Website Instagram Twitter Facebook YouTube Linkedin If you and your partner have a money issue and you want my help, I occasionally select a couple to work with, free of charge. Apply for my help here.Produced by Crate Media. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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