

Secondhand Therapy
PonyBear Studios
Secondhand Therapy is a funny, honest mental health podcast where two unlicensed best friends unpack their weekly therapy sessions.Join Louie Paoletti and Michael Malone as they explore anxiety, ADHD, grief, masculinity, and emotional growth—with humor, heart, and total transparency. Each episode blends raw self-reflection with real time takes on therapy, trauma, relationships, and the messy process of healing.It’s real talk about mental health in the modern world, and why personal growth is so damn hard.
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Mar 3, 2025 • 54min
Trauma, Personal Growth & Normalizing Pain | #076
Michael opens up about his journey with Adderall and its impact on his mental health. A candid conversation reveals the pain of reconnecting with old memories, including the loss of loved ones. The duo discusses the insightful fable of the monkey and the fish to highlight the dangers of codependence. They dive into topics like guilt, grief, and the importance of self-preservation. With humor and vulnerability, the conversation normalizes trauma and explores the complexities of personal growth.

Feb 24, 2025 • 55min
Why Are Relationships So Hard? | #075
Lou and Michael reflect on a powerful voicemail they received about the aftermath of breakups and the grief that follows. Lou opens up about a past relationship where an ultimatum changed everything for him. The conversation shifts to a meaningful DM asking how women can better support the men in their lives—something Lou and Michael feel strongly about, as they've always connected more with women than men. They also dive into their thoughts on marriage—should it be viewed as a legal contract or something deeper? Lou gets raw and vulnerable to close out this emotionally charged episode. Listen to this episode for insights on:Navigating breakup grief and healing
How women can show support to men
Thoughts on marriage and its true meaning
Vulnerability and emotional honesty in relationship
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Feb 17, 2025 • 1h 8min
There’s a 12-Step Program for That | #074
Comedian and all-around good human, Ken Garr, joins the pod today. Ken discusses his history of being a black-out drunk alcoholic, with some stories that will make you think; before sharing his journey to being 8 years sober. He reflects on his addiction to toxic relationships and what he's learned through his 12-step program dealing with codependency.
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Feb 10, 2025 • 49min
I Don’t Trust Myself and I Have Anxiety (No I Don’t) | #073
Michael dives deep into his denial about anxiety and the fear of missing something, only to realize he’s been missing more than he thought. He opens up about the emotional impact of losing his mother and how it’s left him without a safety net. Michael also reflects on his tendency to quit things out of frustration and his hesitation to ask for help. As he lets go of his dreams of fame, he’s left searching for a new dream. Meanwhile, Lou explores his own fantasies and questions their true meaning, all while navigating the complexities of multiple truths.
#Anxiety #MentalHealth #SelfDiscovery #NewPurpose #LifeStruggles #FameDreams #PersonalGrowth #SelfReflection #EmotionalHealing #MultipleTruths #SpotifyPodcast
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Feb 3, 2025 • 45min
Asking Permission to go to a Strip Club and Cheating on Vacation | #072
In an impromptu recording and conversation, Lou and Michael get into relationships. Asking for permission or checking in? Is cheating forgivable? What is cheating? Let's talk hypotheticals. Anxious attachments and building trust... or re-building trust?
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Jan 27, 2025 • 1h
I’m Being Honest With Myself and Honestly I’m NOT Selfish | #071
Lou walked out of therapy because he just wasn't feeling it; Michael did EMDR. Lou and Michael recount an uncomfortable conversation they had off-air. Michael has been challenged to take a serious look at himself and his patterns and be honest with himself. Michael reflects on his need to explain his behaviors before getting into shame. Lou and Michael debate intent versus impact before getting into what outward behaviors are actually rooted in self preservation.
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Jan 20, 2025 • 51min
I Had an Emotionally Immature Parent and Now I Can’t Be Vulnerable | #070
The hosts tackle the complexities of emotional vulnerability, particularly influenced by the challenges of having immature parents. They explore the roots of shame and how it shapes relationships and self-worth. Candid anecdotes reveal struggles with asking for help and the longing for emotional connection. The discussion also touches on personal growth, the fear of vulnerability, and the impact of past experiences in forming trust. Humor and heartfelt reflections intertwine as they navigate their emotional landscapes, engaging listeners in their journey.

Jan 13, 2025 • 45min
One Of Those Long, Intimate Kitchen Conversations | #069
In a different type of episode, Lou and Michael break down an emotional conversation they had just before sitting down to record the podcast.
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Jan 6, 2025 • 48min
It’s a New Year (Again) and We’ve All Missed the Point (Still) | #068
It's a new year, and Lou made a shirt. Lou had some difficulty reflecting on 2024, and connects it to his big-picture thinking. Lou had a bit of an existential therapy session and got into how the luxuries of today's society have dulled existence. Lou and Michael discuss what life is supposed to be. Lou is trying to get connected with his body more and be more intentional with presence. Michael opens up about his desire to be more social. OUR PHONES ARE RUINING US EVERY MINUTE.
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Dec 23, 2024 • 51min
Let’s Talk About Our Dynamic and You Don’t Know Us Like That | #067
Lou and Michael discuss their dynamic, relationship, communication style and everything else. They discuss comments, engagement, and the idea that listeners know them intrinsically. All of this is sparked by a message received on Patreon... Shoutout to Nikki. We love you.
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