

Secondhand Therapy
PonyBear Studios
Secondhand Therapy is a funny, honest mental health podcast where two unlicensed best friends unpack their weekly therapy sessions.Join Louie Paoletti and Michael Malone as they explore anxiety, ADHD, grief, masculinity, and emotional growth—with humor, heart, and total transparency. Each episode blends raw self-reflection with real time takes on therapy, trauma, relationships, and the messy process of healing.It’s real talk about mental health in the modern world, and why personal growth is so damn hard.
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Jun 16, 2025 • 58min
Read Receipts & The Panic Spiral of “I Miss You” | #088
Louie’s off keto and melting down over Cinnamon Toast Crunch, but it quickly becomes clear this episode isn’t really about cereal. What starts as a goofy check-in turns into a full-blown emotional audit — from the weight of unsaid feelings to the desperate scramble to fix something you maybe just made worse. The guys unravel the difference between:"How can I talk to you better?" vs. "What can we do differently?"
Selfless care vs. reputation management
Guilt-driven repair vs. genuine accountability
They dissect what it means to feel dismissed, how panic can hijack your intention, and why changing how you speak to someone isn’t always love — sometimes it’s self-erasure. It’s funny, it’s chaotic, and Also featuring:
– “You hit me with a baseball!”
– Weaponized ‘I miss you’s
– A fake breakup that feels a little too real
– Love on the spectrum
– And Michael finally realizing he’s never actually thought before speaking 🙃
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Jun 9, 2025 • 1h 2min
Fake Growth. Real Talk. | #087
This is probably our most uncomfortable conversation so far... This week, we dive into the messy beauty of personal growth, family trauma, and the illusion of progress. Michael spirals into thoughts about mortality and uncovers patterns passed down through his family—aka the “family curse.” He opens up about feeling stuck, avoiding discomfort, and calling it self-improvement. Louie isn’t having it. He calls out the loopholes, the fake growth, and the safety blanket of the comfort zone. There’s tension. There’s truth. There’s laughter in between the heavy stuff.
If you’ve ever felt stuck, lied to yourself in the name of growth, or wondered if your trauma is inherited—this one’s for you. mental health, therapy, self-awareness, generational trauma, comfort zone, vulnerability, personal development, funny therapy podcast
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Jun 2, 2025 • 46min
I Don’t Feel Connected to my Mother | #086
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May 26, 2025 • 44min
Grief (Part II) / Music Triggers & Healing Over Time When the World Won’t Stop | #085
Louie opens up about how music can unexpectedly trigger waves of grief — and reflects on the strangely beautiful reality that the world keeps moving after someone dies. Michael shares how his own experience of loss has shifted over time, revealing how grief evolves and reshapes our sense of self. Together, they explore the many forms grief can take — from deep sorrow to unexpected moments of connection and hope — and how it intersects with our mental health. Whether you're grieving a loved one, a relationship, or a version of yourself, this conversation offers comfort, perspective, and a reminder that you're not alone.
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May 19, 2025 • 57min
Therapy Intake Questions, ADHD Struggles, and Starting with a New Therapist | #084
Social media boundaries in therapy, ADHD shutdowns, and how productivity shame messes with your self-worth.
Starting therapy with someone new can feel… awkward. Louie shares about his first session with a new therapist, and the surprising comment he received on Instagram that sparked a deeper conversation. Should therapists follow you on social media? Meanwhile, Michael opens up about his ongoing struggles with ADHD, productivity shame, and what it’s like to emotionally shut down when tasks pile up. In this episode, we unpack:
Awkward first sessions with new therapists
Should your therapist follow your Instagram?
Therapy intake forms: too much too soon?
ADHD, executive dysfunction, and self-worth
The emotional weight of productivity culture
If you've ever questioned your therapist, your brain, or your to-do list — this one's for you.
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May 12, 2025 • 51min
Sitting in Discomfort: How Therapy Is Changing Our Relationships | #083
Louie opens up about a vulnerable conversation with his girlfriend that challenged their relationship — all through the lens of parts work therapy. He shares how sitting with discomfort, rather than avoiding it, is transforming the way he shows up in partnership. Michael reflects on his own experience with parts work, revealing emotional memories connected to his mother — and how facing discomfort in therapy is reshaping his sense of self. This episode explores:
Why discomfort in therapy can be your biggest breakthrough
Real-life relationship challenges during inner work
How childhood parts show up in adult dynamics
Whether you're in therapy or curious about how emotional healing affects love, this one goes deep. New episodes weekly — follow to stay on your healing journey.
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May 5, 2025 • 46min
Can’t Commit to Monogamy | #082
Louie has bronchitis and found his therapists Instagram — and why that might be a red flag. Michael dives deep into his fear of commitment, the emotional tension around flirting in monogamous relationships, and why he struggles with being perceived as “in trouble” for noticing other women. Together, they explore the blurry line between attraction and objectification, and how abandonment issues can sabotage intimacy. A raw, honest look at modern masculinity, emotional growth, and the complexity of romantic relationships.
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Apr 28, 2025 • 60min
Replay - Family Dysfunction and EMDR with Lara Beitz
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Apr 21, 2025 • 1h 19min
Live Show 001
This is the recording of our first live show. It was recorded December 19, 2024 in Los Angeles, Ca.
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Apr 14, 2025 • 35min
You Probably Think This Story’s About You: It Started as a Love Story
*Some names and details have been changed to conceal the identities of those who wish to remain anonymous.
When Brittani Ard matches with Kanon on Hingesparks fly. Their first date revealed an instantconnection and chemistry.Kanon is devastatingly handsome with a charm that disarmed even the mostguarded heart—plus he is surprisingly emotionally available for a man in his forties. It’s as if the universe has conspired to bring them together, two soulmates destined to find each other.
The couple spends the next five months diving fast into a whirlwind romance. Their connection so intense and their bond so deep that it seems like Brittani’s fairytale has finally found its happy ending. Until one weekend that changed her life forever.
Executive Producer Brittani Ard Follow Brittani@Brittani.Ard on all platformsThis episode contains mentions of suicide.If you are having thoughts of suicide, please reach out to the resources below. Suicide & Crisis Lifeline Call or Text 988Support the pod:
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