Relationship Coaching School Podcast

Want to hear how one man got his wife back after a separation on the brink of divorce? It's actually quite simple but requires a certain kind of man to be able to follow through with it and execute. If you are a man, this is essential information if your marriage is on the rocks. SHOWNOTES How & why did Ryan start Order of Man? [6:00] What is the current state of men in general? [7:30] What was the impact of not growing up with a father? [9:00] When did Ryan realize the "honeymoon" phase of marriage was over? [12:00] The two big things that Ryan did to get his wife back. [18:00] Did therapy help Ryan and his wife? [21:30] The huge trap that many men fall into in a marriage. [28:00] The trick to not fall into blame or victimhood. [35:00] Your action step. [42:00] GUEST BIO Ryan Michler is a husband, father, Iraqi Combat Veteran, and the Founder of Order of Man. Ryan grew up without a permanent father figure and has seen first-hand how a lack of strong, ambitious, self-sufficient men has impacted society today. He believes many of the world’s most complicated problems could be solved if men everywhere learned how to be better husbands, fathers, businessmen, and community leaders. It has now become his life’s mission to help men across the planet step more fully into their roles as protectors, providers, and presiders over themselves, their families, their businesses, and their communities. You can find him blogging and podcasting at Order of Man where he is working to help men become all they were meant to be. http://www.orderofman.com   

Is the female orgasm that complicated and powerful? It can be for some of us, but in this episode, women's sexuality pioneer and sexologist Betty Dodson offers some extremely practical, no-nonsense advice for women (and men) around the orgasm. Hear some enlightening and very intimate details of what a woman can do to dissolve the shame and step into true enjoyment of an orgasm. From group sex to being witnessed masturbating, this episode is sure to confront you and lift you up. SHOWNOTES How did Betty get first started in teaching sex and orgasm? [8:30] What's the current state of feminism and sexuality? [11:00] What does a bodysex group do? [12:00] Why is this kind of bodysex work important for women? [16:30] How often should a woman orgasm to give her vitality? [18:00] Have they figured out where the fluid of a G-spot orgasm comes from? [19:00] What does Betty think about Orgasmic Meditation (OMing)? [20:00] Betty's suggestions on how to experience your first female orgasm. [24:00] Does feeling safe with a partner matter affect the quality of the orgasm? [26:00] How to create a sex-positive world? [27:30] Betty's thoughts on using sex toys for orgasm. [32:00] Is monogamy realistic? [34:00] Best way to heal from sexual shame & trauma? [36:00] Betty's best advice for married couples to revive their sex life. [39:00] Your action step. [43:00]  

A brave smart couple shares their "dark period" and how they got through it. Anyone who has been married for a few years, and then adds in a child to the mix, will pretty much get rocked. Tripp and Alyson share what happened and how they got through it. From their day to day check-ins, emotional distance and meltdowns, to transforming their sex life after kids, you are going to love how this couple rocked it out. And hopefully, you can take a few tips home to your relationship. SHOWNOTES The story of how Tripp & Alyson met. [10:00] Tripp and Alyson's wild first few dates. [16:00] How reclaim their connection when it's off. [21:30] How did Tripp learn to be curious? [30:00] One period that challenged their relationship. [31:00] What Tripp had to face in himself to get out of his comfort zone. [38:00] Who did they each reach out to for support during their challenging times? [50:00] Why you can't rely on your partner to fulfill all your needs. [55:00] How to keep your sex life alive after kids. [58:00] Tripp shares his own evolution of his relationship to sex.  [1:08:00] The framework they both set in their wedding vows [1:15:00] Your action step. [1:23:00]  

Family drama will show you exactly where you and your partner are or are not aligned. Not knowing how to navigate your own triggers around your family can lead to some strange and even painful "gifts" over the holidays. That's why I'm spending an episode on how to deal with the likely family drama that will occur this holiday season. This will help you and your partner (or future partner) know what to do to reduce the stress and be more of a team. That way you can actually enjoy yourself during the holidays! SHOWNOTES Jayson shares his initial stumbles in trying to "fix" his family dynamic. [7:00] What a typical holiday dinner looks like. [9:15] What is your role in your family dynamic? [11:45] 7 tips to better navigate your upcoming family gathering. [13:30] The responsibility of the most emotionally mature person in the room. [15:00] The surprising benefit of having your partner's back. [20:00] How to flip your expectation of wanting your family to be curious about you. [22:00] The truth about judgment. [24:30] Jayson gives you an action step. [32:00]

Why do men need more solid men around them? In this episode, we explore the power of getting very honest with other men and how that can benefit your relationships to women. Our guest John Wineland shares his personal story and offers practical yet embodied tips for how a man can learn how to do relationships in a much more powerful and sustainable way.  SHOWNOTES How did John get into men's work? [9:30] The massive opportunity and lessons in fatherhood. [12:30] How death has been one of John's biggest teachers. [18:00] Why just having guy friends is sometimes not enough. [21:00] Does every man need a men's group? [24:30] What is the most powerful spiritual work that John now does? [35:00] What can a woman do to help her man get into men's work? [38:00] The game-changing move that a man can do to transform his relationship. [45:00] Jayson gives an action step. [58:00]  

In this episode, personality hackers and smart couple Joel and Antonia share their personal experiences of working through differences by understanding their partner's personality type. These two use Myers-Briggs, the enneagram, and other personality tests to understand themselves and each other better. I think you'll get a couple of new insights from Joel and Antonia's story that can help you right now in your own relationship. Pay special attention to what they do well and how they work through challenges in a collaborative way.  SHOWNOTES What is a "social technology"? [8:30] Why do you need to understand your partner's personality style? [14:00] How did Joel and Antonia start studying personality? [15:15] The unique history of the Myers-Briggs typing system. [17:00] How thinkers and feelers can work well in relationships. [22:00] Can your learn from your partner's personality style? [32:00] The impact of masculine or feminine personality types. [35:00] The two kinds of thinking styles. [38:30] The best place to start to figure out you & your partner's personality type? [42:00] The traps of personality tests. [44:00] One thing to never do with your partner. [47:30] What caused Joel and Antonia to dive into personal growth? [49:00]

In this episode, we tackle spirituality and relationships with soulshaping mentor Jeff Brown. Jeff has a great knack for calling BS on the spiritual movement and instead offering grounded, practical, embodied suggestions and pathways to continue to deepen into our wholeness. This one may get uncomfortable depending on where you fall in this conversation. It is my wish that you feel challenged and grow from it.   SHOWNOTES What is Soulshaping? [12:40] What are the most common human struggles that Jeff sees in his work? [14:00] Why most people meditate and so “solo spirituality” over relationships. [16:30] Jeff’s personal definition of spirituality [18:00] How are some teachings distorting the ideas of spirituality and emotions? [19:30] What can men do to grow spiritually? [24:00] The lesson Jeff learned from selling windows door-to-door. [27:00] How can women help men awaken? [29:30] How do Jeff and partner navigate conflict in their relationship? [32:45] Jeff gives his opinion on polyamory. [38:00] What are Jeff’s preferred practices for personal growth? [39:45] Jeff’s twist on the New Age movement. [43:00] Why are relationships so hard? [46:00]  

You’ve been a with a friend or partner who rambles on right? And, you check out or stop listening, but you let them talk right? We’ve all been there. Well, in this episode, we discuss how important it is to interrupt them and take command of the conversation. Wait, Am I suggesting you get aggressive? No way. I’m asking that you show your “care” for them by listening in an entirely different way. SHOWNOTES What is “captive audience”? [7:30] Who is responsible when someone talks too much in an interaction? [10:30] What is active listening? [12:15] The gift that you might be giving the “over-talker”. [14:00] Jayson gives some examples on how to interrupt. [15:30] Jayson shares a personal story of a dude that talked WAY too much and what Jayson did about it. [21:30] Jayson’s action steps for the listener [25:00]

Feeling disconnected is a common experience in long-term relationships. The question is how to get reconnected? Well, first you’ll want to start to identify the ways in which you disconnect and locate the source. After some self-inquiry there, you can learn how to reconnect to you, and your partner. Listen to this one to learn how. SHOWNOTES Should you expect that your marriage will last forever? [4:00] Do you need to love yourself first before you get into a relationship? [5:30] The 10 signs that you’re disconnected from yourself. [9:30] The 8 steps to reconnect. [15:00] Jayson’s action step for the listener [24:00]

Do men change? Can they overcome their blocks? Of course. But sometimes, they need a little permission or a nudge from another man. I’m always thrilled to meet men who help other men come out of their conditioning. This week, I interview Connor Beaton, who is doing just that through his ManTalks events. Check it out. SHOWNOTES What is ManTalks? [9:00] The rock bottom that Connor experienced that caused him to shift his life. [10:30] The two options that Connor chose between. [18:00] How traditional masculinity is a pitfall for many men.  [22:00] What does Connor see as the main challenge for men in relationships? [24:30] The unique role of women and personal growth. [26:00] Some the things that make men’s work not as accessible to most men. [28:00] Connor’s biggest lesson in relationships. [33:30] The reality about men and vulnerability. [35:00] Jayson’s action steps for the listener [41:00]