Relationship Coaching School Podcast

This podcast comes from a blog post I wrote for Elephant Journal where I polled over 200 women on my social media channels wit this question: Hetero-women: What are you wanting from us men in the context of an intimate, monogamous partnership? Over 200 women responded. I got emotional reading them. So, guys, listen up and take notes. Soon, we’ll cover what men are saying they want in a partnership. SHOWNOTES (2:10) Top 6 things women want from men (3:56) Willingness (5:10) Emotionally availability (7:22) Presence (9:52) Honesty (11:18)Safety (12:20) Self-awareness (14:47) Action Step

In this episode we explore toxic masculinity and male sexuality. It all starts how we raise our sons. Check it out. SHOWNOTES: (0:15) Intro / Recap from last episodes (2:40) Why talk about toxic masculinity (5:00) #MeToo movement (8:28) Why men live in fear of being acused of toxic behaviors (10:10) Why closed and disconnected men display toxic behavior (12:33) What happens when we don’t teach our boys about sexuality (17:11) Understanding the factors that cause toxic behaviors

In this episode I explain how society and culture play an massive role in the indoctrination of men from a young age, which keeps their hearts behind a giant wall. From a young age, boys learn to repress and hide their emotions and their sensitive side in order to belong to the peer group, their family, and avoid rejection and abandonment.

Few experts have studied more marriages - and determined what makes those relationships succeed or fall apart - than Drs. John and Julie Gottman. The Seattle-based couple and founders of the Gottman Institute are leaders in their field, using decades of case studies to help both new couples and long-term partners communicate, ask the right questions, and find the solutions to keep their relationships intact and running smoothly. On this episode of the Smart Couple Podcast, the Gottmans discuss their newest book on relationships, some of the biggest flash points for arguments and contempt among couples, and why mutual respect is critical for success in any partnership.  SHOWNOTES  Background on the Gottmans [6:00] Surprising Marriage Revelations [9:50] Why Money Creates Arguments [11:20] How to Ask Meaningful Questions [15:25] Insights Learned from Couples on Dates [19:30] Why Fun is Crucial in a Marriage [22:35] The Perils of Screen Use [23:50] The Impact of Attachment [25:40] Interpreting Body Language and Contempt [30:45] How Positive Couples Last [36:25] How the Gottmans Solved Their Marriage [39:20] The Importance of Date Nights [43:50] The Role of Respect in a Relationship [46:30] Advice for Young Couples [50:10] How to Find The Gottmans’ New Book [52:00] Final Thoughts and Action Steps [53:15] HELPFUL LINKS Learn more about the Gottman Institute Buy a Copy of the Gottmans’ New Book Relationship School’s® Survey Smart Couple Facebook Group Roots Community Get the Smart Couple Quote Book The Relationship School® Facebook – Jayson Gaddis Fan Page How to Leave A Podcast Review

We're up to big things over here! Listen in for some Smart Couple Podcast updates and an upcoming events download.   SHOWNOTES: Jayson’s Teaching A Kripalu Workshop In March In MA! [4:00]  Jayson’s Mini Conflict Workshop @ Yoga Pod In Boulder On Saturday, March 9th [7:00] Smart Couple Podcast Update [8:00] Why You Should Consider Becoming A Relationship Coach [9:00] Action Step [12:00]   Check out the webpage for this Smart Couple Podcast episode at https://relationshipschool.site/podcast228  

Interested in a super useful and deeply moving webinar replay featuring a legendary couple, both of whom are couples therapist and bestselling authors? If so, you’re in luck!    SHOWNOTES:   Why Do Couples Fight? [5:00] Expecting Your Partner To Fulfill Your Unmet Childhood Needs [10:00] What Does It Take To Love Your Partner More Than Yourself? [19:00] The Importance Of Being Present [26:00] Applying The Still Face Experiment & Being Present To Adult Interaction [35:00] Turning Being Present With Each Other Into A Spiritual Practice [42:00] How To Inspire Change In Your Partner [45:00] How To Heal Insecure Attachment [50:00] Helping Your Partner Recover From Dysregulation [54:00] Why Caring For Your Relationship IS Self-Care [55:00] Learning What Your Partner Really Needs [1:07:00] Harville's Thoughts On Co-Dependency & Co-Regulation [1:15:00] When Only One Of You Is Willing To Do The Work Is There Any Point? [1:19:00]   Changes In The New Version of Getting The Love You Want [1:25:00]    Check out the webpage for this Smart Couple Podcast episode at https://relationshipschool.site/podcast227  

 If you're serious about wanting to grow and become a better version of yourself you need to know how to ask people to challenge you. Don’t be afraid to get that super valuable feedback!   SHOWNOTES:   Send Us Feedback At info@relationshipschool.com! [1:00] Why Challenge Is Essential In Partnership [2:00]  Escape A Stagnant Relationship With Challenge [4:00] How To Play The "Challenge" Game [5:00] Possible Changes Coming To The Podcast [7:00]   Check out the webpage for this Smart Couple Podcast episode at https://relationshipschool.site/podcast226  

 Your relationship on shaky ground? Learn the five signs of an insecure relationship and some steps you can take to build the secure relationship we all deserve.    SHOWNOTES:   What Type Of Insecurity Are You Experiencing [3:00] Sign #1 - Not Emotionally Safe & Relaxed [5:00] Sign #2 - Not Feeling Seen [6:00] Sign #3 - You Don’t Feel Supported After A Fight [7:00] Sign #4 - You Don’t Feel Challenged [8:00] Sign #5 - You Feel Like You Can’t Express Yourself [9:00] Info On Upcoming Free Web Events [11:00]   Check out the webpage for this Smart Couple Podcast episode at https://relationshipschool.site/podcast225    

In this episode, Jayson and Ellen speak with relationship mentors Gabrielle and Ted Usatynski about their spiritual journeys and how incorporating relational and scientific knowledge made each of them spiritually stronger than ever before.   SHOWNOTES:   Who are Gabrielle & Ted Usatynski? [6:00] Advantages And Challenges Of Spirituality In Relationship [14:00] Problems Ted & Gabrielle Saw In The Spiritual Community [23:00] Pros & Cons Of Devotion To One School Of Thought Vs Many [26:00] Ellen & Jayson Experience With Relational Problem In Spiritual Communities [32:00] How The Gabrielle And Ted Transitioned Out Of Their Spiritual Groups [36:00] The Pain Of Leaving A Spiritual Community [40:00] Increasing Your Personal Power Through Relationship [44:00] The Health Cost Of Being Alone Too Often [50:00] Ted & Gabrielle's #1 Tips For Listeners [1:00:00]   Check out the webpage for this Smart Couple Podcast episode featuring Ted and Gabrielle Usatynski at https://relationshipschool.com/podcast224