Relationship Coaching School Podcast

Interested in a super useful and deeply moving webinar replay featuring a legendary couple, both of whom are couples therapist and bestselling authors? If so, you’re in luck!    SHOWNOTES:   Why Do Couples Fight? [5:00] Expecting Your Partner To Fulfill Your Unmet Childhood Needs [10:00] What Does It Take To Love Your Partner More Than Yourself? [19:00] The Importance Of Being Present [26:00] Applying The Still Face Experiment & Being Present To Adult Interaction [35:00] Turning Being Present With Each Other Into A Spiritual Practice [42:00] How To Inspire Change In Your Partner [45:00] How To Heal Insecure Attachment [50:00] Helping Your Partner Recover From Dysregulation [54:00] Why Caring For Your Relationship IS Self-Care [55:00] Learning What Your Partner Really Needs [1:07:00] Harville's Thoughts On Co-Dependency & Co-Regulation [1:15:00] When Only One Of You Is Willing To Do The Work Is There Any Point? [1:19:00]   Changes In The New Version of Getting The Love You Want [1:25:00]    Check out the webpage for this Smart Couple Podcast episode at https://relationshipschool.site/podcast227  

 If you're serious about wanting to grow and become a better version of yourself you need to know how to ask people to challenge you. Don’t be afraid to get that super valuable feedback!   SHOWNOTES:   Send Us Feedback At info@relationshipschool.com! [1:00] Why Challenge Is Essential In Partnership [2:00]  Escape A Stagnant Relationship With Challenge [4:00] How To Play The "Challenge" Game [5:00] Possible Changes Coming To The Podcast [7:00]   Check out the webpage for this Smart Couple Podcast episode at https://relationshipschool.site/podcast226  

 Your relationship on shaky ground? Learn the five signs of an insecure relationship and some steps you can take to build the secure relationship we all deserve.    SHOWNOTES:   What Type Of Insecurity Are You Experiencing [3:00] Sign #1 - Not Emotionally Safe & Relaxed [5:00] Sign #2 - Not Feeling Seen [6:00] Sign #3 - You Don’t Feel Supported After A Fight [7:00] Sign #4 - You Don’t Feel Challenged [8:00] Sign #5 - You Feel Like You Can’t Express Yourself [9:00] Info On Upcoming Free Web Events [11:00]   Check out the webpage for this Smart Couple Podcast episode at https://relationshipschool.site/podcast225    

In this episode, Jayson and Ellen speak with relationship mentors Gabrielle and Ted Usatynski about their spiritual journeys and how incorporating relational and scientific knowledge made each of them spiritually stronger than ever before.   SHOWNOTES:   Who are Gabrielle & Ted Usatynski? [6:00] Advantages And Challenges Of Spirituality In Relationship [14:00] Problems Ted & Gabrielle Saw In The Spiritual Community [23:00] Pros & Cons Of Devotion To One School Of Thought Vs Many [26:00] Ellen & Jayson Experience With Relational Problem In Spiritual Communities [32:00] How The Gabrielle And Ted Transitioned Out Of Their Spiritual Groups [36:00] The Pain Of Leaving A Spiritual Community [40:00] Increasing Your Personal Power Through Relationship [44:00] The Health Cost Of Being Alone Too Often [50:00] Ted & Gabrielle's #1 Tips For Listeners [1:00:00]   Check out the webpage for this Smart Couple Podcast episode featuring Ted and Gabrielle Usatynski at https://relationshipschool.com/podcast224  

In this unique episode, Jayson and high school student Evalyn Peacey exchange questions about small talk, screen time, online relationships and much more.    SHOWNOTES:   How Should Students Be Taught To Deal With Disagreements [5:00] Why Are We Supposed To Keep Things Shallow In Small Talk [6:00] What Are Some Methods To Get Couples To Open Up And Communicate? [9:00] Some Of Jayson’s Biggest Suggestions For Young People [11:00] Why Do So Many Young People Struggle To Communicate And Bond [13:00] How Can We Learn To Accept Ourselves Sooner [15:00] What Are Some Challenges Teen Are Facing In Their Relationships? [20:00] The Teens & Screens Issue [21:00] Where Are Young People Going For Relationship Help? [23:00] How Can Adults And The Relationship School Help Young People [24:00] Would Students Take A Relationship Class [29:00]   Check out the webpage for this Smart Couple Podcast episode at https://relationshipschool.net/podcast/relationship-advice-for-teens-evalyn-peacey-smart-couple-podcast-223  

Author and researcher Warren Farrell unpacks his new book The Boy Crisis showing nothing predicts hardship in a boy’s life more than being ‘dad deprived’.   Who is Warren Farrell? [1:00] What Inspired Warren To Focus On Gender? [4:00] Why Is The Father’s Contribution To A Child’s Development Undervalued? [10:00] Research Findings On The Dad Deprived Boy [10:00] Connecting The #MeToo Movement To Raising Boys [17:00] How Boys Are Being Encouraged To Stay Silent [26:00] Defensiveness: Humankind’s Achilles Heel? [30:00] How Rough Play Can Help Teach Empathy [32:00] Why It’s Important For Boys To Learn Postponed Gratification [39:00] How People Are Responding To The Boy Crisis [42:00] What Is Warren Farrell’s Number One Message For Young People? [46:00]   Check out the webpage for this Smart Couple Podcast episode with Warren Farrell at https://relationshipschool.net/podcast222  

Saying sorry is the default, socially acceptable response to conflict but it’s also a cop-out. Learn to respond in a way that leads to REAL repair so the kids in your life learn to do the same.    SHOWNOTES: Why It’s Shitty Advice To Tell Your Kid To Say Sorry [2:00] Are You Teaching Your Kid To Say Sorry To Let Yourself Off The Hook? [3:00] What Kids Who Only Say Sorry Become As Adults [5:00] Two Ways To Respond To Conflict That Are Better Than Just Saying I’m Sorry [6:00]   Check out the webpage for this Smart Couple Podcast episode at https://relationshipschool.net/podcast221  

Clinician and teacher, Stan Tatkin, explains what scientific research is telling us about pair bonding, adult attachment, and how to avoid triggering unwanted reactions.   SHOWNOTES:   Who Is Stan Tatkin? [1:00] Info On Stan’s New Book ‘We Do’ [4:00] Going From Me To We Is Not About Codependency [6:00] What is PACT & Psychobiology? [10:00] Questions You Need To Ask Yourself If You Had a “Great” Childhood [19:00] Allostatic Load And The Intersection Between Health and Security [24:00] How To Start Hard A Conversation [34:00] A Psychobiological Look At Emotions & Hormones [41:00] Listener Question: How Responsible Are We For Our Partner’s Feelings? [49:00] Listener Question: How Does Stan Address Sexual Desire Discrepancies? [55:00]   To RSVP for the free lunchtime webinar with Stan Tatkin and Jayson Gaddis visit https://relationshipschool.net/wedo/   Check out the webpage for this Smart Couple Podcast episode with Stan Tatkin at https://relationshipschool.net/podcast220  

In this episode, psychotherapist Terri Cole shares some creative (and funny) strategies for handling problematic family relationships.   SHOWNOTES:   Why Interacting With Family Can Be So Difficult [1:00] Terri Cole’s Family Experience [3:00] The Importance Of Boundaries and Language With Family [7:00] Examples Of Managing Family Dysfunction Successfully [9:00] Strategies For Avoiding Unwanted Conversations With Family [14:00] Is It Okay To Just Walk Away From Shitty Family Conversations? [19:00] Taking A Break From Family And Avoiding Family Holidays Altogether [21:00] When Mom And Partner Are Competing For Attention [25:00] Family Drama Hotline info [29:00]   For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for this episode visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast219   Prepare for the holidays and join the free, Family Drama Hotline webinar hosted by Jayson Gaddis and Terri Cole on the evening of November 20th! RSVP at https://relationshipschool.net/hotline/  

THE HOLIDAYS ARE COMING! Are you ready for all the family time? Start preparing now and turn your annual holiday drama into time you really enjoy.    SHOWNOTES:   Why Holiday Cheer Can Be Such Bullshit [2:00] What Role Are You Playing To Appease Your Extended Family? [4:00] Consider Cutting Your Parents Some Slack [6:00] Terri Cole Holiday Drama Hotline Info [8:00] Two Mindsets To Adopt For The Holidays [11:00]     For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for this episode visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast218   Prepare for the holidays and join the free, Family Drama Hotline webinar hosted by Jayson Gaddis and Terri Cole on the evening of November 20th! RSVP at https://relationshipschool.net/hotline/