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"I wasn't traumatized, why do I have PTSD symptoms?" | Ask Kati Anything 104 Books Traumatized   https://geni.us/Bfak0j  - 0rder Yours Today Are u ok?    http://bit.ly/2s0mULy  - In Stores Now Amazon Suggestions https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimorton Online Therapy - I do not currently offer online therapy.  My sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit https://betterhelp.com/kati Patreon Do you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/ Opinions That Don't Matter! (my afterhours podcast) https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com Business Contact   Linnea Toney  linnea@underscoretalent.com   Mail 1779 Wells Branch Pkwy #110B  Box #353 Austin, TX 78728 If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ask Kati Anything! Your mental health podcast with Kati Morton, LMFT episode 1031. What advice do you have for those of us who can’t tolerate intimacy? Too much eye contact, love, and attention often seems to overwhelm me. I find it so much easier to connect with people I barely know, but when people get too familiar and close I panic...2. When working with trauma how do you build that window of tolerance? I feel at times like I’m stuck and can’t stop myself from dissociating. We have built several safety measures, worked on body awareness but yet the second the past comes into play I can feel my anxiety climb...3. I’ve been seeing a lot of people on TikTok talking about how they sort of habitualized a certain food (like the same bedtime snack every night or same breakfast every morning), not out of an eating disorder...4. If someone has had an ED for a long time (say 5/10+ years) how likely are they to recover in your experience?  If it is a 'stuck' ED, at what point would you suspect something underlying (another mental health condition for example) hasn't been addressed...5. I hope you are well. I was seeing a psychotherapist for help to address my childhood emotional neglect and also other traumatic things that happened. I saw him  for about 2 years and unfortunately I wasn't able to continue to see him because it was provided by the NHS. I felt ...6. How do you know if you have truly forgiven someone? I had my trust broken in my marriage recently and trying to find the balance between giving permission to feel hurt, but also not holding a grudge. But I feel like this could apply to plenty of other...7. I'm just wondering how to deal with being highly empathic, while struggling myself. Emotionally abusive father (sometimes questioned if narcissistic) and I can tell how he is by how he coughs, breathes, or walks. He is prone to very low moods, to the point where it’s scary but won’t get help. He will never...8. How does one differ between urges that are biologically driven and aren’t really choices and ones that are self induced habits? I’m in recovery from a restrictive ED and am honoring mental hunger. However, sometimes I get confused if it’s mental hunger or my binging...9. My depression keeps going up and down. Sometimes I just feel like crying, and I have been having more bad days than good, manageable days. I’ve been stuck at home for weeks, unable to go anywhere, or even walk around my house properly because of...BooksTraumatized   https://geni.us/Bfak0j  -  0rder Yours TodayAre u ok?    http://bit.ly/2s0mULy  - In Stores NowAmazon Suggestions https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonOnline TherapyI do not currently offer online therapy.  My sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit https://betterhelp.com/katiPatreonDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (my afterhours podcast)https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/Business Contact  Linnea Toney  linnea@underscoretalent.com Mail1779 Wells Branch Pkwy #110B Box #353 Austin, TX 78728If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency roomSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimorton) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ask Kati Anything! Your mental health podcast with Kati Morton, LMFT Episode 101 Audience Questions1. Hi Kati, what happens in the brain when you dissociate? Does it reduce blood flow to certain areas of the brain? What happens in the brain when you do coping techniques? I am really interested to hear what happens with neurotransmitters and blood flow and brain activation when dissociating and when trying to get out of this state. Also is there any research on the long term effects of regular dissociation for the brain? Thanks for creating these podcasts, they are interesting and eye-opening. (COMMENT: Also, does derealisation and depersonalisation impact the brain differently? Lastly, what does it look like in an MRI scan? Is it diagnosable just by looking at brain waves?)2. Epilepsy patient dissociation aura. posteromedial cortex PMC 3Hz firing (PMC part of DMN, involved in internally focused cognition like autobiographical memory). Ketamine causes dissociation - when they gave it to mice, the mice wouldnt withdraw paw from hot plate (dissociation). When they stimulated PMC 3 Hz it recapitulated this effect without ketamine 3. Hello Kati and Dr. Ben Rein, I’m curious to know more about neuroplasticity and what someone with C-PTSD can do to strengthen memory and learning skills? I’m a survivor of CSA and I find it’s difficult for me to memorize and retain what I’m studying in school. Any advice? 4. How does developing a mental illness in childhood affect your brain long term? I had severe OCD when I was around 10 years old and I still deal with it as an adult. I know you can be symptom-free from certain disorders like OCD that may develop at any time in your life, but I...+++++Ben Rein, Ph.D. is a neuroscientist & postdoctoral fellow at Stanford University. Ben is currently studying how psychedelic drugs alter the way the brain processes social information. Ben ultimately intends to supervise his own research lab and serve as a professor at an academic institution.​Outside of the lab, Ben shares educational science videos on social media to a collective audience of more than 800,000 subscribers. In his videos, Ben shares breaking scientific discoveries, debunks "viral" videos containing misinformation, teaches fundamental neuroscience principles, and educates on the importance of scientific research. He also provides guidance to students through a video series called "Scientips"You can find more from Ben onTikTok @ dr.breinInstagram @ doctor.breinTwitter @ dr_brein+++++BooksTraumatized   https://geni.us/Bfak0j  -  0rder Yours TodayAre u ok?    http://bit.ly/2s0mULy  - In Stores NowAmazon Suggestionshttps://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonOnline TherapyI do not currently offer online therapy.  My sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://betterhelp.com/katiPatreonDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (my afterhours podcast)audio: https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/Business Contact  Linnea Toney  linnea@underscoretalent.com Mail1779 Wells Branch Pkwy #110B Box #353 Austin, TX 78728If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency roomSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimorton) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ask Kati Anything! Your mental health podcast with Kati Morton, LMFT episode 1021. Can you talk about the fear of abandonment vs fear of rejection and how they differ? As a kid, I was left out a lot, felt excluded, and like I didn’t belong. I still feel the effects of those social rejections to the point that...2. My friend and I both were suicidal in the past, but we were suicidal in completely opposite ways. I thought it was interesting. For her, suicide was a last resort, an escape from painful feelings. Feeling hopeless, like...3. Why do I feel so empty when sharing traumatic stories with my therapist? I just can’t access those emotions and it makes me wonder if they are even there. It also makes me question the validity of the stories...4. Are therapists supposed to hide their emotions in response to a story shared? As in, remain calm, soothing or neutral. Recently, I shared with my sister how my therapist shows her anger in session as a response to...5. How do you deal with a traumatic sexual experience that wasn't rape or abuse? Years ago my last relationship ended after my at the time boyfriend sleeping with me and breaking up right afterwards...6. What changes do you think could be made to adult psych wards for treatment to be more effective, and for a better experience? I know that sometimes I need the extra support but my times at the psych ward in the...7. I recently expressed suicidal ideation in therapy and my therapist said to me she isn’t worried about me because i haven’t tried to kill myself to date. I am feeling so hurt and invalidated by this. also, since i am very attached...8. Thanks for all that you do for us all! My question is: Do some therapists/psychiatrists use proper medical words and lingos? My therapist has told her a few times that I don't know the logical definitions...9. Can you please talk a little about bpd. I have suffered for many years. I think it is the most misunderstood mental illness. I have therapy weekly and work hard, I have also been in and out of hospital over the years. I’m 53, is there an optimistic future ahead or...+++++BooksTraumatized   https://geni.us/Bfak0j  -  0rder Yours TodayAre u ok?    http://bit.ly/2s0mULy  - In Stores NowAmazon Suggestions https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonOnline TherapyI do not currently offer online therapy.  My sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit https://betterhelp.com/katiPatreonDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (my afterhours podcast)https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/Business Contact  Linnea Toney  linnea@underscoretalent.com Mail1779 Wells Branch Pkwy #110B Box #353 Austin, TX 78728If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency roomSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimorton) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ask Kati Anything! Your mental health podcast with Kati Morton, LMFT episode 1001. What exactly are body memories? How do I know I have them, what do they feel like and what options are there to treat them? In your last podcast you were talking a lot about body memories and wondered whether you would share some more information about them. 2. I find I tend to wallow in negative thoughts when I am in bed, before I fall asleep. I go over old arguments, think about past events that upset me, and despair over things I dislike about myself. It can spiral into thoughts of suicide or self-harm fantasies. While I’m improving in many areas...3. Sometimes it seems like you answer the same kind of questions each week so here is a different question. Do you have any ideas why I feel the need to masturbate whenever I feel stressed or sad? I have noticed that I do this often but I never thought much of it until watching...4. Why do we invalidate ourselves? When talking with my therapist at my last appt she had made the comment when dealing with past trauma and I found my mind instantly putting up a block and wanting to say I don’t have trauma even though I know that’s what it is (CSA). Even with c-ptsd I...5. Can you talk about ‘Splitting’ in Borderline Personality Disorder vs Trauma Bonds? Is it harder for people with BPD to tell they’re in a trauma bond because they think it’s just their borderline acting up and making them view their partner badly? (Splitting). Are people with BPD...6. I am curious if having s*x that you don’t want but said yes to can be traumatizing. I have social phobia and was at that point not able to say “no” cause I was so scared. I think I dissociated a little while it happened. I couldn’t move, talk or feel my body while at the same time being in quite bad pain....7.  My question is related to trauma. Is it possible that my therapist is not having me process being raped because I am in the middle of an ongoing trauma with my daughter? Is it a bad idea to process things while they are still happening?  8. I’m in my late 20’s and I am just about to start studying in a course on mental health. I’m excited because I love learning and I am passionate about all things involving mental health, but I’m also terrified at the same time and I’m wondering if this is the right fit for me...9. In what way do you think mental illness affects a marriage most? More specifically, what is the best way to manage depression in a healthy marriage?BooksTraumatized   https://geni.us/Bfak0j  -  0rder Yours TodayAre u ok?    http://bit.ly/2s0mULy  - In Stores NowAmazon Suggestions https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonOnline TherapyI do not currently offer online therapy.  My sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit https://betterhelp.com/katiPatreonDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (my afterhours podcast)https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/Business Contact  Linnea Toney  linnea@underscoretalent.com Mail1779 Wells Branch Pkwy #110B Box #353 Austin, TX 78728If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency roomSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimorton) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

"Why do narcissistic people believe their past trauma means..." | AKA ep. 99Guest: Lana Seiler, MSW, LCSW - Primary Therapist at APN LodgeLana is a licensed clinical social worker and primary therapist at APN Lodge. Lana places a high value on “holding space” for guests to process their experiences and begin to heal. She is a champion of holistic and scientific mental health and addiction treatment, helping clients fight for their development of a healthier view of themselves, others, and the world. Those hard-won results are her greatest reward.Addiction & Mental Health Treatment: If you are looking for an in-person treatment center that provides expert help with addiction recovery and mental health, All Points North Lodge is a great option. All Points North Lodge offers evidence-based and holistic treatment in the Colorado mountains. Chat with a member of their team at www.apnlodge.com/kati or call (218) 306-82141. Do therapists really not judge their clients? You guys are human too so I can’t see a reality where my therapist wouldn’t judge me in some way (she’s very kind btw, I’m not saying this based on any experience)...2. Why do narcissistic people believe their past trauma means their abusive patterns/behaviors towards others should be excused? Where do we draw the line between ending stigma and and allowing people to abuse, regardless of trauma/mental illness?3. What is the difference between empathy and codependency? I’ve been told I have both and was actually diagnosed with codependent personality traits. I know that I have a hard time separating my own emotions from others. I become extremely unsettled if I...4. How do you get yourself to believe it’s not your fault? I was sexually abused as a child, starting around age 7, and I know I am suppose to say it’s not my fault, my therapist tells me it’s not my fault and so do others but when it comes down to it I still have a hard time believing...5. Could you please explain the difference between borderline pd and dependent pd? I know both involve a fear of abandonment and attachment issues, but I am having trouble figuring out which disorder resonates with me more. I had an emotionally neglectful mum and...6. I'm struggling with the reparenting process. I was neglected or emotionally abused when I was a child and I understand that I have to give myself what my child version would have wanted and needed, but I don't feel like that's enough. Doing it myself helps, but I still feel like I want...#podcast #psychology #katimortonJournalingEvery Tuesday & Friday Kati posts a journal prompt to help keep you motivated and working on yourself  https://www.youtube.com/katimorton/join BooksTraumatized   https://geni.us/Bfak0j  -  0rder Yours TodayAre u ok?    http://bit.ly/2s0mULy  - In Stores NowAmazon Suggestionshttps://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonOnline TherapyI do not currently offer online therapy.  My sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://betterhelp.com/katiPatreonDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (my afterhours podcast)audio: https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/Business Contact  Linnea Toney  linnea@underscoretalent.com Mail1779 Wells Branch Pkwy #110B Box #353 Austin, TX 78728If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency roomSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimorton) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On ep. 98 of Ask Kati Anything, Dr. Baland Jalal is our guest. He is a neuroscientist at Cambridge University and previously at Harvard University and considered one of the world's leading experts on sleep paralysis.  Can you have sleep paralysis in places other than your bed? A member of our community recently felt like she had this happen in a car.  What percentage of sleep disturbance is chemical or naturally formed and what percentage is trauma induced? What causes sleep paralysis? How can we get it to stop? Is sleep paralysis more common when you’re young? Why do many experience sleep paralysis most often right as they are falling asleep? How much sleep should someone get every night? 7 or 8 hours? Can SSRI’s or SNRI’s cause sleep paralysis? --------------BooksTraumatized   https://geni.us/Bfak0jAre u ok?  http://bit.ly/2s0mULyOnline TherapyI do not currently offer online therapy.  My sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://betterhelp.com/katiPatreonHelp support the creation of mental health content? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (my afterhours podcast)https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/Business ContactLinnea Toney  linnea@underscoretalent.com Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimorton) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ask Kati Anything mental health podcast episode 97 Is it ok if I never want to stop going to therapy? It’s not an attachment thing, I just truly enjoy having a safe, neutral place to drop my baggage off every week… I think I’m a lifer… But is that a bad thing? My therapist recently told me for the first time that most of my relaxation methods have a self-injurious character. However, I don't intentionally self-injure, it tends to happen unconsciously (e.g., bath water too hot, etc.) and because of my issues with...  How can those of us who can’t remember our trauma feel validated? I feel like there are no communities for people like me who are scared and experience trauma responses but don’t have memories to talk about the trauma. I’ve been doing trauma work for years and my... I’m hoping I can keep this short… I was raised by verbally/emotionally abusive parents who raised me to fully believe that no one could possibly like me. They don’t even like me, and made that clear. I now struggle to believe in unconditional love, and therefore cannot give 100% of... You’ve talked about repressed memories but can you be traumatized from a situation you wouldn’t usually remember? Like for example if someone did something to you when you were sleeping? Or when you were a baby? Also, can you be traumatized from something that you thought was completely normal? Why do I dislike being 'healthy' so much? I've had to keep eating enough, instead of heavily restricting like I normally would, because of the physical demands of my jobs and staff shortages mean extra pressure to stay healthy. I'm frustrated I'm not as small as I normally am, and feel... How do I stop thinking about and missing my therapist? Ever since I terminated (she moved elsewhere), I still keep thinking about her. The therapeutic relationship was one of the closest and most consistent I've had. I'm an introvert, so it's hard to turn to friends and family... What do you do when thought stopping doesn’t seem to work anymore? What do you do when you know what you’re supposed to tell yourself but can’t get yourself to believe it? I’ve worked with a cbt therapist back many years ago to help with social anxiety and for the most part... How do you learn to feel safe expressing feelings? Because of abuse I feel it’s not safe to express emotions or needs. I also don’t feel worth someone caring about me. How do I get through this? --------------BooksTraumatized   https://geni.us/Bfak0jAre u ok?  http://bit.ly/2s0mULyOnline TherapyI do not currently offer online therapy.  My sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://betterhelp.com/katiPatreonHelp support the creation of mental health content? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (my afterhours podcast)https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/Business ContactLinnea Toney  linnea@underscoretalent.com Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimorton) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ask Kati Anything mental health podcast episode 961. Hey Kati! How can I start to feel more comfortable sharing things with my therapist? I have been in therapy for a few months now and I still feel like I am holding back. I do trust her and want to be able to open up, but I...2. During session there are times when my therapist acknowledges and validates my emotions which I love but I have a hard time tolerating them. I either become very emotional because she has put words to them or...3. Any tips for nighttime anxiety? During the day, when I'm at work, I am fine. Virtually no anxiety. I don't know whether the anxiety is  truly less or, since I have a fast paced job, I simply don't notice it as much, but...4. I’d love to hear your thoughts on how aspects of our identity are impacted by therapy! I feel like a completely different person to the one who started therapy, and wondered if there’s any pattern to how...5. Is it normal to feel stressed around people who're fighting? When I hear someone arguing I suddenly start feeling uncomfortable and scared, as if I'm in danger. But in reality I know there's nothing that can happen to me...6. How do I deal with suicide as one of my intrusive thoughts? I’ve dealt with depression, but I’m not suicidal. One of my greatest fears in life is becoming suicidal, so naturally, I have intrusive thoughts about being...7. Why do so many people want to find reasons for why you are the way you are instead of just accepting you as you are? I was raped as a teenager, and I hate telling people this because they automatically think...8. I don’t know how to tell my new therapist about everything I’m struggling with, because it seems so overwhelming that I don’t know where to start. We did the initial appointment & although I didn’t have a problem opening up...9. HAPPY 2022 Kati, Sean and Roxy. I've been relapsing back into ED over Christmas. More purging, restricting etc. How can I break back out of the cycle before I get back in deep again? 10. I have a question about rational and irrational fear. In Summer I started my first year at uni and  while I was very aware of the potentially unhealthy stress I’d get into, (unfortunately I think nowadays that’s almost a given when you start studying), it doesn’t make stress, anxiety and worry any easier to deal with.--------------BooksTraumatized   https://geni.us/Bfak0jAre u ok?  http://bit.ly/2s0mULyOnline TherapyI do not currently offer online therapy.  My sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://betterhelp.com/katiPatreonHelp support the creation of mental health content? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (my afterhours podcast)https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/Business ContactLinnea Toney  linnea@underscoretalent.com Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimorton) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ask Kati Anything mental health podcast episode 951. I’ve got a question about boundaries. Why am I testing the boundaries of my therapist? I don’t want to do it but it’s just happening and I get irritated at myself for doing it. Do you have any tips and do you get annoyed as a therapist when your client is testing your boundaries?2. I hope you’re doing well! How do I appreciate the happy moments where my depression disappears when all I can think in the back of my mind is ‘when will it get bad again’3. How can I stop idealizing my therapist?  I really idealize my therapist and keep telling my t how much I love her and how I never want her to leave me. Maybe it doesn't have anything to do with it but my therapist seems so perfect to me even if I know on a rational level she isn´t but I´m so focused...4. I am in counseling for depression and anxiety. However, I find I have a strong reluctance around getting better. I think there are a variety of reasons - depression defines me, so without it I’m not sure who I am, and it gives me a lot of excuses as to why I’m not successful or more active. When I am...5. I am curious as to how you would prepare your clients/patients for when you were out of the office for a vacation or such? I mean, for those going in weekly, are there any tips that you provide for coping if a session cannot be held weekly? I have weekly sessions and the idea of not going in...6. I was wondering how to stop being sick on the day of therapy? It can be hours after and I’ll be sick every time without fail. I don’t think things are going too fast but I’m now getting nauseous when very anxious too. I don’t know why this keeps happening? I’m in the process of getting a diagnosis for ptsd by the way. Thank you for all that you do7. How do we move past our trauma when we have to return to it? I had a very traumatizing experience at college over a year ago, and I had to withdraw from school this year after trying to return because it was too overwhelming. I feel like I can’t return to my dream school because of...8. I have BPD (borderline personality disorder) and I'm wondering how does one not get so dependent on their FP (favorite person). I'm very dependent on this person. Whenever they are in a bad mood or upset it makes me in a bad mood or upset.9. Could you talk more about the less common symptoms of OCD? I will re-do things if it doesn’t “feel right” or have to touch the surface of everything before I place anything down. I find myself not being able to NOT do it. Sometimes I don’t even know what the “obsession” would...10. I was wondering about thoughts of self harm. I got really focused on an object. I wanted to buy it. I didn’t hurt myself but I really wanted to. Now I feel shitty. Like I fell and can not get back up. How can I feel better when situations like this keep happening to me...BooksTraumatized   https://geni.us/Bfak0jAre u ok?  http://bit.ly/2s0mULyOnline TherapyI do not currently offer online therapy.  My sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://betterhelp.com/katiPatreonHelp support the creation of mental health content? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (my afterhours podcast)https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/Business ContactLinnea Toney  linnea@underscoretalent.com Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimorton) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices