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Send us a textOn this week’s Thursday Thoughts, Polly and I are talking about ageing, very apt after Polly turning 50 recently!We discuss how our beliefs about ageing can accelerate or decelerate the ageing process, and how important it is to challenge societal narratives around ageing.We hope there may be something helpful in here for you.Polly & Lucy xxSupport the showOrder my book, SHINY HAPPY SINGLES (UK) / THRIVE SOLO (US & Canada) at: https://www.lucymeggeson.com/book Download my FREE PDF 'The Top 10 Answers To The Most Irritating Questions That Single People Get Asked On The Regular...& How To (Devilishly) Respond'? Go to: https://www.lucymeggeson.com/questions Join the waitlist for my membership, Thrive Solo: https://www.lucymeggeson.com/thrivesolo Check out my YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@thrivesolowithlucymeggeson Interested in my 1-1 Coaching? Work with me HERE: https://www.lucymeggeson.com/workwithme Join my private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1870817913309222/?ref=share Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thrivesolowithlucymeggeson/ Email me: lucy@lucymeggeson.com And thank you so much for listening!

Send us a textThis week’s episode is Part 2 of my conversation with Bella DePaulo.Bella DePaulo, PhD, is the leading expert on single life and has been described by The Atlantic as “America’s foremost thinker and writer on the single experience.” Bella coined the term ‘single at heart’, and her new book, Single At Heart, comes out on 5th December 2023. She is the author of Singled Out and How We Live Now, among other titles; has written the “Living Single” blog for Psychology Today since 2008; and has been published by the New York Times, the Washington Post, Time magazine, The Atlantic, and many others. She has appeared on shows including The Today Show and Good Morning America. She has been interviewed on NPR , as well as on podcasts by CNN, The Atlantic, and others. Bella’s TEDx talk, “What no one ever told you about people who are single,” has been viewed more than 1.6 million times. In Part 2 of this interview about Bella’s new book, Single At Heart, topics that we cover are:how our preoccupation with loneliness has obscured the joys and wonders of solitude;how loving solitude is linked with better psychological health, and how it can be fulfilment and contentment for the single at heart;how solitude for Bella means that she can think with her whole mind and feel with her whole heart;how the single at heart tend to have ‘the ones’ instead of ‘the one’;the idea of being open to all sorts of relationships, including spiritual figures, nature, or pets;how children can actually benefit from having a single at heart parent;how singles can still have children in their life in the form of nieces, nephews, students and beyond;asexuality, and how a significant number of single at heart people are asexual;how during her research, Bella found that people who are single at heart tend to savour the simple joys in life;how, despite what people may think, the long-term single actually enjoy their older years more than those who have been long-termed coupled;the shocking research that shows that people simply do not believe it when single people ‘claim’ to be happy;the most unexpected finding that Bella discovered about those who are single at heart.Check out Bella’s website:https://belladepaulo.com/ Buy Bella’s new book, Single At Heart (Amazon US):https://www.amazon.com/Single-Heart-Power-Rewards-Uncoupled/dp/1954641281/?tag=wwwbelladepau-Support the showOrder my book, SHINY HAPPY SINGLES (UK) / THRIVE SOLO (US & Canada) at: https://www.lucymeggeson.com/book Download my FREE PDF 'The Top 10 Answers To The Most Irritating Questions That Single People Get Asked On The Regular...& How To (Devilishly) Respond'? Go to: https://www.lucymeggeson.com/questions Join the waitlist for my membership, Thrive Solo: https://www.lucymeggeson.com/thrivesolo Check out my YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@thrivesolowithlucymeggeson Interested in my 1-1 Coaching? Work with me HERE: https://www.lucymeggeson.com/workwithme Join my private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1870817913309222/?ref=share Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thrivesolowithlucymeggeson/ Email me: lucy@lucymeggeson.com And thank you so much for listening!

Send us a textOn today's minisode, I'm talking about why our minds work in the same way as the Instagram algorithm.If we watch a reel of a cute puppy, the algorithm will serve us up more reels of cute puppies. And if we keep watching reels of cute puppies, then we're guaranteed to see more and more of them in our feeds. It's the same with our minds. Whatever it is that we place our attention on, we will find more of in life. Constantly thinking about how shit the world is? Expect to see more things that prove it to you. Constantly thinking about how fabulous the world is? Then you can expect your brain to find more things to feel fabulous about.It's so simple. Place your attention on the things you want, take your attention off the things you don't want, and watch your life change for the better.Support the showOrder my book, SHINY HAPPY SINGLES (UK) / THRIVE SOLO (US & Canada) at: https://www.lucymeggeson.com/book Download my FREE PDF 'The Top 10 Answers To The Most Irritating Questions That Single People Get Asked On The Regular...& How To (Devilishly) Respond'? Go to: https://www.lucymeggeson.com/questions Join the waitlist for my membership, Thrive Solo: https://www.lucymeggeson.com/thrivesolo Check out my YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@thrivesolowithlucymeggeson Interested in my 1-1 Coaching? Work with me HERE: https://www.lucymeggeson.com/workwithme Join my private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1870817913309222/?ref=share Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thrivesolowithlucymeggeson/ Email me: lucy@lucymeggeson.com And thank you so much for listening!

Send us a textOn today’s Thursday Thoughts, Polly & I are talking about early morning routines.Both of us get up pretty early in order to cross things off our list, such as meditation and exercise; but if this fills you with horror…keep listening!We talk about why carving out time early in the morning is incredibly beneficial not only to your day, but also to your life. We share tips on how to actually get your ar*e out of bed, and also discuss what our own routines look like.We hope you’ll find something useful in here.Love,Polly & Lucy xSupport the showOrder my book, SHINY HAPPY SINGLES (UK) / THRIVE SOLO (US & Canada) at: https://www.lucymeggeson.com/book Download my FREE PDF 'The Top 10 Answers To The Most Irritating Questions That Single People Get Asked On The Regular...& How To (Devilishly) Respond'? Go to: https://www.lucymeggeson.com/questions Join the waitlist for my membership, Thrive Solo: https://www.lucymeggeson.com/thrivesolo Check out my YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@thrivesolowithlucymeggeson Interested in my 1-1 Coaching? Work with me HERE: https://www.lucymeggeson.com/workwithme Join my private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1870817913309222/?ref=share Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thrivesolowithlucymeggeson/ Email me: lucy@lucymeggeson.com And thank you so much for listening!

Send us a textIn this week’s episode, I’m talking to the one-and-only Bella DePaulo.Bella DePaulo, PhD, is the leading expert on single life and has been described by The Atlantic as “America’s foremost thinker and writer on the single experience.” Bella coined the term ‘single at heart’, and her new book, Single At Heart, comes out on 5th December 2023. She is the author of Singled Out and How We Live Now, among other titles; has written the “Living Single” blog for Psychology Today since 2008; and has been published by the New York Times, the Washington Post, Time magazine, The Atlantic, and many other outlets. She has appeared on shows including The Today Show and Good Morning America. She has been interviewed on NPR, as well as on podcasts by CNN, The Atlantic, and others.Bella’s TEDx talk, “What no one ever told you about people who are single,” has been viewed more than 1.6 million times. In Part 1 of this interview about Bella’s new book, Single At Heart, topics that we cover are:being ‘single at heart’ refers to those who live their best lives, and who flourish, being single;how the stigma surrounding singles remains prevalent and how singles are still considered to be living a lesser life;the idea that you cannot be truly fulfilled or ‘adult’ until you are part of a couple;how the research studies show that a large number of people do not desire a partner, despite the assumption that everybody wants a romantic relationship;the findings that show how many singles find that their lives get better and better the longer they’re single;how singles are getting happier after the age of forty;those people in relationships who are unable to live an authentic life as part of a couple;how the single at heart relish having opportunities and possibilities, meaning that they live ‘psychologically rich’ lives;how, if you’re single at heart, coupled life would be a smaller life, and single life can be an expansive life;how when you’re single at heart, you can be genuinely happy for the married people with kids around you;how Bella found that everyone she interviewed for Single At Heart cited freedom as one of the main benefits of being single;Check out Bella’s website:https://belladepaulo.com/ Pre-Order Bella’s New Book, Single At Heart (Amazon US):https://www.amazon.com/Single-Heart-Power-Rewards-Uncoupled/dp/1954641281/?tag=wwwbelladepau-20Support the showOrder my book, SHINY HAPPY SINGLES (UK) / THRIVE SOLO (US & Canada) at: https://www.lucymeggeson.com/book Download my FREE PDF 'The Top 10 Answers To The Most Irritating Questions That Single People Get Asked On The Regular...& How To (Devilishly) Respond'? Go to: https://www.lucymeggeson.com/questions Join the waitlist for my membership, Thrive Solo: https://www.lucymeggeson.com/thrivesolo Check out my YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@thrivesolowithlucymeggeson Interested in my 1-1 Coaching? Work with me HERE: https://www.lucymeggeson.com/workwithme Join my private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1870817913309222/?ref=share Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thrivesolowithlucymeggeson/ Email me: lucy@lucymeggeson.com And thank you so much for listening!

Send us a textOn today's minisode, I'm talking about why, and how, we should make the most of the final 5 weeks and 2 days of 2023!There is a tendency to wind down as soon as November arrives, telling ourselves: "Ah well - it's nearly Christmas, so I might as well leave it until next year." The 'it' being anything from our exercise regime, our healthy eating plan, or a life goal that we've been working towards. I think this is a mistake. We can still achieve more than we think before Big Ben chimes midnight on New Year's Eve, and wouldn't it feel better to nail the rest of this year so we start 2024 as we mean to go on?Press 'Play' and let me know what you think!Support the showOrder my book, SHINY HAPPY SINGLES (UK) / THRIVE SOLO (US & Canada) at: https://www.lucymeggeson.com/book Download my FREE PDF 'The Top 10 Answers To The Most Irritating Questions That Single People Get Asked On The Regular...& How To (Devilishly) Respond'? Go to: https://www.lucymeggeson.com/questions Join the waitlist for my membership, Thrive Solo: https://www.lucymeggeson.com/thrivesolo Check out my YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@thrivesolowithlucymeggeson Interested in my 1-1 Coaching? Work with me HERE: https://www.lucymeggeson.com/workwithme Join my private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1870817913309222/?ref=share Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thrivesolowithlucymeggeson/ Email me: lucy@lucymeggeson.com And thank you so much for listening!

Send us a textOn this week’s Thursday Thoughts, Polly & I are talking about overwhelm.We discuss why the way we talk to ourselves about overwhelm is so important, and give lots of tips on what we can do to keep feelings of overwhelm under control.Enjoy!Love,Polly & LucySupport the showOrder my book, SHINY HAPPY SINGLES (UK) / THRIVE SOLO (US & Canada) at: https://www.lucymeggeson.com/book Download my FREE PDF 'The Top 10 Answers To The Most Irritating Questions That Single People Get Asked On The Regular...& How To (Devilishly) Respond'? Go to: https://www.lucymeggeson.com/questions Join the waitlist for my membership, Thrive Solo: https://www.lucymeggeson.com/thrivesolo Check out my YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@thrivesolowithlucymeggeson Interested in my 1-1 Coaching? Work with me HERE: https://www.lucymeggeson.com/workwithme Join my private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1870817913309222/?ref=share Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thrivesolowithlucymeggeson/ Email me: lucy@lucymeggeson.com And thank you so much for listening!

Send us a textSupport the showIn this week’s episode, I’m talking to the fabulous Renée Chmiel.Renée lives in Connecticut and is both single and childfree. She grew up in New England and was a News reporter for a decade in North Dakota; she then returned to Connecticut and worked for a couple of local stations. She subsequently did a Masters in Forensic Psychology before returning to reporting. Topics that Renée & I cover are:how she always knew that she didn’t want to have children;how her feelings around not wanting kids made her feel as though there was something wrong with her;some of the reactions that Renée had to deal with in relation to her being childfree;how she slowly started discovering other childfree people and communities which was life changing for her;how not wanting kids made decisions around her breast cancer treatment easier;people saying ‘that’s just what you do’ in relation to having kids, and the implications of that;Renée’s plan to move from Connecticut to San Diego, and how being single and childfree is allowing her to do that;the freedoms and benefits of not having kids;how Renée’s journey of being single has had its ups and downs;a relationship that Renée stayed in for the wrong reasons, and how she wished that she wanted to be with him;the time when she desperately wanted to be with someone, and how personal growth enabled to her to start appreciating her solo life;focusing on the good, and how life is all about shifting where you place your attention;Renée’s adventures into spirituality, including a past life regression and working with a shamen;how shifting her energy in relation to being single has changed things for the better in Renée’s life; the huge importance of mindset work, and how you have to change yourself in order to change your life. Follow Renée on Twitter:@renéechmielEmail Renée on:rchmiel@live.com Support the showOrder my book, SHINY HAPPY SINGLES (UK) / THRIVE SOLO (US & Canada) at: https://www.lucymeggeson.com/book Download my FREE PDF 'The Top 10 Answers To The Most Irritating Questions That Single People Get Asked On The Regular...& How To (Devilishly) Respond'? Go to: https://www.lucymeggeson.com/questions Join the waitlist for my membership, Thrive Solo: https://www.lucymeggeson.com/thrivesolo Check out my YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@thrivesolowithlucymeggeson Interested in my 1-1 Coaching? Work with me HERE: https://www.lucymeggeson.com/workwithme Join my private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1870817913309222/?ref=share Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thrivesolowithlucymeggeson/ Email me: lucy@lucymeggeson.com And thank you so much for listening!

Send us a textOn today's episode, I'm talking about what it means to have 'fun'.The word 'fun' is often associated with parties and other large gatherings of people, involving drinking, music, dancing...and all the other 'traditional' ideas of what fun looks like. But what about the quieter side of fun?As someone who considers herself far more a homebody than a party girl, does that mean that I'm no fun? Or does it just mean that fun doesn't look the same for everybody?For me, fun can mean getting up early to watch the sunrise by the river, or chilling at home on a Saturday night with my cat, or even so-called work that gets me in my creative flow state.Whether you're happier dancing the night away with a group of friends, or going on a long hike with your rescue dog, fun gets to be whatever you want it to be. So the next time someone calls you 'boring' as you attempt to make a swift exit from a party, remember that you get to be unapologetic about doing what feels aligned for you.Support the showOrder my book, SHINY HAPPY SINGLES (UK) / THRIVE SOLO (US & Canada) at: https://www.lucymeggeson.com/book Download my FREE PDF 'The Top 10 Answers To The Most Irritating Questions That Single People Get Asked On The Regular...& How To (Devilishly) Respond'? Go to: https://www.lucymeggeson.com/questions Join the waitlist for my membership, Thrive Solo: https://www.lucymeggeson.com/thrivesolo Check out my YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@thrivesolowithlucymeggeson Interested in my 1-1 Coaching? Work with me HERE: https://www.lucymeggeson.com/workwithme Join my private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1870817913309222/?ref=share Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thrivesolowithlucymeggeson/ Email me: lucy@lucymeggeson.com And thank you so much for listening!

Send us a textOn today’s Thursday's Thoughts, Polly and I are talking all about boundaries.We discuss why it can be so incredibly hard to set boundaries with the people you love; why it’s ok to say no even when you don’t have an ‘excuse’; how saying yes to something you don’t really want to do is saying no to yourself; and how resentment can build when we fail to put the necessary boundaries in place to protect our own wellbeing.We hope you’ll find something useful in here.Love,Polly & Lucy xSupport the showOrder my book, SHINY HAPPY SINGLES (UK) / THRIVE SOLO (US & Canada) at: https://www.lucymeggeson.com/book Download my FREE PDF 'The Top 10 Answers To The Most Irritating Questions That Single People Get Asked On The Regular...& How To (Devilishly) Respond'? Go to: https://www.lucymeggeson.com/questions Join the waitlist for my membership, Thrive Solo: https://www.lucymeggeson.com/thrivesolo Check out my YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@thrivesolowithlucymeggeson Interested in my 1-1 Coaching? Work with me HERE: https://www.lucymeggeson.com/workwithme Join my private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1870817913309222/?ref=share Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thrivesolowithlucymeggeson/ Email me: lucy@lucymeggeson.com And thank you so much for listening!