The Thais Gibson Podcast

Explore the roots of anxious attachment styles and how childhood experiences shape adult relationships. Learn about the intense fear of rejection and the tendency to misinterpret neutral behaviors as abandonment. Discover practical strategies for healing, including effective self-soothing techniques and reprogramming core beliefs. Gain insights into navigating relationship dynamics with empathy and communication. This discussion offers hope and tools for fostering secure, lasting connections.

Ever noticed a partner suddenly pulling away after a moment of closeness? Discover the top 7 deactivating strategies used by dismissive avoidants to maintain emotional distance. Learn about the effects of 'vulnerability hangovers' and 'connection hangovers' on intimacy. Uncover why these individuals often doubt their feelings and grapple with expectations. Gain insight into how fixation on past relationships can create emotional barriers. Empower yourself with strategies to navigate these patterns while fostering deeper trust and connection.

Spin to Win! Get exclusive discounts on PDS membership. Limited-time offer—don’t miss out! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/spin-the-wheel?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=spin-the-wheel&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast   Everything was going great—so why did your fearful avoidant partner suddenly pull away? In this insightful episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais unpacks the 5 surprising reasons fearful avoidants can seem deeply connected one day… and emotionally checked out the next. Whether you’re on the receiving end of this dynamic or struggling with it yourself, this episode brings clarity to the confusion and empowers you with tools for change.   What You’ll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ Why broken trust, even in subtle ways, can instantly shut a fearful avoidant down ✔️ How boundary violations and anxious pressure cause withdrawal and overwhelm ✔️ Why high expectations or feeling trapped can spark a sudden loss of interest ✔️ The internal burnout that happens when a fearful avoidant suppresses their own needs ✔️ How to stop this cycle with better communication, boundaries, and emotional awareness   Thais also shares a key takeaway for fearful avoidants: if you’re consistently losing feelings “out of nowhere,” it’s a sign that your needs have been unmet for too long—and it’s time to speak up before you shut down.   Meet Your Host: Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School, a best-selling author, and expert in attachment theory and subconscious reprogramming. With over 13 certifications and a Ph.D., Thais has helped more than 70,000 people rewire their relationship patterns for good.   Helpful Resources: 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📚 Explore the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 🎧 Browse More Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1 📝 Read the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/   Follow Us on Social Media: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ ▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool #fearfulavoidant #attachmentstyles #emotionalshutdown #losingfeelings #avoidantattachment #howtofindlove #attachmenttheorypodcast #relationshiptools #emotionaltriggers #subconsciouspatterns   Love this episode? Please subscribe, rate, and review the show—and share it with someone who needs to understand this dynamic. Healing starts with understanding.

Explore how reparenting can heal anxious attachment and foster healthier relationships. Discover the transformation from dependency to self-sufficiency through powerful self-soothing techniques. Learn about the roots of anxious attachment, rooted in unmet childhood needs, and find out how to break free from painful relationship cycles. Engage in a helpful 3-part reparenting exercise designed to empower you. Gain insights into establishing boundaries, building confidence, and creating lasting emotional well-being.

Explore the magnetic but painful dynamic between anxious and dismissive attachment styles. Discover how childhood experiences shape their emotional needs and behaviors. Learn why anxious partners crave closeness while dismissive ones seek space, often leading to frustrating push-pull cycles. Gain practical tools for healing, like self-soothing for anxious individuals and vulnerability for avoidants. This insight could be your roadmap to healthier, more connected relationships.

Spin to Win! Get exclusive discounts on PDS membership. Limited-time offer—don’t miss out! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/spin-the-wheel?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=spin-the-wheel&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast   Why do avoidant attachment styles turn to numbing instead of soothing—and what’s the cost? In this eye-opening episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais breaks down the difference between true self-soothing and numbing behaviors in fearful and dismissive avoidant individuals. From emotional eating to shopping, gambling, or overconsuming media, these behaviors often mask deeper unmet needs for comfort, safety, and connection.   What You’ll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ Why fearful and dismissive avoidants struggle to self-soothe in healthy ways ✔️ How childhood conditioning leads to numbing behaviors as a survival mechanism ✔️ The neuroscience behind why we repeat unhealthy patterns despite knowing better ✔️ How to rewire addictive behaviors by identifying the real needs underneath ✔️ Why creature comforts like food, porn, or spending are often misused as coping tools ✔️ Simple daily practices to shift from coping to healing (without judgment) Whether you’re avoidantly attached or supporting someone who is, this episode offers a powerful roadmap to break free from numbing loops and create lasting emotional regulation. Meet Your Host: Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School, a best-selling author, and a leader in healing attachment wounds. With a Ph.D. and over 13 certifications, she’s guided more than 70,000 students in reprogramming subconscious patterns for deeper connection and freedom.   Helpful Resources: 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📚 Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 🎧 Explore More Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1 📝 Dive into the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/   Follow Us on Social Media: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ ▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool #fearfulavoidant #dismissiveavoidant #attachmentstyles #emotionalnumbing #selfsoothing #addictivebehaviors #attachmenttheorypodcast #reprogramming #emotionalregulation Love this episode? Please subscribe, rate, and review the podcast on your favorite platform—and share it with someone navigating emotional coping habits. You might just change a life.

Spin to Win! Get exclusive discounts on PDS membership. Limited-time offer—don’t miss out! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/spin-the-wheel?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=spin-the-wheel&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast   Is your friend more distant, private, or slow to open up than most? They may be operating with a dismissive avoidant attachment style—often misunderstood but deeply wired for independence and protection. In this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais outlines 10 revealing signs that your friend may be dismissive avoidant, and most importantly, how to build connection without pushing them away.   What You’ll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ Why dismissive avoidant friends are slow to warm up—but value loyalty and consistency ✔️ How intellectual and shared-activity bonding replaces emotional depth early on ✔️ The “6–8 touch point” rule before they’ll fully let you in ✔️ How dismissive friends handle conflict (and why they may disappear after one disagreement) ✔️ Their deep need for privacy, emotional safety, and a sense of autonomy ✔️ What wounds they carry—and how to build trust without overwhelming them Whether you're feeling disconnected from a friend, recovering from a confusing dynamic, or looking to deepen a long-standing bond, this episode offers a compassionate roadmap to navigating friendships with avoidant attachment.   Meet Your Host: Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School, best-selling author, and leading expert on healing attachment wounds and subconscious reprogramming. With a Ph.D. and over a decade of experience, she’s helped more than 70,000 members around the world transform their relationships. Helpful Resources: 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📚 Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 🎧 Explore More Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1 📝 Dive into the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ Follow Us on Social Media: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ ▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool #dismissiveavoidant #attachmentstyles #friendshipadvice #emotionalconnection #avoidantattachment #attachmenttheorypodcast #howtofindlove #healingrelationships #personalconnections #attachmentquiz Enjoying the show? Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and leave a review to support the podcast—and share this episode with a friend who could benefit from better understanding avoidant dynamics. 

Spin to Win! Get exclusive discounts on PDS membership. Limited-time offer—don’t miss out! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/spin-the-wheel?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=spin-the-wheel&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast Can love thrive between a dismissive avoidant and someone securely attached? Or is the emotional gap too wide to bridge? In this deeply validating episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais and co-host Mike DiZio explore what happens when a dismissive avoidant (DA) partners with a securely attached person. From breakthroughs in vulnerability to the real work required to sustain love, they break down what works, what doesn’t—and what makes all the difference.   What You’ll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ How repeated exposure to secure behaviors helps a DA reprogram core wounds ✔️ Why healthy communication and consistent boundaries are essential ✔️ The difference between leading by example vs. “parenting” a partner ✔️ How co-regulation transforms avoidant emotional patterns ✔️ The #1 factor that determines if the relationship will last ✔️ When it’s time to walk away vs. when to lean in with patience and clarity Whether you're in this dynamic or love someone who is, this episode helps you see the road ahead clearly—without losing yourself in the process. Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro 02:05 – 1. Repeated Exposure to a Secure Person Can Improve a DA’s Core Wounds 08:40 – When the Effort Feels One-Sided 19:30 – 2. A Securely Attached Person Still Has Standards 27:15 – 3. The Secure Person Tends to Foster Healthy Communication 35:56 – 4. Emotional Regulation Improves 44:38 – 5. The DA Learns to Have Healthier Coping Mechanisms 45:32 – Can This Relationship Work Long-Term? 52:14 – Conclusion Meet Your Host: Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a globally respected expert in healing attachment wounds. With a Ph.D. and over a decade of experience, Thais has helped over 70,000 members break free from painful emotional patterns and build secure relationships. Helpful Resources: 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📚 Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 🎧 Explore More Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1 📝 Browse the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ Follow Us on Social Media: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ ▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool #dismissiveavoidant #attachmentstyles #secureattachment #relationshipgrowth #emotionalhealing #attachmenttheorypodcast #coachingforrelationships #subconscioushealing #findsecurelove If this episode spoke to you... Please subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with someone navigating a relationship with an avoidant partner. Your support helps us reach and heal more hearts.

Explore why avoidants hesitate to commit, even in good times. Discover the three hidden qualities they seek: emotional acceptance, stability, and autonomy. Learn how criticism can shut them down and why kind communication is crucial. Uncover the nuances of their mixed signals and what truly builds trust in relationships. This enlightening discussion offers a roadmap to understand their core needs and align for the long haul.

Spin to Win! Get exclusive discounts on PDS membership. Limited-time offer—don’t miss out!https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/spin-the-wheel?utm_source=&utm_campaign=spin-the-wheel&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast Does your dismissive avoidant partner actually care—or are they just keeping you around? In this emotionally insightful episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais and co-host Mike DiZio break down 6 clear signs that a dismissive avoidant partner has developed real feelings for you. From subtle shifts in communication to the moments they begin to open up and meet your needs, you'll learn what to look for—and what it means. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ How to tell when a dismissive avoidant is thinking about you all the time ✔️ Why they might feel the urge to pull back when things get close—and how that changes when they care ✔️ Signs of emotional vulnerability and gradual opening up ✔️ The unexpected moments of protectiveness that reveal affection ✔️ What it means when they begin accommodating your needs—despite internal resistance ✔️ Why the thought of losing you may be the biggest clue of all This episode isn’t just about recognizing signs—it’s about deciding whether the connection you’re in has long-term potential and whether your needs are truly being met. Timestamps:00:00 – Intro 05:06 – 1. If You're Thinking About the Person All the Time 09:41 – 2. You Might Feel the Need to Retract 18:15 – 3. You Notice Yourself Opening Up Little by Little 27:16 – 4. You Start Feeling Protective Over the Person 30:55 – DA’s and Words of Affirmation 45:34 – 5. You’ll Try to Accommodate Them by Meeting Their Needs 52:26 – Bonus — The Thought of Losing the Other Person Hurts Meet Your Host:Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School, a best-selling author, and a globally recognized expert in attachment theory and emotional healing. With a Ph.D. and over 13 certifications, she’s helped thousands shift subconscious patterns and build lasting relationships. Helpful Resources:🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📚 Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 🎧 Explore More Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1 📝 Read the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ Follow Us on Social Media:📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ ▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool #dismissiveavoidant #attachmentstyles #howtofindlove #avoidantattachment #relationshipadvice #attachmenttheorypodcast #emotionalintimacy #doeshecare #relationshipreadiness #signsoflove Love this episode?Please subscribe, rate, and review the show to help others on their healing journey. 💙 And don’t forget to share it with someone navigating the avoidant love puzzle—you might just give them the clarity they need. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices