The Thais Gibson Podcast

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Oct 31, 2025 • 7min

5 Hard Truths About Being A Fearful Avoidant

Get 7 Days Free Plus Lifetime Access to Our Ending Codependency Course — Free Forever! Start Creating Relationships That Last. https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-codependency-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-codependency-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-10-31-25&el=podcast  Being a Fearful Avoidant can feel exhausting. You might crave closeness one moment and fear it the next. You might find yourself stuck in cycles of connection and withdrawal, unsure how to stop repeating the same painful patterns in love. In this video, Thais Gibson breaks down five hard truths about being a Fearful Avoidant and how to finally overcome them. You’ll learn the deeper psychology behind your push-pull behavior, the hidden self-betrayals that block intimacy, and practical tools to begin healing at the subconscious level. You’ll learn: ✅ Why you crave deep connection but fear vulnerability and loss ✅ How early emotional conditioning wires you for both anxiety and avoidance ✅ Why overgiving and self-abandonment keep you stuck in one-way relationships ✅ How unmet needs and fear of rejection drive emotional exhaustion ✅ What rewiring your core wounds actually looks like in daily life Episode Breakdown:  00:00 – The Hard Truths About Being A Fearful Avoidant   00:18 – Hard Truth 1: You Deeply Want Closeness 02:21 – Hard Truth 2: You Are Both Anxious and Avoidant 03:52 – Hard Truth 3: You Often End Up In One-Way Relationships 04:23 – Hard Truth 4: You Don’t Want To Be Vulnerable 05:20 – Ending Codependency Course Promo 05:54 – Hard Truth 5: You Betray Yourself More Than You Realize 06:53 – Next Steps to Healing  Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources: 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📚 Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1 📝 Read the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ Let’s Connect on Socials: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ #FearfulAvoidant #AttachmentStyles #ThaisGibson #PersonalDevelopmentSchool #AttachmentHealing #FearfulAvoidantAttachment #AttachmentRecovery #EmotionalHealing #AttachmentTheory #RelationshipAdvice #HealingRelationships
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Oct 30, 2025 • 9min

The Unseen Issues Dismissive Avoidants Face When You’re Away

Get 7 Days Free Plus Lifetime Access to Our Ending Codependency Course — Free Forever! Start Creating Relationships That Last. https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-codependency-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-codependency-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-10-30-25&el=podcast Understanding why Dismissive Avoidants sometimes seem distant or unresponsive isn’t about blaming them; it’s about uncovering the subconscious fears and patterns that shape their behavior.  Recognizing these dynamics is key to setting boundaries, communicating your needs, and fostering healthier, more secure relationships. In this video, Thais Gibson breaks down the unseen issues Dismissive Avoidants face when you give them space. You'll understand what’s happening beneath the surface, respond constructively, and know whether your relationship can move toward a healthier place. You’ll learn: ✅ How Dismissive Avoidants often operate in a “functional freeze” due to nervous system dysregulation ✅ Why their need for space isn’t about you, but about unresolved trauma and subconscious fear of closeness ✅ How attachment styles influence reactions to intimacy and distance ✅ Why closeness can trigger old fears of neglect, shame, or feeling trapped ✅ Practical strategies to find the middle ground: honoring their pace while respecting your own needs ✅ How to encourage partners to work on themselves and address trauma around love ✅ How to communicate clearly, set boundaries, and recognize patterns of pursuit or withdrawal ✅ When to step back and protect your emotional well-being if healthy reciprocity isn’t happening Episode Breakdown:  00:00 – Intro  00:34 – Overview of the AttachmentStyles 01:33 – Why Avoidants Chase You When You Pull Away 03:36 – 1. Walk the Middle Ground. 04:30 – 2. Encourage that Person to Work on Themself. 05:36 – Ending Codependency Course Promo 06:15 – 3. Help Them While Setting a Deadline 07:33 – 4. Communicate Directly 08:21 – Conclusion Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources: 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📚 Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1 📝 Read the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ Let’s Connect on Socials: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ #DismissiveAvoidant #AttachmentStyle #SubconsciousPatterns #HealthyRelationships #PersonalDevelopmentSchool #ThaisGibson #BoundariesMatter #EmotionalIntelligence #RelationshipGrowth #BreakRelationshipPatterns #HealingAttachment #SecureAttachment #StopChasing #EmpoweredRelationships
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Oct 29, 2025 • 30sec

What Happens When You Propose a Fresh Start After a Breakup

Get 7 Days Free Plus Lifetime Access to Our Ending Codependency Course — Free Forever! Start Creating Relationships That Last. https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-codependency-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-codependency-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-10-29-25&el=podcast  When a Dismissive Avoidant comes back after a breakup, it can be confusing. They might seem calm or detached while secretly wrestling with resurfacing emotions. But before you jump back in, it’s essential to understand what’s really happening beneath the surface. In this video, Thais Gibson explains what happens when you propose a fresh start after a breakup with a Dismissive Avoidant. You’ll learn about the “Breakup Boomerang” effect, why their emotions often return weeks later, and how to know whether it’s safe to try again. You’ll learn: ✅ What the “Breakup Boomerang” means and why emotions resurface later ✅ How Dismissive Avoidants process loss and regret after distance ✅ The signs they’re ready (or not ready) for true emotional reconnection ✅ How to assess if both partners are willing to do the real work ✅ What conversations must happen before giving it another chance ✅ How to find closure and self-healing if it’s time to move on Episode Breakdown:  00:00 – Intro  00:43 – The Breakup Boomerang Effect  04:06 – Going Through the Breakup Boomerang Effect ≠ Ready for a Relationship 04:58 – Ending Codependency Course Promo 05:09 – 1. Assess Whether You’re Both in a Place to Move Forward Together 06:20 – 2. If the Answer is Yes, Then Have a Conversation 07:23 – 3. If the Answer is No, Then Set a Boundary 07:45 – What Needs Was This Person Meeting in My Life? 08:51 – Summary 10:17 – Conclusion Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources: 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📚 Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1 📝 Read the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ Let’s Connect on Socials: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ #DismissiveAvoidant #AvoidantAttachment #AttachmentStyles #ThaisGibson #PersonalDevelopmentSchool #AttachmentHealing #BreakupAdvice #AttachmentRecovery #RelationshipAdvice #HealingAfterBreakup #EmotionalHealing
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Oct 28, 2025 • 14min

Do Fearful Avoidants Regret Leaving Relationships? | Fearful Avoidant Attachment

Thinking About Becoming a Certified Relationship Coach? Start With Our Free IAT Ebook, Where You’ll Learn Real Tools From the Program That You Can Begin Applying With Clients Today. Download Your Free Guide Here: https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/iat/info?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=iat-ebook&utm_medium=organic&utm_term=uF12gKGWOtM&utm_content=pod-10-28-25&el=podcast Fearful Avoidants don’t walk away because they’re indifferent — they walk away because fear overwhelms them. Understanding why they leave suddenly can help you respond with clarity, protect your emotional well-being, and navigate the aftermath of a breakup. In this video, Thais Gibson explains why Fearful Avoidants may regret leaving relationships and how their subconscious mind drives their intense shifts between anxiety and avoidance. You'll gain insight into their behavior and learn how to respond in a healthy, empowered way. You’ll learn: ✅ Why Fearful Avoidants rapidly shift between anxious and avoidant states, and what triggers these swings ✅ How the subconscious mind stores emotional “warehouses” of past trauma that influence present relationship behaviors ✅ Why breakups often happen as a protective strategy, not a reflection of true feelings ✅ How unmet needs and poor communication can push Fearful Avoidants to pull away ✅ How recognizing triggers and past imprints can help you avoid taking their behavior personally ✅ Practical strategies for communicating your needs and setting boundaries in challenging relationships ✅ How insight and self-work can transform relationships and prevent repeating painful cycles Episode Breakdown:  00:00 – Intro  00:46 – Fearful Avoidants Shift From Feeling Anxious to Avoidant 06:08 – Integrated Attachment Theory™ Certification 07:01 – 1. They May Threaten to Leave to Get Away From the Pain 09:42 – 2. They Are Not Good at Communicating Their Needs 13:02 – Conclusion Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources: 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📚 Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1 📝 Read the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ Let’s Connect on Socials: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ #FearfulAvoidant #AttachmentStyle #SubconsciousPatterns #BreakupRecovery #PersonalDevelopmentSchool #ThaisGibson #EmotionalMastery #RelationshipHealing #BoundarySetting #HealthyRelationships #RegretAndGrowth #AttachmentAwareness #RelationshipInsights #EmpoweredLove
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Oct 25, 2025 • 6min

The REAL Reason Dismissive Avoidants Come Back

Unlock Deeper Intimacy Starting Today. Get 7 Days Free Plus Lifetime Access to Our Attachment Styles & Intimacy Course and Finally Transform Your Relationships for Good! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-sex-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-sex-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-10-25-25&el=podcast Dismissive Avoidants have a habit of resurfacing after breakups — sometimes weeks, sometimes months later — leaving their partners wondering why. But the real reason they come back runs much deeper than nostalgia or loneliness. In this video, Thais Gibson reveals the true emotional mechanics behind why Dismissive Avoidants return after a breakup. You’ll discover how delayed emotional processing, fear cycles, and subconscious associations drive their behavior — and how to respond in a way that protects your boundaries and emotional wellbeing. You’ll learn: ✅ Why Dismissive Avoidants process relationship pain on a delay ✅ How “feelings minus fears” influence their pull-back and return cycles ✅ Why distance can temporarily dissolve their fears and reignite feelings ✅ What to look for when they reach out between genuine reconnection vs. surface contact ✅ How to protect your boundaries and avoid getting stuck in an emotional loop ✅ The key to truly healing from a breakup is meeting your own needs and rewriting painful stories Episode Breakdown:  00:00 – Intro  00:20 – 1. Dismissive Avoidants Don't Process Their Hurt Around Relationships in a Normal Way 01:41 – 2. Dismissive Avoidants Are in Their Feelings Minus Their Fears 02:35 – Other Surface-Level Reasons 02:59 – Step 1: Are They Willing to Do the Work to Reconnect? 03:37 – Step 2: Heal the Needs That the Person Represented 04:43 – Attachment Styles and Intimacy Promo 05:27 – Conclusion Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources: 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📚 Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1 📝 Read the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ Let’s Connect on Socials: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ #DismissiveAvoidant #AttachmentStyles #DismissiveAvoidantAttachment #ThaisGibson #PersonalDevelopmentSchool #AttachmentHealing #RelationshipAdvice #HealingFromBreakups #EmotionalBoundaries #AttachmentTheory #EmotionalRegulation Understanding why Dismissive Avoidants come back helps you detach from confusion, protect your peace, and approach reconnection or closure with self-respect and clarity.
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Oct 24, 2025 • 11min

Why You Must Be Willing to Walk Away from a Fearful Avoidant (And It Saves You Both)

Unlock Deeper Intimacy Starting Today. Get 7 Days Free Plus Lifetime Access to Our Attachment Styles & Intimacy Course and Finally Transform Your Relationships for Good! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-sex-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-sex-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-10-24-25&el=podcast Walking away from a Fearful Avoidant can feel like abandoning the person you love most. But in reality, being willing to walk away is what creates safety, self-respect, and healing for both people involved. In this video, Thais Gibson explains why walking away from a Fearful Avoidant isn’t rejection — it’s regulation. You’ll learn how distance restores emotional balance, how it triggers subconscious accountability, and why this boundary can actually deepen real love and long-term connection. You’ll learn: ✅ Why Fearful Avoidants often respect partners who set boundaries ✅ How nervous system regulation and space create transformation ✅ The neuroscience behind attachment ruptures and emotional reset ✅ How calling out unhealthy patterns builds trust rather than destroys it ✅ What “walking away” really means, and how to do it without threats or ultimatums ✅ Why this space is essential for genuine reconciliation and growth Episode Breakdown:  00:00 – Intro  01:08 – 1. Fearful Avoidants Like to Be Called Out 03:41 – 2. It Signals Self-Respect 04:27 – The Neuroscience Behind Taking Space From Stress 06:14 – Attachment Styles and Intimacy Promo 07:14 – 3. Fearful Avoidants Respond Well to Emotional Accountability.  08:08 – 4. This Makes a Genuine Reunion Possible 09:37 – Ancient Wisdom on Detachment 10:43 – Conclusion Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources: 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📚 Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1 📝 Read the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ Let’s Connect on Socials: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ #FearfulAvoidant #AttachmentStyles #FearfulAvoidantAttachment #ThaisGibson #PersonalDevelopmentSchool #AttachmentHealing #RelationshipAdvice #EmotionalBoundaries #HealingRelationships #AttachmentTheory #EmotionalRegulation Understanding that walking away is not rejection but self-regulation helps both partners heal, rebuild respect, and create the conditions for true secure love.
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Oct 23, 2025 • 13min

Why Avoidants Don’t Care About Your Birthday

Unlock Deeper Intimacy Starting Today. Get 7 Days Free Plus Lifetime Access to Our Attachment Styles & Intimacy Course and Finally Transform Your Relationships for Good! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-sex-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-sex-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-10-23-25&el=podcast When your birthday comes and your Dismissive Avoidant partner barely acknowledges it, it can feel like they just don’t care. But what’s really happening underneath that silence isn’t usually indifference — it’s emotional conditioning and self-protection at play. In this video, Thais Gibson breaks down why Dismissive Avoidants seem to ignore birthdays or special occasions, and what’s actually going on in their subconscious mind and nervous system. You’ll discover the neuroscience behind emotional suppression, how early experiences shape avoidant reactions, and what you can do to respond with both compassion and self-respect. You’ll learn:  ✅ The 5 key psychological reasons Dismissive Avoidants pull away on important days  ✅ How childhood emotional neglect shapes their response to celebration and intimacy  ✅ What brain studies reveal about emotional suppression, empathy, and joy  ✅ Why Avoidants minimize birthdays, and what it really says about their attachment wounds  ✅ How to communicate your needs clearly without triggering defensiveness  ✅ When to stay compassionate and when to recognize a pattern that won’t change Episode Breakdown:  00:00 – Intro  01:09 – 1. Emotional Intimacy Feels Unsafe for Dismissive Avoidants 03:34 – 2. Dismissive Avoidants Often Feel a Sense of Learned Helplessness  04:23 – The Neuroscience Behind Dismissive Avoidants and Emotional Detachment 06:01 – Attachment Styles and Intimacy Promo 06:48 – 3. They Think Emotional Neediness is a Sign of Weakness 08:03 – 4. Dismissive Avoidants Fear Expectation  08:54 – 5. They Never Experience Consistent Emotional Celebrations 09:50 – If You’re on the Receiving End  12:13 – Conclusion Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources: 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📚 Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1 📝 Read the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ Let’s Connect on Socials: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/
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Oct 22, 2025 • 15min

How to Effectively Communicate with An Avoidant Partner (This Changes Everything!)

Unlock Deeper Intimacy Starting Today. Get 7 Days Free Plus Lifetime Access to Our Attachment Styles & Intimacy Course and Finally Transform Your Relationships for Good! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-sex-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-sex-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-10-22-25&el=podcast If you’ve ever felt like you’re speaking a different language when trying to connect with a Dismissive Avoidant partner, you’re not wrong. They process emotions, safety, and closeness differently at both the neurological and subconscious levels, which can make even simple conversations feel confusing or one-sided. In this video, Thais Gibson reveals how to communicate so an Avoidant actually hears you, without triggering withdrawal or shutdown. You’ll learn the five key principles that transform connection, backed by neuroscience and attachment theory, plus how to stay calm and secure while getting your needs met. You’ll learn: ✅ The 5 keys to communicating with a Dismissive Avoidant, without chasing or pressuring ✅ How to speak to their subconscious mind so they actually feel safe opening up ✅ The neuroscience behind why Avoidants pull away when emotions run high ✅ The difference between emotional expression and logical communication — and how to balance both ✅ How to frame your needs without sounding like an ultimatum ✅ Why timing, tone, and body language matter more than words ✅ Practical scripts to get your Avoidant partner to listen and respond Episode Breakdown:  00:00 – Intro  01:53 – 1. Communicate Your Feelings in a Logical, Factual Way 04:29 – Attachment Styles and Intimacy Promo 05:07 – 2. Use Timing Properly 07:07 – The Neuroscience Behind Avoidants and Connection 09:06 – 3. State Your Needs  09:47 – 4. Leave It Open-Ended 11:04 – 5. Timebox When Asking the Dismissive Avoidant for Something 13:46 – Conclusion Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources: 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📚 Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1 📝 Read the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ Let’s Connect on Socials: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ #DismissiveAvoidant #AttachmentStyles #AvoidantAttachment #ThaisGibson #PersonalDevelopmentSchool #CommunicationTips #RelationshipAdvice #AttachmentHealing #EmotionalConnection  Mastering this kind of communication can completely shift your relationship dynamic, helping you connect with empathy, clarity, and emotional safety on both sides.
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Oct 21, 2025 • 15min

7 Ways Dating An Avoidant Could Affect You Permanently

Unlock Deeper Intimacy Starting Today. Get 7 Days Free Plus Lifetime Access to Our Attachment Styles & Intimacy Course and Finally Transform Your Relationships for Good! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-sex-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-sex-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-10-21-25&el=podcast Dating a Dismissive Avoidant can change you — sometimes in ways you don’t even realize. Over time, their emotional distance can actually condition your brain to link love with withdrawal, connection with uncertainty, and safety with space.  In this video, Thais Gibson shares seven ways dating a Dismissive Avoidant can affect you permanently, and how to recognize if these changes are already happening. You’ll learn the hidden psychological and neurological patterns that shape your attachment style and how to rewire them through awareness, self-trust, and healing practices. You’ll learn: ✅ How dating an Avoidant can subconsciously train your brain to fear closeness ✅ Why you may start questioning your worth or silencing your needs ✅ The neuroscience behind rejection, distance, and emotional pain ✅ How over-functioning and hypervigilance reinforce unhealthy dynamics ✅ What to do if your relationship is starting to impact your self-worth or boundaries ✅ How to tell when growth is mutual — and when it’s time to walk away Episode Breakdown:  00:00 – Intro  01:33 – 1. You Begin to Question Your Own Worth in This Relationship 03:13 – 2. You May Learn to Suppress Your Needs Even Further 03:41 – The Neuroscience Behind Emotional Rejection and Isolation 04:47 – Attachment Styles and Intimacy Promo 05:32 – 3. You May Overfunction Emotionally in This Relationship  08:20 – 4. You May Find Yourself Being Even More Hypervigilant  09:03 – 5. You Lose Touch With Secure Love 09:46 – 6. You’ll See Yourself Dismissing Your Own Boundaries 10:28 – 7. You Feel Stressed More Often 11:21 – If You’re the Only One Doing the Work  12:43 – Ancient Wisdom on Self-Consideration 14:28 – Conclusion Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources: 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📚 Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1 📝 Read the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ Let’s Connect on Socials: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ #DismissiveAvoidant #AttachmentStyles #AvoidantAttachment #RelationshipAdvice #ThaisGibson #ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool #AttachmentHealing #EmotionalHealing  Recognizing these patterns will help you protect your self-worth, reconnect to secure love, and choose relationships that nourish rather than drain you.
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Oct 15, 2025 • 11min

5 Ways An Avoidant Secretly Tests You When They Want You in Their Life

Unlock Deeper Intimacy Starting Today. Get 7 Days Free Plus Lifetime Access to Our Attachment Styles & Intimacy Course and Finally Transform Your Relationships for Good! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-sex-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-sex-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_term=fRwZN0y1E-Q&utm_content=pod-10-15-25&el=podcast Dismissive Avoidants rarely say what they actually feel — instead, they test it. When they want you in their life, they won’t move closer right away…they’ll quietly test how safe you are first. In this video, Thais Gibson breaks down 5 hidden ways Dismissive Avoidants test emotional trust — and how to respond without losing your self-respect or over-giving in the process. You’ll learn how these subtle “trust tests” show up in relationships, what they’re really looking for underneath, and how to handle each moment with confidence and clarity. You’ll learn: ✅ Why Dismissive Avoidants pull away after closeness (and what they’re observing) ✅ How they test emotional safety through small vulnerabilities ✅ The neuroscience behind avoidance and emotional connection ✅ What delayed commitment really means for them ✅ How to respond when they need “space” — without losing yourself Episode Breakdown: 00:00 – Intro  00:46 – 1. Dismissive Avoidants Withdraw or Retreat After Moments of Closeness  02:29 – 2. Dismissive Avoidants Will Test the Safety of Being Vulnerable  03:01 – The Neuroscience Behind Dismissive Avoidants  04:38 – Attachment Styles and Intimacy Promo 05:43 – 3. Dismissive Avoidants Test to See if You Accept What They Judge Themselves for  07:25 – 4. Dismissive Avoidants Will Often Delay Commitment 09:02 – 5. Dismissive Avoidants Often Test How You Will Handle Their Boundaries 11:00 – Conclusion Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources: 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📚 Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1 📝 Read the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ Let’s Connect on Socials: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ #DismissiveAvoidant #Avoidant #AttachmentStyles #ThaisGibson #PersonalDevelopmentSchool #AvoidantAttachment #AttachmentTheory #EmotionalIntelligence #HealthyRelationships #AttachmentHealing If you’ve ever felt confused by a Dismissive Avoidant’s mixed signals, this will help you decode their behavior and build healthier emotional boundaries in your relationships.

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