Mastermind Parenting Podcast

In this week’s podcast episode, I sat down with pediatrician and mom, Sarah Miller and Lindsey, mom and Mastermind Parenting member manager on my team. Oh boy. We covered it all. From strong willed kids to laser hair removal we had a really fun and no holds barred convo. Wondering how we covered such an array of topics, well you’ll have to listen to find out! And please let me know if you enjoyed this longer conversational format to spice things up??? To sign up for our free masterclass go to https://randirubenstein.lpages.co/masterclass/ Get my Free Guide! This guide contains the condensed nuggets of my mind mastering parenting recipe. I've been developing my signature Mastermind Parenting method for over twenty years and I'm BEEEyond thrilled to share it with you. It has the power not to just improve the conversations and relationships in your family but digging in and doing this work will change your life. I can't wait for you to get started so I can teach you everything! Head over here to get your copy https://mastermindparenting.com/freeguide Apply for Free Coaching! Thank you so much for listening and being an amazing mama that listens to parenting podcasts! I absolutely love connecting with other moms during the Real Coaching with Randi monthly segment and share their story. If you would like to get some free coaching on a future episode, head over to https://mastermindparenting.com/freecoaching/ and hit the Apply button. Get my book! Hear about my family history and the tools that have helped me replace old parenting patterns that simply don’t work with these puzzling kiddos. It's my way of paying it forward as a human that wants our kids to experience a kinder and more generous world. Head over here to get your copy https://mastermindparenting.com/book Thanks for listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it using the social media buttons on this page. Do you have some feedback or questions about this episode? Leave a note in the comment section below! Subscribe to the podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on iTunes or Stitcher. You can also subscribe from the podcast app on your mobile device.

This week and this month I’m focusing on how we can really help our strong-willed kids and what actually “works” with these kids. We’ll delve into why your kid’s behavior isn’t significantly improving if you’ve tried the traditional approaches like play therapy or sticker charts. We need to understand what’s really going on with these kids and how it’s more about “lagging skills” and less about being intentionally difficult. As always, I don’t mince words and give it to you straight up from another mom (me) who has walked this path just a few steps before you. I’ve. Got. You. Xo Sign up for the Live Mastermind Parenting Masterclass: https://randirubenstein.lpages.co/masterclass/ Get my Free Guide! This guide contains the condensed nuggets of my mind mastering parenting recipe. I've been developing my signature Mastermind Parenting method for over twenty years and I'm BEEEyond thrilled to share it with you. It has the power not to just improve the conversations and relationships in your family but digging in and doing this work will change your life. I can't wait for you to get started so I can teach you everything! Head over here to get your copy https://mastermindparenting.com/freeguide Apply for Free Coaching! Thank you so much for listening and being an amazing mama that listens to parenting podcasts! I absolutely love connecting with other moms during the Real Coaching with Randi monthly segment and share their story. If you would like to get some free coaching on a future episode, head over to https://mastermindparenting.com/freecoaching/ and hit the Apply button. Get my book! Hear about my family history and the tools that have helped me replace old parenting patterns that simply don’t work with these puzzling kiddos. It's my way of paying it forward as a human that wants our kids to experience a kinder and more generous world. Head over here to get your copy https://mastermindparenting.com/book Thanks for listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it using the social media buttons on this page. Do you have some feedback or questions about this episode? Leave a note in the comment section below! Subscribe to the podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on iTunes or Stitcher. You can also subscribe from the podcast app on your mobile device.

In this episode, I have a conversation with podcaster and mom of two, Laura Max Rose, about our Mastermind Parenting WORLD CLASS sibling fighting tool. I’m currently writing a book about this tool and this convo involves the latest and greatest way I’m teaching this life changing tool. As you know if you have more than one child, when your kids fight, it’s triggering and stressful. This tool is also totally relevant for only children because there will be conflicts on playdates or with cousins and this will help you know what to do. The sibling relationship can feel complicated for many reasons and this tool will help you see conflicts as amazing opportunities that’ll help your kids learn powerful conflict resolution skills that will benefit their lives for years to come. Enjoy! Sign up for the Mastermind Parenting Crash Course If you like to learn more about the Mastermind Parenting 30 Day Crash Course, go to mastermindparenting.com/30 Get my Free Guide! This guide contains the condensed nuggets of my mind mastering parenting recipe. I've been developing my signature Mastermind Parenting method for over twenty years and I'm BEEEyond thrilled to share it with you. It has the power not to just improve the conversations and relationships in your family but digging in and doing this work will change your life. I can't wait for you to get started so I can teach you everything! Head over here to get your copy https://mastermindparenting.com/freeguide Apply for Free Coaching! Thank you so much for listening and being an amazing mama that listens to parenting podcasts! I absolutely love connecting with other moms during the Real Coaching with Randi monthly segment and share their story. If you would like to get some free coaching on a future episode, head over to https://mastermindparenting.com/freecoaching/ and hit the Apply button. Get my book! Hear about my family history and the tools that have helped me replace old parenting patterns that simply don’t work with these puzzling kiddos. It's my way of paying it forward as a human that wants our kids to experience a kinder and more generous world. Head over here to get your copy https://mastermindparenting.com/book Thanks for listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it using the social media buttons on this page. Do you have some feedback or questions about this episode? Leave a note in the comment section below! Subscribe to the podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on iTunes or Stitcher. You can also subscribe from the podcast app on your mobile device.

In this week and next week’s podcast episodes, you’ll hear a convo between me and Laura Max Rose, podcaster and mom of two precious little girls. Our main subject is the sibling relationship and the different layers involved - from sharing, to violence to our ultimate dream of our kids becoming besties. How does our own birth order or being an only child determine how we navigate sibling fighting and what messages our kids receive? Why should we stop telling our kids we’re proud of them? What do we say when one of our kids constantly compares themselves or their things to their sibs? Why ARE they making everything into a competition? Well, tune in this week and next where we’ll cover all these topics and more! Sign up for the Mastermind Parenting Crash Course If you like to learn more about the Mastermind Parenting 30 Day Crash Course, go to mastermindparenting.com/30 Get my Free Guide! This guide contains the condensed nuggets of my mind mastering parenting recipe. I've been developing my signature Mastermind Parenting method for over twenty years and I'm BEEEyond thrilled to share it with you. It has the power not to just improve the conversations and relationships in your family but digging in and doing this work will change your life. I can't wait for you to get started so I can teach you everything! Head over here to get your copy https://mastermindparenting.com/freeguide Apply for Free Coaching! Thank you so much for listening and being an amazing mama that listens to parenting podcasts! I absolutely love connecting with other moms during the Real Coaching with Randi monthly segment and share their story. If you would like to get some free coaching on a future episode, head over to https://mastermindparenting.com/freecoaching/ and hit the Apply button. Get my book! Hear about my family history and the tools that have helped me replace old parenting patterns that simply don’t work with these puzzling kiddos. It's my way of paying it forward as a human that wants our kids to experience a kinder and more generous world. Head over here to get your copy https://mastermindparenting.com/book Thanks for listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it using the social media buttons on this page. Do you have some feedback or questions about this episode? Leave a note in the comment section below! Subscribe to the podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on iTunes or Stitcher. You can also subscribe from the podcast app on your mobile device.

In this episode, I focus specifically on strong willed kid behaviors and the obstacles in parenting these kiddos. There are many cultural components, especially when it comes to our own fixed mindset conditioning.  It can feel like a failure as a parent when you have a strong willed kid. Today, I unpack many pieces of this equation in a way that I don’t think I’ve spelled out quite like this before. The bottom line is that having a challenging or differently wired kid propels us to shift, learn new things and ultimately, grow. If you have a strong willed kid, I hope you’ll do more than just passively listen today. Get honest and think about whether you’ve taken action to help your kiddo feel better understood and more supported. And if your child’s behavior is consistently difficult, it’s a sure sign that more action needs to happen. We have an amazing affordable program available to help you re-program that unhelpful auto pilot conditioning. Go to www.mastermindparenting.com/30 to sign up and take action STAT! Sign up for the Mastermind Parenting Crash Course If you like to learn more about the Mastermind Parenting 30 Day Crash Course, go to mastermindparenting.com/30 Get my Free Guide! This guide contains the condensed nuggets of my mind mastering parenting recipe. I've been developing my signature Mastermind Parenting method for over twenty years and I'm BEEEyond thrilled to share it with you. It has the power not to just improve the conversations and relationships in your family but digging in and doing this work will change your life. I can't wait for you to get started so I can teach you everything! Head over here to get your copy https://mastermindparenting.com/freeguide Apply for Free Coaching! Thank you so much for listening and being an amazing mama that listens to parenting podcasts! I absolutely love connecting with other moms during the Real Coaching with Randi monthly segment and share their story. If you would like to get some free coaching on a future episode, head over to https://mastermindparenting.com/freecoaching/ and hit the Apply button. Get my book! Hear about my family history and the tools that have helped me replace old parenting patterns that simply don’t work with these puzzling kiddos. It's my way of paying it forward as a human that wants our kids to experience a kinder and more generous world. Head over here to get your copy https://mastermindparenting.com/book Thanks for listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it using the social media buttons on this page. Do you have some feedback or questions about this episode? Leave a note in the comment section below! Subscribe to the podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on iTunes or Stitcher. You can also subscribe from the podcast app on your mobile device.

In this episode, I share some very tangible pack leadership tips to help you with virtual learning and beyond. All good leaders know you have to have a plan. Crossing your fingers and just hoping for the best usually doesn’t work out too well for any of us. Therefore, it’s important to figure out your plan for the school day that’ll help your kids be successful. Next, you’ll need to effectively communicate the plan. And finally, following through with the plan and following through when the plan isn’t followed with appropriate consequences is critical. If you’d like to receive the handout with these tips and more to support you, please email us at info@randirubenstein.com and put “Home School Tips Handout” in the subject line and we’ll send it over to you! Sign up for the Mastermind Parenting Crash Course If you like to learn more about the Mastermind Parenting 30 Day Crash Course, go to mastermindparenting.com/30 Get my Free Guide! This guide contains the condensed nuggets of my mind mastering parenting recipe. I've been developing my signature Mastermind Parenting method for over twenty years and I'm BEEEyond thrilled to share it with you. It has the power not to just improve the conversations and relationships in your family but digging in and doing this work will change your life. I can't wait for you to get started so I can teach you everything! Head over here to get your copy https://mastermindparenting.com/freeguide Apply for Free Coaching! Thank you so much for listening and being an amazing mama that listens to parenting podcasts! I absolutely love connecting with other moms during the Real Coaching with Randi monthly segment and share their story. If you would like to get some free coaching on a future episode, head over to https://mastermindparenting.com/freecoaching/ and hit the Apply button. Get my book! Hear about my family history and the tools that have helped me replace old parenting patterns that simply don’t work with these puzzling kiddos. It's my way of paying it forward as a human that wants our kids to experience a kinder and more generous world. Head over here to get your copy https://mastermindparenting.com/book Thanks for listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it using the social media buttons on this page. Do you have some feedback or questions about this episode? Leave a note in the comment section below! Subscribe to the podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on iTunes or Stitcher. You can also subscribe from the podcast app on your mobile device.

In this episode, I talk about the virtual learning reality many of us are facing for this upcoming 2020/2021 school year due to the current Covid pandemic. First of all, last time I checked, most of us didn’t sign up to homeschool our kids or to deal with a pandemic. Therefore, we need a minute to adjust to this reality and get in a productive head space. You really have to allow yourself time to process so that you’re able to face the mindset piece b/c most likely, you didn’t volunteer to help manage your kids during their school day. AND, it’s okay to feel pissed about that. Feel it. Notice it. Allow all those feelings. Next, you’ll be able to start learning about what needs to happen to help your family have a successful school year. I cover the five tips spelled out by education experts that’ll support you in helping your kids succeed during their school day and beyond. Get my problem-solving one-sheet! I created a simple one-sheet roadmap that will assist you in replacing the old school lectures with a tool that actually improves behavior through productive convos. Grab your problem-solving cheat sheet here: mastermindparenting.com/problemsolving For more help, reach out to me for support: http://Randirubenstein.com/discovery Get my Free Guide! This guide contains the condensed nuggets of my mind mastering parenting recipe. I've been developing my signature Mastermind Parenting method for over twenty years and I'm BEEEyond thrilled to share it with you. It has the power not to just improve the conversations and relationships in your family but digging in and doing this work will change your life. I can't wait for you to get started so I can teach you everything! Head over here to get your copy https://mastermindparenting.com/freeguide Apply for Free Coaching! Thank you so much for listening and being an amazing mama that listens to parenting podcasts! I absolutely love connecting with other moms during the Real Coaching with Randi monthly segment and share their story. If you would like to get some free coaching on a future episode, head over to https://mastermindparenting.com/freecoaching/ and hit the Apply button. Get my book! Hear about my family history and the tools that have helped me replace old parenting patterns that simply don’t work with these puzzling kiddos. It's my way of paying it forward as a human that wants our kids to experience a kinder and more generous world. Head over here to get your copy https://mastermindparenting.com/book Thanks for listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it using the social media buttons on this page. Do you have some feedback or questions about this episode? Leave a note in the comment section below! Subscribe to the podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on iTunes or Stitcher. You can also subscribe from the podcast app on your mobile device.

In this LONG episode, I really ramble on about all sorts of stuff:). I really lost track of time, went off the cuff and talked about why loving pack leaders must have boundaries. Pack leadership minimizes meltdowns because it represents confidence, strength and safety. Boundaries define borders and ground the people feeling unbalanced in their nervous systems, i.e., the melting down big and little humans.  I have found that many moms have a really hard time with boundaries. I believe at the core of this limitation is the secret obstacle...the conditioning that you’re not worthy of having your own voice, space, time and standards about how you will and won’t live.  This is a big topic and a core issue in our culture re: women and a lack of feeling as worthy as “them”. Now this may not be something we think we believe. We may tell ourselves the opposite and spew feminist messages from the rooftops. However, if you have a hard time making time for yourself or “getting” the people to do the things and/or you feel like “must be nice to be able to”, and you’re constantly doing everything for everyone and there’s no time or energy left for the stuff you wanna do...well then sister friend, we gotta talk.  You deserve to take up space in the world and not to put the needs of everyone else constantly before your own. And until you BELIEVE you’re truly worthy to do that, you’re gonna continue to have a hard time following thru on boundaries. And until you enforce consequences for boundary crossing behavior, the meltdowns in your family will persist.  I normally try and make the podcast episodes short and sweet but this is a big topic and I decide to just allow my unfiltered thoughts to pour out in hopes that it might help you if you’re struggling with persistent meltdowns in your family. I know it’s painful to live like that. I also know that you wanna have a family that gets along. I’d love to invite you to explore your own story if you’re struggling with pack leadership, boundaries and enforcing consequences. You deserve more. I’m determined to fight for you to have that.   Get my problem-solving one-sheet! I created a simple one-sheet roadmap that will assist you in replacing the old school lectures with a tool that actually improves behavior through productive convos. Grab your problem-solving cheat sheet here: mastermindparenting.com/problemsolving For more help, reach out to me for support: http://Randirubenstein.com/discovery Get my Free Guide! This guide contains the condensed nuggets of my mind mastering parenting recipe. I've been developing my signature Mastermind Parenting method for over twenty years and I'm BEEEyond thrilled to share it with you. It has the power not to just improve the conversations and relationships in your family but digging in and doing this work will change your life. I can't wait for you to get started so I can teach you everything! Head over here to get your copy https://mastermindparenting.com/freeguide Apply for Free Coaching! Thank you so much for listening and being an amazing mama that listens to parenting podcasts! I absolutely love connecting with other moms during the Real Coaching with Randi monthly segment and share their story. If you would like to get some free coaching on a future episode, head over to https://mastermindparenting.com/freecoaching/ and hit the Apply button. Get my book! Hear about my family history and the tools that have helped me replace old parenting patterns that simply don’t work with these puzzling kiddos. It's my way of paying it forward as a human that wants our kids to experience a kinder and more generous world. Head over here to get your copy https://mastermindparenting.com/book Thanks for listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it using the social media buttons on this page. Do you have some feedback or questions about this episode? Leave a note in the comment section below! Subscribe to the podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on iTunes or Stitcher. You can also subscribe from the podcast app on your mobile device.

In this episode, I breakdown the concept of emotional safety; what it really looks like to have it, create it and demand it. My own little “armchair expert” theory has led me to believe that many of us were not raised in environments where it was safe to feel all the intense feelings. Humans crave to feel unconditionally loved and celebrated for the real person we were born to be. I see this time and time again when I really get to know people.  I think we are born as perfect little humans and then the big humans accidentally send the littles the message that it’s not safe to be the honest, real, raw, messy, beautiful person you were intended to become. Those messages are internalized and there are a variety of ways people deal with the pain that comes from not feeling fully expressed. Some people learn coping skills that allow them to live life on the surface and pretend the pain doesn’t exist. This can seem like it’s working for the most part AND spoiler alert, there is an expiration date on that coping pattern. When life throws a curveball like it always does, the people who seem most “together” are often the first to fall apart.  Then there are others who can’t pretend they feel good when they don’t.  These are the people where life involves a pretty good deal of suffering. They have no problem acting out no matter who’s around. These are the sensitive people. The highly intuitive ones. These. Are. Our. Strong. Willed. Kids. They are begging for the grown ups to create emotional safety for them so they can feel seen, understood and safe to develop better skills to deal with the overwhelming big feelings in their bodies. The frequent meltdowns over seemingly trivial things are always a sign that they are in emotional pain. Meltdowns will never be squashed until emotional safety is created. Get my problem-solving one-sheet! I created a simple one-sheet roadmap that will assist you in replacing the old school lectures with a tool that actually improves behavior through productive convos. Grab your problem-solving cheat sheet here: mastermindparenting.com/problemsolving For more help, reach out to me for support: http://Randirubenstein.com/discovery Get my Free Guide! This guide contains the condensed nuggets of my mind mastering parenting recipe. I've been developing my signature Mastermind Parenting method for over twenty years and I'm BEEEyond thrilled to share it with you. It has the power not to just improve the conversations and relationships in your family but digging in and doing this work will change your life. I can't wait for you to get started so I can teach you everything! Head over here to get your copy https://mastermindparenting.com/freeguide Apply for Free Coaching! Thank you so much for listening and being an amazing mama that listens to parenting podcasts! I absolutely love connecting with other moms during the Real Coaching with Randi monthly segment and share their story. If you would like to get some free coaching on a future episode, head over to https://mastermindparenting.com/freecoaching/ and hit the Apply button. Get my book! Hear about my family history and the tools that have helped me replace old parenting patterns that simply don’t work with these puzzling kiddos. It's my way of paying it forward as a human that wants our kids to experience a kinder and more generous world. Head over here to get your copy https://mastermindparenting.com/book Thanks for listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it using the social media buttons on this page. Do you have some feedback or questions about this episode? Leave a note in the comment section below! Subscribe to the podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on iTunes or Stitcher. You can also subscribe from the podcast app on your mobile device.

In this week’s conversation, I’m breaking down the concept that anger is rooted in fear and when fear is on the scene, growth cannot occur. When our kids, or frankly anyone, displays meltdown behavior, the anger often feels palpable. It’s scary. Fear is directly linked to explosive meltdown moments.  It’s actually quite normal to have fears. Humans are actually designed to scan our environments for danger. This is called the human negativity bias. So if you’re a person that has many fears, the bottom line is: You’re. Normal. I think it’s important to understand fear and anger in a way that many of us have never actually thought about. Intense anger is uncomfortable and scary. Meltdowns feel uncomfortable and scary for kids and grown ups. Whether you’re the person having the meltdown or witnessing it, we all feel out of control. It can leave parents feeling powerless and this often leads to attempts to control our kids with fear tactics like threats, spanking and punishing. Kids under the age of twelve do NOT improve future behavior through fear tactics. When fear is running the show, we operate from the lower parts of our brain. We literally become the neanderthal versions of ourselves, designed to merely aggressively grunt, fight and survive. Obviously, it’s pretty ridiculous to think that our kids will learn from their mistakes when they are in this brain state. It’s also illogical to think we’re going to be effective guides or teachers when we’re in a triggered brain state as well. This is why absolutely no teaching can happen when any human is having a meltdown. Before the sun can warm, nourish and allow flowers to bloom again, the storm must pass.  Lectures, withholding love, shaming and yelling will not prevent future meltdowns. Get my problem-solving one-sheet! I created a simple one-sheet roadmap that will assist you in replacing the old school lectures with a tool that actually improves behavior through productive convos. Grab your problem-solving cheat sheet here: mastermindparenting.com/problemsolving For more help, reach out to me for support: http://Randirubenstein.com/discovery Get my Free Guide! This guide contains the condensed nuggets of my mind mastering parenting recipe. I've been developing my signature Mastermind Parenting method for over twenty years and I'm BEEEyond thrilled to share it with you. It has the power not to just improve the conversations and relationships in your family but digging in and doing this work will change your life. I can't wait for you to get started so I can teach you everything! Head over here to get your copy https://mastermindparenting.com/freeguide Apply for Free Coaching! Thank you so much for listening and being an amazing mama that listens to parenting podcasts! I absolutely love connecting with other moms during the Real Coaching with Randi monthly segment and share their story. If you would like to get some free coaching on a future episode, head over to https://mastermindparenting.com/freecoaching/ and hit the Apply button. Get my book! Hear about my family history and the tools that have helped me replace old parenting patterns that simply don’t work with these puzzling kiddos. It's my way of paying it forward as a human that wants our kids to experience a kinder and more generous world. Head over here to get your copy https://mastermindparenting.com/book Thanks for listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it using the social media buttons on this page. Do you have some feedback or questions about this episode? Leave a note in the comment section below! Subscribe to the podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on iTunes or Stitcher. You can also subscribe from the podcast app on your mobile device.