Mastermind Parenting Podcast

We’ve been taking some of recent episodes back to the basics, and today I’m going to unpack the three parenting styles I see most often and explain to you which one I feel is the most effective. (Spoiler alert: Mastermind Parenting, that’s the one that’s most effective.) Now, we’re all inclined to naturally gravitate toward the style we grew up with, that’s what our automatic pilot is going to guide us toward. We all have ideas on what we want to do, which if you’re listening to this podcast, I hope is Mastermind Parenting. But when activated by the “heat of the moment” our emotional brain takes over, it’s just how we’re conditioned. Ok, so the first style is authoritarian parenting. Authoritarian parents believe that kids should follow the rules without exception. Authoritarian parents are famous for saying, “Because I said so” when a child questions the reasons behind a rule. These parents often complain that their child is not obedient, then force punishments when the child doesn’t obey the rules. Next are permissive parents. Rules may be set, but rarely enforced. Few consequences are given out and these parents also feel their children will learn best with little interference.  Permissive parents are lenient. They often only step in when there's a serious problem. They're quite forgiving, and they adopt an attitude of “kids will be kids.” They have a really challenging time with the follow through, and they may give privileges back if a child begs, or they may allow a child to get out of timeout early. Finally, we have authoritative parenting, sometimes called conscious parenting, or gentle parenting. Mastermind Parenting also falls under this category. It’s putting a lot of effort into creating and maintaining a positive relationship with your child. These parents explain the reasons behind the rules. They enforce rules and give consequences but take the child's feelings into consideration. They validate their children's feelings while also making it clear that the adults are ultimately in charge.  And there are a lot of different ways to do this. Authoritative parents invest time and energy into preventing behavior problems before they start, so they are proactive, which is what I believe in. Researchers have found kids who have authoritative parents are most likely to become responsible adults who feel comfortable expressing their opinions. Children raised with authoritative discipline tend to be happy and successful. They're also more likely to be good at making decisions and evaluating safety risks on their own. Mastermind parenting in terms of authoritative parenting is all about. It can be hard to not take your child's behavior personally. But realize when they're pushing your buttons, that's your business and nothing for you to put on them. Children are not responsible for adult feelings. Listen to this episode for more of my thoughts and strategies on how you can move toward being a Mastermind Parent! And as always, thanks for listening, and be sure and head over to Facebook and you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community where we post tips and tools and do pop up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it! About Randi Rubenstein Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays. She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S. At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along. Web/Social Links Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/ Resources Discussed/Links Free Cheat Sheet - Three-Step Recipe for Having a Productive Conversation: https://mastermindparenting.com/productive-conversation/ Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/ Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

Today we are going to be talking about social media, the online world and how technology impacts kids and how parents struggle to manage it all. I have a special guest, Rania Mankarious, who wrote the book, About The Online World: What You Think You Know and What You Don’t. She wrote this book because parents were telling her how overwhelmed they feel about the online world, and kids tell her they need help and they don’t know how to talk to their parents. We all see the effects of this disconnect every day and hear the tragic stories of kids being hurt by everything from cyberbullies to drugs, identity theft, to addiction, suicide, sexual exploitation, and traffickers. These are good kids and their parents have no idea what’s happening–even the parents who follow and monitor their accounts. In her book, Rania bridges the digital gap between parents and kids so they can develop a family safety plan for their online engagement. Listen to this episode as we discuss many of the challenges parents and kids face online, and some strategies you can use today! As always, thanks for listening, and be sure and head over to Facebook and you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community where we post tips and tools and do pop up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it! About Rania Mankarious Rania is a Public Safety Expert and CEO of Crime Stoppers of Houston, with a Masters Degree in Marriage and Family Therapy and a Doctorate of Jurisprudence. She is an avid writer, on-air analyst, lover of people, their stories, and our future. She has been seen and heard on national/local TV and radio for over a decade as a legal, family, crime, mental health, and parenting expert. Citing a personal mission to serve families and engage the public to better society, Rania, a wife and mother of three, is leading by example and making a difference. Web/Social Links LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rania-mankarious-b180aba/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/theraniareport Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/rania.mankarious.1 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theraniareport/ Resources Discussed/Links Rania’s book, The Online World, What You Think You Know and What You Don’t: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1737885921/ Free Cheat Sheet - Three-Step Recipe for Having a Productive Conversation: https://mastermindparenting.com/productive-conversation/ Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/ Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

How do you discipline a strong-willed child without spanking or yelling? We’re building on the last two episodes where I started to unpack the topic of how to best discipline your child. Today I’m focusing on how to avoid spanking or yelling. Most parents know that spanking doesn’t work, and yelling doesn’t either, but most households still spank and yell. A lot of us grew up with spanking as part of our family discipline model, and yelling too, so it can be easy to fall back on these as a “go-to” method when we get frustrated and angry. And I am guilty of this as well, and today I share a recent experience where I simply lost it. Yelling and spanking wounds and hurts our kids. Even though these may come naturally to us because of our past, and what was modeled to us, this doesn’t mean we can’t shift and adopt a different approach. Listen in as I break down my personal experience and some others to help you find a kinder and more gentle way to deal with these situations. You, and your kiddos, will be happier and more grounded. As always, thanks for listening, and be sure and head over to Facebook and you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community where we post tips and tools and do pop up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it! Web/Social Links Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/ Resources Discussed/Links Free Cheat Sheet - Three-Step Recipe for Having a Productive Conversation: https://mastermindparenting.com/productive-conversation/ Live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/ Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

How do you discipline a strong-willed child who just won’t listen? We’re building on last week’s episode where I unpacked the topic of how to best discipline your child, going a little deeper to tackle those stubborn kids. And the more you request they do something or change a behavior, the more they dig in and just won’t budge.  So frustrating, I know. Bing ignored and dismissed when you’re supposedly the authority figure can feel demoralizing, rude, and disrespectful. It also can feel chaotic and stressful, both for you and your child. It brings all these things up for us as parents, and even if we start off nice, sweet, and calm, we can lose our tempers and start commanding or yelling. Listen to this episode where I go through a scenario many of us have likely experienced. I walk you through what might be going on in this situation and give you some tips on how to deal with it if you find yourself headed down this path. I’ll show you how you can be the leader of your own little wolf pack, and command the authority you deserve, while getting your kiddo to make a choice that’s a win-win situation for everyone. We’re going to disrupt the negative attention seeking pattern that may have formed, allowing you to step in and have your voice heard. Again, just like last week, this is one of the most familiar challenges parents face, and one that I often see parents struggle with, but it doesn’t have to be that way! As always, thanks for listening, and be sure and head over to Facebook and you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community where we post tips and tools and do pop up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it! Web/Social Links Website Facebook Instagram Takeaways When your child isn’t listening to you or rebelling, it can be demoralizing. If you can’t be the authority, nothing runs smoothly. It can be chaotic and stressful. It feels disrespectful and dismissive, and it hurts. You might feel like you’re not doing your job as a parent, and it can spiral out of control. Your child refuses your request leading to frustration, arguments, and exhaustion. This can be the result of what you were told or modeled in the past. It’s time to be the leader of your pack and command authority. Listen to your kids and understand what is underneath the behavior. Humans crave freedom, so when you try to control, they may rebel. They are trying to get needs met, health and safety comes first. Instead of barking one command, give options that are a win for both of you. It takes a lot of practice and patience, but you can discipline and teach with authority. Resources Discussed/Links Free Cheat Sheet - Three-Step Recipe for Having a Productive Conversation Live assessment Join our Free Facebook Group

How do you discipline your child? This is one of the most familiar challenges parents face, and one that I often see parents get wrong. It can be a struggle to get your kiddo to do what you want them to do, what is expected of them. I get it. In fact, I’m going through it all again right now, with a new puppy! Today I’m going to give you a good definition of discipline, and how it is entirely about teaching, and has nothing to do with punishment. And I know it can be tempting to use a punishment model because you are frustrated, heated in the moment, and maybe that’s what you know from how you were raised. But deep down inside, that’s not what you genuinely want to be doing. So, listen to this episode and get some tips on how to stay grounded and approach the discipline of your child with more teaching, instruction, and grace. I’ll also run you through an example that is all too common and one I’m sure many of you can resonate with, while giving you some tools for success next time you find yourself in this situation. As always, thanks for listening, and be sure and head over to Facebook and you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community where we post tips and tools and do pop up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it! Web/Social Links Website Facebook Instagram  Takeaways Discipline means to teach. Little kids are going to have many “accidents” in the house, and this is because they are learning to be alive…what the rules of this tribe are. Put the time in on the front end to teach the skills rather than just expecting kids to learn and getting mad at them for not doing what you expect them to do. When you put your time and effort into telling kids what you expect and teaching  stop fighting with reality - you are in a remarkably busy season of life, and it won’t be this hard forever…you are building a solid foundation. Parenting is establishing the rules, repeating it often and following through consistently. Mastermind Parenting is about mastering your own mind and showing up as the grounded grown up that can think rationally and teach your kids the things you want them to know. Calm people solve problems. And when you can’t be the calm problem-solving adult in your kids’ lives, it’s because you haven’t resolved your own hurts and your self-care is on the back burner. Resources Discussed/Links Free Cheat Sheet - Three-Step Recipe for Having a Productive Conversation  Live assessment Join our Free Facebook Group

In this episode, hear what I have to say to a mom who swears by the “spanking stick” to get her boys to do chores. If you want your kids to be responsible and do chores but know the spanking stick is not the answer, sign up for Mastermind Minimasters to learn the right way help kids grow into responsible family members and humans.  Join the Waitlist for the FREE Video Series: How to set limits with your strong willed child without spanking timeouts or sticker charts: Mastermindparenting.com/nospanking Sign up for our Minimasters program and get access to our private podcast: https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters  Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting Thanks for listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it using the social media buttons on this page. Do you have some feedback or questions about this episode? Leave a note in the comment section below! Subscribe to the podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on iTunes or Stitcher. You can also subscribe from the podcast app on your mobile device.

In this episode, I weigh in on a few scenarios involving extreme defiance like hitting, kicking, spitting and what to do instead of spanking, time out or sticker charts.  Join the Waitlist for the FREE Video Series: How to set limits with your strong willed child without spanking timeouts or sticker charts: Mastermindparenting.com/nospanking Sign up for our Minimasters program and get access to our private podcast: https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters  Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting Thanks for listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it using the social media buttons on this page. Do you have some feedback or questions about this episode? Leave a note in the comment section below! Subscribe to the podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on iTunes or Stitcher. You can also subscribe from the podcast app on your mobile device.

In this episode, I read a mom’s scenario about a judgey grandparent telling her to spank her son and properly discipline them. I have a lot to say about this and how to handle out of line judgey grandparents. Join the Waitlist for the FREE Video Series: How to set limits with your strong willed child without spanking timeouts or sticker charts: Mastermindparenting.com/nospanking Sign up for our Minimasters program and get access to our private podcast: https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters  Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting Thanks for listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it using the social media buttons on this page. Do you have some feedback or questions about this episode? Leave a note in the comment section below! Subscribe to the podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on iTunes or Stitcher. You can also subscribe from the podcast app on your mobile device.

In this episode, I coach on a few problem scenarios by moms of strong willed kids, including lying and overall defiance. One mom said she felt defeated because she had a plan for parenting in a holistic way, from natural birth to breastfeeding, and now she finds herself washing her child’s mouth out with soap and spanking because gentle parenting isn’t working with her strong willed one. I made a 5-part video series about the common discipline strategies parents use and why most aren’t effective and what to do instead. I wish I could have every parent struggling with a challenging child watch it.  Join the waitlist: Mastermindparenting.com/nospanking Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting Thanks for listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it using the social media buttons on this page. Do you have some feedback or questions about this episode? Leave a note in the comment section below! Subscribe to the podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on iTunes or Stitcher. You can also subscribe from the podcast app on your mobile device.

In this episode, Jenny and I unpacked so much - you guys are going to absolutely love her as much as I do!  We discussed women’s health and tapping into our knowing, career shifts, finding the right fit therapist, gaslighting, boundaries, as well as seeing our own blindspots through group coaching and therapy and even more.  Jennifer Friedman is a Physician, Counselor, Writer, and Teacher. She has studied and taught different forms of healing and possesses a unique understanding of the mind-body connection. Her extensive educational and experiential learning along with her deep appreciation for Spirituality and Energy Healing bring her unique ability to speak to a myriad of topics in the area of healing and mental health. She has a private practice, Jennifer Friedman Wellness, PLLC, where she runs Women’s Workshops and Therapeutic Groups, offers specialized Teaching Programs, and sees clients for Wellness Consultation and Counseling. For more information about Jennifer Friedman or her offerings, you can find her at jenniferfriedmanwellness.com. Connect with Jennifer on Instagram: @jenniferfriedmanwellness Download the 3-Step Productive Conversation Cheat Sheet: https://mastermindparenting.com/productive-conversation/ Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting Thanks for listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it using the social media buttons on this page. Do you have some feedback or questions about this episode? Leave a note in the comment section below! Subscribe to the podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on iTunes or Stitcher. You can also subscribe from the podcast app on your mobile device.