Mastermind Parenting Podcast

How often are we accidentally pouring gasoline on our fiery kids and fanning the flames rather than helping to extinguish the fiery outbursts? Today I have a mom who shares a story about her 10-year-old daughter beginning to spiral on an airplane because she was super thirsty. She modeled for her daughter how to ask for what she needs in a polite way and allowed the flight attendant to help her get her basic need met. This helped to create a team atmosphere with her daughter and avoid a World War Three meltdown. I also share experiences that when I notice other parents struggling, I can provide positive attention to the child instead of judging the parent. "Ask for what you need, let people support you, and appreciate it when they show up for you - it's not a big deal." In this episode, you will learn the following: 1. How often are we making small deals into big deals in our minds? 2. What can we do when we see parents doing it wrong? 3. How can we create positive moments with strangers that can lead to powerful conversations? And much more! As always, thanks for listening, and be sure and head over to Facebook and you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community, where we post tips and tools and do pop up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it! About Randi Rubenstein Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays. She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S. At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along. Randi’s Web and Social Links Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/ Resources and Links MiniMasters Self-Study Program for Parents of Strong-Willed Kids: https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters Take the "Is My Child Strong Willed Quiz,” it’s free! Just go to: https://mastermindparenting.com/do-you-have-a-strong-willed-child/ Book your FREE Solutions Session live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/ Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

"Transform your relationship into a healthy, mindful and conscious home for your children - learn to mend, not end." Karen McMahon is a certified relationship and divorce coach and founder of Journey Beyond Divorce. She has been helping men and women around the world to become calm, clear, and confident as they navigate divorce since 2010. Karen experienced the difficulty of navigating a divorce and parenting when her own marriage ended. She came to understand that the conversation was never about the relationship, but instead, it was the relationship itself. With the support of professionals, Karen realized that she had an equal part in the conflict, and she needed to take responsibility for that. She was able to build her self-confidence, find the resources and support she needed, and ultimately make the best decision for her and her children. Karen emerged from her divorce experience empowered and stronger, and now encourages others to take the same journey. In this episode, you will learn the following: 1. How can you know when it's time to mend or end your marriage? 2. What can you do to ensure you are making an empowered decision about your marriage? 3. How can you learn to navigate a high conflict divorce in an emotionally regulated way? And much more! As always, thanks for listening, and be sure and head over to Facebook and you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community, where we post tips and tools and do pop up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it! About Karen McMahon, Divorce & Relationship Coach Karen’s passion is to help men and women navigate the emotional difficulties of relationships, breakups and divorce. Your work together will open up the possibility that your current relationship challenges can lead to a rewarding voyage of self-discovery and an immensely more pleasing life experience. Karen founded Journey Beyond Divorce in 2010, after discovering that the pain of dissolving her marriage had been the very stimulus for her personal transformation. During her three and a half year tumultuous divorce, Karen’s life began to improve exponentially. With much hard work, she embraced her new life, created healthy friendships, found her true voice, and learned to set suitable boundaries and let go of what she could not control. Learning to live a healthy enlivened life is something that we can share with our children creating thriving relationships with them while helping them grow emotionally strong and healthy. Karen is the mother of two emerging adults, a graduate of the world’s leading coaching institute, Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC) and a Certified Member of the International Coaching Federation (ICF). Karen’s other accomplishments include work as a NYS Lobbyist, Health Advocate, Community Organizer, and Chairperson of a NYS non-profit organization, Director of Sales and Marketing, and successful small business owner. Karen’s Web and Social Links Website: https://www.jbddivorcesupport.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/journeybeyonddivorce/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/karenmcmahon About Randi Rubenstein Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays. She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S. At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along. Randi’s Web and Social Links Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/ Resources and Links MiniMasters Self-Study Program for Parents of Strong-Willed Kids: https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters Take the "Is My Child Strong Willed Quiz,” it’s free! Just go to: https://mastermindparenting.com/do-you-have-a-strong-willed-child/ Book your FREE Solutions Session live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/ Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

Today I introduce you to the “E” in the N.I.C.E. Framework, the final step in this roadmap to teach kids the skills they don't have to manage their nervous systems and to turn around difficult behaviors. “E” stands for Enforce and it’s where we begin navigating the difficult task of balancing firmness and empathy while enforcing consequences sparingly. We want to enforce consequences sparingly, as part of the N.I.C.E. Framework, which involves assessing basic needs, investigating behaviors, and communicating as a firm and loving “pack leader.” Consequences should be discussed out of the moment and should be logical and related. Following through on consequences can be difficult and uncomfortable, but it is a necessary part of disrupting old patterns and teaching children new skills. For more information on the N.I.C.E. Framework, please visit MastermindParenting.com for a self-study course or a twelve-week hybrid group and personalized coaching program. "Disrupting a pattern by following through on a consequence that you discussed ahead of time and now you're actually having to follow through on it pretty much always blows, but you can mentally prepare to lean into the suckage and do the hard things." In this episode, you will learn the following: 1. How can understanding the N.I.C.E. Framework help transform strong-willed kids? 2. What strategies can be used to effectively enforce consequences while still being a "nice" parent? 3. How can the N.I.C.E. Framework help parents learn to communicate with their children in a language they can comprehend? And much more! As always, thanks for listening, and be sure and head over to Facebook and you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community, where we post tips and tools and do pop up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it! About Randi Rubenstein Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays. She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S. At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along. Randi’s Web and Social Links Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/ Resources and Links MiniMasters Self-Study Program for Parents of Strong-Willed Kids: https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters Take the "Is My Child Strong Willed Quiz,” it’s free! Just go to: https://mastermindparenting.com/do-you-have-a-strong-willed-child/ Book your FREE Solutions Session live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/ Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting Other Episodes in the NICE Framework Series #1 NICE Framework Overview - https://mastermindparenting.com/222 #2 Needs Wing of the NICE Framework - https://mastermindparenting.com/223 #3 Investigation Wing of the NICE Framework - https://mastermindparenting.com/224 #4 Communication Wing of the NICE Framework - https://mastermindparenting.com/225

Today I introduce you to the “C” in the N.I.C.E. Framework, a roadmap to teach kids the skills they don't have to manage their nervous systems and to turn around difficult behaviors. “C” stands for Communication and it’s where we learn to communicate with our children in a language they can comprehend. This N.I.C.E. Framework series teaches parents how to speak to strong-willed kids in order to help them stop living in a dysregulated state. During this episode, I discussed how it is important to communicate with our strong-willed, highly sensitive kids in a language they can understand, utilizing empathy and pack leadership. This style of communication allows us to assess basic needs, investigate behavior, and establish rules and boundaries without arguing or making excuses. It also involves actively listening and mirroring back what our kids say to show we believe them. Finally, if the same problematic behavior continues, we can establish a consequence in the E wing of the N.I.C.E. Framework. (Next episode, stay tuned!) "When you learn how to communicate with our kids in this way, where we see their perspective and we really hear them. When we really listen to them, they feel heard and listened to, and then we can problem solve together." In this episode, you will learn the following: 1. Uncovering why our kids are not doing well and how to effectively communicate with them in a productive way. 2. Understanding the 77% of communication that is nonverbal and the language our kids can truly comprehend. 3. Discovering how to establish rules, boundaries and teach new skills with a combination of empathy and pack leadership. And much more! As always, thanks for listening, and be sure and head over to Facebook and you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community, where we post tips and tools and do pop up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it! About Randi Rubenstein Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays. She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S. At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along. Randi’s Web and Social Links Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/ Resources and Links MiniMasters Self-Study Program for Parents of Strong-Willed Kids: https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters Take the "Is My Child Strong Willed Quiz,” it’s free! Just go to: https://mastermindparenting.com/do-you-have-a-strong-willed-child/ Book your FREE Solutions Session live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/ Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting Other Episodes in the NICE Framework Series #1 NICE Framework Overview - https://mastermindparenting.com/222 #2 Needs Wing of the NICE Framework - https://mastermindparenting.com/223 #3 Investigate Wing of the NICE Framework - https://mastermindparenting.com/224

Today I introduce you to the “I” in the NICE framework, a roadmap to teach kids the skills they don't have to manage their nervous systems and to turn around difficult behaviors. “I” stands for Investigation and it’s where we dive deeper to figure out what is causing our children to behave the way they do. This NICE Framework series teaches parents how to speak to strong-willed kids in order to help them stop living in a dysregulated state. Last episode we focused on assessing basic needs like sleep and food. If the behavior continues, we move to the “I,” and we dig deeper and become a detective to uncover the root of the strong-willed behavior. All behavior is a form of communication. A mom had a son who was getting in trouble at school, but it was discovered that he had a dyslexia diagnosis. Through investigating, it was also discovered that he was not getting enough sleep. "Kids do well if they can. As Dr. Ross Green says. I love that quote. It just says it all." In this episode, you will learn the following: 1. What is the secret behind transforming strong-willed child behavior? 2. What is the QTIP tool for dealing with challenging child behavior? 3. How can a parent uncover the root cause of disruptive child behavior? And much more! As always, thanks for listening, and be sure and head over to Facebook and you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community, where we post tips and tools and do pop up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it! About Randi Rubenstein Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays. She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S. At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along. Randi’s Web and Social Links Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/ Resources and Links MiniMasters Self-Study Program for Parents of Strong-Willed Kids: https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters Take the "Is My Child Strong Willed Quiz,” it’s free! Just go to: https://mastermindparenting.com/do-you-have-a-strong-willed-child/ Book your FREE Solutions Session live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/ Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting Other Episodes in the NICE Framework Series #1 NICE Framework Overview - https://mastermindparenting.com/222 #2 Needs Wing of the NICE Framework - https://mastermindparenting.com/223

Today I introduce you to the “N” in the NICE framework, a roadmap to teach kids the skills they don't have to manage their nervous systems and to turn around difficult behaviors. “N” stands for Needs and it’s where we begin to figure out what is causing our children to behave the way they do. This NICE Framework series teaches parents how to speak to strong-willed kids in order to help them stop living in a dysregulated state. We must assess basic needs like sleep, food, and connection before communicating and enforcing boundaries and consequences. A mom came to me after her daughter was using the “I’m scared” excuse to avoid tasks. I use this common challenge and unpack what the root issue is, then recommend looking at basic needs first and found that the connection between mother and daughter was the solution. We must take time to diagnose real problems and look for the solution in basic needs. "Kids are designed to be magical thinkers and to experience a whole lot of joy and to get lost in play. So, if we have a kid that's not doing that, the majority of the time, we know we have a problem. We know we have a problem. It's just a matter of how do we fix the problem? What is the solution?" In this episode, you will learn the following: How can understanding basic needs help to transform a strong-willed child's behavior? What are the components of the NICE Framework and how can it be used to communicate effectively with strong-willed kids? How can pausing to assess basic needs interrupt the cycle of dysregulation in strong-willed children? And much more! As always, thanks for listening, and be sure and head over to Facebook and you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community, where we post tips and tools and do pop up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it! About Randi Rubenstein Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays. She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S. At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along. Randi’s Web and Social Links Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/ Resources and Links MiniMasters Self-Study Program for Parents of Strong-Willed Kids: https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters Take the "Is My Child Strong Willed Quiz,” it’s free! Just go to: https://mastermindparenting.com/do-you-have-a-strong-willed-child/ Book your FREE Solutions Session live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/ Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting Other Episodes in the NICE Framework Series #1 NICE Framework Overview - https://mastermindparenting.com/222

The NICE framework solves parenting challenges with strong-willed kids. Today on the Mastermind Parenting Podcast, I introduce you to the NICE framework, a roadmap to teach kids the skills they don't have to manage their nervous systems and to turn around difficult behaviors. It emphasizes being patient, present, consistent, calm, kind, and loving while also being a leader. Through this framework, parents can model the behavior they want to see in their kids, while also emphasizing freedom and trust. "If we want to raise nice, polite, kind people, wouldn't they learn how to be those people if we showed up first and foremost as nice people ourselves?" In this episode, you will learn the following: How can you raise polite and kind children without becoming a pushover or doormat? What is the 'NICE' framework which helps turn difficult behaviors around? What can you do to support your child in areas where there is struggle? As always, thanks for listening, and be sure and head over to Facebook and you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community, where we post tips and tools and do pop up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it! About Randi Rubenstein Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays. She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S. At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along. Randi’s Web and Social Links Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/ Resources and Links Take the "Is My Child Strong Willed Quiz,” it’s free! Just go to: https://mastermindparenting.com/do-you-have-a-strong-willed-child/ Book your FREE Solutions Session live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/ Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

Lying and its development in children is natural. Listen today and hear a scenario about an eight-year-old boy who was lying and refusing to take responsibility for his mistakes. Little kids lie as a normal part of their development, typically to avoid getting into trouble or because of what I call their “magical thinking brain.” Older kids lie when it doesn't feel safe to tell the truth, which can be caused by feeling overwhelmed, insecure, or jealous. To handle lying in children, it is important to remember to connect before correcting and to remember that all behavior is communication. "It takes courage to admit when we screw up." In this episode, you will learn the following: How can parents effectively handle lying in their children? What is the root cause behind a child's lying behavior? How do children's lies change as they develop, and how can parents adjust their response accordingly? As always, thanks for listening, and be sure and head over to Facebook and you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community, where we post tips and tools and do pop up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it! About Randi Rubenstein Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays. She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S. At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along. Randi’s Web and Social Links Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/ Resources and Links Join the latest Weekend Wam Up Coaching Session, it’s free! Just go to: https://mastermindparenting.com/weekend/ Book your FREE Solutions Session live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/ Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

A struggling parent of a strong-willed child seeks to define good parenting but finds themselves in a dilemma where they must choose between pushing their child too hard or letting them miss out on essential learning experiences. Listen and learn the secrets to raising strong-willed kids and helping them grow into successful, independent adults. This episode of the Mastermind Parenting podcast with Randi Rubenstein is about strong-willed kids. A good parent means striving to be better by learning and growing, and it often takes a difficult, strong-willed kid to push us to take the time to do that. A good parent also understands there is no such thing as perfection, and that strong-willed kids are like a tough personal trainer, pushing us to break the cycle and create the dream family we have always wanted. In this episode, you will learn the following: Is there a roadmap to being a good parent? How can you tell when you're making the right decisions as a parent? What does it mean to be a "cycle breaker" and how can you strive to be one? As always, thanks for listening, and be sure and head over to Facebook and you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community, where we post tips and tools and do pop up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it! About Randi Rubenstein Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays. She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S. At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along. Randi’s Web and Social Links Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/ Resources and Links Join the latest Weekend Wam Up Coaching Session, it’s free! Just go to: https://mastermindparenting.com/weekend/ Book your FREE Solutions Session live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/ Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

In this episode I challenge exhausted parents to take a break from setting New Year's resolutions, go ahead and take a nap, you have permission. I also guide you on how to focus on your goals and dreams and embrace the power of visualizing your "B-rated" movie for the upcoming year. Through this episode, I stress the importance of making time for ourselves and taking a break from the hustle. We have to give ourselves permission to take a nap, to blow off New Year's resolutions, and to focus on our own needs and goals. We can incorporate the concept of manifesting and incorporating a growth mindset when setting goals or intentions. We can even make a cheesy B-rated movie in our minds with us as the star and our kids as supporting characters to help us visualize our goals and dreams. "Give yourself permission to have a cheesy B rated movie going on in your brain that you're the star of and allow yourself to daydream and envision the person you want to become this year." In this episode, you will learn the following: How can you teach your children to be the best version of themselves without sacrificing your own needs and desires? What is the neuroscience behind manifesting and setting goals for yourself? Why is it important to take the time to envision and rehearse conflict in order to achieve your goals? As always, thanks for listening, and be sure and head over to Facebook and you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community, where we post tips and tools and do pop up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it! About Randi Rubenstein Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays. She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S. At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along. Randi’s Web and Social Links Website: https://mastermindparenting.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mastermindparenting Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mastermind_parenting/ Resources and Links Join the latest Weekend Wam Up Coaching Session, it’s free! Just go to: https://mastermindparenting.com/weekend/ Book your FREE Solutions Session live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/ Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting