225: #4 The Communication Wing in The Framework That Transforms Strong-Willed Kids

Today I introduce you to the “C” in the N.I.C.E. Framework, a roadmap to teach kids the skills they don't have to manage their nervous systems and to turn around difficult behaviors. “C” stands for Communication and it’s where we learn to communicate with our children in a language they can comprehend.

This N.I.C.E. Framework series teaches parents how to speak to strong-willed kids in order to help them stop living in a dysregulated state. During this episode, I discussed how it is important to communicate with our strong-willed, highly sensitive kids in a language they can understand, utilizing empathy and pack leadership. This style of communication allows us to assess basic needs, investigate behavior, and establish rules and boundaries without arguing or making excuses. It also involves actively listening and mirroring back what our kids say to show we believe them. Finally, if the same problematic behavior continues, we can establish a consequence in the E wing of the N.I.C.E. Framework. (Next episode, stay tuned!)

"When you learn how to communicate with our kids in this way, where we see their perspective and we really hear them. When we really listen to them, they feel heard and listened to, and then we can problem solve together."

In this episode, you will learn the following:

1. Uncovering why our kids are not doing well and how to effectively communicate with them in a productive way.

2. Understanding the 77% of communication that is nonverbal and the language our kids can truly comprehend.

3. Discovering how to establish rules, boundaries and teach new skills with a combination of empathy and pack leadership.

And much more!

As always, thanks for listening, and be sure and head over to Facebook and you can join my free group Mastermind Parenting Community, where we post tips and tools and do pop up Live conversations where I do extra teaching and coaching to support you in helping your strong-willed children so that they can FEEL better and DO better. If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it!

About Randi Rubenstein

Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.

She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.

At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.

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Resources and Links

• MiniMasters Self-Study Program for Parents of Strong-Willed Kids: https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters

• Take the "Is My Child Strong Willed Quiz,” it’s free! Just go to: https://mastermindparenting.com/do-you-have-a-strong-willed-child/

• Book your FREE Solutions Session live assessment: https://mastermindparenting.com/live-assessment/

• Join our Free Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/mastermindparenting

Other Episodes in the NICE Framework Series

• #1 NICE Framework Overview - https://mastermindparenting.com/222

• #2 Needs Wing of the NICE Framework - https://mastermindparenting.com/223

• #3 Investigate Wing of the NICE Framework - https://mastermindparenting.com/224