Feminist Wellness
Béa Victoria Albina
You weren't born anxious, depleted, and second-guessing yourself. You were taught to be.
The Feminist Wellness podcast is where nervous system science meets the truth nobody wants to say out loud: most of what you think is "self-care" is just performing wellness while your body stays stuck in survival mode.
Host Béa Victoria Albina - NP, life coach, and Somatic Experiencing Practitioner - breaks down the codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits that keep you trapped in what she calls Emotional Outsourcing™: constantly looking outside yourself for permission, validation, and proof that you're enough.
This isn't another show about bubble baths and boundaries. It's about understanding why your body says yes when you mean no, why rest feels impossible, and how to stop treating your own needs like an inconvenience.
If you're done white-knuckling your way through life, performing okayness while feeling like you're constantly failing some invisible test, this show will help you see what's actually happening - and what becomes possible when you stop abandoning yourself to please everyone else.
New episodes weekly. Start anywhere.
The Feminist Wellness podcast is where nervous system science meets the truth nobody wants to say out loud: most of what you think is "self-care" is just performing wellness while your body stays stuck in survival mode.
Host Béa Victoria Albina - NP, life coach, and Somatic Experiencing Practitioner - breaks down the codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits that keep you trapped in what she calls Emotional Outsourcing™: constantly looking outside yourself for permission, validation, and proof that you're enough.
This isn't another show about bubble baths and boundaries. It's about understanding why your body says yes when you mean no, why rest feels impossible, and how to stop treating your own needs like an inconvenience.
If you're done white-knuckling your way through life, performing okayness while feeling like you're constantly failing some invisible test, this show will help you see what's actually happening - and what becomes possible when you stop abandoning yourself to please everyone else.
New episodes weekly. Start anywhere.
Episodes
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Nov 9, 2023 • 41min
Ep #247: Functional Freeze (Part 2): Real-Life Stories of How It Came to Be This Way
#247: Last week, we began a vital conversation about the mixed nervous system state of functional freeze: what it looks like in practice and how commonly it shows up for those of us prone to emotional outsourcing. This week in part two, we're asking the question: how did it get this way? You'll hear multiple real-life examples from my own life and coaching work of experiences that lead to functional freeze. It's so easy to beat yourself up when you realize you're in the pattern, but functional freeze is a brilliant survival skill you learned in childhood. Hearing other people's experiences might help you see that there's nothing wrong with you, and help you understand how to change the pattern. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/247Mentioned in this episode:Join Anchored!If you’re ready to break away from anxiety and codependent relationships so you can live a life of joy and confidence, Anchored is for you. This is my 6-month high-touch, high-results coaching program, and we’re currently enrolling.
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Nov 2, 2023 • 45min
Ep #246: Functional Freeze (Part 1)
#246: This week, we’re taking a deep dive into a topic I can’t believe I haven’t already discussed on the show – the nervous system state of functional freeze. It’s part and parcel of the emotional outsourcing experience. So what does it mean and why do we find ourselves in it?Join me today to discover what the nervous system state of functional freeze entails, and why those of us with emotional outsourcing tendencies find ourselves chronically stuck in it. You’ll also hear how it can manifest both physically and psychologically, and make sure to tune back in next week to hear the remedies for getting to the other side of somatic self-disconnection.Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/246Mentioned in this episode:Join Anchored!If you’re ready to break away from anxiety and codependent relationships so you can live a life of joy and confidence, Anchored is for you. This is my 6-month high-touch, high-results coaching program, and we’re currently enrolling.
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Oct 26, 2023 • 37min
Ep #245: Why We Regret & How to Stop
#245: This week, I’m re-sharing one of my favorite episodes from the podcast archive all about how regret is self-abandonment. The regret cycle is one we lean on and keep choosing for understandable reasons, but it’s time to understand why and how we can drop it because the truth is regret is not the solution to the future you want.Hear why living in regret is a form of self-abandonment, and how it doesn’t save us from repeating old patterns. I’m highlighting why we think regret is protective, how regret prevents from you seeing the power you have in your own life, and of course, the remedies for healing and dropping regret so you can get to the other side.Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/245Mentioned in this episode:Join Anchored!If you’re ready to break away from anxiety and codependent relationships so you can live a life of joy and confidence, Anchored is for you. This is my 6-month high-touch, high-results coaching program, and we’re currently enrolling.
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Oct 19, 2023 • 47min
Ep #244: Polyvagal Theory: The Secret to Understanding Yourself
This podcast explores polyvagal theory and how it helps us understand our nervous system. It addresses the impact of stigma, shame, and blame on our patterns and habits. The importance of cultivating joy and love for personal and global healing is also discussed. The chapters cover topics such as states and regulation of the nervous system, the impact of past trauma, and the influence of our nervous system on thoughts and behaviors. Tools for regulating the mind and body are shared as well.
Oct 12, 2023 • 46min
Ep #243: Overfunctioning
#243: Do you struggle to set boundaries with the people in your life? Are you prone to prioritizing everyone else’s well-being first, often not even realizing you have needs of your own? Are you in constant hyperdrive mode, striving to do more and more, only to eventually burn yourself out?Join me today to learn where overfunctioning comes from and how it manifests in our lives. I’m showing you how it not only takes a toll on our relationships, but our physical, mental, and emotional health too, and my top tips for beginning to address your overfunctioning habit to lead a healthier, happier life.Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/243Mentioned in this episode:Join Anchored!If you’re ready to break away from anxiety and codependent relationships so you can live a life of joy and confidence, Anchored is for you. This is my 6-month high-touch, high-results coaching program, and we’re currently enrolling.
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Oct 5, 2023 • 33min
Ep #242: Feeling Your Feelings Somatically (Part 2)
#242: Last week, we talked all about feeling our feelings somatically and the myriad of reasons doing so can help us live richer, more fulfilling lives with more connection to ourselves and our loved ones. You heard in detail why we don’t feel our feelings, and in part two today, we’re exploring the how-to of feeling your feelings somatically.Tune in this week to discover how to begin feeling your feelings somatically. I’m showing you why practicing this creates capacity in your nervous system to feel the emotions you most want, what you’ll find if you allow and stay with difficult emotions, how to kitten-step your way to feeling your feels, and my top tips for supporting yourself through this process.Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/242Mentioned in this episode:Join Anchored!If you’re ready to break away from anxiety and codependent relationships so you can live a life of joy and confidence, Anchored is for you. This is my 6-month high-touch, high-results coaching program, and we’re currently enrolling.
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Sep 28, 2023 • 32min
Ep #241: Feeling Your Feelings Somatically (Part 1)
#241: “Feeling your feelings” is a term you may have seen all over social media, and it can be an incredibly supportive and loving thing to do. However, as we do here on Feminist Wellness, we also need to proceed with caution and care when it comes to addressing the emotions that live within us.Join me this week to discover why you may not habitually feel your feelings, the common fears that may arise about doing so, and how to gain a different way of relating to your emotions. I’m also diving into why we want to feel our feelings somatically, and what can improve in our lives when we do.Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/241Mentioned in this episode:Join Anchored!If you’re ready to break away from anxiety and codependent relationships so you can live a life of joy and confidence, Anchored is for you. This is my 6-month high-touch, high-results coaching program, and we’re currently enrolling.
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Sep 21, 2023 • 38min
Ep #240: Overexplaining
#240: Offering unnecessarily exhaustive explanations is a very smart coping mechanism we develop, usually in childhood. However, while overexplaining can provide short-term relief, it also reinforces the very emotional outsourcing cycles we’re trying to escape. Join me today to discover the common origin stories that lead to the habit of overexplaining, how it affects our nervous system, and what we can do to start breaking free from this cycle. I’m sharing some of the science behind why we feel the need to overexplain, the power of nurturing self-compassion in this work, and my favorite ways for practicing more concise, direct communication.Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/240Mentioned in this episode:Join Anchored!If you’re ready to break away from anxiety and codependent relationships so you can live a life of joy and confidence, Anchored is for you. This is my 6-month high-touch, high-results coaching program, and we’re currently enrolling.
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Sep 14, 2023 • 53min
Ep #239: Shame Work: The “Armor” of Emotional Outsourcing with Andrea Owen
#239: I’m speaking to coach, three-time best-selling author, and all-around badass Andrea Owen. Andrea helps smart, high-achieving women let go of five default behaviors that leave them feeling terrible so they can engage in better coping mechanisms around shame. She’s here to introduce us to the shame work she writes about in her book, How to Stop Feeling Like Sh*t.Join us as Andrea and I explore the wound of shame and how our emotional outsourcing behaviors act as an armor to help us avoid shame. She’s walking us through the different frameworks she uses to guide her clients through shame, and why approaching yourself with compassion and understanding is key to healing your wounds. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/239Mentioned in this episode:Join Anchored!If you’re ready to break away from anxiety and codependent relationships so you can live a life of joy and confidence, Anchored is for you. This is my 6-month high-touch, high-results coaching program, and we’re currently enrolling.
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Sep 7, 2023 • 35min
Ep #238: How to Be the Cake & Let Everyone Else Be the Icing
#238: We tend to look for other people to be the main attraction in our lives, to save us, and to be our cake. Tune in to learn the importance of embodying your own cakefulness, and how waiting for someone else to be your cake might be the root cause of your relational pain. You’ll hear why you are the main dessert, how to let everyone else be a delightful addition, and why your whole life can change in every possible way when you step into being the cake. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/238Mentioned in this episode:Join Anchored!If you’re ready to break away from anxiety and codependent relationships so you can live a life of joy and confidence, Anchored is for you. This is my 6-month high-touch, high-results coaching program, and we’re currently enrolling.
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