The Baggage Reclaim Sessions

In this episode, Natalie talks about how to start building your self-esteem, why you shouldn't get too hung up on your ex moving on before you or with someone you think is 'better', and why there's no need to tell someone you don't like them. This week's listener question is about whether we have a right to feel heartbroken over a relationship that never happened, plus Natalie shares what she learned this week. 100 Days of Baggage Reclaim book: www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/100daysbook Articles on Baggage Reclaim related to 'Why them and not me?' When you're afraid they'll become a better person in a better relationship, without you http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/what-keeps-you-up-a-night-pondering-whether-theyre-a-better-person-in-a-better-relationship-without-you/ He's with someone else – Why her and not me? http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/hes-with-someone-else-why-her-and-not-me/ 'Why him/her and not me?' Not everything is about us! http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/why-himher-and-not-me-not-everything-is-about-us Do you have a Replacement Mentality? http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/do-you-have-a-replacement-mentality The Replacement Mentality: But WHY did they go back to their toxic ex when they could have had me? http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/the-replacement-mentality-but-why-did-they-go-back-to-their-toxic-ex-when-they-could-have-had-me Don't Be The Bridge Between Someone's Old & New Relationship http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/dont-be-the-bridge-between-someones-old-new-relationship Return On Investment in Relationships http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/return-on-investment-in-relationships 'I Can Change Him' Syndrome/Fixer-Uppers http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/i-can-change-himher-syndrome-dont-tie-your-worth-to-trying-to-control-the-uncontrollable Betting On Potential – Are You Gambling On a Relationship Capacity That Doesn't Exist? http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/betting-on-potential-are-you-gambling-on-a-relationship-capacity-that-doesnt-exist Betting On Potential in Relationships http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/betting-on-potential-in-relationships Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In the latest episode of Why Did We Break Up?, Molly and Steven met in their late teens at the start of their careers and 14 years, 2 kids, marriage and a business that they had to declare bankruptcy on, Steven has announced that he needs some time out to be on his own and figure out who he is, only to rent himself an apartment and begin a series of flings followed by two girlfriends. Feeling rejected, replaced, and rather confused about what is going on, Natalie helps Molly see what is really going so that she can grab her freedom and build her life on her own terms. Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about finding making new friends daunting and shares tips for being more open to it, plus she shares 10 questions for discerning whether your partner is emotionally available, and shares a couple of comments from listeners about what they learned from holidaying on their own, something she talked about in episode 42. This week's listener question is about how to broach the subject of taking things slowly with sex, and Natalie shares what she's learned this week. You can download the, Is Your Partner Emotionally Available? questions at www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/46-download The episode about recognising your own availability is www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/28 Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In the latest episode of Why Did We Break Up?, Katie is still reeling after ending a 21-month affair with a married man who doesn't seem to grasp why him not leaving his wife is a deal-breaker. Natalie helps Katie make the link between this affair, the breakdown of her marriage and earlier experiences in life so that she can use the pain of the fallout of this relationship as a vehicle for huge growth and healing. The blog post that Natalie refers to in the episode about being the favourite child (or wanting to be) influences our disposition to be involved in an affair http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/being-the-favourite-child-or-wanting-to-be-influences-our-disposition-to-involved-in-an-affair/ Also, the post on there's no such thing as an honest cheat http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/theres-no-such-thing-as-an-honest-cheat-and-other-thoughts-on-cheating/ And another on why affairs are like being double-crossed in a heist http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/why-affairs-are-like-being-double-crossed-in-a-heist/ Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about the unnecessary apologising and backtracking habit, how getting your stuff in order can help you to clear out mentally and emotionally, and the importance of feeling all your feelings. This week's listener question is about what to do about somebody who hogs the conversation leaving you to be a 'good listener', plus Natalie shares what she learned this week. The picture of stuff that I bagged up from the corner of my dining room and the comments https://www.instagram.com/p/BJH-LQVB909/?taken-by=natlue Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

It's the year 2000 and Steve and Danielle meet via mutual friends at a club in London. She's fresh out of a relationship with someone she calls "cold" and "emotionally abusive" and he feels as if he's over his ex who left him abruptly during a vulnerable time a few years back. He feels protective of and curious about this woman who he deems "out of his league". Sixteen years, two daughters and a marriage later and they're now divorced. Steve is taking the blame for why Danielle ended the relationship and has proceeded to date other men right under his nose. It's time to answer his question: Why Did We Break Up? Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about going on holiday/vacation on your own and shares stories and tips from her own adventure. Plus, she shares ten tips for conflict resolution when you're in a relationship, and explains why it's never the people who are actually bad at their job that have Imposter Syndrome. This week's listener question is about how to break the cycle of casual relationships when you're ready for something more serious, plus Natalie shares what she learned this week. From the conflict resolution segment: What's the baggage behind it? www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/2 Get Out of Stuck Guide (for working on beliefs) http://store.baggagereclaim.co.uk/product/get-out-of-stuck-ebook-and-worksheet-pack/ Be notified about when The Breakthrough is open for enrollment http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/the-breakthrough Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this special edition of the show, which also marks the one-year anniversary, Natalie introduces the new offshoot, Why Did We Break Up?, where she explores one breakup in depth and answers the question of why they broke up. This episode features Yasmine and Russell, two thirty-somethings who 'met' online and arranged to meet up really quickly, only for her to be very turned off by what she saw. Despite her awkwardness and making her excuses, she agreed to keep their arrangement to meet up the following day as she felt a mix of pity and curiosity. Two months of 'friendly' meetups and they slept together, and BOOM, it was the beginning of the end. The Instagram of me recording in the closet: https://instagram.com/p/BJSXemDhNfA Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about why a relationship needs to have purpose and direction if you want it to grow (or for you to feel happy), how to deal with narcissistic co-workers, family and partners, and the importance of redirecting the energy that you use to make you unworthy. This week's listener question is about what to do when you disapprove of your friend's choice in a partner and their impending hasty wedding plans and Natalie shared what she learned this week about dimming her light. Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about resistance to taking time off and fear of using holiday allowance, trying to make every relationship fly by being in love or seeing a future with every date and partner, and why we shouldn't get too carried away by 'graduation goggles'. This week's listener question is about distinguishing between ego and boundaries and Natalie shares what she learned this week about managing expectations. What's the baggage behind it? is at www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/2 Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership