The Baggage Reclaim Sessions

This week, Natalie explains why decluttering exes and dates from your phone makes good relationship and emotional business, talks about the problem with family secrets, and revisits "You complete me". This week's listener question is about plus-one etiquette and Natalie shares what she's learned this week. The Huff Post piece by Jennifer Aniston http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/for-the-record_us_57855586e4b03fc3ee4e626f My post on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/baggagereclaim/posts/10154221634428950 Episode 2 where I talked about "You complete me" http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/2 Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about pretending to like something when we don't as a means of fitting in or to come across as more appealing to a potential mate. She also explains the 7 types of tricky family and why she's been getting a bit twitchy about turning 39 in a few weeks. Episode 25 about birthdays is http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/25 My cousin's B&B http://www.therunawayjamaica.com Soulful PR https://janetmurray.co.uk That time when I got very stressy at conference http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/lessons-from-a-short-lived-comparison-binge And the keynote that resulted https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LdKIUrAi9ao  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie follows up ep. 33 (baggagereclaim.co.uk/33) where she talked about personality and character not being the same by exploring one of the subjects within this--why someone being charming as their dominant trait can pose certain types of problem. In the second segment, she explains the importance of identifying your money story if you find that you get triggered about money or are experiencing a recurring theme. You can grab the Unsent Letter Guide at baggagereclaim.co.uk/downloads In the third segment, she explains why even when someone can do something, it doesn't mean that they have to. This week's listener question is about what to do when you're single and your loved ones keep prying into your love life.  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In episode 33, Natalie talks about the importance of distinguishing between personality and character, why some of us are over-responsible' and how we can start to address it, and why we don't need to keep trying to make somebody see something from our perspective or keep trying to make them explain or apologise. This week's listener question is about what to do when a one-night stand followed by some fun dates peters out but you've developed feelings, plus Natalie shares what she's learned this week. Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In episode 32, Natalie talks about gratitude and why shifting the focus of what you think about can have a big impact on your day plus she explains deal-breakers and why we all need to have some things that no matter how much attraction or feelings that we have for someone, that would cause us to opt-out. She also talks about how to know what you're responsible for and helps Prue distinguish between expectations and boundaries in this week's listener question. She also shares what she learned this week. I made a mistake at the end of the episode and the link to the 30-day project, Embrace Healthy Boundaries course is http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/happyboundaries Use the code PODCAST to get 30% off the course. Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In episode 31 of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, Natalie explains why procrastinating isn't about laziness, talks about the myriad of emotions you experience when an absent/estranged parent is ill, and why some so-called mutual agreements really aren't mutual. This week's listener question is about reclaiming your dignity after sex on an early date doesn't turn into a relationship and Natalie shares what she's learned this week about fear of change. The book Get Things Done by Robert Kelsey http://amzn.to/1ZF7Qwl that I mention in the first segment about procrastination.  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In episode 30, Natalie dedicates the show to answering listener questions. Can I stand up to my disrespectful colleague? This listener was told to "shut up" by someone who she thought was a friend and they did it in front of everyone too. 
 Should I send a 'keep me in mind for the future' letter to my ex? Her widower workaholic long-distance boyfriend has broken it off to date a woman closer to home and her therapist has suggested that due to the circumstances, that she should send him a letter telling him to get in touch if his situation changes. 
  I can't get a job and I feel like a failure in comparison to my 'successful' siblings. This is one of those situations that really exemplifies the vicious cycle of a self-fulfilling prophecy. Living with her dysfunctional family who patronise and insult her plus going out with a 'successful' younger guy plus 'successful' siblings plus her friends having jobs is convincing her that she has every reason to think that she's a failure.  Do I think too much? A comment that she's heard too often from past partners, this listener is starting to question the aspects of her that she prides herself on. Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In episode 29, Natalie talks about finding the middle ground between expecting people to be 'perfect' and not having standards and boundaries in your relationship. She also shares on her recent experiences with hypnotherapy and how that influenced her taking a break, plus she talks about people who are judgmental and critical but it can be difficult to put your finger on because they're also so 'nice'. This week's listener question is, 'How do I stop being piggy in the middle with my parents and my sister?', and Natalie shares what she's learned this week. The New Year episode that I refer to in the second segment (re some of the reasons for going to hypnotherapy) is www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/17 Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In episode 28, Natalie talks about life plans, emotional availability, and why it’s not fair when people shame us for not wanting to be friends or not being ready to move on just yet. This week’s listener question is about boundaries and ultimatums and Natalie shares what she’s learned this week about ‘overreacting’. In the first part of the show, Natalie builds on episode 27 where she shared what she learned about her need for a life plan and explores why we might not have one and includes suggestions for increasing awareness of our priorities. Download Creating Your Personal Life Plan by Michael Hyatt http://bit.ly/mhlifeplan The backstory to me thinking about life plans in episode 27 https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/27 More on ‘mise-en-place’http://n.pr/1ptmytV In the second part of the show, Natalie explains emotional unavailability and the key fears behind it as well as ten key questions for understanding your own availability. Download “10 Key Questions To Open Up Your Awareness About Your Emotional Availability” http://bit.ly/1pz2nv2 Check out this post: ‘Do you want to be with an emotionally available person? Be emotionally available YOURSELF’ http://bit.ly/1O2fHzy In the third part of the show, Natalie explains why it’s not fair when people shame us for not wanting to be friends [after a breakup] or for not being over something yet. This week’s listener wants to know where to draw the line with setting boundaries and issuing ultimatums. Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In episode 27 of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, Natalie talks about No Contact and Low Contact at work, fear of failure and why she’s glad she stopped looking for what she used to look for. This week’s listener wants to know if the guys she’s dating are “too emotional” and Natalie shares what she learned about drifting and the need for at least a little bit of life planning. In the first part of the show, Natalie gives a brief overview of No Contact and Low Contact and shares her own experience which was part of the inspiration for her book, The No Contact Rule. She offers up 7 tips for navigating low contact at work which you can also download: http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/27download More about The No Contact Rule Book: http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/NC You can also download 10 Irrational Fears About No Contact: http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/27download In the second part of the show, Natalie explains how having a parent or key influencer who pushes you to the best and who tells you that failure isn’t an option, can instil a fear of failure that causes you to coast. Natalie includes questions for self-exploration and some perspective on ‘failing’. Download The Unsent Letter Guide: http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/downloads/ In the third part of the show, Natalie shares why she’s glad she stopped looking for mommy and daddy figures in her romantic partners because next week, she will be celebrating 10 years together with Em (her husband). This week’s listener has gone from being with emotionally unavailable men to working on her availability, to feeling uncomfortable when she meets guys who seem “too emotional” because they talk and share their feelings. She keeps meeting guy after guy like this and wonders what’s ‘normal’. In What I Learned This Week, Natalie is thinking about life plans after she listened to Amy Porterfield’s business podcast (link: http://bit.ly/21mUmVs) and the interviewee Michael Hyatt’s sage advice on how we drift into chaos really resonated with her.  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership