The Baggage Reclaim Sessions

In this episode, Natalie talks about why so many people feel so triggered during these fraught times, shares tips for calming anxiety about family arrangements during the holiday season, and explains why we have to be careful of being over-committed to goals. This week's listener question is, How do I forgive myself for being the rebound and the booty call? and Natalie shares what she learned this week. Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

Why Did We Break Up? is back! In this episode, Hannah felt guilty about having fallen for her engaged co-worker and living a lie, so she broke it off with her boyfriend of four years. Her co-worker, Joe, didn't follow suit and so began four months of deep pain, lies and confusion which culminated in her ending it when she found out that he was going on holiday with the fiancé he claimed to no longer love. Feeling strung along, lied to and betrayed, she wants to know, Why did we break up? Links mentioned in the show About activation http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/activation-when-someone-or-something-activates-old-issues/ and http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/intensity-isnt-the-same-as-intimacy/ About being over-responsible Episode 33 and http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/giving-up-the-role-of-being-over-responsible plus http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/advice-wednesday-i-tried-to-rescue-him-from-his-unfair-open-relationship-he-went-back-to-her Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about why expecting people to be mind readers is damaging to our self-esteem and our relationships, why people being shady or not meeting our expectations is not about our inadequacies but teaching us lessons on how some people are, and the importance of giving up small satisfaction today for greater satisfaction in future. This week's listener question is about whether they were wrong to be so honest about their past relationships with a partner who judged them for it, plus Natalie shares what she learned this week. Have you heard about my monthly membership program for people who are committed to breaking patterns and being consistent with self-care so that they enjoy more love, care, trust and respect? Each month has a different topic focus and features a bumper deep dive video class along with audio, worksheets, mini ebooks and more. Find out more about joining at: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/reclaimer-membership Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about the things that we need to consider if we're going to sext with a stranger, plus she talks about the importance of distinguishing between the experiencing and remembering self, and what to do when someone ignores you and then makes out that it's you who's ignoring them. This week's listener question is about whether her boyfriend living with another woman and raising a family with her is normal and whether her discomfort is "stupid", and Natalie shares what she's learned this week. Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about the things we need to consider when we opt to take a break from our relationship, what intimacy is and five key habits that are a block to it, and how we avoid answering a question by replacing it with something else. This week's listener question is about how do we deal with people who clearly feel superior, and Natalie shares what she's learned this week. Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about preferences versus programming, why driving is a metaphor for life and the importance of noticing what's going on around you so that you can broaden your perspective. This week's listener question is about when to recognise that reflection after a breakup has become rumination, plus Natalie shares what she's learned this week. Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about being motivated to move in with a partner for financial or practical reasons or because you're trialling out whether you want to commit to that person. Plus, Nat talks about why it's not a good idea to seek admiration, approval and validation, and why we don't need to advertise our insecurities and old hurt. This week's listener question is about whether it's wrong to give up on falling in love again or whether loved ones are wrong for pressuring about being in a relationship in the future, and Natalie shares what she learned this week. If We Give Up On Love, We Give Up On Ourselves http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/if-we-give-up-on-love-we-give-up-on-ourselves/ Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

Dive into the complexities of breakups as Natalie reveals key lessons learned from past relationships. Discover how unhealed pain influences choices and the perils of superficial connections. Learn why relationships thrive on equality and how relying on a partner for happiness can lead to codependency. The discussion also covers the importance of genuine intimacy and the dangers of rushing into new relationships. Embracing these insights can empower personal growth and healing in your own love life.

In this episode, Natalie shares tips for ensuring that you don't undervalue you when it comes to salary or charging the right rate/price with clients, knowing when to fold, and means 'mean' goals versus end goals. This week's listener dilemma is about how to deal with shady friendships and Natalie shares what she's learned this week. Links from the show The Vicious Cycle of Undervaluing Yourself http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/the-vicious-cycle-of-undervaluing-yourself/ Knowing When To Fold http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/knowing-when-to-fold The Justifying Zone http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/the-justifying-zone Betting On Potential—Are you gambling on a relationship capacity that doesn't exist? http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/betting-on-potential-are-you-gambling-on-a-relationship-capacity-that-doesnt-exist/ The Blinkest app (note, I am not affiliated with Blinkist in any way) A couple of posts about boundaries and friendship http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/we-have-to-let-our-friendships-evolve/ and http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/when-you-experience-conflict-in-your-friendships-because-of-new-boundaries/ Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In the latest episode of Why Did We Break Up?, Sandy and Rick got off to a flying start after being introduced via a mutual friend. They saw each other a few times a week, seemed to thoroughly enjoy each other's company, and were making plans for future dates. Then Rick received some bad news one night and asked to hang out with Sandy. While there, he got way friskier than she was comfortable with, so she slowed things down only for him to leave rather abruptly. They spoke again a couple of days later and then poof, he was gone. Sensitive to the fact that he was going through a rough time, she called him a few more times but he never returned her calls. You might want to check out my posts on ghosting and u-turns: What's the Craic With Ghosting? (And no, it's NOT the same as No Contact!) http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/whats-the-craic-with-ghosting-and-no-its-not-the-same-as-no-contact/ We Need To Talk About: 'Ghosting' In The Early Stages of Dating http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/ghosting-in-the-early-stages-of-dating/ Recovering from somebody doing a U-turn on their feelings or proclaimed intentions http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/recovering-from-somebody-doing-a-u-turn-on-their-feelings-or-proclaimed-intentions/ I also talked about ghosting in episode 20 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/20 Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership