The Baggage Reclaim Sessions

So many people who have a frustrating pattern are unaware that they’re driven by negative and contradictory associations with love, relationships, success and being more of who they really are. In this episode, Natalie talks about why fear of sacrifice, loss and being trapped are so prevalent in our experiences.  Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

Did you know that three days before Natalie met Em, she broke it off with a guy that she’d been dating for three weeks? She would have finished it sooner had she not doubted herself and listened to well-meaning friends who told her that she was being “hasty” and “picky”. In this episode, Natalie talks about why loved ones give bad advice and why we don’t have to go along with it to spare their feelings.  Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

A challenge that often presents itself while dating is the struggle to stay hopeful and grounded while pursuing our need or desire for a relationship. Natalie talks about the key sources of anxiety and why, ultimately, 'efforting' isn't going to control (or change) the time frame or what prospective partners do so we might as well get on with the business of being us and living. Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

Does someone really need to do the equivalent of giving us a one-star review by going out of their way to make us aware of their dislike of us? Do we need to let our ex know that we’re “over” them? Why did they put themselves on Tinder right after they made plans to move or be away for some time? What’s the craic with people doing us wrong and then saying “It hurts me more than (or as much as) it hurts you”? And why are we saying that it’s wrong that the relationship with the person who didn’t treat us very well has ended? These are just some of the things that make Natalie (and others) go hmmm.  Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

Are you feeling typecast by your experiences and pattern? A role is a job or function that we take on within our interpersonal relationships in order to ‘be good’ and ‘help out’… even if what we’re doing is harmful instead of helpful. In this episode, Natalie breaks down why we play particular roles including sharing 60+ examples and why roles, ultimately, sabotage intimacy as well as our potential and purpose.  Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

When you go on dates or are in a relationship, who is it that shows up? Is it you, the whole you and nothing but you? Or, is it your representative, the persona you send out that’s a glossier or more watered-down version of you that you think does the best job of selling you as future partner or spouse material? Natalie talks about the perils of letting your 'dating and relationship self' overshadow the real you.  Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

What do you do when you feel as if you’ve failed at something? Shame you? Shrink into yourself and isolate? Pick you apart in an attempt to figure out what’s wrong with you? Turn your failure into a secret that you need to cart around in your emotional baggage? Natalie shares why she won't be doing any of these things and uses a recent experience and its parallels with dating and relationships to reframe disappointment, rejection and loss.  Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

Natalie explores our reluctance to so much as tidy our emotional baggage and shares a quick exercise that highlights where we can make space for more of the things we want to be, do and have.  Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

Is it something you said? Is it something you did? Is it because you weren't patient/perfect/sexy/whatever enough? Nope! They're unavailable. In this week's episode, Natalie delves into the ten key signs that someone is emotionally unavailable including blowing hot and cold, excuses about timing, actions and words not matching, and it being on their terms.  Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

In this week's episode, Natalie explains the 5 stages of relationships and how you can use these to recognise whether you are experiencing the intimacy you need in order to take the relationship in the direction you want to go.  Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership