Parenting The Adlerian Way

Psychologist Dr Vanessa Lapointe discusses the recent stats on the negative effects of social media on our youth’s mental health. We also discuss the film “The Cost Of Beauty” - a 3 minute heart-wrencher of a documentary about a mother and daughter ‘s journey of how social media created a deadly eating disorder. Dr Lapointe discusses Dove’s Self Esteem Project and their latest project to encourage parents to petition for changes to the Kids Online Safety Act to put youth mental health ahead of profits. You can find the movie, The Cost of Beauty, and the petition form, youth mental health hubs here:  https://www.dove.com/ca/en/stories/campaigns/kids-online-safety.htmlDownload the confidence kit here:  https://www.dove.com/ca/en/dove-self-esteem-project/help-for-parents.htmlMore about Dr Vanessa LaPointe here:  https://drvanessalapointe.comIf you like my podcast Parenting The Adlerian Way – please like, share and write a review! Also, check out The Daily Adler e-newsletter and podcast so you can get inspirational personal development in your inbox daily! https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/daily-adler/id1671211692https://dailyadler.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sue Groner is a certified Positive Discipline parent educator and the author of “Parenting with Sanity & Joy: 101 Simple Strategies”, as well as creator of the CLEARR™ method of parenting. In this episode, Sue talks about her parenting model and also gives very clear examples for screen time, school lunches, clean rooms, healthy eating and more.  Parents can visit her website to receive 5 tips for Parenting with Sanity and Joy – Now!  Her Podcast is The Parenting Mentor Sessions Podcast (anywhere you get your podcasts). Her book “Parenting with Sanity & Joy: 101 Simple Strategies”.And, here’s where you can find Sue: https://theparentingmentor.com https://www.instagram.com/theparentingmentor/ https://www.tiktok.com/@theparentingmentor https://twitter.com/ParentMentoringhttps://www.facebook.com/theparentingmentor1https://www.linkedin.com/in/susan-g-groner-09aa395/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Q1. Daughter talks like a “mean girl” to her sister. Will she talk to everyone like that? In this episode I also discuss a common parenting trend I see: The gridlock between parent and teen as the parent says “why should I do something nice for you when you are being so rude and irresponsible” and the child is thinking “why would I want to be nice and co-operate with you when you are so mean to me?”. I also shared some great ways for parents to get more involved and learn more about Adlerian parenting ideas. Here are the links: NASAP (North American Society of Adlerian Psychology) annual conference June 1-4 in Denver, CO. Check out The Parent TrackICASSI (International Committee of Adlerian Summer Schools and Institutes) in Dublin, Ireland. I am attending the first week July 30th to Aug 5th, but there is also the second week Aug 6th – 12th. You can do one or the other or BOTH! The Daily Adler e-newsletter and The Daily Adler Podcast (hosted by my brother Jeff Knight). If you have a question for me, email me at alyson@alysonschafer.com Check out more free parenting advice on my blog at www.alysonschafer.com Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive a free “Home Responsibilities by Age” checklist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

As a childhood survivor of cancer, Dr Kelly Fradin grew up to become a pediatrician dedicated to helping children with complex medical conditions. She has been helping parents navigate the challenges that arise once you get a diagnosis for a child. We talk about how to find good information and support, about how this impacts the marriage and siblings, how to find the joy on the journey and much more. Even if you aren’t parenting a child with a diagnosis, we can all learn how to be a better community for those who need us too. You can order the book here: You can follow Dr Fradin’s parenting advice on IG @AdviceIGiveMyFriendsDr Fradin’s website https://adviceigivemyfriends.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Parenting often targets the Mom demographic and their needs and wants, leaving us to assume Dads don’t engage enough. Turns out, Dads just want to engage differently! My guests Dave Drazen and Dr Brian Lewis are two Dads who have conducted a lot of research to learn about that difference so that Dads who want to step up their parenting get the support they need the way in they want it delivered.  From this episode: North American Society of Adlerian Psychology (NASAP) and its annual conference is here. Parent Encouragement Program (PEP) hereDr Brian Lewis on FB hereDave Drazen is on social media @daviddrazen Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Q1. 7yr old daughter with anxiety has explosive fits when things don’t go as she’d like.  Q2. When to start talking about sexual consent and how? Is 11 too young? Q3. 16 yr old son embroiled in a power struggle who refuses to communicate about the need to work together instead of living like he’s in a boarding house.Q4. 5 yr old triplets and a 2 yr old sibling. One refuses to own responsibility for mistakes and blames others, one is quirky and hoards things in her bed and the room is chaos. And the 2 yr old refuses to eat what is served so dinner is a 1.5 hour ordeal. If you have a question for me – email me at alyson@alysonschafer.com Check out more free parenting advice on my blog at www.alysonschafer.com Sign up for The Daily Adler to get a hit of Adlerian inspo and learning in your inbox https://dailyadler.comSign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive a free “Home Responsibilities by Age” checklist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Ben Rader and I discuss the concept of “chosen family”. It turns out that almost everybody has a chosen family if they take a moment to consider the idea. Ben helps us understand the important role a chosen family provides in creating social belonging as well as important opportunities it provides to either perpetuate or change the roles we play in our most important relationships. Check out Dr Rader’s community at www.MASLCommunity.org Check out the Color of Child Welfare conference we discussed here: https://www.eventleaf.com/e/COCW2023 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

With a thirteen percent increase in drug deaths last year, it seemed fitting to talk to skateboard prodigy Brandon Turner, who overcame his own struggles with addiction and run-ins with the law. We’ll hear his journey to sobriety and how that led him to create a new rehab center that provides skateboard programs (and other types of programs as well) to create a safe, healthy, and healing community for teen skateboarders and beyond.  Learn more at:https://healthyliferecovery.com Social media: IG @healthyliferecoveryinc and @bturner_FB https://www.facebook.com/healthyliferecoveryinc LI https://www.linkedin.com/in/brandon-turner-b35089100 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Q1. How to help a tween adapt to our moving to a new town and high school? Q2. 7yr old daughter refuses medicine for her cold. Q3. 6 yr old son is being aggressive and defiant at school.Q4. How do we parent proactively around prevention of addiction?If you have a question for me, email me at alyson@alysonschafer.com Check out more free parenting advice on my blog at www.alysonschafer.com Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive a free “Home Responsibilities by Age” checklist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I sat down with Jim White, a coach and founder of The Family Enrichment Academy to talk about his latest book “How To Be The Parent Your Teenager Needs You To Be”.Jim explains the importance of building connection with your teen and how to set the stage to do so. He also talked to me about empowering our teens by intentionally choosing a “love-based mindset”, which he explains. One of his main takeaways for parents is to recognize that all “bad” or unwanted behaviour by teenagers is actually a call to connect. He recommends making the shift from trying to control what your teenager does to empowering them to be their absolute best. Download Jim’s free resource for listeners, “10 questions you should never ask your teenager and the 10 questions you should be asking”, at https://www.familyenrichmentacademy.com/questions Website: https://www.familyenrichmentacademy.com/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC5KxKx0WQAwmz5qKh5sapGA Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.