Parenting The Adlerian Way

Q1. 7yr old daughter with anxiety has explosive fits when things don’t go as she’d like.  Q2. When to start talking about sexual consent and how? Is 11 too young? Q3. 16 yr old son embroiled in a power struggle who refuses to communicate about the need to work together instead of living like he’s in a boarding house.Q4. 5 yr old triplets and a 2 yr old sibling. One refuses to own responsibility for mistakes and blames others, one is quirky and hoards things in her bed and the room is chaos. And the 2 yr old refuses to eat what is served so dinner is a 1.5 hour ordeal. If you have a question for me – email me at alyson@alysonschafer.com Check out more free parenting advice on my blog at www.alysonschafer.com Sign up for The Daily Adler to get a hit of Adlerian inspo and learning in your inbox https://dailyadler.comSign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive a free “Home Responsibilities by Age” checklist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Ben Rader and I discuss the concept of “chosen family”. It turns out that almost everybody has a chosen family if they take a moment to consider the idea. Ben helps us understand the important role a chosen family provides in creating social belonging as well as important opportunities it provides to either perpetuate or change the roles we play in our most important relationships. Check out Dr Rader’s community at www.MASLCommunity.org Check out the Color of Child Welfare conference we discussed here: https://www.eventleaf.com/e/COCW2023 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

With a thirteen percent increase in drug deaths last year, it seemed fitting to talk to skateboard prodigy Brandon Turner, who overcame his own struggles with addiction and run-ins with the law. We’ll hear his journey to sobriety and how that led him to create a new rehab center that provides skateboard programs (and other types of programs as well) to create a safe, healthy, and healing community for teen skateboarders and beyond.  Learn more at:https://healthyliferecovery.com Social media: IG @healthyliferecoveryinc and @bturner_FB https://www.facebook.com/healthyliferecoveryinc LI https://www.linkedin.com/in/brandon-turner-b35089100 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Q1. How to help a tween adapt to our moving to a new town and high school? Q2. 7yr old daughter refuses medicine for her cold. Q3. 6 yr old son is being aggressive and defiant at school.Q4. How do we parent proactively around prevention of addiction?If you have a question for me, email me at alyson@alysonschafer.com Check out more free parenting advice on my blog at www.alysonschafer.com Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive a free “Home Responsibilities by Age” checklist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I sat down with Jim White, a coach and founder of The Family Enrichment Academy to talk about his latest book “How To Be The Parent Your Teenager Needs You To Be”.Jim explains the importance of building connection with your teen and how to set the stage to do so. He also talked to me about empowering our teens by intentionally choosing a “love-based mindset”, which he explains. One of his main takeaways for parents is to recognize that all “bad” or unwanted behaviour by teenagers is actually a call to connect. He recommends making the shift from trying to control what your teenager does to empowering them to be their absolute best. Download Jim’s free resource for listeners, “10 questions you should never ask your teenager and the 10 questions you should be asking”, at https://www.familyenrichmentacademy.com/questions Website: https://www.familyenrichmentacademy.com/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC5KxKx0WQAwmz5qKh5sapGA Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Adlerian therapist, Dr Sara Saeedi works with youth in a counselling centre in British Columbia. She shares research findings and insights into the “good, the bad and the ugly” of social media and how it’s usage can hurt self-esteem or grow social interest and belonging. She offers tips for parents to help manage the content and amount of social media usage. Follow Dr Saeedi here:FB https://www.facebook.com/drsarapsychology/IG & TikTok @drsarapsychology Check out ICASSI - the Adlerian summer school – coming up in Ireland in 2023.https://www.icassi.net Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Q1. 7yr old boy is very impatient and screams about small stuff.  Q2. 16yr old girl feels judged by other girls and flees unless friends are with her.Q3. 15 yr old boy won’t listen to parents about getting more sleep. If you have a question for me, email me at alyson@alysonschafer.com Check out more free parenting advice on my blog at www.alysonschafer.com Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive a free “Home Responsibilities by Age” checklist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr Vanderloo is the Scientific Director for ParticipACTION and Dr Tremblay is the President of Active Healthy Kids Global Alliance, and the Chief Science Officer for the ParticipACTION Report Card. In this episode we talk about the recent report called the Global Matrix 4.0 and how poorly Canadian children are doing compared to other countries when it comes to initiatives to keep our kids physically active. We discussed the impacts of the pandemic, both good and bad, as well as actionable tips every family should be taking to get our kids MOVING!To learn more, check out these links: ParticipACTIONInstagram (English) Instagram (French)  TikTokFacebook  Twitter (English) Twitter (French)  LinkedInYouTube Active Healthy Kids https://www.activehealthykids.org/4-0/ https://www.participaction.com/the-science/children-and-youth-report-card/ https://twitter.com/activehealthyk1 https://www.facebook.com/ActiveHealthyKidsCanada https://www.linkedin.com/company/ahkga/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When we raise our children, we bring our whole selves to the job. But for most of us there are unresolved wounds and hurts from our childhood that can negatively impact our children. In this episode, Sophia Barna and I discuss the self-responsibility of self-care to heal our wounds, and how to love unconditionally.  Find Sophia here:www.crossingyourbridges.caFacebookYouTubeAnd check out, or purchase, her book at: "The Simple Way: A Graceful Path to Success"  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Q1. Should I force my 11 yr old to include their 7 yr old twin siblings in their playdates? Q2. 7yr old grade 2 (who was a premature December baby) wants to see his report card which indicates he is “progressing with difficulty” in all subjects. Do I show him?Q3. Should I pay someone to be a friend for my 14yr old son with Asperger’s who has no friends?Q4. My 7 and 10yr olds make their lunch but still prefer to take the offerings from the fridge in the classroom meant for kids who can’t afford to bring one. If you have a question for me – email me at alyson@alysonschafer.com Check out more free parenting advice on my blog at www.alysonschafer.com Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive a free “Home Responsibilities by Age” checklist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.