ADHD Scapegoat Podcast

Are you searching for the "just right" parenting approach for your ADHD child? In this insightful episode of the ADHD Scapegoat Podcast, hosts Angie and Jeremy explore "The Goldilocks Guide to ADHD Parenting," spotlighting why the authoritative parenting style is uniquely beneficial for children with ADHD.Discover the crucial differences between authoritative, authoritarian, and permissive parenting and learn how the authoritative approach—balancing high expectations with warm, loving support—fosters emotional regulation, increases cooperation, and boosts self-esteem in ADHD kids.If you're a parent looking for effective strategies to support your ADHD child, reduce frustration, and build a stronger, more respectful relationship, this episode is packed with actionable advice and understanding.

Ever wondered what it's really like to be a kid with ADHD? In this incredibly special and insightful episode of the ADHD Scapegoat Podcast, host Angie sits down with her 11-year-old son, Wyatt, for an open and honest conversation about his experience living with ADHD.Recorded on Wyatt's 11th birthday, this episode offers a rare and valuable glimpse into the world of a child navigating ADHD.This heartwarming and eye-opening discussion emphasizes the importance of listening to children, validating their experiences, normalizing ADHD within the home, and providing the support they need. It's a powerful reminder for parents, educators, and anyone supporting a child with ADHD to foster open communication and help kids own their ADHD as a unique strength.

Navigating the journey of raising ADHD kids? Angie and Jeremy share practical, experience-based strategies drawn from nearly 11 years of parenting their own ADHD children and insights from leading ADHD expert Dr. Russell Barkley.In this episode, we dive deep into understanding ADHD beyond the outdated "behavior problem" label, recognizing it as a brain-based neurological difference impacting executive functions. Learn Dr. Barkley's 3 core actions for parents: stop trying to change your child, mitigate executive function impairments, and expect mistakes.This episode emphasizes approaching your ADHD child with curiosity and compassion, understanding their struggles, and celebrating their progress. Whether you're newly navigating an ADHD diagnosis or looking for fresh perspectives, find validation and helpful tips here.

Are you an ADHDer known for being brutally honest? Do you often feel like your truth-telling gets misinterpreted or used against you, especially within your family?In this deep-dive discussion, we explore why honesty is such a defining trait for many with ADHD and how this intersects with the painful experience of being the family scapegoat. Discover how ADHD impulsivity, lack of filter, and justice sensitivity can lead to blunt communication that gets labeled as rude or inappropriate within toxic family systems.We unpack 5 key scenarios where honesty becomes complex for the ADHD scapegoat:1. Honesty vs. "Too Honest": Understanding ADHD impulsivity and why filtering thoughts is so difficult.2. Trust Issues: The struggle to trust after being scapegoated and gaslit, and how ADHDers often take people at face value.3. Manipulation Tactics: How narcissists and toxic families move goalposts and exploit your honesty.4. Believing IN vs. Believing Someone: The danger of blind trust vs. earned trust and recognizing patterns over words.5. Niceness vs. Kindness: Why societal pressure to be "nice" (compliant) clashes with the true kindness of honesty and accountability, especially for ADHDers starved for connection.

Discover why organizing can feel impossible when you have an ADHD brain, affected by past trauma. Learn practical decluttering strategies like the "One-Touch Rule" to tackle the overload. Dive into the emotional side, recognizing toxic relationships and the importance of setting boundaries. Gain insights into evaluating which connections lift you up versus drain your energy. Let go of guilt and understand when to prioritize your mental health by walking away from harmful dynamics. Experience growth through the transformative power of decluttering your spaces and relationships.

Ever felt like you were born to be the 'problem' child? That the narrative about you was set before you could even understand it? In this deeply personal and validating episode of the ADHD Scapegoat Podcast, hosts Angie and Jeremy explore the painful reality of being scapegoated from birth within a toxic or narcissistic family system, especially when undiagnosed ADHD is part of the picture.Discover how insidious messages – overt statements like "you were a mistake," or more subtle insinuations and actions veiled by plausible deniability – shape a child's self-perception from the very beginning. This episode delves into:🧠 The damaging impact of early scapegoating messages on a developing child.🎯 How undiagnosed ADHD makes individuals easier targets in dysfunctional families.🛡️ The coping mechanisms scapegoats often adopt: masking, people-pleasing, and internalizing blame.📊 Understanding Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) and taking the ACEs questionnaire (shared live in the episode).❤️‍🩹 Exploring the concept of "trauma imprints" and how the body holds onto past experiences, even during healing.🤝 The profound power of safe relationships and validation in overcoming trauma responses.💡 The "waking up" process: recognizing the lies, connecting the dots (ADHD, scapegoating, trauma), and pushing back against the toxic dynamic.🚧 Why toxic families often resist the scapegoat's healing and try to undermine their progress.🗝️ Strategies for reclaiming your identity and power: education, setting boundaries, self-compassion, and connecting with supportive people.Whether you identify as an ADHD scapegoat, suspect you were the family scapegoat, or want to better understand this complex dynamic, this episode offers powerful insights, validation, and encouragement on the path to breaking free and healing.

Unlock the ADHD scapegoat's ultimate superpower: self-awareness! In this revealing episode of the ADHD Scapegoat Podcast, hosts Angie and Jeremy dive deep into the complex journey of personal growth after an ADHD diagnosis.Ever feel like understanding your ADHD has led to massive improvements in your friendships, work life, and romantic relationships, only to hit a brick wall with your family of origin? You're not alone. Angie shares her personal story of how gaining self-awareness transformed her life positively in most areas, yet simultaneously highlighted and even exacerbated the toxic dynamics within her family system.Discover why the very growth and healing that empowers you can feel like a threat to families rooted in unhealthy patterns, especially those with narcissistic traits or where scapegoating is prevalent. We explore the painful confusion that arises when the people who should be your biggest supporters resist your progress and attempt to pull you back into old, damaging roles.If you have ADHD and have ever felt like the "problem" in your family, or if your personal growth journey has created unexpected family friction, this episode offers validation, insight, and practical steps towards healing and reclaiming your power.

From Misunderstandings to Unbreakable Bond: An ADHD & Anxiety Relationship StoryEver feel like you and your partner are speaking different languages? 🤔 Angie and Jeremy from the ADHD Scapegoat Podcast share their raw and honest journey through the ups and downs of navigating a relationship where ADHD and anxiety collide.This episode is a deeply personal exploration of how they overcame communication barriers, broke free from old patterns, and built a relationship grounded in empathy, understanding, and unwavering support.(00:00:00) Intro: ADHD & Anxiety in Relationships - A Personal Journey(00:00:57) Building a Friendship Before Dating: A Foundation of Trust(00:02:31) Deep Conversations & Unmasking ADHD and Anxiety(00:03:54) The Interplay of ADHD and Anxiety in Relationships(00:12:31) The Anxious Partner's Perspective: Needing Control and Predictability(00:15:41) The ADHD Partner's Perspective: Long Term Strategies for the ADHD Couple(00:20:16) Managing Emotional Intensity & Dysregulation(00:25:51) Active Listening & Creating Safe Spaces for Communication(00:30:47) The Importance of Mutual Support & Validation(00:35:53) Creating Clear Expectations & Agreements(00:40:57) Key Elements of A Successful PartnershipGet ready to:Recognize common challenges in ADHD/anxiety relationships.*Gain practical tips and strategies for improving communication.*Challenge your assumptions about your partner's behaviors.*Develop greater empathy and compassion.Discover the power of celebrating neurodiversity.If you're ready to transform your relationship and create a stronger connection with your partner, this episode is a must-watch!

From Scapegoat to Self-Acceptance: One Woman's Journey with Late-Diagnosed ADHD and Childhood TraumaJoin Angie from the ADHD Scapegoat Podcast as she shares her powerful and relatable story of navigating life undiagnosed with ADHD, the challenges of family scapegoating, and the hard-won path to healing and reclaiming her authentic self.If you've ever felt like the "black sheep" of your family, struggled with feeling misunderstood, or are on a journey to understand your own ADHD, this episode is for you. Angie's story is a testament to the power of self-acceptance, resilience, and finding your authentic voice.

Ever feel like you're "too much" because of your ADHD? 🗣️💥 In this episode of the ADHD Scapegoat Podcast, Angie dives deep into the complex relationship between ADHD and communication. It's not always easy being an ADHD truth-teller!Angie unpacks the challenges of excessive talking, navigating social cues, and the sting of Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) when you're just trying to be yourself. She also explores the incredible power of justice sensitivity in the ADHD brain and how to channel that passion for good.Ready to reclaim your voice and understand your ADHD brain? Watch the full episode for a deep dive, share your experiences in the comments, and let's build a supportive community together!