If you struggle with self-sabotage and want to learn how to lean into pleasure and recover from perfectionism, this convo is for you! Katherine Schafler and I discuss, how to stop punishing oneself, the difficulty of feeling joy, pleasure and selfishness, the culture's treatment of women's pleasure, selfishness and attending to oneself, the illusion of balance, guilt and shame, understanding your values, and different kinds of help. In this conversation, we discuss the concept of asking for help and the different types of help that are available. We discuss how help is not just about emotional vulnerability but also includes community help and tangible assistance. TakeawaysAsking for help is not limited to emotional vulnerability but can also involve seeking community help and tangible assistance.It is important to understand what kind of help would be most useful in a given situation.Help can come in various forms, and it doesn't have to be a big, life-changing event.Sometimes, help can be as simple as a friend sending dumb memesIf you are interested in therapy or learning more about my practice, Therapy for Women Center, visit www.therapyforwomencenter.com. We currently serve 20+ states virtually and have three physical office locations in the Philadelphia area.I would love to connect with you, reach out to me on instagram and TikTok @therapyforwomen. To suggest a topic, buy my books, please visit www.amandaewhite.com.CALL INTO THE SHOW TO GET YOUR Qs ANSWERED: 813-444-8683Katherine Morgan Schafler, LMHC, is a psychotherapist, writer and speaker based in New York City. She is the author of "The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control." Formerly an on-site therapist at Google, she earned her degrees and training at UC Berkeley and Columbia University, with post-graduate certification from the Association for Spirituality and Psychotherapy. 

If you struggle with shame and are trying not to pass it on to your children, this is the episode for you! This week I chat with therapist, Maggie Nick LCSW about her experience as a "good girl" the shame that came with that and how this led her on a quest to reparent herself and teach other parents how to break the cycle with their children. In this episode we share about our own shame experiences, how this led to addictions and our eventual recovery and what you can do as a parent to heal your stuff so you don't pass it on. This episode is packed with info but also vulnerability and laughs. Enjoy. If you like the podcast, please consider leaving a review, it helps so much! To get your question answered, or suggest a topic, please call into the podcast: 813-444-8683If you are interested in therapy or learning more about with Amanda's therapy practice, Therapy for Women Center, visit www.therapyforwomencenter.com. We currently serve 20+ states virtually and have three physical office locations in the Philadelphia area. For our children's therapy services, visit www.therapyforkidscenter.comBuy my books "Not Drinking Tonight" and the workbook version at www.amandaewhite.com or anywhere books are sold! Follow me on Instagram and Tiktok @therapyforwomenMaggie Nick, LCSW is a Trauma Therapist, Inner Critic Expert and Thought Leader in a healing low self-worth. She’s in Recovery from all that comes with being a “Good Kid” —perfectionism, people pleasing, feeling not good enough, feeling like a burden, and Binge Eating Disorder. Maggie helps you to understand yourself on a profound and healing level so you can be the parent you needed to your Inner Child AND your actual child (if you’re a parent). She’s the Founder of Parenting With Perspectacles, a parenting AND reparenting framework to support parents of toddlers to teens in finding their way through the hardest, most impossible moments of parenting by providing them with the tools to help both their child AND their inner child feel seen and loved. Maggie's also the Co-Founder of The Parenting With Trauma Project and The Estrangement Project. You can find her on Instagram and TikTok at @maggiewithperspectacles and @parentingwithperspectacles.

Taylor Swift is TIME Magazine's person of the year and I (obviously) have a lot of thoughts! I discuss the lessons I think we can learn from Taylor in her impressive career and how I (and she) thinks she is having a breakthrough moment in being able to realize what is important and not worry about what others think of her. This is a pretty vulnerable podcast for me where I share my recent struggles as someone who has a podcast, a moderately successful instagram, business which comes with a lot of feedback. I discuss how I have been working through a next level of my people pleasing and how I have been managing being someone who is sensitive but also chronically online and my tips for you. This leads me to an article in the Wall Street Journal that came out about Dave Hollis and how in many ways his hyperfocus on the critics led to his untimely death and some of the lessons I think we can learn from him. In the last 10 minutes of the episode, I share my best tips and insight into how you can work through people pleasing if you are someone that struggles with it, including some homework so you can practice. I hope this episode was helpful and as always I would love to hear your thoughts! Message or tag me on social media @therapyforwomen Links: https://time.com/6342806/person-of-the-year-2023-taylor-swift/https://www.wsj.com/style/dave-rachel-hollis-disney-1ffac082If you are interested in therapy or learning more about my practice, Therapy for Women Center, visit www.therapyforwomencenter.com. We currently serve 20+ states virtually and have three physical office locations in the Philadelphia area.I would love to connect with you, reach out to me on instagram and TikTok @therapyforwomen. To suggest a topic, buy my books, please visit www.amandaewhite.com.CALL INTO THE SHOW TO GET YOUR Qs ANSWERED: 813-444-8683

Are you an introvert dealing with overwhelm during the holidays? Well, I am back for part 2 of the holiday survival guide! In this episode I answer all your questions! Specifically, I get into three listener questions: 1. How to deal with people asking you invasive questions during the holidays (especially in her case around being single). 2. How to deal with being introverted when you have a large family and have to go to events that are loud and rowdy. 3. How to decide whether you should break your sober streak to drink during the holidays. Tune to hear my in depth answers to all these questions!As always if you want your questions answered, call: 813-444-8683If you are interested in therapy or learning more about my practice, Therapy for Women Center, visit www.therapyforwomencenter.com. We currently serve 27 states virtually and have three physical office locations in the Philadelphia area. We also have a new practice Therapy for Kids, located in Pennsylvania. Learn more at www.therapyforkidscenter.com I would love to connect with you, reach out to me on instagram and TikTok @therapyforwomen. To suggest a topic, buy my books, please visit www.amandaewhite.com.

Now that we are officially in the holiday season, I figured I would give you all my best holiday tips! In this jam-packed episode, I discuss holiday loneliness (how it is more common that you realize and what to do about), how to decide if you should go to an event or gathering or skip it, how to cope if you do decide to go, ways to change the topic or cope when you are spending time with people you hate, how to set boundaries during the holidays, practice self care and more! Join me next week for part 2 where I will answer your questions!To submit a question call 813-444-8683If you are interested in therapy or learning more about my practice, Therapy for Women Center, visit www.therapyforwomencenter.com. We currently serve 27 states virtually and have three physical office locations in the Philadelphia area. Also if you are looking for therapy for your child, check out www.therapyforkidscenter.com I would love to connect with you, reach out to me on instagram and TikTok @therapyforwomen. To suggest a topic, buy my books, please visit www.amandaewhite.com.

Feeling grief over Matthew Perry's death? Me too! Many of you wrote in and asked me about this. So, today I chat all about why we (especially Millennials) love FRIENDS so much (hint, it is kind of one of the last shows that captured 90s nostalgia even well into 2004 when it ended), why we bond with movie, TV, book and other characters, the psychological research and hidden benefits of parasocial relationships, in addition to the drawbacks of them. I end the show by answering two listener's questions, one about feeling stupid for mourning Matthew Perry's death and in the other, I answer "how bad is it to fall asleep watching TV?" If you don't care about Matthew Perry or FRIENDS, skip to minute 9 of the podcast. If you are interested in therapy or learning more about my practice, Therapy for Women Center, visit www.therapyforwomencenter.com. We currently serve 27 states virtually and have three physical office locations in the Philadelphia area.I would love to connect with you, reach out to me on instagram and TikTok @therapyforwomen. CALL INTO THE SHOW TO GET YOUR Qs ANSWERED: 813-444-8683Works Cited: https://amp.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2023/oct/30/why-do-so-many-people-still-love-friends-because-it-reminds-them-of-a-time-when-life-was-still-funhttps://www.msnbc.com/opinion/msnbc-opinion/matthew-perry-died-54-friends-legacy-never-will-rcna122896?fbclid=PAAaZjE4qsmjv8TOzyy2uWcO5Rm3DbnpRGq9vhAU8eFfMDUIQE6EBA7YqQwqE_aem_AffkhJHgo5flZbH1GO5jPQmbxbnQJ0knhWH0piExM1ckwJzZH8hzp2II_VdP5UFL5AEhttps://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S2352250X22000082?via%3Dihub

The new Britney Spears memoir is out and I invite back fellow therapist Sam Dalton to breakdown our thoughts. We discuss the intergenerational trauma that we observe as therapists and how it extends a few generations in this case and how that impacts individuals later. We discuss how the media picked Britney apart and often called her stupid or crazy and we discuss her behavior through the lens of trauma, fame, exploitation and sexism. We discuss people pleasing, motherhood and so much more in this podcast. If you are looking for a deeper look into the mental health aspects of Britney Spears and her memoir, this is the episode for you!If you are interested in therapy or learning more about my practice, Therapy for Women Center, visit www.therapyforwomencenter.com. We currently serve 27 states virtually and have three physical office locations in the Philadelphia area.I would love to connect with you, reach out to me on instagram and TikTok @therapyforwomen.CALL INTO THE SHOW TO GET YOUR Qs ANSWERED: 813-444-8683

Can't stop listening to 1989 Taylor's Version? Me either! I chat all about the mental health aspects of this new album, specifically the bonus tracks with fellow therapist and Swiftie, Sam Dalton, LCSW. Sam and I discuss our general thoughts about 1989 and why we think it is such a powerful album, our reactions to the song Slut!, and why Say Don't Go is for all of us with anxious attachment. We also use the songs to discuss friendship breakups, wanting emotionally unavailable people and so much more! For more Taylor Swift content, join my patreon www.patreon.com/recoveredish or call in so I can answer your questions! 813-444-8683We would love to hear from you! Tag is on social media @therapyforwomen or Sam's handle is @sam.the.therapisttIf you are interested in therapy or learning more about my practice, Therapy for Women Center, visit www.therapyforwomencenter.com. We currently serve 27 states virtually and have three physical office locations in the Philadelphia area.I would love to connect with you, reach out to me on instagram and TikTok @therapyforwomen. To suggest a topic, buy my books, please visit www.amandaewhite.com.CALL INTO THE SHOW TO GET YOUR Qs ANSWERED: 813-444-8683Resources mentioned: Every Single Album Podcast

Nora McInerny, author and podcaster, talks about grief and coping with difficult things in life. They discuss the trend of grieving publicly on TikTok, the importance of bearing witness to pain, supporting loved ones going through difficult times, and the significance of empathy and authentic conversations. Nora's personal experiences with grief, trauma, and rebuilding their life are also shared.

WTF does processing your emotions actually mean? Today I am breaking it all down. I start by explaining how emotions were formed as part of our evolutionary process, what meta emotions are, how judging your emotions prevents you from processing them and what the new research about emotions tells us. I then walk you through step by step EXACTLY how to process your emotions starting at 13 minutes into the episode. I go over my signature 6 step technique I call NAILER: Notice, Allow, Investigate, Label, Explore & Release and explain how you can do this in your life. I then end by answering a listener’s question about how she keeps judging herself for how she feels and how she can cultivate more compassion and how you can too. I hope this is a helpful episode that is a resource you can revisit as needed!To get your questions answered, call in to the podcast 813-444-8683. For bonus episodes and to support the show, join my patreon www.patreon.com/recoveredishIf you are interested in therapy or learning more about with my therapy practice, visit www.therapyforwomencenter.com. We currently serve 27 states virtually and have three physical office locations in the Philadelphia area. Works Cited: My book "Not Drinking Tonight" has a whole chapter on this and the workbook does as well with exercises. You can buy it on amazon or anywhere books are sold. "How Emotions are Made" by Lisa Feldman Barrett