HeightsCast: Forming Men Fully Alive

If we've decided against smart phones for our kids, can dumb phones come to the rescue? New options for families have hit the tech market, offering few or select features, and giving parents new things to consider when it comes to kids and phones in 2025. Headmaster Alvaro de Vicente offers a framework for thinking about smart phones, dumb phones, and feature phones in a culture still weighed down by anxiety and distraction. Chapters: 4:04 Deciding when 5:17 Phones as tools 10:05 The dumb phone: what problem is it solving? 16:11 The feature phone: constant connection 17:30 Healthy friendship 22:03 An age of distraction, even offline 23:44 The need for silence 26:29 School policies 27:14 Family policies Links: School Phone Bans Alone Do Not Improve Grades or Wellbeing, The Guardian, February 5, 2025 Apple Just Reinvented Its Biggest App, The Atlantic, September 14, 2016 The Anxious Generation: The Great Rewiring of Childhood by Jonathan Haidt Only the Lover Sings: Art and Contemplation by Josef Pieper Featured opportunities: Parents' Conference: Passing the Faith On to the Next Generation at The Heights School (April 12, 2025) link coming soon Also on the Forum: Technology in the Home: Perspective, Principles, and Practices by Michael Moynihan Forming iGen: On the Forces that Shaped Them featuring Alvaro de Vicente When Is Your Son Ready for a Smart Phone? featuring Alvaro de Vicente Smart Phones: Why Wait When He's "the Only One" featuring Joe Cardenas On Freedom and Phones featuring Alvaro de Vicente Reconsidering Electronics under the Tree featuring Alvaro de Vicente

"It is an atmosphere we breathe in, rather than an argument we consider." Thus wrote T. S. Eliot about the very idea of happiness Americans have adopted for their own. When raising sons in modern America, we should understand what cultural air they—and we—are breathing. Is that "pursuit of happiness" keeping our hearts and minds restless? In their book, Why We Are Restless, Dr. Benjamin Storey and his wife Dr. Jenna Silber Storey explore the inheritance of American-style happiness: where did it come from? Who has wrestled with it before? And how should we really engage with it? Ben Storey sits down with us to discuss this week on HeightsCast. Chapters: 00:08:44 Montaigne's recipe for happiness 00:15:16 "Immanent contentment": now is enough 00:17:19 Pascal's reach for God 00:20:11 Rousseau's earthly transcendence 00:29:09 The American Dream 00:33:45 Democracy and restlessness 00:39:38 The highs and lows of infinite possibility 00:45:02 Advice for high school seniors 00:49:30 Advice for parents Links: Why We Are Restless: On the Modern Quest for Contentment by Benjamin Storey and Jenna Silber Storey Also on the Forum: ChatGPT Holds These Truths to Be Self-Evident by Mark Grannis The Importance of History, Part I featuring Dr. Matthew Spalding

At our 2024 Teaching Conference, Dr. John Cuddeback of Christendom College unpacked what boys need from their fathers and teachers in order to grow into the men they truly desire to be. And what boys desire, he argues, comes from their God-given nature: one that resonates with fatherhood, moral character, and the ability to speak truth. Chapters: 6:21 Today's rejection of masculinity 10:11 Education: formation of right appetites 15:33 What they enjoy and what pains them 18:52 What boys should desire 21:26 To be fathers 29:15 To be men of character 31:33 To articulate the truth 33:32 How we educate: by example 36:16 By curating influences 37:57 By great art 42:49 By direct articulation, in friendship Links: LifeCraft, John Cuddeback's website featuring free courses, videos, and articles True Friendship: Where Virtue Becomes Happiness by John Cuddeback The Intentional Household Podcast hosted by John and Sofia Cuddeback Also on the Forum: Made in the Image and Likeness: On Man and Masculinity featuring Bishop Erik Varden Friendship for Fathers featuring John Cuddeback The Man Fully Alive: On Our Vision featuring Alvaro de Vicente

Colin Gleason, Head of the Heights Lower School and soccer coach, discusses the art of listening in parenting and education. He emphasizes that effective communication fosters relationships rather than just delivering information. Gleason warns against over-supervision which stifles genuine expression in boys. He shares strategies for nurturing emotional growth and highlights the importance of meaningful conversations. The discussion encourages parents to create safe spaces for their sons to express themselves freely and build trust.

In this episode, our guest (an AP U.S. History teacher) and our host (an AP Government teacher) delve into the worthy American most likely missing from your U.S. history or government class. Orestes Brownson was a nineteenth-century political thinker who wrote about the American project through his unique lens as a post-Civil War American-Catholic. He was well known in his time but is often only featured in the footnotes for the Election of 1840, the Transcendental Movement, and the Emancipation Proclamation. Brownson's essays, though, belong in the classroom. They seek to answer with optimism and insightful reflection: what is this country all about? For what did our sons die in this great Civil War? Chapters: 4:20 Why read Brownson? 10:11 A religious and political wanderer 14:01 Arrives at the Catholic Church 17:00 Magnus opus: The American Republic 21:57 "Territorial democracy" 27:44 History as human experience 28:51 Territorial democracy and American Union 32:31 Missteps of democracy 36:54 Brownson's vision: "Freedom of each with advantage to the other" 37:41 Yet history repeats itself 41:47 America's role in the story of history 44:55 "Unwritten constitution" 49:36 The task of the modern teacher 54:24 One's development of ideas over time Links: The American Republic by Orestes Brownson "Democratic Principle" by Orestes Brownson Orestes Brownson Symposium hosted by the American Family Project "Catholic Lives: Orestes Brownson, the American Newman" on Controversies in Church History Featured opportunities: On Faith and Beauty in Churches talk by Joe Cardenas at The Heights School (February 1, 2025) Series for Heights Fathers: Accompanying Our Sons as They Grow in Understanding of Human Sexuality at The Heights School (Thursdays in February 2025) Parents' Conference: Freedom and Addiction at The Heights School (April 12, 2025) link coming soon Teaching Men's Conference at The Heights School (October 2025) link coming soon Also on the Forum: ChatGPT Holds These Truths to Be Self-Evident by Mark Grannis The Importance of Ugly History by Mark Grannis Keeping the Story in History by Mark Grannis Seeing History: On Using Images in the History Classroom by Kyle Blackmer Patriotism and Piety: Honoring Founders and Fathers featuring Matthew Mehan

All the first universities were—St. Thomas Aquinas would tell us—Catholic ones. But in this modern day, it takes intentionality to maintain the rich tradition of Catholic education. In a talk recorded for HeightsCast, Dr. Peter Kilpatrick, president of The Catholic University of America, spoke to families at The Heights about what it means to be a Catholic university. He first consults the experts: Thomas Aquinas, John Henry Newman, John Paul the Great, and Pope Benedict XVI. He then offers examples from his own career in school leadership, and how to put the exhortations of popes and saints into action on campus. Chapters: 6:14 Universities: a Catholic inheritance 8:06 Newman and Aquinas on universities 11:58 Papal directives for Catholic universities 15:56 Theodrama vs. egodrama 19:16 Getting these ideas on campus 19:36 Mission-enthusiastic faculty 21:26 Mission-integrated curricula 24:12 Counseling with a Christian anthropology 25:01 Teaching a professional call to holiness 26:21 Campus ministry 28:15 The distinctive value of Catholic education 31:10 Q1: Technology and the next 50 years 36:13 Q2: College affordability and value Links: The Idea of a University by St. John Henry Newman Ex Corde Ecclesiae by Pope St. John Paul II Regensburg Address on Faith, Reason, and the University by Pope Benedict XVI "The Real Cost of College Education—for Students, Families, and the Nation" by Jamie Merisotis Superhabits: The Universal System for a Successful Life by Andrew Abela Hannah's Children: The Women Quietly Defying the Birth Dearth by Catherine Pakaluk Also on the Forum: Receiving Beauty: A Liberal Arts Education featuring Dr. George Harne Considerations for the College-Bound Student featuring Dr. Peter Kilpatrick The Idea of the Liberal Arts University, Part I featuring Dr. Thomas Hibbs Rethinking College: Why go? How? When? featuring Arthur Brooks

Advent invites us to reflect on our Christian disposition, oriented towards peace, hope, joy, and love. St. Josemaría Escrivá was known to summarize that disposition by calling it, simply… "simple." In The Way, he praises the apostles and St. Joseph for imitating Jesus himself in being simple. And then he exhorts us: "May you not lack simplicity." Heights faculty Joe Cardenas and Nate Gadiano join us this week to explore the Christian meaning of "simplicity," beginning with the ways that God is simple: unified, sincere, essential, and wholly true. As we strive to reflect his example, how do we find that interior disposition of simplicity? And how can we help our boys find it too? Chapters: 3:07 A Catholic sense of simplicity 10:13 Moving beyond "minimalism" 18:38 Simplicity in Scripture 20:43 Social simplicity 24:12 As opposed to duplicity 26:08 How spiritual direction simplifies you 30:36 A unity of purpose 32:39 Distinct from feelings-based "honesty" 39:02 Helping our boys as parents, mentors 41:41 A boy's insecurity, overcome by trust 47:38 Secure in divine filiation Links: The Way, Furrow, and The Forge by St. Josemaría Escrivá Also on the Forum: The Virtues Playlist on The Heights Forum

"The air of Narnia had been working upon him … and all his old battles came back to him, and his arms and fingers remembered their old skill. He was King Edmund once more." In this week's wide-ranging discussion, Dr. Jason Baxter talks about fellow Medievalist C. S. Lewis's ideas of story and history—and how those ideas matter for the education and formation of a thoroughly modern people. What can today's "classical revival movements" learn from Lewis? Chapters: 3:56 C. S. Lewis's library 6:31 His theory of stories: mining ancient jewels 14:49 His theory of history: a post-Christian world 17:14 Modern man's trouble with pre-modern texts 20:09 Embracing modernity and tradition 25:45 Making virtue attractive 33:49 How to "teach" a passion 42:45 Why a new translation of Dante 49:51 Wounded by beauty Links: jasonmbaxter.com featuring articles and lectures Beauty Matters, Substack for Jason Baxter The Medieval Mind of C. S. Lewis: How Great Books Shaped a Great Mind by Jason Baxter The Divine Comedy: Inferno translated by Jason Baxter Center for Beauty and Culture at Benedictine College Also on the Forum: A Doctor, a Lawyer, and a Cop Walk into a Boys School, episode two of Heights Forum Faculty Podcast What Fiction Is For featuring Joe Breslin Inferno or Paradiso? On Introducing Students to the Divine Comedy featuring Jason Baxter

In this episode we feature a lecture from Heights Lower School Head, Colin Gleason, at the last Art of Teaching conference. In the talk, Colin explores the concept of "unanxious leadership" in the classroom, emphasizing the importance of teachers maintaining a calm, grounded presence. He explains that anxiety often arises when teachers feel they are in constant conflict with students or struggling to control the classroom. Colin encourages teachers to adopt a mindset of humility and vulnerability, rather than relying on rigid authority or defensiveness, which fosters trust and respect. By focusing on building genuine relationships and being a "storyteller" rather than an "actor," teachers can create a classroom where students feel seen, valued, and understood. Colin also stresses the importance of fairness in discipline. He warns against using authority as a tool for domination and suggests a "double correction" strategy—addressing conflicts with two students by fairly acknowledging the role each one played in the dispute. He emphasizes that fairness, empathy, and thoughtful reflection can help reduce anxiety for both teachers and students. Colin believes that teachers must trust that students are genuinely trying to do their best, even in difficult moments, and that recognizing this effort is key to fostering a positive classroom environment. Finally, Colin highlights the value of informal, outside-the-classroom interactions in building strong teacher-student relationships. By spending time with students outside of lessons—whether through casual conversations or attending their extracurricular activities—teachers show that they care about their students as individuals. This personal investment creates a sense of connection that enhances both academic and personal growth. Ultimately, Colin argues that an "unanxious classroom" is shaped by teachers who lead with humility, compassion, and a focus on positive relationships, transforming both the teaching experience and the overall learning environment.

How do we justify reading? Do we justify reading? Heights fifth grade teacher and published fiction author Joe Breslin chases away such questions. Though fiction can have utility, even moral impact—fiction at its best is an art created and received with wonder. In this fascinating conversation, Mr. Breslin reflects on writing, reading, and gets us to the heart of what it actually means to do something "for its own sake." Chapters: 3:50 Do we read for utility? 7:49 Fiction: pursued for its own sake 11:43 Whether fiction has a moral purpose 18:57 Fiction writing is not essay writing 23:03 Good art ends up reflecting God 26:09 Defining "good for its own sake" 28:23 The tension between education and encounter 34:04 A parent's role in sharing fiction 38:07 The human impulse for literature Links: Hearts Uncanny: Tales of the Unquiet Spirit by Joe Breslin Other Minds: 13 Tales of Wonder and Sorrow by Joe Breslin joeybreslinwrites.com Joe Breslin's author website "Ethics of Elfland" by G. K. Chesterton Leisure: The Basis of Culture Josef Pieper "The Loss of the Creature" by Walker Percy Men in the Making, Alvaro de Vicente's substack featuring original articles Featured Opportunities: What Should a Catholic University Be? at The Heights School (December 7, 2024) Also on the Forum: The Forum Book Reviews, many written by Joe Breslin