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This week, Kate has Jessie Bernhardt on the podcast to discuss influence in the time of social injustice. Not only the response of influencers and the responsibility of having a platform, but also the importance of factoring in our own influence in our daily lives. They discuss the disparity of the response relative to other Black Lives Matter efforts, the responsibility of influencers in combatting social injustice, the importance of sharing, elevating (and tagging!) Black creators, a couple of the influencer scandals, and overall how we can be more inclusive in the workplace and in our daily lives. Thanks to our sponsors: Go to HelloFresh.com/bethereinfive60 and use code bethereinfive60 to get $60 off your first three weeks, including free shipping on your first box. Get 25% off at LIQUIDIV.com and use code BETHEREINFIVE at checkout. Black-owned businesses advertised: http://www.dallasgritfitness.com https://jadeswim.com/ http://www.talulaskincare.com http://www.semicolonchi.com/ https://www.anesiabvideography.com

In this episode, Kate draws from a hat that contains topics listeners submitted as deep dive requests. Instead of going deep, she "snorkels" through each topic, spending 10-20 minutes on a mini dive for each. Topics include: Kelly Ripa/Jessica Seinfeld's feud, hangover anxiety, Hillsong church/tithing/prosperity gospel, things you did to get your crush's attention, Britney's gym, prom/homecoming pictures/dinner/themes, influencer PR gifting, Selling Sunset and more! Support our sponsors: bookofthemonth.com code BETHEREINFIVE for your first month's subscription for $9.99 nutrafol.com code BETHEREINFIVE for 20% off your order! Kate also lists off black-owned businesses submitted by listeners in the Facebook group: Davidson Wine Co. https://davidsonwineco.com/ Education with an Apron: https://educationwithanapron.com/ Latesha Lynch Design & Coaching: lateshalynch.com The Tiny Tassel Accessories: https://thetinytassel.com Chicago Birth Works: https://www.chicagobirthworks.com/ Pink Sugar Cupcakery: https://www.facebook.com/pinksugaraustin/ The Zen Succulent: https://thezensucculent.com/ Esthetic Haus: https://esthetichaus.com/ Black-Owned Independent Booksellers: Chicago: semicolonchi.com South Bend: brainlairbooks.com Maywood, IL: afriwarebooks.com Detroit: detroitbookcity.com DC: mahoganybooks.com Philly: unclebobbis.com Philly: hakimsbookstore.com Philly: harriettsbookshop.com Bay Area: ashaybythebay.com LA: esowonbookstore.com Bronx: thelitbar.com Brooklyn: cafelibrosbk.com Roxbury, MA: frugalbookstore.net Full document of resources: Educational Resources Google Doc

Comprehensive site of ways to help: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/# Chicago small business relief fund: https://www.formyblock.org/ Places to donate: George Floyd Memorial Fund: https://www.gofundme.com/f/georgefloyd Breonna Taylor Memorial Fund: FightForBreonna.org. Ahmaud Arbery Memorial Fund: https://www.gofundme.com/f/i-run-with-maud Black Visions Collective: https://www.blackvisionsmn.org/ Campaign Zero: https://www.joincampaignzero.org/ Minnesota Freedom Fund: https://minnesotafreedomfund.org/ Reclaim The Block: https://www.reclaimtheblock.org/home We Love Lake Street: https://www.welovelakestreet.com/ Communities United Against Police Brutality: https://www.cuapb.org/what_we_do Color of Change: https://colorofchange.org/ For more resources including movies, books, TV shows, etc. visit: bit.ly/ANTIRACISMRESOURCES Instagram accounts to follow: Instagram.com/mspackyetti Instagram.com/iamrachelricketts Instagram.com/rachel.cargle Instagram.com/austinchanning Instagram.com/thenorthbelleofthesouth Instagram.com/theconsciouskid Instagram.com/taymocha Instagram.com/currentlykherrington Instagram.com/laylafsaad

Go to helixsleep.com/bethereinfive for up to $200 off all mattresses! Seriously, she's going to talk about this for two more hours? Yes, yes she is. This is a deep dive, after all. The first podcast on the Call Her Daddy podcast drama was released before we had ever heard from Alex, and now we have twice, and things have changed. Kate brought you into this mess and now she feels responsible for seeing you out of it. There's a lot to unpack that unfolded over the past week among Alex's Youtube video, Dave's barstool update, Alex's first episode solo, her final offer, and the Scooter Braun of it all. Beyond that, Kate spends the latter portion of the episode talking about why all of this matters, specifically why what Alex told us about Sofia's relationship matters, and talks through more lessons learned as she's dissected this complicated situation. It's never a waste of time to deep dive if we can learn something from it, and this is a case study that represents relevant business, friendship, and relationship scenarios we all find ourselves in all the time that are worth diving into. Enjoy!

This week, Kate discusses the layers of a major story involving a wildly popular podcast, Call Her Daddy. In this episode, she first discusses the show's unprecedented success, theories on why the show is popular, and her perspective on when sexual rhetoric objectifies vs. empowers women. But, the discussion of their show's content is simply for musing's sake; more importantly, she wants to highlight that one of the issues with this story's coverage is that their show's subject matter is unfairly being used to devalue or invalidate their success. Throughout the podcast, she talks through different aspects of the story's progression, starting with explaining the existing business deal with Barstool, why their compensation is normal for the entertainment industry (but abnormal for the podcast world), and walks through how podcast networks operate by giving examples of the other financial scenarios that could have generated them a higher percentage of revenue, but not necessarily a comparable volume of audience. Kate also explores the importance of prioritizing your intellectual property, why that could've ultimately generated the bulk of their income, and also explores the confusing nature of media contracts that reward companies who give people their big break, despite living in a world where people can now give themselves their big break. But it begs the question, to what scale? To what level? How can you know when investing in talent what the future holds? Where does the value of the runway you were given end and where does the value of your merit begin? Beyond that, Kate talks about her experience staying private, owning IP, and basically doing the opposite of what they did, and why it's an example of what company resources can do for size and scale, and depends on what you want from something you create. Above all else, she talks through one of the lessons she's learned: money's important, but so are people, and how a respectful, realistic negotiation could've prevented the collapse of one of the wildest success stories that the podcast industry has ever witnessed. Enjoy! Follow Kate on instagram @bethereinfive Check out the list of listener's favorite episodes @bethereinfivepodcast Support our sponsor! Go to nutrafol.com and use code BETHEREINFIVE for 20% off!

Support our sponsors! 2 free months of unlimited access to thousands of classes at Skillshare.com/BETHEREINFIVE Your first month's book is just $9.99 with code BETHEREINFIVE at bookofthemonth.com! In the finale of this influencer-centric trilogy, Kate tells all. The first two were more based on influencer behavior during COVID-19, but this episode is more of a general discussion of Kate's thoughts toward the business of monetizing being a person. Based on listener questions, she reviews her thoughts on the influencer business model as a whole, breaks down the heyday of Pinterest and OG blogging, expresses concern for how the industry is talked about, the lack of credit given to women for what is essentially category creation, reviews theories on rules of thumb for Instagram pricing, discusses the podcasting business model, her own intentions in the realm of influence, experience with affiliate links, how influencers make money, and so much more! Enjoy.

In between the influencer series episodes, please enjoy this bonus intermission with one of BTI5 listeners' favorite guests: comedian, author, and host of the wildly successful pop culture podcast Everything Iconic - Danny Pellegrino! Kate and Danny catch up and talk all things Home Goods, candles, Rae Dunn, Bravo Shows, summer camp, quarantine entertainment, and much more. Enjoy!

Join Patreon for bonus episodes, powerpoint parties, and more at patreon.com/bethereinfive The charts, list of names of people you love, etc. will be up on the podcast's instagram page ASAP so be sure to check back! Follow Kate on instgram here. Support our sponsor! 25% off anything at liquidiv.com with promo code BETHEREINFIVE Kate dives into the results of a survey that over 1,000 listeners filled out about their expectations, preferences, and boundaries as it relates to influencer content during COVID-19. The good, the bad, the off-putting, and more importantly, the great! The first episode was an objective conversation with a reporter on influencer culture to discuss some of the scandals, this episode is all about listener feedback, and the third installment will be Kate's take on the art, science, and finance of influencing. Hope you don't mind she made this into a series since it's a hot topic and she's got the time.

SUPPORT OUR SPONSOR! Book of the Month is a curated book subscription that offers five new and early-release books to choose from each month. Your first month's book is just $9.99 with code BETHEREINFIVE at bookofthemonth.com! This week, Kate is joined by Stephanie McNeal (a deputy breaking news director from BuzzFeed who specializes in reporting on influencers & internet culture) to talk about all things influencers in the time of COVID-19. They discuss the importance of holding people accountable, complexities of influencing the public in a tense social climate, how influencers are shifting their tone, how they respond to missteps, the appropriateness of sponsored content, loop giveaways, the real breakout star (tie-dye sweatsuits) and more. Beyond that, they discuss influencers at the center of current or previous controversies like Arielle Charnas, Caroline Calloway, and Rachel Hollis, to name a few. Come back for part 2 when Kate reviews the results of a survey she did where over a thousand of you shared your perspective, expectations, and recommendations for influencers during a time when their voice (or lack thereof) has the ability to stand out more than ever. And best of all, she'll review who you think has approached this situation extremely well and what content you're loving in order to end this on a positive note by celebrating the many many influencers who have done a great job. If you're new to the podcast, go to @bethereinfive's Instagram for a new listener guide that points you to popular episodes and different topics you can choose from. Enjoy!

If you're in the mood for a deep talk about the inexplicable things that happen to us, this is the episode for you. Kate crowdsources and reads aloud listener stories of signs, spooky occurrences, coincidences, synchronicities, and examples of passed loved ones possibly communicating. With lots of philosophical discussions in between about life, death, religion, and spirituality, this is perhaps the deepest of dives yet. Sounds like a downer, but it's ultimately an uplifting reminder of how we never really part from what matters most and to always pay close attention. You never know who's reaching out :)