Be There in Five

This week, Kate muses aloud about several topics adjacent to studying abroad and crowdsources stories from fellow millennials' good, bad, and cringy "cultural" experiences. Recently an article went viral about a Gen Z'er not enjoying her time in Florence, and it got Kate thinking about her time trying to cosplay a more sophisticated, European version of herself that genuinely thought she came back a changed woman due to her collection of street pashmina and her ability to navigate the Eurrail train system. In hindsight, she ponders bigger themes like feeling ashamed of our interests, not realizing what about us was obviously "American" and realizing that we were embarrassing to other cultures, discusses the ridiculousness of the things we "loved" about Europe (long meals? open container laws?) but argues for there being a deeper layer of identifying with cultural elements of places that legitimately do prioritize quality of life in a different way. A classic, highly tangential, partially crowdsourced ep sharing both Kate and BTI5 listeners' perspectives. Enjoy! Get tickets to my April 2nd virtual show, Be There in Five Years, at moment.co/bethereinfive SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS Right now, Hungryroot is offering Be There In Five listeners 30% off your first delivery and free veggies for life. Just go to Hungryroot.com/BETHEREINFIVE, to get 30% off your first delivery and get your free veggies. Shop the new spring collection and receive 20% off your purchase with the code BETHEREINFIVE at marcfisherfootwear.com. And on April 3, for National Espadrille Day, you will get 30% off of select espadrilles! That's marcfisherfootwear.com, code BETHEREINFIVE. Spring into your most radiant skin yet with clean, vegan skincare and body care from OSEA. And get 10% off your first order sitewide with code BETHEREINFIVE at OSEAMalibu.com. You'll get free samples with every order, and free shipping on orders over $60. Exclusively for our listeners, Shady Rays is giving out their best deal of the season. Head to shadyrays.com/TangleFree with code: BETHEREINFIVE for 30% OFF their best-selling Tangle Free Aviator and much more.

Maj spoiler alert - this week, Kate recaps the Eras tour in Vegas (night 1) with her sister Kelly and college BFF Hannah. They may be half asleep, but they are wholly satisfied by an amazing show and wanted to share some of their hits, misses, fav moments, tips, and audience complaints. EnjoY! Get tickets to my April 2nd virtual show, Be There in Five Years, at moment.co/bethereinfive SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS Right now, BÉIS is offering our listeners 15% off your first purchase by visiting BEISTRAVEL.com/BETHEREINFIVE Visit Carawayhome.com/BETHEREINFIVE or use code BETHEREINFIVE at checkout. Caraway. Non-Toxic cookware made modern Grab your Liquid I.V. in bulk nationwide at Costco, or you can get 20% off when you go to LIQUID-IV.COM and use code BETHEREINFIVE at checkout Go to Zocdoc.com/BETHEREINFIVE and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Many are available within 24 hours.

This week, Kate watched M3gan and then was served content about AI making podcasters obsolete, so she tries to figure out if she should care about chatGPT and then competes with it to see who does a better job answering listener voicemails. A woman in STEM! This episode covers pressing listener questions, such as: -Popular girls who painted their nails in class, where are they now? Feat. an incredibly windy tangent about body spray/splash culture in locker rooms and 90s Herbal Essences commercials -How does she feel about farmfluencers Ballerina Farm and the controversy that they were super rich this whole time? -What happened to the recipe of sour brite crawlers? And how does that lead Kate to formally ranking off-brand store-bought chocolate milks and grocery chains, then go off on a tangent about how a lack of cultural identity makes people obsess over sports? -What does Kate think is the current 'monoculture,' and how does the speed of the news cycle and the volume of programming aid or prevent in having shared cultural reference points? Among other things. Enjoy! SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS Get free Chicken Nuggets for a Year and 10% off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/BETHEREINFIVE and use code BETHEREINFIVE. Get glasses that stay as fresh as your unique style with Pair. Go to paireyewear.com/BETHEREINFIVE for 15% off your first purchase. Great news—Ritual is offering my listeners 10% off during your first 3 months. Visit ritual.com/BETHEREINFIVE to start Ritual or add Essential for Women 18+ to your subscription today. Go to Zocdoc.com/BETHEREINFIVE and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Many are available within 24 hours.

This week, Kate shares her hopes and dreams for the Eras tour before it's spoiled this week, e.g., some thoughts she has on theme/structure/flow, her favorite F bombs she hopes to sing, plays a sampling of her setlist draft, and also shares insights from her snorkel into TS tour footwear over the years. She also makes a detailed plea for a YOYOK/Long Live finale, among other must-hear songs. Then, Kate interviews Sarah from the original TS style blog, Taylor Swift Style, and they discuss Taylor's street and red carpet style, stylists, iconic tour looks, tour predictions, outfit hits and misses, their "big 3" albums, and more. Kate also finds out Sarah went to a secret session and briefly spirals. Overall, a fun convo approaching Eras predictions from a different angle with a fellow superfan! For Kate's full setlist predictions, go to patreon.com/bethereinfive. Find Sarah: @taylorswiftstyled on IG, @tswiftstyle in twitter, and taylorswiftstyle.com. Buy tickets for Be There in Five Years Virtual Live Show (and gender reveal!) on April 2 at 8:05 EST at moment.co/bethereinfive SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS Build your spring wardrobe from the ground up. Shop the new spring collection and receive 20% off your purchase with the code BETHEREINFIVE at marcfisherfootwear.com. Helix is offering 20% off all mattress orders AND two free pillows for our listeners! Go to HelixSleep.com/BeThereInFive and use code HELIXPARTNER. This is their best offer yet and it won't last long! With Helix, better sleep starts now. Right now, Hungryroot is offering Be There In Five listeners 30% off your first delivery and free veggies for life. Just go to Hungryroot.com/BETHEREINFIVE, to get 30% off your first delivery and get your free veggies. Find your forever pieces at jennikayne.com. Our listeners get 15% off your first order when you use code BETHEREINFIVE at checkout. The brand go to for all season staples. Treat yourself because you deserve it.

This week, Kate begins by addressing the Scandoval of it all, doing a 20 min or so snorkel through the current Vanderpump Rules drama between Tom/Tom/Rachel/Raquel/Ariana, trying to contextualize it with past show drama for beginners. Then, she segues back into a favorite topic of the Beths (candle culture) to resurrect an old series called Under the Influencer and interviews Lindsay Silberman, a magazine journalist turned influencer and business owner best known for her insanely popular brand, Hotel Lobby Candle. They talk about her career story that rom-com dreams are made of, working in the Vogue fashion closet, wanderlust luxury travel culture, influencer PR trips, and discuss the start and current status of her candle company (and she also gave us a code)! Enjoy! Get 15% off at Hotel Lobby Candle through 3/13 by going to hotellobbycandle.com/bethereinfive with code BETH15 SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS Right now, BÉIS is offering our listeners 15% off your first purchase by visiting BEISTRAVEL.com/BETHEREINFIVE Cozy Earth provided an exclusive offer for my listener's today. 35% off site wide when you use the code "BETHEREINFIVE" at cozyearth.com Shop the new spring collection and receive 20% off your purchase with the code BETHEREINFIVE at marcfisherfootwear.com. Get 10% off your first order sitewide with code BETHEREINFIVE at OSEAMalibu.com. You'll get free samples with every order, and free shipping on orders over $60.

This week, Kate breaks her silence on the 1999 "historical" American Girl dolls that dropped this week and talks through their accuracy regarding millennial iconography. She also discusses 90s twin tropes/evil brunette twins, sleepover popcorn politics, and skincare routines of yesteryear like the Clinique 3-step. She then finds archived PDFs of old American Girl books about popularity and crafting, like a whole book dedicated to "Jazz Up Your Jeans," and it jazzes up Kate's day. She then discusses Kelsea Ballerini's new EP (that finally gives doormats the spotlight they deserve), her divorce from Morgan Evans, the brilliance of the lyrics and short film, and Kate expresses her frustration with the timing of her new "relationship" with John B. Kate then finds an AG book about babysitting that single-handedly teaches her how to parent, and lastly she reviews crowd-sourced responses to the question of "what about adulthood would have put younger you in a coma?" Enjoy! SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS Visit Carawayhome.com/BETHEREINFIVE to take advantage of this limited-time offer for 10% off your next purchase. Visit Carawayhome.com/BETHEREINFIVE or use code BETHEREINFIVE at checkout. Sign up today at butcherbox.com/BETHEREINFIVE and use code BETHEREINFIVE to get a 100% grass- fed chuck roast and a whole chicken FREE in your first box plus $20 off. Get 35% off your first order of Sundays. Go to SundaysForDogs.com/BETHEREINFIVE or use code BETHEREINFIVE at checkout. Instead of striving for perfect health, aim for supporting foundational health. Great news—Ritual is offering my listeners 10% off during your first 3 months. Visit ritual.com/BETHEREINFIVE to start Ritual or add Essential for Women 18+ to your subscription today.

TW: pregnancy, miscarriage, fertility talk, mentions of Breaking Dawn Much to her surprise, Kate's now in her Gestation Era. Hear how it all went down and more on this episode that's a personal detour from her usual content (and is technically part 5 of her Childless Millennial series that's been 2+ years in the making). SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS Evelyn & Bobbie is giving Be There in Five listeners an exclusive discount code to try Evelyn & Bobbie bras, risk-free, for yourself! Use code BETHEREINFIVE on EvelynBobbie.com for 25% off your first order Go to Hungryroot.com/BETHEREINFIVE, to get 30% off your first delivery and get your free veggies. That's Hungryroot.com/BETHEREINFIVE. Don't forget to use our link, so they know we sent you. Get glasses that stay as fresh as your unique style with Pair. Go to paireyewear.com/bethereinfive for 15% off your first purchase. Ritual is offering my listeners 10% off during your first 3 months. Visit ritual.com/BETHEREINFIVE to start Ritual or add Essential for Women 18+ to your subscription today. Go to Zocdoc.com/BETHEREINFIVE and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Many are available within 24 hours!

This week, Kate talks about the controversial list of 141 rules The Cut/NY Mag came out with that were positioned as a revised etiquette guide for modern society. First, she dives into some of the histories of western etiquette, snorkels Emily Post & the gang, reflects on her time in cotillion, learning to be 'ladylike' in pop culture, and her issues with classism and 'old vs. new money' convos. She then ventures into some of her takes on the list and peppers in listener emails about their responses to the article and shares additional rules they'd implement in their personal etiquette guides. Enjoy! Original article: https://www.thecut.com/article/tipping-rules-etiquette-rules.html SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS Right now, BÉIS is offering our listeners 15% off your first purchase by visiting BEISTRAVEL.com/BETHEREINFIVE Cozy Earth provided an exclusive offer for my listener's today. 35% off site wide when you use the code "BETHEREINFIVE" at cozyearth.com Helix is offering 20% off all mattress orders AND two free pillows for our listeners! Go to HelixSleep.com/BeThereInFive and use code HELIXPARTNER. This is their best offer yet and it won't last long! With Helix, better sleep starts now Find your forever pieces @jennikayne and get 15% off with promo code BETHEREINFIVE at jennikayne.com/BETHEREINFIVE! #jennikaynepartner

This week, Kate starts by sharing the shows she's been watching (Bad Sisters, Shrinking, Pamela: A Love Story, discusses her enthusiasm toward the redemption of victims of 90s misogyny, then reviews the social media ads she can't get away from, and her love/hate relationship with custom songs people commission for Valentine's Day off of Tiktok ads. She then discusses some thoughts on religious deconstruction and then goes into an interview with Heather Gay, Real Housewife of Salt Lake City and author of Bad Mormon (out February 7). They talk about her experiences being raised in the LDS church, marrying into "Mormon royalty," what it was like getting married young, having professional accomplishments overlooked, the challenge of living a life that guarantees you'll still be oppressed in the afterlife, among other things, like having a dad that franchised an Arby's. Kate asks about the black eye too. Enjoy! Books mentioned: Bad Mormon (out February 6) The Making of Biblical Womanhood Jesus and John Wayne Pure SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS Cozy Earth provided an exclusive offer for my listener's today. 35% off site wide when you use the code "BETHEREINFIVE" at cozyearth.com Right now we have a special discount just for our listeners. Get 10% off your first order sitewide with code BETHEREINFIVE at OSEAMalibu.com. We worked out a special deal for our dog-loving listeners. Get 35% off your first order of Sundays. Go to SundaysForDogs.com/BETHEREINFIVE or use code BETHEREINFIVE at checkout Grab your Liquid I.V. in bulk nationwide at Costco or you can get 20% off when you go to LIQUIDIV.COM and use code BETHEREINFIVE at checkout. That's 20% off ANYTHING you order when you shop better hydration today

This week, Kate talks about Madi Prew & her husband's purity culture-tastic video, then she feels the need to snorkel her issues with golf culture, talks about her affinity for "Dad Stuff," then, she needs a pal to chat with so Kelly dials in, and they discuss taking on snow sports in your 30s, lift ticket couture, California culture, some more thoughts on Spare (e.g. lip gloss and Easter presents), school fundraisers with prizes like limo rides to a Pizza Hut (!!), the joy of a woman's right to choose at a Panera with You Pick Two, among other things. Enjoy! SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS: Just go to Hungryroot.com/BETHEREINFIVE, to get 30% off your first delivery and get your free veggies. That's Hungryroot.com/BETHEREINFIVE. Don't forget to use our link, so they know we sent you. Get glasses that stay as fresh as your unique style with Pair. Go to paireyewear.com/BETHEREINFIVE for 15% off your first purchase. Great news—Ritual is offering my listeners 10% off during your first 3 months. Visit ritual.com/BETHEREINFIVE to start Ritual or add Essential for Women 18+ to your subscription today. Go to Zocdoc.com/BETHEREINFIVE and download the Zocdoc app for FREE.