YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEd

Ep. 10 - Bo B. (Neurodiverse) (Pt. 1) Childhood Memories Make Sense Now; Sensory Aversion in Relationships Ep. 10  In this episode, Jodi talks to Bo, a neurodiverse man, who recounts his experience as a neurodiverse child in school and being distracted by pretty much everything. Jodi and Bo talk about how food preferences, and how sensory aversions can sometimes feel like a deal breaker in relationships.  Bo also shares how different communication styles have created challenges for him in relationships- for example, he notes struggling to understand hints or implied meaning BE A GUEST ON THE SHOW: SpectrumRelationships.com/podcast ______________________________________________________________ Jodi Carlton is a leading world expert on adult autism relationships and communication. Her private coaching, and ground-breaking "Crack the COMMUNICATION Code" program, is helping partners and couples avoid relationship failure and finally understand one another. Visit us online for more information or apply to work with Jodi at JodiCarlton.com JOIN THE DISCUSSION: Private Facebook Group FOLLOW Jodi Carlton: Facebook YouTube Instagram TikTok LinkedIn

Ep. 9 - How To Know If Someone With Autism Loves You "How do I know if my autistic partner (child, sibling, friend) loves me?" This is a question that I am asked constantly. In my most popular video, to date, I share some tips for how to recognize that a neurodivergent individual is expressing love. The way love is communicated between neurotypical and neurodivergent individuals is truly not always similar - we "speak love" in vastly different ways.   These communication and perception differences often result in tremendous confusion and hurt. In this updated/edited version, of my original video, you still get the insights and tips that have already helped thousands of people, but I also share with you the backstory on why I originally recorded this video (it isn't what most people think!). ______________________________________________________________ Jodi Carlton is a leading world expert on adult autism relationships and communication. Her private coaching, and ground-breaking "Crack the COMMUNICATION Code" program, is helping partners and couples avoid relationship failure and finally understand one another. Visit us online for more information or apply to work with Jodi at JodiCarlton.com JOIN THE DISCUSSION: Private Facebook Group FOLLOW Jodi Carlton: Facebook YouTube Instagram TikTok LinkedIn

Ep. 8 Matt & Jen (Pt 2) ”I don’t remember our last argument…” In Part 1 (Ep 5) of Jodi's talk with Matt and Jen, this couple shared how they struggled to understand each other, and how miscommunication & misunderstanding led to confusion, heartbreak, and talk of divorce.  Here in Part 2, they talk about the insights they gained, and the communication tools and skills they use from their private intensive coaching with Jodi that have completely changed their lives.  Jen (non-autistic) says "You know, what's funny? I don't remember our last argument."   Matt and Jen's story is an example of the real transformation that is possible in neurodiverse relationship and is a beacon of hope for so many people.  ______________________________________________________________ Jodi Carlton is a leading world expert on adult autism relationships and communication. Her private coaching, and ground-breaking "Crack the COMMUNICATION Code" program, is helping partners and couples avoid relationship failure and finally understand one another. Visit us online for more information or apply to work with Jodi at JodiCarlton.com JOIN THE DISCUSSION: Private Facebook Group FOLLOW Jodi Carlton: Facebook YouTube Instagram TikTok LinkedIn

Ep. 7: Rob, 51, autistic -”I would go to meetups where I knew no one & I would be social with people I never met before - that’s like the Super Bowl of social practice”   In today's episode Rob shares with Jodi how his ex-wife's family didn't like him and he didn't understand why until two of his son's were diagnosed as autistic. He shares his perspective on smiling and learning to use tone of voice as well as his personal strategies for being intentional with practicing social skills, all of which has resulted in new friendships.   In this episode, Jodi mentions research about how autistic individuals don't use facial expressions and eye contact for information in the same way as non-autistic individuals. One study notes:   "Direct eye contact elicits a heightened physiological response as indicated by heightened skin conductance and increased amygdala activity. For individuals with autism, avoiding the eyes is an adaptive strategy, however, this approach interferes with the ability to process facial cues of identity, expressions and intentions, The “eye avoidance” strategy has negative effects on the ability to decode facial information about identity, expression, and intentions, exacerbating the social challenges for persons with ASD."   Tanaka, J. W., & Sung, A. (2016). The "Eye Avoidance" Hypothesis of Autism Face Processing. Journal of autism and developmental disorders, 46(5), 1538–1552. https://doi.org/10.1007/s10803-013-1976-7 __________________________ Jodi Carlton is a leading world expert on adult autism relationships and communication. Her private coaching, and ground-breaking "Crack the COMMUNICATION Code" program, is helping partners and couples avoid relationship failure and finally understand one another. Visit us online for more information or to BOOK A CONSULTATION OR ASSESSMENT. JodiCarlton.com JOIN THE DISCUSSION: Private Facebook Group FOLLOW Jodi Carlton: Facebook YouTube Instagram TikTok LinkedIn

Traditional therapy often falls short for neurodiverse couples, making their relationships more challenging. Professionals recount their personal experiences, emphasizing the need for specialized models that address unique emotional dynamics. They advocate for therapists to receive tailored training to better support these relationships. There's also a discussion about understanding neurodiverse traits within families and enhancing communication for healthier connections. Pre-marital counseling and community support are highlighted as valuable resources.

Ep. 5 Matt and Jen (Pt 1), a Neurodiverse Couple: From Contemplating Divorce to Thriving On today's episode, Jodi talks with Matt and Jen, a neurodiverse couple who were contemplating divorce when Jen first found Jodi's coaching program and reached out for help.  They share how they discovered Matt is autistic, and the challenges they each experienced in their relationship, but also how the new framework and new skills have totally changed their lives and their marriage. Part 1 of 2 (Part 2 will broadcast on April 12th, 2022) CLICK HERE to be a guest on the podcast! __________________________ Jodi Carlton is a leading world expert on adult autism relationships and communication. Her private coaching, and ground-breaking "Crack the COMMUNICATION Code" program, is helping partners and couples avoid relationship failure and finally understand one another. Visit us online for more information or to BOOK A CONSULTATION OR ASSESSMENT. JodiCarlton.com SpectrumRelationships.com JOIN THE DISCUSSION: Private Facebook Group FOLLOW Jodi Carlton: Facebook YouTube Instagram TikTok LinkedIn

Ep. 4 Clara (Pt 2) Sensory Overwhelm & How It Results in Others Feeling Rejected Episode 4: In this episode Jodi talks with returning autistic guest Clara about sensory processing dysfunction. Clara, a music teacher, and performer, compares how the brain receives sound to a music mixing board that raises and lowers volume. Jodi and Clara also chat about how neurotypical partners often misinterpret autistic sensory overwhelm as rejection. Be a guest on the podcast. __________________________ Jodi Carlton is a leading world expert on adult autism relationships and communication. Her private coaching, and ground-breaking "Crack the COMMUNICATION Code" program, is helping partners and couples avoid relationship failure and finally understand one another. Visit us online to be a podcast guest or to BOOK A CONSULTATION or ASSESSMENT. JodiCarlton.com SpectrumRelationships.com JOIN THE DISCUSSION: Private Facebook Group: Adult Autism Relationships - Jodi Carlton, M.Ed. FOLLOW Jodi Carlton on: Facebook YouTube Instagram TikTok LinkedIn

Ep. 3 Jodi, Mona, and Manecia, two neurodiversity professionals get personal about their own relationships. (Pt 1)   In this episode, Jodi talks with Mona and Manecia, hosts of the Neurodiverse Love podcast.  All three are professionals committed to helping neurodiverse couples navigate relationships, but who have also been in (or are currently in) their own autism relationships.  Listen in as they share their own very personal experiences.   CLICK HERE to be a guest on the podcast! __________________________ Jodi Carlton is a leading world expert on adult autism relationships and communication. Her private coaching, and ground-breaking "Crack the COMMUNICATION Code" program, is helping partners and couples avoid relationship failure and finally understand one another. Visit us online for more information or to BOOK A CONSULTATION OR ASSESSMENT. JodiCarlton.com SpectrumRelationships.com JOIN THE DISCUSSION: Private Facebook Group FOLLOW Jodi Carlton: Facebook YouTube Instagram TikTok LinkedIn

Ep. 2 - A wife from the U.K. talks about painful misunderstandings and confusion & learning to bridge the communication gap. On today's episode, Jodi discusses the question of how long it usually takes for partners and couples to suspect that one of them is autistic.  She shares about her own experience in her marriage. Jodi's guest today is an ADHD wife with and mother from the U.K. who's husband and daughter are autistic.  She talks with Jodi about painful misunderstandings that have created years of confusion and a widening gap between herself and her husband - both of whom care about their relationship but haven't known how to bridge that gap.   CLICK HERE to be a guest on the podcast! __________________________ Jodi Carlton is a leading world expert on adult autism relationships and communication. Her private coaching, and ground-breaking "Crack the COMMUNICATION Code" program, is helping partners and couples avoid relationship failure and finally understand one another. Visit us online for more information or to BOOK A CONSULTATION OR ASSESSMENT. JodiCarlton.com SpectrumRelationships.com JOIN THE DISCUSSION: Private Facebook Group FOLLOW Jodi Carlton: Facebook YouTube Instagram TikTok LinkedIn

Autistic partner communication, neurodiverse relationship conflict, de-escalation. Learn soft startups and simple phrase swaps so your partner can actually hear you—without repeat fights. Clara joins Jodi to unpack why harsh openings trigger fight/flight (and shut down logic), how to use a respectful Pause (often 20–30 minutes), and the scripts that turn interrogation into curiosity: “I’d like to understand…”, “I’m curious about…” Listen in for words you can use tonight!   What You'll Learn Why “Why didn’t you…/Always/Never/You’re wrong” spikes defenses Soft startup scripts that lower cortisol and invite dialogue The Pause: a fast reset when emotions surge Noticing fight/flight (including interoception gaps for autistic partners) How to change what you control—without changing who you are Try it now — phrase swaps: Instead of “Why didn’t you…?” → “I’d like to understand…” Instead of “You never/always…” → “I notice X. Could we try Y?” Instead of “You’re wrong.” → “I see it differently—here’s my view.” Key Moments 00:00 Welcome & who this is for 00:30 Soft vs. harsh startups (with Clara) 04:05 Fight/flight: why harsh openings fail 08:59 Phrase swaps that invite connection 12:05 The Pause (20–30 min reset) 19:22 Change what you can control 33:34 Soft startup scripts that work   Resources Mentioned Book a consultation with Jodi Crack the Communication Code program → No longer offered Check out Jodi's self-paced courses Be a guest on the podcast → Email info@jodicarlton.com