YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEd

In this episode (Part 2) of a chat with a neurodiverse couple, Jodi gives concrete strategies for eliminating conversations that get stuck in a cycle of painful triggers and avoidant retreats that never reach resolution. If you missed Part 1 (Ep. 12 "I Call It His Murderous Face") listen here.   BE A GUEST ON THE SHOW: SpectrumRelationships.com/podcast ______________________________________________________________ Jodi Carlton is a leading world expert on adult autism relationships and communication. Her private coaching, and ground-breaking "Crack the COMMUNICATION Code" program, is helping partners and couples avoid relationship failure and finally understand one another. Visit us online for more information or apply to work with Jodi at JodiCarlton.com JOIN THE DISCUSSION: Private Facebook Group FOLLOW Jodi Carlton: Facebook YouTube Instagram TikTok LinkedIn

In this episode, a couple married 30 years in an arranged marriage, shares how the discovery of neurodiversity was a wake-up call and also a life-saver for their relationship.  Both of them openly talk with me about their own self-discoveries and what they are doing to help repair old wounds, but also improve current and future interactions. BE A GUEST ON THE SHOW: SpectrumRelationships.com/podcast ______________________________________________________________ Jodi Carlton is a leading world expert on adult autism relationships and communication. Her private coaching, and ground-breaking "Crack the COMMUNICATION Code" program, is helping partners and couples avoid relationship failure and finally understand one another. Visit us online for more information or apply to work with Jodi at JodiCarlton.com JOIN THE DISCUSSION: Private Facebook Group FOLLOW Jodi Carlton: Facebook YouTube Instagram TikTok LinkedIn

In Part 2 of my talk with Bo, who identifies as an "Aspie," or as having Asperger's, we chat about how words and expressions can mean really different things, especially in neurodiverse relationships.  Bo also shares with me how social interactions have often created confusion for him and the people in his life because of the different understandings and expectations in social exchanges.   If you missed Part 1, "Childhood Memories Make Sense Now," be sure to tune in to hear Bo discuss his memories from childhood and how he now recognizes the many sensory challenges he experienced as a child.  BE A GUEST ON THE SHOW: SpectrumRelationships.com/podcast ______________________________________________________________ Jodi Carlton is a leading world expert on adult autism relationships and communication. Her private coaching, and ground-breaking "Crack the COMMUNICATION Code" program, is helping partners and couples avoid relationship failure and finally understand one another. Visit us online for more information or apply to work with Jodi at JodiCarlton.com JOIN THE DISCUSSION: Private Facebook Group FOLLOW Jodi Carlton: Facebook YouTube Instagram TikTok LinkedIn

Ep. 10 - Bo B. (Neurodiverse) (Pt. 1) Childhood Memories Make Sense Now; Sensory Aversion in Relationships Ep. 10  In this episode, Jodi talks to Bo, a neurodiverse man, who recounts his experience as a neurodiverse child in school and being distracted by pretty much everything. Jodi and Bo talk about how food preferences, and how sensory aversions can sometimes feel like a deal breaker in relationships.  Bo also shares how different communication styles have created challenges for him in relationships- for example, he notes struggling to understand hints or implied meaning BE A GUEST ON THE SHOW: SpectrumRelationships.com/podcast ______________________________________________________________ Jodi Carlton is a leading world expert on adult autism relationships and communication. Her private coaching, and ground-breaking "Crack the COMMUNICATION Code" program, is helping partners and couples avoid relationship failure and finally understand one another. Visit us online for more information or apply to work with Jodi at JodiCarlton.com JOIN THE DISCUSSION: Private Facebook Group FOLLOW Jodi Carlton: Facebook YouTube Instagram TikTok LinkedIn

Ep. 9 - How To Know If Someone With Autism Loves You "How do I know if my autistic partner (child, sibling, friend) loves me?" This is a question that I am asked constantly. In my most popular video, to date, I share some tips for how to recognize that a neurodivergent individual is expressing love. The way love is communicated between neurotypical and neurodivergent individuals is truly not always similar - we "speak love" in vastly different ways.   These communication and perception differences often result in tremendous confusion and hurt. In this updated/edited version, of my original video, you still get the insights and tips that have already helped thousands of people, but I also share with you the backstory on why I originally recorded this video (it isn't what most people think!). ______________________________________________________________ Jodi Carlton is a leading world expert on adult autism relationships and communication. Her private coaching, and ground-breaking "Crack the COMMUNICATION Code" program, is helping partners and couples avoid relationship failure and finally understand one another. Visit us online for more information or apply to work with Jodi at JodiCarlton.com JOIN THE DISCUSSION: Private Facebook Group FOLLOW Jodi Carlton: Facebook YouTube Instagram TikTok LinkedIn

Ep. 8 Matt & Jen (Pt 2) ”I don’t remember our last argument…” In Part 1 (Ep 5) of Jodi's talk with Matt and Jen, this couple shared how they struggled to understand each other, and how miscommunication & misunderstanding led to confusion, heartbreak, and talk of divorce.  Here in Part 2, they talk about the insights they gained, and the communication tools and skills they use from their private intensive coaching with Jodi that have completely changed their lives.  Jen (non-autistic) says "You know, what's funny? I don't remember our last argument."   Matt and Jen's story is an example of the real transformation that is possible in neurodiverse relationship and is a beacon of hope for so many people.  ______________________________________________________________ Jodi Carlton is a leading world expert on adult autism relationships and communication. Her private coaching, and ground-breaking "Crack the COMMUNICATION Code" program, is helping partners and couples avoid relationship failure and finally understand one another. Visit us online for more information or apply to work with Jodi at JodiCarlton.com JOIN THE DISCUSSION: Private Facebook Group FOLLOW Jodi Carlton: Facebook YouTube Instagram TikTok LinkedIn

Ep. 7: Rob, 51, autistic -”I would go to meetups where I knew no one & I would be social with people I never met before - that’s like the Super Bowl of social practice”   In today's episode Rob shares with Jodi how his ex-wife's family didn't like him and he didn't understand why until two of his son's were diagnosed as autistic. He shares his perspective on smiling and learning to use tone of voice as well as his personal strategies for being intentional with practicing social skills, all of which has resulted in new friendships.   In this episode, Jodi mentions research about how autistic individuals don't use facial expressions and eye contact for information in the same way as non-autistic individuals. One study notes:   "Direct eye contact elicits a heightened physiological response as indicated by heightened skin conductance and increased amygdala activity. For individuals with autism, avoiding the eyes is an adaptive strategy, however, this approach interferes with the ability to process facial cues of identity, expressions and intentions, The “eye avoidance” strategy has negative effects on the ability to decode facial information about identity, expression, and intentions, exacerbating the social challenges for persons with ASD."   Tanaka, J. W., & Sung, A. (2016). The "Eye Avoidance" Hypothesis of Autism Face Processing. Journal of autism and developmental disorders, 46(5), 1538–1552. https://doi.org/10.1007/s10803-013-1976-7 __________________________ Jodi Carlton is a leading world expert on adult autism relationships and communication. Her private coaching, and ground-breaking "Crack the COMMUNICATION Code" program, is helping partners and couples avoid relationship failure and finally understand one another. Visit us online for more information or to BOOK A CONSULTATION OR ASSESSMENT. JodiCarlton.com JOIN THE DISCUSSION: Private Facebook Group FOLLOW Jodi Carlton: Facebook YouTube Instagram TikTok LinkedIn

Traditional therapy often falls short for neurodiverse couples, making their relationships more challenging. Professionals recount their personal experiences, emphasizing the need for specialized models that address unique emotional dynamics. They advocate for therapists to receive tailored training to better support these relationships. There's also a discussion about understanding neurodiverse traits within families and enhancing communication for healthier connections. Pre-marital counseling and community support are highlighted as valuable resources.

Ep. 5 Matt and Jen (Pt 1), a Neurodiverse Couple: From Contemplating Divorce to Thriving On today's episode, Jodi talks with Matt and Jen, a neurodiverse couple who were contemplating divorce when Jen first found Jodi's coaching program and reached out for help.  They share how they discovered Matt is autistic, and the challenges they each experienced in their relationship, but also how the new framework and new skills have totally changed their lives and their marriage. Part 1 of 2 (Part 2 will broadcast on April 12th, 2022) CLICK HERE to be a guest on the podcast! __________________________ Jodi Carlton is a leading world expert on adult autism relationships and communication. Her private coaching, and ground-breaking "Crack the COMMUNICATION Code" program, is helping partners and couples avoid relationship failure and finally understand one another. Visit us online for more information or to BOOK A CONSULTATION OR ASSESSMENT. JodiCarlton.com SpectrumRelationships.com JOIN THE DISCUSSION: Private Facebook Group FOLLOW Jodi Carlton: Facebook YouTube Instagram TikTok LinkedIn

Ep. 4 Clara (Pt 2) Sensory Overwhelm & How It Results in Others Feeling Rejected Episode 4: In this episode Jodi talks with returning autistic guest Clara about sensory processing dysfunction. Clara, a music teacher, and performer, compares how the brain receives sound to a music mixing board that raises and lowers volume. Jodi and Clara also chat about how neurotypical partners often misinterpret autistic sensory overwhelm as rejection. Be a guest on the podcast. __________________________ Jodi Carlton is a leading world expert on adult autism relationships and communication. Her private coaching, and ground-breaking "Crack the COMMUNICATION Code" program, is helping partners and couples avoid relationship failure and finally understand one another. Visit us online to be a podcast guest or to BOOK A CONSULTATION or ASSESSMENT. JodiCarlton.com SpectrumRelationships.com JOIN THE DISCUSSION: Private Facebook Group: Adult Autism Relationships - Jodi Carlton, M.Ed. FOLLOW Jodi Carlton on: Facebook YouTube Instagram TikTok LinkedIn