The Terri Cole Show

Was love or support inconsistent in your family of origin? Do you ever feel yourself respond emotionally and impulsively to things that make you feel frightened? Today, I'm introducing you to your inner child, a part of yourself that holds old wounds and might take over when you feel scared. I'm giving you tips and a visualization exercise that can help you stay in communication with your inner child and offer them love and validation so that they don't need to act out to get your attention. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/786

Are you trapped in a relationship that swings between love and pain? Dr. Nadine Macaluso, survivor of the real Wolf of Wall Street marriage, reveals the hidden signs of trauma bonds and why leaving feels impossible. This isn't weakness—it's neuroscience. Learn the strategic escape plan that helped her client of 35 years break free safely. Discover the two-part healing framework that transformed Dr. Nay from victim to healer. You deserve peace, and this roadmap shows you how to reclaim yourself. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/785

As seasons change, our energy shifts too. Even if you live in a place without big weather changes, there is a rhythm to life that invites pausing, assessing, and resetting. Think of this as a psychological closet clean-out. Just as you pack away your summer clothes and pull out cozy sweaters, you can review your mental habits, emotional clutter, and daily commitments to decide what stays and what goes. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/784

Struggling with boundaries? Attachment expert Daphna Lender reveals why "gentle parenting" trends miss the mark. Learn the neuroscience-backed technique of parental self-regulation that transforms difficult moments with your kids. Discover why your own nervous system holds the key to effective boundaries. With 30 years of clinical experience, Daphna shares evidence-based strategies for managing challenging behaviors in children and teens. Learn how to "clear your screen" before setting boundaries, why listening with curiosity changes everything with teenagers, and the surprising power of disengagement. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/783

Be honest. Have you ever felt your walls go up when someone gives you feedback? Maybe your partner says, "You're always on your phone," or your boss points out a mistake, and before you even realize it, you're explaining, justifying, or firing back. You are not alone. Defensiveness is a profoundly human response. It is our nervous system's way of saying, "I feel threatened." But while it may feel like protection, defensiveness actually builds a wall between you and the people you care about most. Let's talk about why it happens, how to shift it, and how to give feedback in a way that strengthens the connection rather than breaking it down. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/782

Your mother-in-law isn't the problem. The lack of clear boundaries is. Dr. Tracy Dalgleish reveals why 85% of women fight with their partners about their mothers-in-law and what to do about it. The biggest mistake: when your husband blames you for the boundaries ("She doesn't want to come for Christmas"). Learn how to communicate as a team, establish your own traditions, and stop being the "people-pleasing victim" or the "villain." Concrete strategies for newlyweds and new moms. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/781

Do you ever shrink, freeze, or overreact with authority figures? It could happen with a boss, a professor, or even a doctor. Your heart races, your thoughts scramble, and afterward you think, Why did I react like that? You are not alone. For many women, interactions with authority can trigger strong emotional responses that may not make sense in the moment. Today, we are breaking down why this happens, how it shows up, and the practical steps you can take to change the pattern. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/780

You keep attracting the same relationship patterns and don't know why. Psychotherapist Jessica Baum explains it's not your fault—your body remembers childhood dynamics through implicit memory and unconsciously recreates them in adulthood. Insecure attachment lives in your nervous system, not just your mind. Discover why healing happens through safe relationships (not isolation), how to develop "earned security" even if your childhood was chaotic, and why depending on healthy people is the counterintuitive path to inner safety. True healing is somatic, body-based, and possible at any age. Connect with Jessica Baum on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn. Also, here is the freebie link that Jessica mentioned in the episode. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/779

Tired of mixed signals and emotional rollercoasters? In this episode, Terri Cole breaks down what real relationship green flags and red flags look like—so you can stop guessing and start choosing better. Learn how to spot inconsistency, emotional immaturity, and genuine care before getting too deep. Healthy love isn't about drama—it's about steady effort, respect, and shared growth. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/778

You think love is about luck and chemistry. It's not. In this episode, award-winning psychologist Dr. Sarah Nazadeh breaks down her Emergent Love Model—6 evidence-based ingredients that build thriving relationships through intentional design, not chance. From the difference between attraction (renewable) and desire (temporary) to rebuilding trust after betrayal. Learn the A.A.R.M. method for repairing ruptures, why sexual chemistry must evolve into sexual harmony, and how your shared vision is proven by actions, not words. Love takes pleasant work—here's the framework. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/777