Focus and Chill - productivity tactics for AuDHDers and other neurodivergent folks

Growing up neurodivergent can leave you believing you’re stupid or lazy — even when the real issue is the way school is structured.In this episode we interviewed Dr. Neil Alexander-Passe about the lived experience of dyslexia, school-based trauma, and how neurodivergent people make sense of education systems that weren’t designed for them. They discuss identity, learning differences, productivity, and what it means to find ways of working that actually fit.Dr. Neil Alexander-Passe is a psychologist, researcher, and author who has dyslexia himself and has spent over 20 years specialising in the emotional and mental-health experiences of people with learning differences. He has published 18 books (in English and Italian) and 13 peer-reviewed papers on dyslexia and neurodiversity, exploring links with trauma, creativity, success, parenting, and mental health. He completed his PhD in 2018, researching dyslexia, traumatic schooling, and post-school success, and currently works as an exam access assessor while continuing his research and writing.Episode Highlights01:44 – Late dyslexia diagnosis and growing up feeling “stupid”Neil describes being diagnosed with dyslexia at 12 and how years of misunderstanding at school led him to internalise the belief that he was “stupid,” shaping his self-concept well into adulthood.02:40 – Changing schools and not fitting traditional learningHe reflects on moving schools repeatedly and realising later that the issue wasn’t effort or intelligence, but a mismatch between dyslexia and rote, traditional teaching methods.04:13 – Discovering strengths through artNeil shares how art college became the first place where learning made sense, allowing him to build confidence and a career after years of academic failure.05:00 – Returning to education as an adult with the right supportsAs an adult learner, he explains how time, reduced pressure, and practical accommodations transformed his ability to succeed academically.11:21 – ADHD traits and having multiple careersNeil talks about being assessed for ADHD and how having multiple roles and projects suits his neurotype far better than the idea of a single “job for life.”22:30 – Writing at night and layered editingHe describes his non-traditional writing process, including working late at night and using layered editing across digital and paper formats to support focus and clarity.39:02 – Growing up neurodivergent: shame, strengths, and finding your keysIn his closing reflection, Neil explains how neurodivergent children can grow up feeling “stupid or lazy,” and why finding individual strengths — rather than focusing on deficits — is key to long-term wellbeing.Connect with Dr. Neil:LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-neil-alexander-passe-0b10b22/Connect with Jeremy:LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/nageljeremyEmail: jeremy@focusbear.ioMore from Focus Bear:Website: https://focusbear.ioLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/focus-bear/Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@focusbearappTwitter: https://twitter.com/focusbear1Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/focus_bear/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/focusbearapp/Podcast: https://podcast.focusbear.ioTiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@focusbear

What happens when a dyslexic engineer enters venture capital, climate tech, and leadership? In Ep 126, James Stewart shares how neurodiversity shaped his education, career, parenting, and his work at Always Carbon.James Stewart is a UK chartered mechanical engineer (Cambridge), MBA holder, angel investor, venture partner at Loyal VC, and CEO/co-founder of Always Carbon, a company focused on carbon removal using biochar.Episode Highlights:00:02:04 — Diagnosed dyslexic at six James shares he was diagnosed with dyslexia early, and how it shaped both his educational and professional life. His relationship with dyslexia has changed significantly in recent years, especially in how he now views it as something to build with rather than “fix.”00:03:30 — Swimming saved his confidence A teacher threatened to stop him from going swimming because he struggled in school. That moment helped his parents realize something deeper was happening, and it became the turning point that led to assessment and support.00:07:30 — Cambridge wasn’t neurodiverse-friendly He describes Cambridge in the 2000s as not welcoming for neurodiverse students, despite the prestige. But he credits support systems and learning how to study in ways that worked for his brain as what carried him through.00:10:00 — Neurodiversity drives progress James argues neurodiverse thinkers bring huge value by challenging the status quo and solving problems differently. He frames it as a feature of human evolution: society advances because some people are wired to think outside the “normal” system.00:11:12 — Visual thinking in engineering He strongly agrees dyslexic thinkers often excel in spatial reasoning and 3D thinking, which fits engineering naturally. His approach is visual: diagrams and mind maps beat long documents because they surface structure and meaning faster.00:15:00 — Always Carbon and biochar explained James breaks down biochar simply: plants pull CO2 from the air, and converting plant waste into stable carbon can lock it away for hundreds to thousands of years. The key insight: the same material also improves agriculture through water retention, microbiome support, and fertilizer effectiveness.00:21:11 — Water is everything (and we forget it) Jeremy brings up water utilities and James goes deep into appreciation for reliable clean water. He points out many people don’t realize how fragile water systems can be globally until they experience unsafe supply firsthand.00:27:00 — A venture fund for dyslexic founders James shares he’s investigating launching a VC fund specifically investing in dyslexic and neurodiverse founders. The emotional core here: late diagnosis often comes with trauma, and he’s not willing to accept that as “normal.”00:30:24 — Parenting changes your priorities As a founder dad, he became more ruthless about what deserves his time: if it’s not worth missing time with his child, it’s not worth doing. He also shares a practical scheduling tactic: clustering “unbreakable meetings” on specific days to stay flexible for parenting responsibilities.00:48:30 — Networking is a benevolent act James closes with a powerful lens shift: networking isn’t selfish when your motives are good. It becomes a way to connect people to opportunities they couldn’t reach alone, making networking a form of service.Connect with James:LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/james-stewart-a38626/Website: https://www.alwayscarbon.com/Connect with Jeremy:LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/nageljeremyEmail: jeremy@focusbear.ioMore from Focus Bear:Website: https://focusbear.ioLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/focus-bear/Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@focusbearappTwitter: https://twitter.com/focusbear1Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/focus_bear/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/focusbearapp/Podcast: https://podcast.focusbear.ioTiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@focusbear

What does ADHD actually feel like in your body and mind?Shira Levine was diagnosed in the 1980s — and describes the moment medication helped her feel grounded for the first time.Shira is a Silicon Valley–trained marketing and customer engagement strategist with decades of experience in retention, loyalty, and community-driven growth. Diagnosed with ADHD as a teenager in the 1980s, she brings a rare long-term perspective on neurodiversity, work, creativity, and self-acceptance.Episode Highlights:00:06:30 — What ADHD feels like in the body Shira describes living with ADHD as walking on pavement covered by a thin layer of water — never fully grounded. Medication didn’t “fix” her, but helped her finally feel present and connected to the world.00:17:20 — Productivity, dragons, and scope creep She explains how neurodivergent people often solve problems that aren’t theirs to solve. Learning when to say no became essential to doing meaningful work.00:18:45 — Ruthless prioritization without shame Shira reframes prioritization not as discipline, but as protection against overwhelm. Seeing too much can be a strength — if boundaries exist.00:29:00 — Why she rejects minimalism Minimalism and rigid productivity systems never worked for her ADHD brain. She gives explicit permission to reject trends that create more shame than clarity.00:30:30 — Fidgets, movement, and regulation From shells to paper clips, Shira explains how keeping her hands busy helps her stay present. Regulation, not stillness, is the goal.00:33:00 — Designing tools for real ADHD lives She describes the need for multidimensional timers that match how neurodivergent people actually multitask. ADHD isn’t a failure of focus — it’s a different operating system.00:35:30 — Night routines and protecting sleep Putting her phone on another floor and reading fiction nightly helped Shira become a “gold medal sleeper.” Structure supports rest, not restriction.00:38:00 — A simple mental exercise for racing thoughts Listing seven things seen and seven things done becomes a grounding practice when sleep feels impossible. Focus follows structure.00:40:30 — Self-acceptance, obsession, and dialing it down Shira reflects on learning to work with ADHD rather than against it. Obsession and intensity aren’t flaws — the work is knowing when to modulate them.Connect with Shira:LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/supershiralevineWebsite: https://fanchismo.com/Connect with Jeremy:LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/nageljeremyEmail: jeremy@focusbear.ioMore from Focus Bear:Website: https://focusbear.ioLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/focus-bear/Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@focusbearappTwitter: https://twitter.com/focusbear1Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/focus_bear/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/focusbearapp/Podcast: https://podcast.focusbear.ioTiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@focusbear

What if nothing was ever wrong with you or your child, just misunderstood?In this episode, Laetitia Andrac shares how late autism and ADHD diagnosis reshaped her identity, parenting, and mission to build truly inclusive systems for neurodivergent children.Laetitia Andrac is a five-time founder, bestselling author, and CEO of Understanding Zoe, an AI-powered platform helping parents, educators, and therapists better support neurodivergent children. Late diagnosed autistic and ADHD, she brings lived experience to systems-level change in education, healthcare, and leadership.Episode Highlights00:00:41 — Discovering neurodivergence through motherhood Laetitia explains how concerns raised about her daughter’s development triggered a deeper exploration of autism and ADHD in her family. What started as advocacy for her child became self-discovery.00:03:00 — Late autism diagnosis and reclaiming identity After initially dismissing autism, Laetitia describes the moment everything clicked. The diagnosis brought relief, validation, and self-compassion.00:06:11 — Childhood exclusion and autistic burnout She shares early experiences of rejection sensitivity, boredom at school, and later autistic burnout in high-pressure consulting roles. These patterns only made sense in hindsight.00:08:42 — From lived experience to systemic change Understanding Zoe was born from the desire to prevent children from growing up confused and unsupported. The goal is shared understanding, not constant parental advocacy.00:09:14 — Why diagnosis should never feel like being “broken” Laetitia emphasizes choosing neurodiversity-affirming clinicians. Diagnosis should explain, not pathologize.00:14:00 — When unmasking is not safe Unmasking is personal, but environments are not always ready. She describes shutdowns caused by neurotypical networking expectations.00:17:56 — Hyperfocus as a real strength Her ability to solve complex problems quickly powered her consulting career. Without recovery time, however, it also led to collapse.00:22:38 — How Understanding Zoe reduces parental load The platform centralizes assessments, therapy notes, and insights so educators and carers can support children consistently.00:29:17 — Productivity through agile, not pressure Letitia explains why agile ways of working suit neurodivergent brains better than rigid schedules.Connect with Laetitia:Websites:https://understandingzoe.com/https://www.essentialshift.co/LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/company/understandingzoehttps://www.linkedin.com/company/essential-shift/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/understanding.zoehttps://www.instagram.com/essential.shiftConnect with Jeremy:LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/nageljeremyEmail: jeremy@focusbear.ioMore from Focus Bear:Website: https://focusbear.ioLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/focus-bear/Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@focusbearappTwitter: https://twitter.com/focusbear1Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/focus_bear/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/focusbearapp/Podcast: https://podcast.focusbear.ioTiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@focusbear

Aisling Smith, an award-winning neurodiversity trainer and founder of Neuro Empowerment, shares her journey of self-discovery after her son's autism diagnosis revealed her own ADHD and autism. She discusses the impact of lifelong masking, describing herself as a 'chameleon,' and how unmasking can enhance confidence. Aisling emphasizes the importance of reframing labels as tools for empowerment, outlining seven pillars for creating neuro-inclusive workplaces. She also shares practical strategies for managing productivity and balancing work with personal life.

“I’m very good at starting things, then halfway through I ask: why am I doing this?”In this episode, Travis Alexander shares an honest conversation about career confusion, productivity struggles, and the long road to self-understanding after late diagnoses of autism, ADHD, and dyslexia. Together, we explore why work can feel harder without clear purpose, how masking shows up in careers and productivity, and what actually helps when motivation keeps collapsing halfway through.Travis Alexander is a science and engineering master’s graduate who has worked across startups, corporate medical technology, and creative projects. Diagnosed with dyslexia, autism, and ADHD later in life, he is now a neurodivergent advocate and author of Stairway to the Spectrum, where he reflects on identity, work, and self-awareness. Outside of work, Travis enjoys breakdancing, running, and spending time with his wife.Episode Highlights: 00:02:02 – Diagnosed with dyslexia, but answers didn’t last Travis shares how his first diagnosis explained some struggles, but didn’t stop problems from resurfacing in work, relationships, and decision-making.00:03:00 – Autism and ADHD discovered much later A decade after dyslexia, Travis realizes autism and ADHD were still unrecognized, helping explain long-standing confusion and burnout.00:09:15 – Self-awareness after late diagnosis Rather than “fixing” productivity, diagnosis gave Travis clarity, closure, and a way to understand past mistakes without self-blame.00:14:30 – Fifteen to twenty jobs and still searching Travis reflects on job-hopping across industries and why finding the right career fit has been so difficult but necessary.00:21:06 – Productivity collapses without a clear ‘why’ He explains why he often starts strong, loses motivation halfway, and how reconnecting to purpose is what actually sustains productivity.00:23:19 – Masking at work and following instructions A candid look at workplace conflict, masking through compliance, and why “just do it this way” can be deeply exhausting for neurodivergent people.Connect with Travis:Website: https://www.travisalexander.com.au/Connect with Jeremy:LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/nageljeremyEmail: jeremy@focusbear.ioMore from Focus Bear:Website: https://focusbear.ioLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/focus-bear/Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@focusbearappTwitter: https://twitter.com/focusbear1Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/focus_bear/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/focusbearapp/Podcast: https://podcast.focusbear.ioTiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@focusbear

Burnout is your body telling you: stop. I’m going to make you stop.In this episode, Dr Tom Nicholson breaks down how productivity, overperformance, and even “success” can quietly become coping mechanisms that lead to burnout. Drawing from lived experience, academia, and clinical work, he explores how neurodivergent people can use their strengths without masking themselves into exhaustion.Dr Tom Nicholson is an assistant professor of mental health nursing, public speaker, and trainer specializing in neurodivergence and inclusion. He combines lived experience with clinical and academic expertise to help individuals and organizations rethink productivity, burnout, and sustainable ways of working.Episode Highlights 00:02:12 – Diagnosed with ADHD at five and labeled “the problem child” Dr Tom describes being diagnosed in the mid-1990s and quickly framed as disruptive rather than supported. Despite doing well academically, he internalized the message that effort and compliance mattered more than wellbeing, laying the groundwork for overworking later in life.00:03:37 – Discovering autism later in adulthood He explains diagnostic overshadowing and how ADHD became the explanation for every difficulty he had. Autism was missed entirely, even as he became a specialist himself, showing how easily burnout risks can be overlooked when people appear “high functioning.”00:06:08 – Reframing school trauma and constant effort With a later autism lens, Dr Tom revisits his school experiences and recognizes how much energy went into coping, masking, and adapting. This reframing helps explain why productivity and overperformance often feel compulsory rather than optional.00:17:30 – Productivity works in bursts, not all day Dr Tom explains that his productivity comes in intense, focused bursts followed by long recovery periods. Expecting steady, all-day output ignores how many neurodivergent brains actually function and pushes people into boom-and-bust cycles.00:25:23 – Early fatherhood collides with productivity culture He speaks candidly about sleep deprivation, routine collapse, and identity shifts during the first year of parenting. Hustle culture and productivity myths make this period far harder, especially for neurodivergent parents with high sensory and rest needs.00:32:36 – When productivity advice turns into self-punishment Dr Tom reflects on consuming large amounts of self-help and productivity content. Instead of helping, it reinforced the belief that he was never doing enough, turning tools into weapons for self-criticism rather than support.00:39:30 – Burnout as a forced stop After pushing through a PhD, lockdown, and a newborn, his body shut everything down. He describes burnout not as weakness, but as the body enforcing boundaries when the mind refuses to listen.00:44:59 – The question behind overworking The episode closes with a powerful reflection: much productivity is driven by old narratives and the need to prove something. Dr. Tom invites listeners to ask whether their drive comes from genuine values or from trying to outrun past judgments.Connect with Dr. Tom:LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/dr-tom-nicholson-089727131Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drtomnicholsonConnect with Jeremy:LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/nageljeremyEmail: jeremy@focusbear.ioMore from Focus Bear:Website: https://focusbear.ioLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/focus-bear/Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@focusbearappTwitter: https://twitter.com/focusbear1

Understanding your neurodivergent brain isn’t about following one-size-fits-all solutions. In this episode, Yush Sztalkoper shares how experimentation, personalization, and a holistic approach helped her support herself and her neurodivergent children. From biohacking and genetics to AI tools that actually make daily life easier, this conversation explores what happens when you focus less on forcing outcomes and more on building systems that work for YOUR wiring.Yush is a neurodivergent entrepreneur, coach, and parent of a twice-exceptional child. She integrates positive intelligence, parenting experience, and individualized strategies to help neurodivergent people build sustainable emotional capacity, productivity, and regulation.Subscribe for more neurodivergent lived experiences, honest conversations, and strategies that actually help.Episode Highlights00:02:59 — Understanding biohacking for neurodivergent needs Yush explains that biohacking isn’t about supplements, but about understanding how your brain and body respond to lifestyle, environment, and support systems. She describes it as trial-and-error rooted in data rather than “one magic solution”.00:04:00 — One-size-fits-all approaches don’t work Many neurodivergent people try generic strategies and feel like they “failed” when nothing changes. Yush reframes this as insufficient solutions, not personal failure, and emphasizes individualized experimentation.00:09:30 — Dopamine and impulsivity explained Instead of treating impulsivity as a behavior issue, Yush and her naturopath looked at neurotransmitter pathways. Understanding dopamine differences helped them address impulsivity at the root, not just on the surface.00:10:30 — Small discoveries can drive big change A vitamin deficiency played a surprising role in her son’s impulsivity. By combining nutrition, lifestyle, and behavior support, they saw measurable changes in daily life.00:12:23 — Epigenetics as empowerment Yush shares how genetics and lifestyle interact, and how understanding these systems helps people make empowered choices without feeling destined to struggle. She reframes genetics as information, not limitation.00:19:21 — Using AI to maximize neurodivergent strengths AI becomes a cognitive amplifier, helping her process information faster, spot patterns, and make decisions with less overwhelm. She uses multiple tools depending on the task.00:22:30 — Parenting support through AI and gamification Yush uses AI creatively in parenting, turning overwhelming routines like cleaning into engaging, playful tasks. This shifts regulation and reduces stress at home.00:28:00 — Spotting blind spots with AI AI isn’t just practical; it helps her identify missing perspectives and stay curious about what she might be overlooking. This helps her adapt more quickly to challenges.00:33:52 — Harmful productivity advice Pushing through, forcing productivity, or “just powering through” can damage capacity and emotional regulation. Yush argues that protecting the nervous system matters more than finishing a task.00:41:55 — Executive function sprints in real life Her mornings are intense sensory and logistical routines requiring planning, flexibility, and capacity. She shows how executive functioning plays a central role in daily parenting.Connect with Yush:LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/yushsztalkoper/Website: https://www.neurosparkplus.com/Connect with Jeremy:LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/nageljeremyEmail: jeremy@focusbear.ioConnect with Joey:LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/joeycorea/Newsletter: https://thepluckyjester.com/newsletter/More from Focus Bear:Website: https://focusbear.ioLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/focus-bear/Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@focusbearappTwitter: https://twitter.com/focusbear1Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/focus_bear/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/focusbearapp/Podcast: https://podcast.focusbear.ioTiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@focusbear

Gabriele Marini, a PhD researcher in computational linguistics, shares his journey with ADHD, revealing how his high IQ led to a misdiagnosis. He discusses the struggles of being a high achiever while dealing with ADHD, the cultural stigma he faced growing up in Italy, and how he rebuilt self-acceptance after understanding his neurodivergent brain. Gabriele also explores practical productivity strategies, including the importance of rest, managing anxiety, and creating focused work environments. His story highlights that ADHD and success can coexist.

Kyriakos Gold, an autistic, queer Greek Australian social entrepreneur and founder of Just Gold, shares his empowering journey of unmasking after receiving an autism diagnosis in midlife. He discusses the emotional rollercoaster of revisiting past experiences and the liberating shift from shame to self-kindness. Kyriakos emphasizes rebuilding life around personal needs rather than societal expectations, creating a sensory-friendly environment, and using practical routines to foster well-being, all while advocating for neurodiversity and inclusion.