What is the “Constant Learner Effect” is and why you need to avoid this at all costs. Why your current strategy is actually LOWERING your body confidence. The counter-intuitive thing you should be doing instead. 3 questions to ask yourself to determine if you’ve fallen into the “Constant Learner Effect.” PLUS what the heck does The Devil Wears Prada have to teach us about body confidence and how we can avoid making the same critical mistake Andy makes in the film. Episode show notes: http://www.fiercefatty.com/034 Let's continue the conversation in my free group! >> https://tinyurl.com/fiercefattyfriends

Did you know that the Western world started being worried about being fat because white people didn't want to resemble black people who they believed were only interested in "fornication and food" and were "lazy"? Yep, surprize surprize it was racism that started our preference for smaller bodies. In this episode I talk about the work of Sabrina Strings and how centuries of racism has effected beauty ideals. Episode show notes: http://www.fiercefatty.com/033 We have a lot of links for this episode so I have put them all in a document for you: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1Tvqp6jrIQzOdIpEaHogAQnnBYJrrzsfqUrIVudv8IE8/edit?usp=sharing

Nancy Pelosi recently fat-shamed Trump. Trump is a horror show of a human being, but one thing about him that isn't bad? His weight. Literally there are hundreds of ways to take down Trump and him being fat is not one of his personal failures. But...is it ever ok to fat shame? What if you do it nicely because you're concerned about loved-ones health? What if someone thin shamed you? What if the fat person really is a massive bellend? We discuss this topic in today's episode. Let's do it! Episode show notes: http://www.fiercefatty.com/031 Is Fatphobia the Opposite of Skinny-Shaming? by Ragen Chastain: https://bit.ly/3doPZXR Anti-Diet book by Christy Harrison: https://bit.ly/2MojOvq Song by Netta, Bassa Sababa: https://bit.ly/2zIqWAr Article on 3rd Quarter Phenomenon: https://ab.co/2UgPbNd

People say to me all the time "Victoria, I wish I could be confident like you, but I can't do it!" I tell them "of course you can!" but they don't believe me. In this podcast episode I talk about that BS belief that people hold that are incapable of being confident and loving their fat body because they are just not that type of person or are particularly ugly or fat or (insert another BS lie you believe here). You CAN get to a place of body acceptance and even love. Learn how in this podcast. Episode show notes: http://www.fiercefatty.com/031 Confidence Booster Book: https://bampowlife.kartra.com/page/az368 Radical Responsibility Workbook: https://bampowlife.kartra.com/page/x8C96

Has your partner confessed that weight gain is a turn off for them? Or do you just know they have a preference for your body to be smaller rather than bigger? A long term ex-partner of mine told me that he was less attracted to me because I had put on a little weight. In this episode, I tell you that story and also what to do if this happens to you (or you fear it'll happen!). Episode show notes: http://www.fiercefatty.com/030 Why I Was Happy When My Boyfriend Told Me He Wasn’t Attracted to Me: http://fiercefatty.com/blog/why-i-was-happy-when-my-boyfriend-told-me-he-wasnt-attracted-to-me?rq=attracted

This is part 2 of 2 of my domestic abuse story. We left off last episode where the violence was just beginning. If you missed the last episode, go back and check that out first before listening to this one. A reminder about the trigger warning: violence, sexual abuse, alcoholism, self-harm, and mention of suicide. This episode gets a lot heavier as my ex begins to get more abusive. There are some moments where he gets his comeuppance however which is satisfying to hear. Episode show notes: http://www.fiercefatty.com/029 There is an eight-stage pattern that domestic abuse killers follow and my ex pretty much got to 6-7 of them before killing me, here is an article about it: https://www.bbc.com/news/uk-49481998

I want to talk about domestic abuse today and my experience with it. I was in an abusive relationship for over 2 years and I feel compelled to tell my story in detail in part because domestic violence is at critical levels with the lockdowns. A massive trigger warning on this episode, I talk about: emotional abuse, violence, sexual abuse, alcoholism, financial abuse, forced dieting and mentions of food, very brief mention of a pedophile and rape. Please skip this episode if you think this could trigger you. Episode show notes: http://www.fiercefatty.com/028 WHO Information on Violence Against Women: https://www.who.int/news-room/fact-sheets/detail/violence-against-women

Is embracing your body just an excuse to give up on your health? Is fat positivity or body positivity advocating for people to be unhealthy? What do you say to a fat person who is unhealthy due to their weight? I answer all these questions and a listener question in this episode. Plus a Covid-19 fat health update. CW: mention of the O words throughout. Episode show notes: http://www.fiercefatty.com/027 Covid-19 Does Not Discriminate By Body Weight: https://www.wired.com/story/covid-19-does-not-discriminate-by-body-weight/ How and Why Weight Stigma Drives the Obesity ‘Epidemic’ and Harms Health: BMC Med 16, 123 Tomiyama, A., Carr, D., Granberg, E. ET Al.  (2018): https://doi.org/10.1186/s12916-018-1116-5

Can you be a vegetarian/vegan and be an intuitive eater? Isn't that just another diet? Aren't vegans just people with restrictive eating patterns or eating disorders? Can you keep your food ethics and be an intuitive eater? Find out in this podcast episode :) Episode show notes: http://www.fiercefatty.com/026 Why Intuitive Eating Isn’t Working for You: https://bampowlife.kartra.com/page/4CU66 Me Cutting My Hair Video: https://www.instagram.com/tv/B-uYhlJhjM-/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link Honey Chrome Add on: joinhoney.com/ref/wjbuqr Grammarly: https://bit.ly/2wZ3e1o

I've gone from extremely low self-esteem to get to a place where I KNOW I am worthy and gorgeous and a-ok just the way I am today. With that gigantic shift has come many changes in my life; good, bad and just plain weird. Hear about them in today's episode and let's compare notes on some of the things we have experienced with low and high self-esteem. PLUS I spill some juicy cringy dating stories from when I had low confidence versus now when I have high confidence. Episode show notes: http://www.fiercefatty.com/025 String Bikini Pool Video: https://bit.ly/2V8wETK Lofihip Hop Live on YT: https://bit.ly/3bbotM4 Deborah Feldman's 2012 autobiography Unorthodox: The Scandalous Rejection of My Hasidic Roots: https://bit.ly/3b3hMvD 30 Days Free of Scribd, with No Credit Card Needed (Unlimted Access to Audiobooks, Books, Magazines Etc): https://bit.ly/3eeXPEd