This episode is about learning to master transformation conversations from our six-part series on leadership practices that lead to breakthrough. If you’d like to learn more about this series or our organizational coaching and leadership development services you can contact us using our website, https://theleadersjourney.us/contact Change happens at the speed of conversation God created with God’s words What do our words enroll people in? Enrolling people in hope The 3 parts of a transformation conversation How are you going to practice?

A guiding principle is a standard you want to live up to or a value you want to live into with integrity. This episode is about learning to identify and clarify guiding principles from our six-part series on leadership practices that lead to breakthrough. If you'd like to learn more about this series or our organizational coaching and leadership development services you can contact us using our website, https://theleadersjourney.us/contact Conversation Overview: Distinguishing guiding principles from beliefs and core values Do guiding principles change throughout our lives?  Integrity and accountability How to clean up messes & the integrity conversation Moving from theoretical to practical Thank you for listening. If you enjoy listening to The Leader’s Journey Podcast, the best way to support us is to take just a few seconds and leave a rating and/or comment over on iTunes or share it with your friends on Facebook … Thank you!

We are in a changing context and the practices we grew up with are not the practices that will sustain the kind of leadership we need in this world. We believe that effective leaders have a set of daily, weekly, and occasional practices that nourish their spirit and fosters ongoing transformation. This episode is about spiritual practices that lead to breakthrough from our six-part series on leadership practices that lead to breakthrough. If you'd like to learn more about this series or our organizational coaching and leadership development services you can contact us using our website, https://theleadersjourney.us/contact Leaders can grow their capacity- What are spiritual practices? Getting access to your inner-life Being intentionally about choosing practices Examining our practices Where do you want to have a breakthrough?   

We can navigate cancel culture by seeing the systems forces that perpetuate it and by managing ourselves wisely in the midst of those forces. We started this conversation a couple of months ago and are especially interested in how it relates to leadership in a Christian context. Conversation overview: What is cancel culture? Systems forces on cancel culture Connections between outrage culture and cancel culture What we aren’t saying How can leaders look at cancel culture differently? How can leaders navigate cancel culture in their organizations and relationships?

To change the way you show up in a system, you have to learn to disrupt your autopilot. Change is not just a set of ideas, deep desire, or good intentions. It is a set of practices and in this episode, we explore some of those practices.   Conversation Overview Identifying the behavior you want to change Identify the impact on you and on those around you Give your word to yourself and a few trusted colleagues that you are going to change your behavior Reflect: Learn to see it in the rearview mirror Clean up the messes Celebrate the wins and have self-compassion

Two Feet Walking: Part 3 APRIL 21, 2021 By The Leader's Journey (Edit) Between the pace of change and the complexity of modern life, congregational leadership isn’t just one thing and can’t be done by just one person. In order to stay balanced and effective, leaders must learn to engage the complexity of both making individual disciples and mobilizing a group of people to engage a shared mission. We call this Two Feet Walking. In this episode, we talk about integration–the ability to walk with both feet in a natural cadence and rhythm of leadership. We also address the obstacles to this way of leading–overwhelm and fatigue, job descriptions and congregational expectations and the danger of trying to do it alone. Subscribe | Rate & Review Conversation overview: Living in liminal space Integration: the rhythm of walking with both feet List of skills related to leading individuals to maturity and transformation List of skills related to leading groups of people to accomplish a shared mission Making new maps Addressing the obstacles: overwhelm, job descriptions and congregational expectations and giving the work back to others Resources Canoeing the Mountains: Christian Leadership in Uncharted Territory How to Lead When You Don’t Know Where You Are Going: Leading In A Liminal Season by Susan Beaumont Family Systems and Congregational Life by Robert Creech Doing the Math of Mission: Fruits, Faithfulness, and Metrics by Gil Rendle Traction: Get A Grip on Your Business by Gino Wickman Generating and Sustaining Creative Tension: An Overview by Jim and Trisha Resources for deconstructing your first formation: Becoming a Healthier Pastor by Ronald Richardson An Introduction to Trauma for Leaders: Part 1 Part 2 Part 3 Quit Getting In Your Own Way Faithwalking Resources for Skill Development: Being an Emotional Grown-up: Defined and Connected in an Emotionally Charged System Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High by Kerry Patterson, Joseph Grenny, et. al. Leading in a Politically Charged Culture Managing Leadership Anxiety: Yours and Theirs by Steve Cuss Resources for Coaching: An Everyone Culture: Becoming a Deliberately Developmental Organization by Robert Kegan and Lisa Lahey Coaching: The Art of Creating a Safe and Challenging Space Resources for Skill Development: How did Jesus deal with Conflict? Growing Yourself Up by Jenny Brown Resources for Missional Living: How did Jesus deal with Conflict? Growing Yourself Up by Jenny Brown Resources for Skill Development: Canoeing the Mountains: Christian Leadership in Uncharted Territory by Tod Bolsinger The Gospel Next Door: Following Jesus Right Where You Are by Marty Troyer Thank you for listening. If you enjoy listening to The Leader’s Journey Podcast, the best way to support us is to take just a few seconds and leave a rating and/or comment over on iTunes or share it with your friends on Facebook … Thank you! Filed Under: Leadership, Podcast Grow Your Team’s EQ! There is a symbiotic relationship between the places that your organization is stuck or stopped and the level of emotional maturity of the organization’s leadership. LEARN MORE SUBSCRIBE TO OUR PODCAST!

Between the pace of change and the complexity of modern life, congregational leadership isn’t just one thing and can’t be done by just one person. In order to stay balanced and effective, leaders must learn to engage the complexity of both making individual disciples and mobilizing a group of people to engage a shared mission. We call this Two Feet Walking. In this episode, we explore the skills that leaders must have to mobilize a group of people to engage a shared mission in a rapidly changing cultural and religious context.  Subscribe | Rate & Review Conversation overview: Vision, map-making and liminal space Accountability and conflict resolution as essential skills Responding to complexity Self-care in the midst of loss Giving the work away Resources How to Lead When You Don’t Know Where You Are Going: Leading In A Liminal Season by Susan Beaumont Family Systems and Congregational Life by Robert Creech Doing the Math of Mission: Fruits, Faithfulness, and Metrics by Gil Rendle Traction: Get A Grip on Your Business by Gino Wickman Generating and Sustaining Creative Tension: An Overview by Jim and Trisha Resources for deconstructing your first formation: Becoming a Healthier Pastor by Ronald Richardson An Introduction to Trauma for Leaders: Part 1 Part 2 Part 3 Quit Getting In Your Own Way Faithwalking Resources for Skill Development: Being an Emotional Grown-up: Defined and Connected in an Emotionally Charged System Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High by Kerry Patterson, Joseph Grenny, et. al. Leading in a Politically Charged Culture Managing Leadership Anxiety: Yours and Theirs by Steve Cuss Resources for Coaching: An Everyone Culture: Becoming a Deliberately Developmental Organization by Robert Kegan and Lisa Lahey Coaching: The Art of Creating a Safe and Challenging Space Resources for Skill Development: How did Jesus deal with Conflict? Growing Yourself Up by Jenny Brown Resources for Missional Living: How did Jesus deal with Conflict? Growing Yourself Up by Jenny Brown Resources for Skill Development: Canoeing the Mountains: Christian Leadership in Uncharted Territory by Tod Bolsinger The Gospel Next Door: Following Jesus Right Where You Are by Marty Troyer Thank you for listening. If you enjoy listening to The Leader’s Journey Podcast, the best way to support us is to take just a few seconds and leave a rating and/or comment over on iTunes or share it with your friends on Facebook … Thank you!

Congregational leadership isn’t just one thing and can’t be done by just one person. In order to stay balanced and effective, leaders must learn to engage the complexity of both making individual disciples and mobilizing a group of people to engage a shared mission. We call this Two Feet Walking. Subscribe | Rate & Review Conversation overview: Rapidly changing ministry contexts require complex leadership Two Feet Walking Ministry leadership as developing individual disciples to live missionally Being fully human – woundedness and flourishing Being people who can handle conflict well Resources for deconstructing your first formation: Becoming a Healthier Pastor by Ronald Richardson An Introduction to Trauma for Leaders           Part 1 Part 2 Part 3 Quit Getting In Your Own Way Faithwalking Resources for Skill Development: Being an Emotional Grown–up: Defined and Connected in an Emotionally Charged System Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High by Kerry Patterson, Joseph Grenny, et. al. Leading in a Politically Charged Culture Managing Leadership Anxiety: Yours and Theirs by Steve Cuss Resources for Coaching: An Everyone Culture: Becoming a Deliberately Developmental Organization by Robert Kegan and Lisa Lahey Coaching: The Art of Creating a Safe and Challenging Space Resources for Skill Development: How did Jesus deal with Conflict? Growing Yourself Up by Jenny Brown Resources for Missional Living: How did Jesus deal with Conflict? Growing Yourself Up by Jenny Brown Resources for Skill Development: Canoeing the Mountains: Christian Leadership in Uncharted Territory by Tod Bolsinger The Gospel Next Door: Following Jesus Right Where You Are by Marty Troyer Thank you for listening. If you enjoy listening to The Leader’s Journey Podcast, the best way to support us is to take just a few seconds and leave a rating and/or comment over on iTunes or share it with your friends on Facebook … Thank you!

We know that our lives and our leadership flourish when we practice showing up in emotionally mature ways but we don’t always know what that looks like practically. After thinking together about emotional maturity for more than 20 years, we believe that it looks like practicing being both defined and connected as a way of life. In this podcast, we talk about defining ourselves, letting others define themselves, staying appropriately connected . . . and then we look at the “and” that holds them all together. It’s a little bit like patting your head and rubbing your tummy–trying to do both things at once is a challenge! We think it’s worth it, though. We hope you’ll join us to look at how the concept of being defined and connected shows up in your life and how you can use it as a framework to think through some of your stickiest problems. Subscribe | Rate & Review Conversation overview: Defining ourselves by clearly and courageously saying what is so for us Allowing (and even inviting) others to define themselves Staying appropriately connected and honoring our relationships with others even if they see things differently Connecting by listening rather than convincing Disagreeing without dehumanizing each other Looking at your patterns: Do you give up defining yourself in order to preserve the connection? Do you define yourself but let go of the connection? Examples of practice A visual representation Resources: How did Jesus deal with Conflict? Growing Yourself Up by Jenny Brown Thank you for listening. If you enjoy listening to The Leader’s Journey Podcast, the best way to support us is to take just a few seconds and leave a rating and/or comment over on iTunes or share it with your friends on Facebook … Thank you!

After talking about each of the 8 core concepts of Bowen Family Systems Theory in previous episodes, we come back together in this episode to ask some final questions about the theory and its usefulness to us as leaders. We wonder about the relationship of the theory to our spirituality. What do we have to learn about faith from this theory? How can we approach our faith and the faith of others with curiosity and objectivity? We also look at common myths about BFST and answer common questions that people have about the theory. We hope that this series will lead you to investigate further and consider BFST as one of the theories that guide your leadership Subscribe | Rate & Review Summary: The relationship between BFST and faith Bowen’s 9th concept - the supernatural Asking questions about our faith - objective and subjective Our own stories about our faith and BFST Addressing common myths about BFST: Bowen theory is uncaring and unrelational Triangles are bad I should get everyone in my life on board with BFST Systems theory is opposed to personal responsibility For basic information about BFST, we recommend these resources:  The 8 Concepts of Bowen Theory by Roberta Gilbert Extraordinary Relationships by Roberta Gilbert https://thebowencenter.org/theory/ For a deep dive into Bowen theory in Bowen’s own words, try Family Therapy in Clinical Practice by Murray Bowen.  To expand your application of Bowen theory, consider: A Diary of Everyday Growing Up (podcast and blog) by Jenny Brown A Failure of Nerve by Edwin Friedman Thank you for listening. If you enjoy listening to The Leader’s Journey Podcast, the best way to support us is to take just a few seconds and leave a rating and/or comment over on iTunes or share it with your friends on Facebook … Thank you!