Nobody Told Me!

Puberty can be a tough time for boys. It’s a time when they may get quiet and withdraw. It’s a challenging time for parents who want to help their sons navigate the physical and emotional changes they’re experiencing. To help parents on this journey, we turn to our guest, bestselling author and widely respected pediatrician, Dr. Cara Natterson, author of the book, Decoding Boys: New Science Behind the Subtle Art of Raising Sons. Her website is worryproofmd.com.  Thanks to our sponsors of this episode!   --> AirMedCare Network: AirMedCare Network provides world-class air transport services to the nearest, appropriate hospital or trauma center. AMCN Members have the added value of knowing their flight expenses are completely covered when flown by an AMCN provider. For as little as $85 a year, it covers your entire household, every day, 24/7, even when traveling. AMCN is the largest medical air transport membership in the country, covering 38 states. For just pennies a day, you can worry less about what matters most. This is security no family should be without. Now, as a Nobody Told Me! listener, you’ll get up to a $50 eGift Card when you join. Visit www.airmedcarenetwork.com/nobody and use the offer code NOBODY. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, we talk to Sue Klebold about how she would give her own life to stop her son Dylan's mass shooting at Columbine High School. Sue reveals how Dylan had no mental illness diagnosis, and no one knew about the dark depression he wrote in personal journals. Eventually, his suicidal thoughts turned homicidal, and his friendship with fellow shooter Eric Harris developed into extreme rage amongst the two which led to that unforgettable tragedy in 1999. We discuss how she has spent the last fifteen years excavating every detail of her family life and trying to understand the crucial intersection between mental health problems and violence, what she feels she missed in Dylan's mental state, the idea of forgiveness, and the urgent need to change how society responds to psychological disorders in order to prevent future tragedies. Thanks to our sponsors of this episode!   --> Feals: Feals is a premium CBD delivered directly to your doorstep. Simply put, it’s a better way to keep your head clear and feel better. CBD isn’t about what you feel. It’s about what you don’t feel – stress, anxiety, pain. CBD is one of the active compounds found in the hemp plant. It works naturally without any mind altering effects or "high" for the person using it. Feals also offers a free CBD hotline to help guide your personal experience so that you find your perfect dose. The Feals Customer Service team is dedicated to making sure you get the best use of your CBD. Joining the Feals monthly membership makes your self-care easy. You’ll save money on every order and you can pause or cancel any time. Start feeling better with Feals! Become a member today by going to www.feals.com/NOBODYTOLDME and you'll get 50% off your first order with free shipping!   --> Coda.io: Spending your workday jumping from one platform to another for every single task is productivity poison! Coda is the doc that brings it all together. Your valuable data, plans, objectives, and strategies in the same place—on the same page, even. If your best work is spread out across documents, spreadsheets, and a stack of workflow tools you have to jump in and out of all day, you should bring it all together in a Coda doc. Integrate with the tools you use every day, and easily import from other platforms so your Coda doc can be your single source of truth. Everything’s connected in Coda. Buttons can take action, and your tables can talk to each other. So an update in one place updates everywhere. Who’s going to miss pasting the same thing in nine different places? There are templates for anything and everything. Product roadmaps, remote onboarding, launch trackers, meeting notes...You name it, Coda has it! Right now, you can get started having your team all working together on the same page for FREE. To try it out, head over to www.coda.io/nobodytoldme   --> AirMedCare Network: AirMedCare Network provides world-class air transport services to the nearest, appropriate hospital or trauma center. AMCN Members have the added value of knowing their flight expenses are completely covered when flown by an AMCN provider. For as little as $85 a year, it covers your entire household, every day, 24/7, even when traveling. AMCN is the largest medical air transport membership in the country, covering 38 states. For just pennies a day, you can worry less about what matters most. This is security no family should be without. Now, as a Nobody Told Me! listener, you’ll get up to a $50 eGift Card when you join. Visit www.airmedcarenetwork.com/nobody and use the offer code NOBODY. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this episode, we talk dating with our returning guest, Damona Hoffman. Damona is the Official Relationship Expert for OKCupid, and has been featured as a relationship coach on television and in newspapers such as the Washington Post and LA Times. Damona has also starred in two A&E Network TV series and is the host of the Dates and Mates podcast. Thanks to our sponsors of this episode!   --> Feals: Feals is a premium CBD delivered directly to your doorstep. Simply put, it’s a better way to keep your head clear and feel better. CBD isn’t about what you feel. It’s about what you don’t feel – stress, anxiety, pain. CBD is one of the active compounds found in the hemp plant. It works naturally without any mind altering effects or "high" for the person using it. Feals also offers a free CBD hotline to help guide your personal experience so that you find your perfect dose. The Feals Customer Service team is dedicated to making sure you get the best use of your CBD. Joining the Feals monthly membership makes your self-care easy. You’ll save money on every order and you can pause or cancel any time. Start feeling better with Feals! Become a member today by going to www.feals.com/NOBODYTOLDME and you'll get 50% off your first order with free shipping!   --> Coda.io: Spending your workday jumping from one platform to another for every single task is productivity poison! Coda is the doc that brings it all together. Your valuable data, plans, objectives, and strategies in the same place—on the same page, even. If your best work is spread out across documents, spreadsheets, and a stack of workflow tools you have to jump in and out of all day, you should bring it all together in a Coda doc. Integrate with the tools you use every day, and easily import from other platforms so your Coda doc can be your single source of truth. Everything’s connected in Coda. Buttons can take action, and your tables can talk to each other. So an update in one place updates everywhere. Who’s going to miss pasting the same thing in nine different places? There are templates for anything and everything. Product roadmaps, remote onboarding, launch trackers, meeting notes...You name it, Coda has it! Right now, you can get started having your team all working together on the same page for FREE. To try it out, head over to www.coda.io/nobodytoldme   --> AirMedCare Network: AirMedCare Network provides world-class air transport services to the nearest, appropriate hospital or trauma center. AMCN Members have the added value of knowing their flight expenses are completely covered when flown by an AMCN provider. For as little as $85 a year, it covers your entire household, every day, 24/7, even when traveling. AMCN is the largest medical air transport membership in the country, covering 38 states. For just pennies a day, you can worry less about what matters most. This is security no family should be without. Now, as a Nobody Told Me! listener, you’ll get up to a $50 eGift Card when you join. Visit www.airmedcarenetwork.com/nobody and use the offer code NOBODY. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Death is a part of life, and if you’ve experienced the death of a close family member or friend, you may wonder if the pain of that loss will ever go away. So, what happens to our brains and bodies when we grieve? What should we know about grief in order to heal in the healthiest way possible? We’ll explore those questions on this episode as we talk with Mary-Frances O’Connor who is a well-known grief expert, neuroscientist and psychologist. She’s also the author of a new book called, “THE GRIEVING BRAIN: The Surprising Science of How We Learn from Love and Loss”. Thanks to our sponsors of this episode!   --> Feals: Feals is a premium CBD delivered directly to your doorstep. Simply put, it’s a better way to keep your head clear and feel better. CBD isn’t about what you feel. It’s about what you don’t feel – stress, anxiety, pain. CBD is one of the active compounds found in the hemp plant. It works naturally without any mind altering effects or "high" for the person using it. Feals also offers a free CBD hotline to help guide your personal experience so that you find your perfect dose. The Feals Customer Service team is dedicated to making sure you get the best use of your CBD. Joining the Feals monthly membership makes your self-care easy. You’ll save money on every order and you can pause or cancel any time. Start feeling better with Feals! Become a member today by going to www.feals.com/NOBODYTOLDME and you'll get 50% off your first order with free shipping!   --> Coda.io: Spending your workday jumping from one platform to another for every single task is productivity poison! Coda is the doc that brings it all together. Your valuable data, plans, objectives, and strategies in the same place—on the same page, even. If your best work is spread out across documents, spreadsheets, and a stack of workflow tools you have to jump in and out of all day, you should bring it all together in a Coda doc. Integrate with the tools you use every day, and easily import from other platforms so your Coda doc can be your single source of truth. Everything’s connected in Coda. Buttons can take action, and your tables can talk to each other. So an update in one place updates everywhere. Who’s going to miss pasting the same thing in nine different places? There are templates for anything and everything. Product roadmaps, remote onboarding, launch trackers, meeting notes...You name it, Coda has it! Right now, you can get started having your team all working together on the same page for FREE. To try it out, head over to www.coda.io/nobodytoldme   --> AirMedCare Network: AirMedCare Network provides world-class air transport services to the nearest, appropriate hospital or trauma center. AMCN Members have the added value of knowing their flight expenses are completely covered when flown by an AMCN provider. For as little as $85 a year, it covers your entire household, every day, 24/7, even when traveling. AMCN is the largest medical air transport membership in the country, covering 38 states. For just pennies a day, you can worry less about what matters most. This is security no family should be without. Now, as a Nobody Told Me! listener, you’ll get up to a $50 eGift Card when you join. Visit www.airmedcarenetwork.com/nobody and use the offer code NOBODY. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’re thrilled to welcome extreme cleaning specialist Matt Paxton back to the show. Matt has spent decades helping people sort through all the things they’ve accumulated in attics, basements, garages and elsewhere. You may know Matt from his years on the television shows, “Hoarders” or “Legacy List with Matt Paxton”. Matt is also the author of the new book, "Keep the Memories, Lose the Stuff: Declutter, Downsize, and Move Forward with Your Life". Thanks to our sponsors of this episode! --> Feals: Feals is a premium CBD delivered directly to your doorstep. Simply put, it’s a better way to keep your head clear and feel better. CBD isn’t about what you feel. It’s about what you don’t feel – stress, anxiety, pain. CBD is one of the active compounds found in the hemp plant. It works naturally without any mind altering effects or "high" for the person using it. Feals also offers a free CBD hotline to help guide your personal experience so that you find your perfect dose. The Feals Customer Service team is dedicated to making sure you get the best use of your CBD. Joining the Feals monthly membership makes your self-care easy. You’ll save money on every order and you can pause or cancel any time. Start feeling better with Feals! Become a member today by going to www.feals.com/NOBODYTOLDME and you'll get 50% off your first order with free shipping! --> Coda.io: Spending your workday jumping from one platform to another for every single task is productivity poison! Coda is the doc that brings it all together. Your valuable data, plans, objectives, and strategies in the same place—on the same page, even. If your best work is spread out across documents, spreadsheets, and a stack of workflow tools you have to jump in and out of all day, you should bring it all together in a Coda doc. Integrate with the tools you use every day, and easily import from other platforms so your Coda doc can be your single source of truth. Everything’s connected in Coda. Buttons can take action, and your tables can talk to each other. So an update in one place updates everywhere. Who’s going to miss pasting the same thing in nine different places? There are templates for anything and everything. Product roadmaps, remote onboarding, launch trackers, meeting notes...You name it, Coda has it! Right now, you can get started having your team all working together on the same page for FREE. To try it out, head over to www.coda.io/nobodytoldme --> AirMedCare Network: AirMedCare Network provides world-class air transport services to the nearest, appropriate hospital or trauma center. AMCN Members have the added value of knowing their flight expenses are completely covered when flown by an AMCN provider. For as little as $85 a year, it covers your entire household, every day, 24/7, even when traveling. AMCN is the largest medical air transport membership in the country, covering 38 states. For just pennies a day, you can worry less about what matters most. This is security no family should be without. Now, as a Nobody Told Me! listener, you’ll get up to a $50 eGift Card when you join. Visit www.airmedcarenetwork.com/nobody and use the offer code NOBODY. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How do you feel about aging? And, how do your thoughts about aging impact your health? Our guest on this episode is Dr. Becca Levy, professor of Public Health and Psychology at Yale. She says your age beliefs are so powerful that they define how you experience your later years. Dr. Levy is credited with creating the field of study that focuses on how positive and negative age stereotypes can have beneficial and adverse effects, respectively, on the health of older people. Her new book is called, “Breaking the Age Code: How Your Beliefs About Aging Determine How Long and Well You Live”. Thanks to our sponsors of this episode! --> Feals: Feals is a premium CBD delivered directly to your doorstep. Simply put, it’s a better way to keep your head clear and feel better. CBD isn’t about what you feel. It’s about what you don’t feel – stress, anxiety, pain. CBD is one of the active compounds found in the hemp plant. It works naturally without any mind altering effects or "high" for the person using it. Feals also offers a free CBD hotline to help guide your personal experience so that you find your perfect dose. The Feals Customer Service team is dedicated to making sure you get the best use of your CBD. Joining the Feals monthly membership makes your self-care easy. You’ll save money on every order and you can pause or cancel any time. Start feeling better with Feals! Become a member today by going to www.feals.com/NOBODYTOLDME and you'll get 50% off your first order with free shipping!   --> Coda.io: Spending your workday jumping from one platform to another for every single task is productivity poison! Coda is the doc that brings it all together. Your valuable data, plans, objectives, and strategies in the same place—on the same page, even. If your best work is spread out across documents, spreadsheets, and a stack of workflow tools you have to jump in and out of all day, you should bring it all together in a Coda doc. Integrate with the tools you use every day, and easily import from other platforms so your Coda doc can be your single source of truth. Everything’s connected in Coda. Buttons can take action, and your tables can talk to each other. So an update in one place updates everywhere. Who’s going to miss pasting the same thing in nine different places? There are templates for anything and everything. Product roadmaps, remote onboarding, launch trackers, meeting notes...You name it, Coda has it! Right now, you can get started having your team all working together on the same page for FREE. To try it out, head over to www.coda.io/nobodytoldme --> AirMedCare Network: AirMedCare Network provides world-class air transport services to the nearest, appropriate hospital or trauma center. AMCN Members have the added value of knowing their flight expenses are completely covered when flown by an AMCN provider. For as little as $85 a year, it covers your entire household, every day, 24/7, even when traveling. AMCN is the largest medical air transport membership in the country, covering 38 states. For just pennies a day, you can worry less about what matters most. This is security no family should be without. Now, as a Nobody Told Me! listener, you’ll get up to a $50 eGift Card when you join. Visit www.airmedcarenetwork.com/nobody and use the offer code NOBODY. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever wished you could set healthier boundaries with your family, friends, co-workers and others in your life? Do you feel your mental health has suffered because of a lack of healthy boundaries in various aspects of your life? If so, you’ll get some great suggestions from our guest on this episode, relationship therapist Nedra Glover Tawwab, author of the new book, Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself. ****** Thanks to our sponsor of this episode! --> AirMedCare Network: AirMedCare Network provides world-class air transport services to the nearest, appropriate hospital or trauma center. AMCN Members have the added value of knowing their flight expenses are completely covered when flown by an AMCN provider. For as little as $85 a year, it covers your entire household, every day, 24/7, even when traveling. AMCN is the largest medical air transport membership in the country, covering 38 states. For just pennies a day, you can worry less about what matters most. This is security no family should be without. Now, as a Nobody Told Me! listener, you’ll get up to a $50 eGift Card when you join. Visit www.airmedcarenetwork.com/nobody and use the offer code NOBODY. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this episode, we’ll explore a question many of us have probably pondered, but relatively few of us have experienced. What’s it like to fall in love with someone in prison? Our guest, journalist Elizabeth Greenwood, spent five years following the ups and downs of five couples who met during incarceration.  She’s written about it in the new book, LOVE LOCKDOWN: Dating, Sex, & Marriage in America's Prison System. The book profiles people who took the greatest leap of faith to develop a relationship in an environment that is, by design, meant to keep love out. Thanks to our sponsor of this episode! --> AirMedCare Network: AirMedCare Network provides world-class air transport services to the nearest, appropriate hospital or trauma center. AMCN Members have the added value of knowing their flight expenses are completely covered when flown by an AMCN provider. For as little as $85 a year, it covers your entire household, every day, 24/7, even when traveling. AMCN is the largest medical air transport membership in the country, covering 38 states. For just pennies a day, you can worry less about what matters most. This is security no family should be without. Now, as a Nobody Told Me! listener, you’ll get up to a $50 eGift Card when you join. Visit www.airmedcarenetwork.com/nobody and use the offer code NOBODY. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Our guest on this episode is beloved writer, educator and social activist Lorene Cary. She is the author of several books, including "Black Ice", "The Price of a Child" and "Pride". Lorene’s most recent book is a memoir called, "Ladysitting: My Year with Nana at the End of Her Century". It’s received rave reviews including one from O, the Oprah Magazine which called Ladysitting simply, “Radiant”. Thanks to our sponsor of this episode! --> AirMedCare Network: AirMedCare Network provides world-class air transport services to the nearest, appropriate hospital or trauma center. AMCN Members have the added value of knowing their flight expenses are completely covered when flown by an AMCN provider. For as little as $85 a year, it covers your entire household, every day, 24/7, even when traveling. AMCN is the largest medical air transport membership in the country, covering 38 states. For just pennies a day, you can worry less about what matters most. This is security no family should be without. Now, as a Nobody Told Me! listener, you’ll get up to a $50 eGift Card when you join. Visit www.airmedcarenetwork.com/nobody and use the offer code NOBODY. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you find it difficult to forgive?  Do you wish others would find it easier to forgive you?  Joining us is Dr. Fred Luskin, who’s the Director of the Stanford Forgiveness Projects, an ongoing series of workshops and research projects that investigate the effectiveness of his forgiveness methods on a variety of populations.    Dr. Luskin is one of the world’s leading researchers on forgiveness.  He’s the author of the best selling books,  ‘Forgive for Good:  A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness and Forgive for Love:  The Missing Ingrediant for a Healthy and Lasting Relationship’. To learn more, check out Dr. Luskin's website at www.learningtoforgive.com Thanks to our sponsor of this episode! --> AirMedCare Network: AirMedCare Network provides world-class air transport services to the nearest, appropriate hospital or trauma center. AMCN Members have the added value of knowing their flight expenses are completely covered when flown by an AMCN provider. For as little as $85 a year, it covers your entire household, every day, 24/7, even when traveling. AMCN is the largest medical air transport membership in the country, covering 38 states. For just pennies a day, you can worry less about what matters most. This is security no family should be without. Now, as a Nobody Told Me! listener, you’ll get up to a $50 eGift Card when you join. Visit www.airmedcarenetwork.com/nobody and use the offer code NOBODY. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices