Nobody Told Me!

Everyone experiences trauma. Whether it’s a specific harrowing event or a series of stressful moments over time, trauma can etch itself into our brains and echo as we remember it over and over throughout our lives. On this episode, we find out about the longterm effects of trauma and what we can do to reduce them. Joining us is neuroscientist Dr. Tracey Shors, who’s the author of the book, "EVERYDAY TRAUMA: Remapping the Brain's Response to Stress, Anxiety, and Painful Memories for a Better Life."   Note: This episode was previously aired.   Thanks to our sponsor, Lomi, the world’s first Smart Waste Appliance.  If you’ve struggled with composting and feel it’s too much work, or feel bad that you’re not doing your part to help the environment, you have to check out Lomi, the countertop electric composter.  Just about anything you'd put into the kitchen disposer can be put into the Lomi on your countertop and turned into dirt in four hours.  Use that dirt in your garden! There’s no smell when Lomi runs and it’s really quiet.  Turn your food waste into dirt with the press of a button with Lomi.  Lomi will make the perfect gift for someone on your shopping list!  Just head to LOMI.COM/NTM and use the promo code NTM to get $50 off your Lomi!   Thanks to our sponsor, Hover.  If you have a brand that you’ve always dreamt of building or a business you want to take online, the first step is finding your domain name. Hover makes this super simple with a clear and straightforward user experience, easy-to-use tools, and truly amazing support. Getting online has helped thousands of people around the world reach new heights with their businesses. In addition to the classics like .COM, you can get extensions like .SHOP, .TECH, and .ART, with over 400 more to choose from. You can buy a domain, set up custom email boxes, and point it to your website in just a few clicks.  Get your idea off the ground with the perfect domain name. Head to hover.com/NOBODY to get 10% off your first Hover purchase!   Thanks to our sponsor, Paired, the relationship app for couples. You and your partner download the app, “Pair” together, and every day Paired gives you questions, quizzes and games to have fun, stay connected and deepen your conversations. It’s simple and often hilarious and heartwarming!   Each day you get a quiz to play, or a question to answer and you can’t see your partner's answer until you answer yourself.  Whether you’re just a few dates in or have been together a long time, it’s time to lighten the mood and have fun with your partner by using Paired. Paired has a special offer for our Nobody Told Me! listeners.  Head to PAIRED.COM/NOBODY to get a 7-day free trial and 25% off if you sign up for a subscription.

How does the food you eat impact your mental health? How can you change your diet to improve your emotional outlook?  We talk about those questions with journalist and food expert Mary Beth Albright, who is the author of the new book, "EAT & FLOURISH: How Food Supports Emotional Well-Being".   Thanks to our sponsor, Lomi, the world’s first Smart Waste Appliance.  If you’ve struggled with composting and feel it’s too much work, or feel bad that you’re not doing your part to help the environment, you have to check out Lomi, the countertop electric composter.  Just about anything you'd put into the kitchen disposer can be put into the Lomi on your countertop and turned into dirt in four hours.  Use that dirt in your garden! There’s no smell when Lomi runs and it’s really quiet.  Turn your food waste into dirt with the press of a button with Lomi.  Lomi will make the perfect gift for someone on your shopping list!  Just head to LOMI.COM/NTM and use the promo code NTM to get $50 off your Lomi!   Thanks to our sponsor, Hover.  If you have a brand that you’ve always dreamt of building or a business you want to take online, the first step is finding your domain name. Hover makes this super simple with a clear and straightforward user experience, easy-to-use tools, and truly amazing support. Getting online has helped thousands of people around the world reach new heights with their businesses. In addition to the classics like .COM, you can get extensions like .SHOP, .TECH, and .ART, with over 400 more to choose from. You can buy a domain, set up custom email boxes, and point it to your website in just a few clicks.  Get your idea off the ground with the perfect domain name. Head to hover.com/NOBODY to get 10% off your first Hover purchase!   Thanks to our sponsor, Paired, the relationship app for couples. You and your partner download the app, “Pair” together, and every day Paired gives you questions, quizzes and games to have fun, stay connected and deepen your conversations. It’s simple and often hilarious and heartwarming!   Each day you get a quiz to play, or a question to answer and you can’t see your partner's answer until you answer yourself.  Whether you’re just a few dates in or have been together a long time, it’s time to lighten the mood and have fun with your partner by using Paired. Paired has a special offer for our Nobody Told Me! listeners.  Head to PAIRED.COM/NOBODY to get a 7-day free trial and 25% off if you sign up for a subscription.

If you want to shake things up in your life, listen to our guest on this episode, Michael Bungay Stanier.  He is the author of the best-selling book, “The Coaching Habit” and the founder of the training and development company, Box of Crayons, which has taught coaching skills to hundreds of thousands of people around the world.  His newest book is called, "How To Begin:  Start Doing Something that Matters".  His website is mbsworks. Note: This episode was previously aired.   Thanks to our sponsor, Lomi, the world’s first Smart Waste Appliance.  If you’ve struggled with composting and feel it’s too much work, or feel bad that you’re not doing your part to help the environment, you have to check out Lomi, the countertop electric composter.  Just about anything you'd put into the kitchen disposer can be put into the Lomi on your countertop and turned into dirt in four hours.  Use that dirt in your garden! There’s no smell when Lomi runs and it’s really quiet.  Turn your food waste into dirt with the press of a button with Lomi.  Lomi will make the perfect gift for someone on your shopping list!  Just head to LOMI.COM/NTM and use the promo code NTM to get $50 off your Lomi!   Thanks to our sponsor, Hover.  If you have a brand that you’ve always dreamt of building or a business you want to take online, the first step is finding your domain name. Hover makes this super simple with a clear and straightforward user experience, easy-to-use tools, and truly amazing support. Getting online has helped thousands of people around the world reach new heights with their businesses. In addition to the classics like .COM, you can get extensions like .SHOP, .TECH, and .ART, with over 400 more to choose from. You can buy a domain, set up custom email boxes, and point it to your website in just a few clicks.  Get your idea off the ground with the perfect domain name. Head to hover.com/NOBODY to get 10% off your first Hover purchase!   Thanks to our sponsor, Paired, the relationship app for couples. You and your partner download the app, “Pair” together, and every day Paired gives you questions, quizzes and games to have fun, stay connected and deepen your conversations. It’s simple and often hilarious and heartwarming!   Each day you get a quiz to play, or a question to answer and you can’t see your partner's answer until you answer yourself.  Whether you’re just a few dates in or have been together a long time, it’s time to lighten the mood and have fun with your partner by using Paired. Paired has a special offer for our Nobody Told Me! listeners.  Head to PAIRED.COM/NOBODY to get a 7-day free trial and 25% off if you sign up for a subscription.

The holiday season brings about invitations, parties and other situations in which etiquette is important.  One of the world's foremost experts on etiquette, Jacqueline Whitmore, joins us on this episode to talk about business etiquette, how to approach uncomfortable situations, how to make small talk, how social media has impacted our in-person interactions, and much more.  You can learn more about her at https://etiquetteexpert.com/.   Note: This episode was previously aired.   Our sponsor, Blissy, sells 100% Mulberry silk pillowcases, sleep masks and other products to help you get a great night’s sleep!  Silk is what’s best for your hair and skin. It reduces frizz, tangles and prevents breakage. You'll love the way your skin looks and the way your hair feels after sleeping on a Blissy pillowcase.  Blissy’s pillowcases regulate temperature keeping you cool at night.  They're hypoallergenic, machine-washable and durable.  They're available in many different prints and colors and make great gifts because there's an option for everyone, even kids. With the holidays just around the corner, why not give the gift of better sleep? Blissy products come in gift-ready packaging!  Sleep better with Blissy and use code NOBODY to get an additional 30% off at blissy.com/NOBODY

On this episode, we talk with Dr. Kathy Hull, who is a true hero. She is the founder of the George Mark Children's House (http://georgemark.org), the first freestanding children's palliative care facility to open in the United States. The subject of death is taboo, especially with children, but as Dr. Hull says, "children don't stop dying just because we the adults can't comprehend the injustice of losing them".   Note: This episode was previously aired.   Our sponsor, Blissy, sells 100% Mulberry silk pillowcases, sleep masks and other products to help you get a great night’s sleep!  Silk is what’s best for your hair and skin. It reduces frizz, tangles and prevents breakage. You'll love the way your skin looks and the way your hair feels after sleeping on a Blissy pillowcase.  Blissy’s pillowcases regulate temperature keeping you cool at night.  They're hypoallergenic, machine-washable and durable.  They're available in many different prints and colors and make great gifts because there's an option for everyone, even kids. With the holidays just around the corner, why not give the gift of better sleep? Blissy products come in gift-ready packaging!  Sleep better with Blissy and use code NOBODY to get an additional 30% off at blissy.com/NOBODY

The holidays are supposed to be a time of joy, but that may not be what you’re experiencing if you’re missing someone who’s passed away.  Our guest on this episode is grief crisis consultant Harold Ivan Smith, who’s written many books on grief including, "A Decembered Grief: Living with Loss While Others are Celebrating".  In this interview, he shares some great advice for how to enjoy this time of year while also celebrating the memory of our loved ones who have died. His website is http://www.haroldivansmith.com/   Note: This episode was previously aired.   Our sponsor, Blissy, sells 100% Mulberry silk pillowcases, sleep masks and other products to help you get a great night’s sleep!  Silk is what’s best for your hair and skin. It reduces frizz, tangles and prevents breakage. You'll love the way your skin looks and the way your hair feels after sleeping on a Blissy pillowcase.  Blissy’s pillowcases regulate temperature keeping you cool at night.  They're hypoallergenic, machine-washable and durable.  They're available in many different prints and colors and make great gifts because there's an option for everyone, even kids. With the holidays just around the corner, why not give the gift of better sleep? Blissy products come in gift-ready packaging!  Sleep better with Blissy and use code NOBODY to get an additional 30% off at blissy.com/NOBODY

This episode spotlights the relationships adult children have with their parents, which really come into focus during the holidays when families get together or perhaps DON’T get together because those relationships are strained.  Our guest is social psychologist Susan Newman who is the author of several books, including, "Under One Roof Again:  All Grown Up and Relearning to Live Together Happily" and "The Book of No: 365 Ways to Say It and Mean It and Stop People-Pleasing Forever".  Her website is https://www.susannewmanphd.com/   Note: This episode was previously aired.   Our sponsor, Blissy, sells 100% Mulberry silk pillowcases, sleep masks and other products to help you get a great night’s sleep!  Silk is what’s best for your hair and skin. It reduces frizz, tangles and prevents breakage. You'll love the way your skin looks and the way your hair feels after sleeping on a Blissy pillowcase.  Blissy’s pillowcases regulate temperature keeping you cool at night.  They're hypoallergenic, machine-washable and durable.  They're available in many different prints and colors and make great gifts because there's an option for everyone, even kids. With the holidays just around the corner, why not give the gift of better sleep? Blissy products come in gift-ready packaging!  Sleep better with Blissy and use code NOBODY to get an additional 30% off at blissy.com/NOBODY

If you love to cook, or just love to eat, this episode is for you! We’re excited to welcome our guest, award-winning magazine editor Dorothy Kalins. She’s had a long career in food media and has collaborated on the production of many cookbooks. Dorothy was the founding editor of the food and wine magazine, 'Savure', and she’s the author of a great book called, "The Kitchen Whisperers: Cooking with the Wisdom of Our Friends".  Her website is https://www.dorothykalins.com/   Note: This episode was previously aired.   Our sponsor, Blissy, sells 100% Mulberry silk pillowcases, sleep masks and other products to help you get a great night’s sleep!  Silk is what’s best for your hair and skin. It reduces frizz, tangles and prevents breakage. You'll love the way your skin looks and the way your hair feels after sleeping on a Blissy pillowcase.  Blissy’s pillowcases regulate temperature keeping you cool at night.  They're hypoallergenic, machine-washable and durable.  They're available in many different prints and colors and make great gifts because there's an option for everyone, even kids. With the holidays just around the corner, why not give the gift of better sleep? Blissy products come in gift-ready packaging!  Sleep better with Blissy and use code NOBODY to get an additional 30% off at blissy.com/NOBODY

Your mindset is the topic on this episode. Do you wish you had emotional skills, habits and ways of looking at the world that served you better? Our guest, Julia Galef, says you can learn new ways of looking at the world and you should! Julia is the co-founder of the Center for Applied Rationality, the host of the podcast, "Rationally Speaking", and the author of the book, "The Scout Mindset: Why Some People See Things Clearly and Others Don’t".  Her website is https://juliagalef.com/   Note: This episode was previously aired.   Thanks to our sponsor, Lomi, the world’s first Smart Waste Appliance.  If you’ve struggled with composting and feel it’s too much work, or feel bad that you’re not doing your part to help the environment, you have to check out Lomi, the countertop electric composter.  Just about anything you'd put into the kitchen disposer can be put into the Lomi on your countertop and turned into dirt in four hours.  Use that dirt in your garden! There’s no smell when Lomi runs and it’s really quiet.  Food waste is gross, Lomi is your solution!  With the holidays just around the corner, Lomi will make the perfect gift for someone on your shopping list.  Just head to LOMI.COM/NTM and use the promo code NTM to get $50 off your Lomi! Thanks to our sponsor, Hover.  If you have a brand that you’ve always dreamt of building or a business you want to take online, the first step is finding your domain name. Hover makes this super simple with a clear and straightforward user experience, easy-to-use tools, and truly amazing support. Getting online has helped thousands of people around the world reach new heights with their businesses. In addition to the classics like .COM, you can get extensions like .SHOP, .TECH, and .ART, with over 400 more to choose from. You can buy a domain, set up custom email boxes, and point it to your website in just a few clicks.  Get your idea off the ground with the perfect domain name. Head to hover.com/NOBODY to get 10% off your first Hover purchase!

Have you ever found yourself frustrated in a disagreement with someone you love?  Have you ever wanted better conflict resolution skills?  Would you like to see something positive result from the negativity of a fight?  Our guest on this episode, James L. Creighton, is here to help.  James is a Psychologist and relationship consultant whose latest book is called,  "Loving through Your Differences: Building Strong Relationships from Separate Realities".  His website is https://jameslcreighton.com/   Note: This episode was previously aired.   Thanks to our sponsor, Lomi, the world’s first Smart Waste Appliance.  If you’ve struggled with composting and feel it’s too much work, or feel bad that you’re not doing your part to help the environment, you have to check out Lomi, the countertop electric composter.  Just about anything you'd put into the kitchen disposer can be put into the Lomi on your countertop and turned into dirt in four hours.  Use that dirt in your garden! There’s no smell when Lomi runs and it’s really quiet.  Food waste is gross, Lomi is your solution!  With the holidays just around the corner, Lomi will make the perfect gift for someone on your shopping list.  Just head to LOMI.COM/NTM and use the promo code NTM to get $50 off your Lomi! Thanks to our sponsor, Hover.  If you have a brand that you’ve always dreamt of building or a business you want to take online, the first step is finding your domain name. Hover makes this super simple with a clear and straightforward user experience, easy-to-use tools, and truly amazing support. Getting online has helped thousands of people around the world reach new heights with their businesses. In addition to the classics like .COM, you can get extensions like .SHOP, .TECH, and .ART, with over 400 more to choose from. You can buy a domain, set up custom email boxes, and point it to your website in just a few clicks.  Get your idea off the ground with the perfect domain name. Head to hover.com/NOBODY to get 10% off your first Hover purchase!