Double Teamed with Cami and Niki

Today on Double Teamed, Cami and Niki welcome Gabrielle Smith, a Brooklyn-based intersectional sex/relationship writer and poly educator. She offers support sessions focused on sharing education and information that affirms, reassures and resonates.    In some cases, marriage isn’t always the happily ever after we all hope for. Without clearly defining what each partner wants and what they need from each other and from the marriage itself, things eventually may not work out. But marriage isn’t the only way to secure a partnership or commit to one! You can be in an open relationship with several people with clearly defined needs, wants, and expectations and still live a fulfilled and satisfied life.   Listen Up:   00:00 Intro 00:54 How did you get introduced into non-monogamy? 03:50 What the first relationship felt like 08:18 “Don’t ask, don’t tell,” means you’re not ready  12:27 You always have to do a test drive 15:13 Identifying as a solo polyamorous 19:12 The relationship escalator isn’t for everyone 25:41 Marriage can be fragile and can provide a false sense of security 30:30 Dating a monogamous person is a lot of labor 34:58 Sharing and gathering resources  38:56 Communicate what you want and what you need 41:42 Give yourself that freedom to find what you like 43:12 Live a life where you don’t feel restricted 45:40 A directory of poly-friendly therapists 48:38 Should polyamory and non-monogamy be normalized? 52:04 Know what type of non-monogamy works for you   Follow Us on: Instagram TikTok Twitter   You can find Gabrielle on: By Gabrielle Smith Twitter Instagram LinkedIn

Today on Double Teamed, Cami and Niki welcome Danica Mitchell, an LCSW and certified sex therapist, to talk about sex education. What is sex and how do we define it? How should open relationships handle different sexual cycles with multiple people at once? Danica’s ready to answer our bucket of questions and give us all some tools we can use to achieve fulfilling, satisfying sex lives. Afterall, we are sexual beings!    Listen Up:   00:00 Intro 01:14 What is something about sex that everyone gets wrong?  02:41 Exploring and feeling every part of the body, just enjoying the sensation 06:12 Figuring out how to make time for sex 09:56 You can’t compare your sex experiences with different partners 11:42 Some sexual experiences aren’t penetrative 15:33 Talk to your partner when sex or good or bad   22:02 Early sex education for children with continuous adult guidance 27:38 Where are people having issues accepting themselves as sexual beings? 30:53 Porn is not an educational tool 37:12 Understanding libido issues or desire discrepancy 38:53 Do people need to vocalize when they’re horny? 41:58 You can formulate any relationship as long as everyone involved is happy 45:40 Psychological reasons behind why people have sex 48:00 Healing trauma through sex 50:27 Body mapping with your partner 53:59 Talk to people, share your sexual experience 01:00:52 Educate yourself about STD, de-stigmatize it for yourself first   Follow Us on: Instagram TikTok Twitter