Double Teamed with Cami and Niki

Today on Double Teamed, Cami and Niki welcome Claire Louise Travers, the person behind Poly Pages -  an academic non-monogamous podcast and platform, focused on the texts which have shaped polyamorous community and culture. She identifies as a solo-polyamorous relationship anarchist and is living life by the value of ruthless honesty.   If you’re a bookworm and into non-monogamy, then you’re in for a treat! Claire, being the academic researcher that she is, shares tons of book resources rich in insightful thoughts from authors who know the poly world. Of course, we begin with The Ethical Slut - a must read that is loaded with unconventional and witty comebacks on how non-monogamous relationships should and could work. We also talk about breakups, the relationship escalator, and queer + polyamory!   Listen Up: 00:00 Intro 00:56 Check out Poly Pages podcast 02:47 Reading articles about non-monogamy from academic space 04:15 The Ethical Slut: the author’s view on sex and relationships 07:59 When you’re dating you’re constantly learning about yourself 08:45 The Polysecure book by Jessica Fern  14:38 Are you reading non-monogamous books with your partner? 20:14 The Long Way to a Small, Angry Planet by Becky Chambers  21:17 Poly representations in reverse harem books   30:23 Book recommendations on non-monogamy 37:11 A narrow idea about what breakups look like for poly 44:20 Looking at friendships with a different lens  49:50 Kinky relationships are still a form of loving relationships 50:59 Sex doesn't have to be about one thing either 53:08 A lot of queer representation in polyamorous spaces 58:33 At my first sex party 01:01:20 Queer just means that you resist being civilized into a norm 01:06:50 Digital events for polyamorous and non-monogamous creators and followers   Follow Us on: Instagram TikTok Twitter   You can find Claire on: Instagram Poly Pages Poly Pages Podcast Polyamory Day 2021 Digital Showcase 

Today on Double Teamed, Cami and Niki welcome Ms. Nighteyes, The Funny Dom’s Owned sub. She is an Owned submissive and Switch who is fond of sharing funny and witty memes about polyamory, Dom/sub, and BDSM.   Owned but not collared, let’s talk about it. We discuss 24/7 tasks, self care, slip-ups, the journey of being switchy, and more. We also get a look into how kinks are discovered, punishment, special toys, forming bonds through BDSM, flogging, and a side story about a little Shibari session. Let’s get kinky!   Listen Up:   00:00 Intro 01:04 Getting interested in the Dom/subworld 04:20 Dom/sub interest came naturally 07:48 What tasks fulfills you? 08:26 Owned but not collared 11:17 When was your last vanilla sex? 13:27 Becoming open about being poly and linky 15:13 Slip ups  17:51 What does being called “Baby” make you feel? 23:58 Floggers just gives you a different sensation 25:19 Switch: more sub-leaning 29:01 Discovering the Switch energy 32:07 Slip ups between Dom/sub 35:07 Sub brats gets punished more 37:51 Playing with a cane 41:44 Using unconventional things as sex toys 44:29 Representation of BDSM in media 49:28 Clothing preferences in the Dom/sub space 53:06 Shibari session with your partner 57:54 Favorite form of after care   Follow Us on: Instagram TikTok Twitter   You can find Ms. Nighteyes on: Instagram

Today on Double Teamed, Cami and Niki welcome Kirah (The Strology), the author of the Zodiac Signs: Pisces book. Besides being an astrologer, writer, educator, and creator, she is also passionate about intersectionality and inclusiveness within the field of astrology.    What do the planets and stars have to say about our monogamous or non-monogamous tendencies? Does your birth chart reflect your relationship style and attractions? Even if you’re not super into astrology, Kirah walks us through the placements and simplifies it all for us, so we can use this tool to better understand ourselves and our partners. Listen in for more interesting revelations about what your sign means and which ones are more likely open to non-monogamous relationships.    Listen Up:   00:00 Intro 01:45 How to apply astrology in your daily life? 03:42 Look for a good astrology chart 07:17 Signs that gravitates towards monogamy 09:06 The different houses of astrology 15:44 What is your love language? 17:04 Aspects of Pluto and non-monogamy 22:42 Aspects of Uranus tend to speak to non-monogamy 26:34 Pluto and Sagittarius are more open to non-monogamy 31:35 There has to be another way than unhappy marriages  33:14 Mutable signs: Gemini, Virgo, Sagittarius, and Pisces 36:50 When you have Aquarius, Capricorn or Saturn in the 7th house  40:10 Signs and how they are in relationships 48:17 Planets in the 7th house speak a lot about your partner 51:51 When his charts don’t match with yours 56:28 Can one person be both a source of stability and excitement? 58:31 Venus retrogrades every eight years 01:00:32 A bad day is probably a Mercury retrograde    Follow Us on: Instagram TikTok Twitter   You can find Kirah on: Instagram Twitter Facebook The Strology Show Podcast

Today on Double Teamed, Cami and Niki welcome Brittany Brave, a NYC-based comedian, actress, writer, producer and host with a line of comedy that is as animated as it is cerebral. She founded Cat Call and hosts the weekly podcast, Bad Women, where she interviews women-to-know and a table for conversations on creating community, driving change and tough topics.    Now, let’s talk about sex toys. Raise your hand if you own a vibrator! What about a butt plug? Maybe some Scratchy Pokey fingers? What does Christmas have to do with it? Come join us as we give some recommendations for your starter pack and some fun stories along the way.   Listen Up:   00:00 Intro 01:07 Let’s talk about sex toys 06:40 How do you break a vibrator?  10:55 Men should own vibrators too 12:45 “My go-to vibrator options.” - Brittany 17:33 Let’s talk about strap ons 20:43 Nipple clamps! 24:23 Anal beads are a different kind of animal 31:21 Hot pink butt plug with a bunny tail 34:33 Introduction to a full-blown anal sex 37:10 You can’t use a silicone lube with silicone products 40:56 Cat Nail Claw/Finger Claw for sensation play 40:33 Edible handcuffs, food selections foreplay 48:34 Be interested in someone who’s more experienced with toys 49:01 Spreader bars are amazing!   Follow Us on: Instagram TikTok Twitter   You can find Brittany on: Instagram Twitter Facebook Website

Today on Double Teamed, Cami and Niki welcome Gabrielle Smith, a Brooklyn-based intersectional sex/relationship writer and poly educator. She offers support sessions focused on sharing education and information that affirms, reassures and resonates.    In some cases, marriage isn’t always the happily ever after we all hope for. Without clearly defining what each partner wants and what they need from each other and from the marriage itself, things eventually may not work out. But marriage isn’t the only way to secure a partnership or commit to one! You can be in an open relationship with several people with clearly defined needs, wants, and expectations and still live a fulfilled and satisfied life.   Listen Up:   00:00 Intro 00:54 How did you get introduced into non-monogamy? 03:50 What the first relationship felt like 08:18 “Don’t ask, don’t tell,” means you’re not ready  12:27 You always have to do a test drive 15:13 Identifying as a solo polyamorous 19:12 The relationship escalator isn’t for everyone 25:41 Marriage can be fragile and can provide a false sense of security 30:30 Dating a monogamous person is a lot of labor 34:58 Sharing and gathering resources  38:56 Communicate what you want and what you need 41:42 Give yourself that freedom to find what you like 43:12 Live a life where you don’t feel restricted 45:40 A directory of poly-friendly therapists 48:38 Should polyamory and non-monogamy be normalized? 52:04 Know what type of non-monogamy works for you   Follow Us on: Instagram TikTok Twitter   You can find Gabrielle on: By Gabrielle Smith Twitter Instagram LinkedIn

Today on Double Teamed, Cami and Niki welcome Danica Mitchell, an LCSW and certified sex therapist, to talk about sex education. What is sex and how do we define it? How should open relationships handle different sexual cycles with multiple people at once? Danica’s ready to answer our bucket of questions and give us all some tools we can use to achieve fulfilling, satisfying sex lives. Afterall, we are sexual beings!    Listen Up:   00:00 Intro 01:14 What is something about sex that everyone gets wrong?  02:41 Exploring and feeling every part of the body, just enjoying the sensation 06:12 Figuring out how to make time for sex 09:56 You can’t compare your sex experiences with different partners 11:42 Some sexual experiences aren’t penetrative 15:33 Talk to your partner when sex or good or bad   22:02 Early sex education for children with continuous adult guidance 27:38 Where are people having issues accepting themselves as sexual beings? 30:53 Porn is not an educational tool 37:12 Understanding libido issues or desire discrepancy 38:53 Do people need to vocalize when they’re horny? 41:58 You can formulate any relationship as long as everyone involved is happy 45:40 Psychological reasons behind why people have sex 48:00 Healing trauma through sex 50:27 Body mapping with your partner 53:59 Talk to people, share your sexual experience 01:00:52 Educate yourself about STD, de-stigmatize it for yourself first   Follow Us on: Instagram TikTok Twitter