

Private Parts Unknown: Sex & Love Around the World
Courtney Kocak
Private Parts Unknown (FKA Reality Bytes) is a Bourdain-style podcast exploring sex, love, relationships, gender, and seductive subcultures around the world. Join host Courtney Kocak and expert guests for hilarious, sex-positive conversations — destigmatizing everything from abortion to Ashley Madison, polyamory to PMDD, sex work to Shibari, and more. Travel series include Helsinki, Finland; Mexico City, Mexico; and Tokyo, Japan.Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of Pleasure Podcasts. For network details, contact cameron@pleasurepodcasts.com.
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Jun 17, 2023 • 22min
Praise Kink & Breeding Kink + What's the Difference Between a Kink & a Fetish? with Gigi Engle
Gigi Engle, sex educator and author, discusses praise kink and breeding kink, and breaks down the difference between a kink and a fetish. They explore the psychological and societal implications of these kinks and touch on the accessibility of a particular kink based on language used. The podcast also delves into the appeal and misconceptions of breeding kink.

May 30, 2023 • 33min
After Making History as the First Drag Queen Elected to Public Office in the U.S., Maebe A. Girl Makes Her Third Run for Congress
For the 117th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes another history-maker to the podcast: Maebe A. Girl, the first drag queen elected to public office in the U.S. She is currently a member of the Silver Lake Neighborhood Council, while also running for a seat in the U.S. House of Representatives to represent California's 30th Congressional District. Maebe uses she/they pronouns and identifies as trans and gender fluid.In this episode, first, you'll hear the story Courtney reported on Maebe A. Girl for KCRW, the local NPR affiliate based in Santa Monica, California, back in September 2019. The story, entitled "For Maebe A. Girl, gender nonconformity isn't her only political act," actually went on to win an LA Press Club Award for Gender/LGBT reporting. After the original radio story, Maebe A. Girl gives us an update on her life these days, including politics, drag, the competitive advantages of her third run for Congress, and her love life.For more from today's guest, Maebe A. Girl:
Check out Maebe's campaign website to donate or volunteer maebeagirlforcongress.org
Follow Maebe A. Girl on Instagram @maebeagirl
Check out Maebe's Linkree for all her links linktr.ee/maebeforcongress
Check out the award-winning KCRW story Courtney reported on Maebe A. Girl here: https://www.kcrw.com/news/shows/greater-la/silver-lake-drag-queen-takes-on-politics/for-maebe-a-girl-gender-nonconformity-isnt-her-only-political-actPsst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshowPrivate Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by:
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May 19, 2023 • 44min
How Dancers at Star Garden Became America's Only Unionized Strippers (Velveeta's Version)
The 15-month effort to gain union recognition by dancers employed at the Star Garden Topless Dive Bar in North Hollywood, California, ended in victory this week. For the 116th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Velveeta, one of Star Garden's newly unionized strippers, to explain how this historic milestone came to be.On Monday, May 15th, lawyers representing the owners of the Star Garden withdrew all election challenges, agreed to recognize the union, and will meet with the Actors’ Equity Association across the bargaining table within 30 days to negotiate a first contract. The club also will reopen for business and bring back dancers who were dismissed last year.The spark that ignited the unionization campaign was lit in March of 2022 when the club’s security guards repeatedly failed to protect dancers from threatening and abusive behavior from patrons. Dancers were illegally fired for bringing concerns about safety and security to management. With the assistance of Strippers United, a 501(c)3 organization led by strippers that advocates for strippers’ rights, Star Garden’s strippers began picketing outside the strip club to protest unsafe working conditions. Picketing continued every week through November outside the club’s location on Lankershim Blvd in North Hollywood, California.Last August, the dancers announced they had affiliated with Equity. Shortly afterward, the national union filed for an election with the NLRB on behalf of the dancers. In the fall, the labor board conducted an election by mail. A vote count was scheduled for November, but the results were put on hold by the NLRB due to employer objections and legal filings. The NLRB was scheduled to hold a hearing this week over the employer objections. That hearing is now unnecessary and has been canceled.Star Garden’s dancers are not the first strippers to seek union recognition. Strippers at San Francisco’s Lusty Lady organized the Exotic Dancers Union in 1997. They were affiliated with the Service Employees International Union. The Lusty Lady closed in 2013.So that’s how the Star Garden dancers became America's only unionized strippers at the moment. Perhaps they will inspire others just like they were inspired by the Lusties.For more from today's guest:
For more about Stripper Strike Noho! and how you can support the cause linktr.ee/stripperstrikenoho
Follow Stripper Strike Noho on Instagram @stripperstrikenoho
Follow Strippers United on Instagram @strippersunite
Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshowPrivate Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by:
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May 5, 2023 • 30min
Jazmen Jafar Ditched Life as a Lawyer for 6-Figure Months as an OnlyFans Creator in the Top 0.03%
For the 115th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes lawyer turned OnlyFans model Jazmen Jafar.Jazmen’s story has gone viral lately and is unique in that she comes from a strict Middle Eastern, Iranian-American household, and after law school, she abandoned the legal profession to become a full-time adult content creator. But it’s paid off because she now earns three times what she made practicing law!In this episode, we discuss Jazmen Jafar’s journey from being a practicing attorney to being in the top 0.03% on OnlyFans, coming out to conservative parents, the changing cultural attitude towards sex work, promoting on Reddit, her Twitch strategy, tips for creators trying to make more money on OnlyFans, how to be a good fan on OnlyFans, and more.For more from today's guest, Jazmen Jafar:Check out Jazmen's website for all her links jazmenjafar.com
Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshowHere's a playlist of our entire "Comedians of OnlyFans" series.Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by:
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May 1, 2023 • 16min
From The Slutrepreneur Podcast: Weird Things I Sell on the Internet
Hi Privates! Today, I'm sharing a preview of one of my favorite podcasts: The Slutrepreneur Podcast. Join Ana Dee on her journey to financial freedom being a professional goddess in the adult industry, sharing the success and struggle of unconventional ways to make money from home. Today’s clip features her tips and tricks for the field of selling your dirty underwear online. Listen and learn how to start a side hustle selling your worn items safely and discreetly with the help of The Slutrepreneur’s Rulebook.For more from The Slutrepreneur Podcast:
Listen to The Slutrepreneur Podcast wherever you listen to podcasts
Episode 11. Weird Things I Sell on The Internet: Used Underwear on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-slutrepreneur-podcast/id1455421425?i=1000450138548
11. Weird Things I Sell on The Internet: Used Underwear on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/7LJ2s8U0kjicqMMXidMGnP?si=AYPWnildQfWaI_rjZEmk9Q
Find the show and more of her resources at ProfessionalGoddess.com
Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshowPrivate Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by:
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Apr 24, 2023 • 1h
Swinging Secrets from a Happily Married Couple: Inside Dave & Victoria Arena's 20-Year Non-Monogamy Journey
For the 114th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes happily married swingers Dave and Victoria Arena for an episode all about non-monogamy — swinging, in specific. And I have the perfect guests because they’ve been happily married and active in the lifestyle for decades.I met Dave and Victoria through a screenwriting workshop. They actually wrote a pilot for a TV series inspired by their swinger lifestyle. In real life, it began as innocent pillow talk, but when Victoria took the daring step to sign them up for a non-monogamy app, they had no idea what they were in for... But they quickly worked through that first awkward encounter and have been making it work ever since. Twenty years is a long time to be happily swinging with your partner, so in this episode, we'll learn their secrets for lasting so long in the lifestyle. We also explore how they first became swingers, their initial rules, how they prioritize their relationship, the joys of sex clubs, and the swinging scene in Cleveland, Ohio vs. New York City, plus tips for couples who want to start swinging and how to approach the conversation with your partner.For more from today's guests, Dave and Victoria Arena:
Connect with Victoria and Dave on Twitter @breakshiz
Connect with Victoria on Instagram @varenanycmua
Connect with Victoria on Twitter @VictoriaRArena
Connect with Dave on Instagram @davearenacomedy
Connect with Dave on Twitter @davearena
Check out Dave and Victoria's website breakshiz.com
Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshowPrivate Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by:
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Apr 10, 2023 • 21min
Fingering, Fisting & Cunnilingus Tips for Pleasing Vulva-Owners with “Girl Sex 101” Author Allison Moon
For the 113th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Allison Moon, sex educator and author of "Girl Sex 101" and "Getting It: A Guide to Hot, Healthy Hookups and Shame-Free Sex."In this "Quickie" episode, we’re going to help you unlock how to pleasure vulva owners with simple hand and oral sex techniques. We discuss the importance of communication, understanding anatomy, and paying attention to your partner's body language and reactions. We also touch on the topic of fisting, sharing tips for beginners, and debunking misconceptions about the practice. For more from today's guest, Allison Moon:
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Check out Allison's website alliedmoon.com
Connect with Allison on Instagram @allison_moon
Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshowPrivate Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by:
Our Sponsor, FLESHLIGHT, can help you reach new heights with your self-pleasure. Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Looking for your next pocket pal? Save 10% on your next Fleshlight with Promo Code: PRIVATE at fleshlight.com.
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Mar 31, 2023 • 17min
Introducing: Holly Randall Unfiltered – Adriana Chechik on Her Wild Career
Are you a fan of adult entertainment? Then you've got to listen to one of my favorite podcasts: Holly Randall Unfiltered. In this sample from Holly's show, the iconic performer Adriana Chechick joins Holly for an interview that shows Adriana's MANY sides! You’ll hear about her upbringing in foster care, her honest reflections on career regrets, and why she finds gangbangs empowering. Adriana will surprise you with her brutally honest insight into a storied career that brought her so much fame... and why she has decided to leave it all behind.For more from Holly Randall Unfiltered:
Listen to Holly Randall Unfiltered wherever you listen to podcasts
Check out the Holly Randall Unfiltered website hollyrandallunfiltered.com
Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshowPrivate Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by:
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Mar 29, 2023 • 34min
How to Be a Boyslut: A Choose Your Own Adventure Guide for All Genders & Orientations with Zachary Zane
For the 112th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Zachary Zane, sex columnist for Men's Health and Cosmo and author of the upcoming Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto.Speaking of which, Zach is back on the podcast with an exciting announcement: His debut memoir is out in May, and you can preorder it now! On today's podcast, we get into polyamory and kink, assessing your sexual risk and the level you're comfortable with, the difference between bisexuality and pansexuality, the pros and cons of Grindr culture, the impact of OCD on Zach's sexual awakening, and so much more.We also discuss the unfortunate ubiquitousness of sexual shame, regardless of how or where you grew up, and unpack the definitions of freysexual, demisexual, metamour, and polycule.For more from today's guest, Zachary Zane:
Order Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto
Subscribe to the Boyslut newsletter zacharyzane.substack.com/welcome
Check out Zach's website zacharyzane.com
Connect with Zach on Instagram @zacharyzane
Connect with Zach on Twitter @ZacharyZane_
Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshowPrivate Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by:
Our Sponsor, FLESHLIGHT, can help you reach new heights with your self-pleasure. Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Looking for your next pocket pal? Save 10% on your next Fleshlight with Promo Code: PRIVATE at fleshlight.com.
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If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating and sexy review! —> ratethispodcast.com/private Psst... sign up for our Private Parts Unknown newsletter for bonus content related to our episodes! privatepartsunknown.substack.comLet’s be friends on social media! Follow the show on Instagram @privatepartsunknown and Twitter @privatepartsun. Connect with host Courtney Kocak @courtneykocak on Instagram and Twitter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Mar 22, 2023 • 41min
Make Dating Fun Again! with Myisha Battle, Clinical Sexologist, Dating Coach & Author of "This is Supposed to be Fun: How to Find Joy in Hooking Up, Settling Down, and Everything in Between"
For the 111th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Myisha Battle, certified sex and dating coach and author of "This is Supposed to be Fun: How to Find Joy in Hooking Up, Settling Down, and Everything in Between." Myisha is passionate about helping people find pleasure and fulfillment in their intimate relationships, and today, we'll be discussing her new book and some of the insights she's gained through her work.In this episode, we dive into what sex and dating coaching is, Myisha's unique perspective on dating and relationships through a feminist lens, what she learned studying sexuality in Amsterdam, and the big takeaways from her podcast projects "Dating White" which focused on interracial dating, and "Down for Whatever," which began as a platform for candid conversations about sex and relationships and actually helped launched her practice. Myisha has helped numerous clients overcome sexual issues and develop meaningful connections.We also explore the challenges faced by long-term couples in maintaining their sexual desire, the importance of communication in non-monogamous relationships, her advice for online dating, if/how to date up to your feminist ideals, and more.For more from today's guest, Myisha Battle:
Order This is Supposed to be Fun: How to Find Joy in Hooking Up, Settling Down, and Everything in Between
Check out Myisha Battle's website myishabattle.com
Connect with Myisha on Instagram @myishabattle
Connect with Myisha on Twitter @MyishaBattle
Psst, Courtney has an 0nIyFan$, which is a horny way to support the show: https://linktr.ee/cocopeepshowPrivate Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by:
Our Sponsor, FLESHLIGHT, can help you reach new heights with your self-pleasure. Fleshlight is the #1 selling male sex toy in the world. Looking for your next pocket pal? Save 10% on your next Fleshlight with Promo Code: PRIVATE at fleshlight.com.
Dipsea is an audio erotica app full of short, sexy stories and guided sessions designed to turn you on. Dipsea is offering a 30-day free trial when you go to dipseastories.com/private.
Chef Green Chef is a CCOF-certified meal kit company that makes eating well easy with plans to fit every lifestyle. Whether you’re Keto, Paleo, Vegan, Vegetarian, Gluten-Free, or just looking to eat more balanced meals, Green Chef offers a range of recipes to suit your preferences. Go to GreenChef.com/private60 and use code private60 to get 60% off plus free shipping.
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