This Is Woman's Work with Nicole Kalil

We’re a few weeks into the new year, so how are your resolutions going? If the answer is anything but GREAT, this episode is for you. Because there’s a huge segment of people I want to acknowledge – those who make the resolutions and then don’t follow through, for whatever reason. And my concern is less about follow through, and more about the beat up, guilt, and shame that often comes along with it. My theory as to why many of us DON’T follow through is that whatever intention/goal/or resolution that was set was probably too big of a pendulum swing. This episode is for those of you, like me, who have very little “totally figured out”.  May you find YOUR best place for your pendulum to land and may you accept and maybe appreciate all the paradoxes life brings – like less is more, commitment creates freedom, and the more you try to please everyone, the less pleased everyone will be (especially YOU). Some things may be black or white - but in most cases, we live in a world of pendulum swings and paradoxes! Like what you heard? Please rate and review  Thanks to our This Is Woman’s Work Sponsor: Take the FREE BodCon Quiz  to begin your journey to cultivating a deeper level of body confidence: https://rebrand.ly/nicolekalil  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I don’t think I’ve interacted with a single woman who isn’t experiencing stress at an uncomfortable and unhealthy level. I’ve become so used to being stressed that I’m not sure I even recognize it anymore. I need my Oura Ring to point it out for me, and I have taken HeyFreya’s stress test to get more insight into how my body is managing, or not managing my stress. I don’t think you or I were meant to live with this much stress! I’m joined by Dr. Rebecca Heiss, a stress physiologist who is dedicated to helping us overcome our instinctual limitations, so we can live with less stress and more happiness. Her research has been designated “transformative” by the National Science Foundation and it is waking up audiences around the world. As an author of the acclaimed book “Instinct” and a highly sought-after professional speaker, Rebecca has found her calling in helping others recognize the power of biological applications in their lives. Rebecca’s “fear(less)” message inspires hope and actionable insights to train our brains to work for us, rather than against us in times of change and uncertainty. Fear less. Not fearless. De-stress. Not distress. How about that? Like what you heard? Please rate and review  Rebecca’s Website: https://rebeccaheiss.com/  Fear(less) Adaptability Quiz: https://rebeccaheiss.com/self-awareness-tools/  Follow Rebecca on IG: @drrebeccaheiss  Thanks to our This Is Woman’s Work Sponsors: Visit  https://www.heyfreya.co/ and use promo code HEYWORK25 for 25% off the at-home stress test, Thrive multivitamins and other products - I use Thrive and Nourish daily! Head to https://ouraring.com/tiww - it has been the best wellness and self-discovery tool I’ve invested in. Instead of one-size-fits-all, it offers one-size-fits-YOU solutions and helps track your stress throughout the day (it also tracks your sleep, recovery, detects early signs of sickness, and can help predict your period)! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Click here for your FREE Confidence Building workbook. You will be added to our weekly communication for even more confidence building tips! You can unsubscribe at any time… but we hope you’ll stay with us for the confidence building journey. Every Monday I bring a chapter of my book, Validation Is For Parking: How Women Can Beat The Confidence Con) to life!  This week we work our way through Chapter 6 and talk about Perfectionism and Failure. Here’s what you can expect: We define what a “confidence derailer” is so you know what’s chipping away at your confidence I share why Perfectionism is not only a confidence derailer, but the ENEMY of confidence The Antidote to Perfectionism gets revealed… and it’s the most shocking confidence builder of them all! I share my favorite 4 step process for turning failure into fuel Like what you heard? Please rate and review Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Did you know that menopause happens in ONE DAY? Well, if you didn’t (like me) you need to listen to this episode. It’s about preparing yourself in your 30s and 40s for this inevitable transition, and because I’m not a doctor I’ve invited Dr. Thara Vayali to join me. Thara is hey freya’s resident doctor of naturopathic medicine, a nutritionist, herbalist and supplement formulation expert with over ten years of clinical expertise and over five years of experience in digital health. She practiced as a licensed naturopathic physician in British Columbia, Canada and has over 10 years of clinical experience in women’s health. She speaks internationally and writes about health and wellness, stress, resilience, empathy, and mindfulness. I don’t have a lot of regrets, but the biggest one is not appreciating, valuing, listening to, or understanding my own body for most of my life.  I know none of us would wish this for our daughters, sisters, nieces or best friends. And I certainly don’t wish it for you. So let’s talk about and celebrate our bodies. Let’s share resources, experiences and information!  Like what you heard? Please rate and review  Connect with Hey Freya:  Visit the hey freya website: https://www.heyfreya.co/ (promo code: heyWORK25 for 25% off) To take the at-home Stress Test, click here To learn more about Thrive, the women’s daily multi-vitamin with stress support, click here To shop other products, like Rest (for great sleep), Quench (to help with hydration), and Calm (to reduce anxiety), click here For all products use promo code heyWORK25 for 25% off!! I personally use their Thrive & Nourish Supplements and love them! For CakesBody’s grippy, not sticky, nipple covers visit cakesbody.com and use Promo Code: TIWW to get your 10% discount! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

To get your FREE Confidence Building workbook, click here. In today’s episode, we’re covering topics related to pages 9-12 for those of you doing the work to build YOUR confidence!  Every Monday for the next several weeks (as long as it takes to get through Validation Is For Parking: How Women Can Beat The Confidence Con), I’m going to bring a chapter of the book to life!  This week we work our way through Chapter 5 (pages 9-12 of the workbook) and discuss the opportunity of Owning Who You’re Not and Embracing Yourself Anyway. Here’s what you can expect: Recognizing and honoring your purpose (hint: your purpose is never to be all things to all people) How owning what you’re not helps you build internal trust We walk thru a powerful exercise that helps you identify what you’re not so you can begin to let go of who and what isn’t meant for you  I invite you to embrace all of it, so you can embrace all of you Like what you heard? Please rate and review Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’re going to kick off the year with a first on this show – we’re going to talk about the AMAZING, EXTRAORDINARY value of men. Joining me to make sure this conversation is grounded in research and celebration, is Alison Armstrong, a sought-after speaker and thought leader whose exploration of human behavior began in 1991, with her decision to study men. Her success in understanding men naturally led to studying women’s behavior and making vital connections between the two. Through her seminars, books, online programs with over a 100 hours of content and media contributions, she has been giving millions of people access to more fulfilling lives, loving relationships, stronger families, and more productive organizations. If you’re a regular listener you already know that the purpose of this podcast is to redefine what it means to be doing “woman’s work” so that the new definition is whatever is TRUE and RIGHT for you, whatever lights you up from the inside, and whatever it means to live authentically and with purpose. FOR YOU. And the same goes for defining “a man’s job” – if you identify as a man, you get to be lit up from the inside too. You get to set aside the expectations and the shoulds, the pressures and the opinions, and show up in this world as the fucking magical gift YOU ARE too. I want this for anyone of any gender! I am not the decider of what that means. And neither is anyone else. YOU are the decider. Like what you heard? Please rate and review  Connect with Alison and Resources: Website: www.alisonarmstrong.com  IG: @thealisonarmstrong FB: https://www.facebook.com/understandmen Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

To get your FREE Confidence Building workbook, click here. In this episode, we’re covering topics related to pages 6 - 8 for those of you doing the work to build YOUR confidence!  Every Monday for the next several weeks (as long as it takes to get through Validation Is For Parking: How Women Can Beat The Confidence Con), I’m going to bring a chapter of the book to life!  This week we work our way through Chapter 4 (and pages 6 - 8 of the workbook) where we explore the opportunity to Know Yourself on a deep and intimate level. Here’s what you can expect: You get re-introduced to YOUR inner knowing We explore ways to reconnect with yourself because most of us have spent so much time being others-focused that we’ve forgotten who we are! I walk you through one of my favorite exercises to build both self-awareness and self-appreciation.  Click here to download the “Things I Know To Be True About Me” template. If you’re looking for a step-by-step guide for building your list, you can listen to this episode of This Is Woman’s Work (Episode 40) where I create my list with you. If you’re interested in taking the Body Confidence quiz, you can use this link: https://rebrand.ly/nicolekalil  Like what you heard? Please rate and review Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Every once in a while we release a mini-episode of This Is Woman’s Work so I can share something I’ve learned, comment on something that feels particularly relevant and timely, or vent about something I need to get off my chest before my head explodes. Basically, these mini-episodes are the podcast equivalent of an appetizer – not quite filling enough to be a main course (unless you eat a million of them, which is frankly MY go-to move because I’d rather eat a meal of appetizers anyway), they’re designed to hold you over, and they CAN end up being the star of the show. So, here’s the topic for our mini-episode or podcast appetizer today: What should you do when an elephant walks into a room? The answer? Well, you have to listen in to find out. Like what you heard? Please rate and review  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m more than a little excited to bring you THE BEST, most listened-to episodes of This Is Woman’s Work in 2023!! This might be my favorite episode of each year, as it allows me to reflect and celebrate ALL the amazing content, guests, and learnings that happened throughout the year. I also love this episode for YOU because it’s a great way to highlight the episodes that resonated the most and if you’re new to our show, serves as a really good starting point. As we close out one year and walk into all the possibilities and hopes of a new one, I’m sure you’re asking yourself questions like, what do I want? What do I want more of? Less of? What do I have to GIVE? How can I take better care of myself?  There are so many questions, but for all of them, there’s one constant: You are the decider. So plan big plans, dream big dreams, and risk big risks. My love to you and yours, and I wish you joy and oh so much confidence in the new year.  So without further delay, I bring you our top 5 episodes (and a bonus special mention of #6!) of 2023! Click the links below to listen in on the full episodes highlighted here today: Bonus #6 160 / Motivation with Kate Tracy  #5 129 / 4 Truths of Radiant Change with Kristen Lisanti #4 147 / People-Pleasing & Being “Needy” with Mara Glatzel #3 144 / Jay & Nicole Kalil on Partnership, With Guest Host Lynn Casaletto (to access the  Family Planning agenda we reference, click here) #2 124 / Mind, Body, Soul… and Confidence with Meg Burton Tudman #1 154 / Affirmation Roulette with Peloton’s Kirsten Ferguson Like what you heard? Please rate and review  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

To get your FREE Confidence Building workbook, click here. You will be added to our weekly communication for even more confidence building tips! You can unsubscribe at any time… but we hope you’ll stay with us for the confidence building journey. Every Monday for the next several weeks (as long as it takes to get through Validation Is For Parking: How Women Can Beat The Confidence Con), I’m going to bring a chapter of the book to life!  This week we work our way through Chapter 3 where we talk about Reconciling Confidence with Strong Emotions. Here’s what you can expect: How gender expectations and stereotypes deny us the opportunity to access our full emotional spectrum Dealing with “hard” emotions in a way that builds confidence. Why people-pleasing separates you from your confidence, but experiencing your emotions without judgement builds it It’s always ok to have your feelings, but your feelings shouldn’t have YOU. You are the decider of how you want to experience emotions in a way that you’re proud of. Like what you heard? Please rate and review Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices