ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show

The excitement of Christmas or vacation can have an impact on when and if you are able to make love. Being somewhere other than your house, kids, relatives, friends, and the like make having sex on these occasions a little tougher. It doesn't mean you can make it happen though. Have you ever wanted to make love on Christmas or steal away for some alone time on vacation? You have the best intentions of finding the time to rendezvous and yet you don't plan to make it happen. Before you know it the time is gone and you're frustrated that you weren't able to have sex. You find yourselves looking at each other thinking, "Why didn't that work out for us?  What could we have done differently?" The key is planning so you can make sex something that happens on a holiday or vacation. The best part if you take the steps you are going to be unwrapping the best present of all-your spouse. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The events that unfolded at Sandy Hook Elementary School rocked us as we heard about what happened. We sat in our chairs after we recorded this podcast as tears filled our eyes. How is it that this week we would be talking about grief during the holidays and this tragic event happens? We do not know why, but we serve an awesome God.  Our prayers go to the families and marriages that have been impacted by loss. We look back over eight years as we celebrate the short life of our son Andrew. He never took a breath and yet his life has impacted our marriage in many ways. This week we talk about how time has healed our broken hearts and our broken marriage. In both dark times and joyous times it is amazing how God has worked in us. If you are hurting during the holidays and are trying to cope our prayer is that you'll implement the 5 tips From Mourning to Joy and put them to use in your life today. 5 Tips From Mourning to Joy Save your energy for the most important things. Be a delegator. Let others handle holiday preperations. Find quiet time for you. Scale down holiday activities. Watch you use of alcohol and medications. Pray For Kaia: She Is Such A Gift Mercy Me - The Hurt & The Healer Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What was marriage like before we did our 60 Days of Sex Challenge? This was a question we were asked from a listener who is going through a tough time right now. When you are in the depths of those valleys it is sometimes hard to see what's ahead. Your ability to look down the path and see what's ahead is squelched. We know where you are! We've been there before. This week we go back 5+ years to share with you where we were before we started that fateful challenged that changed us and our marriage forever. It wasn't a great time for our marriage and yet when we pivoted and started the 60 Days of Sex Challenge everything changed for us. What pivot point in your marriage has brought you out of the valley to the mountain top? Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Your brain can and does impact your marriage. Those negative thoughts and positive thoughts that play in your mind will determine the outcome of how you react to your spouse. These thoughts play like a broken record and can stop you from taking action to better your marriage. The power of your words come after the but. My Marriage is Great But... When you use a BUT in your sentence you only focus on what comes after the BUT.  This could be a positive or negative statement-unfortunately it's mostly negative. It's time to take control of what comes after the BUT in that sentence. It's time to rewrite your story.   Starting today you are going to make a conscious decision to focus on the positives and rewrite the future.  You will be amazed at what you can accomplish when you set out to change the ending of the story by changing what you say. Train Your Brain Dress Your Best Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Your year is about to get even crazier. Thanksgiving started the season of busy for you and your spouse and it will not end until after Christmas if you are lucky. This is the time of year when you can feel completely overwhelmed! The obligations of the holidays on top of the busyness of your regular life has you grasping for some quality time with your spouse. Finding time for you and your spouse to connect leads to frustration on both of your parts and snippiness factor rises. Like you we have lots on our plate during this holiday season as well. We have to get creative when we can't get a babysitter or the kids don't want to go to bed in our time frame.  Even though this may happen we make the time for a sexy marriage. The time is now for you to spend 15 minutes a week spending quality time together and on your marriage so that the both of you can start 2013 off on the right foot. Use one or a few of the creative solutions we share in this show to help you find the time this holiday season to create your own sexy marriage. Food Passionista Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The key to thriving in your marriage each and every year is to take time to share what you are thankful for in your marriage. This is a time when the busyness of every day life is put aside so that you can  honor your spouse. Grab a piece of paper, write down 5-10 reasons why you are thankful for your marriage, and then sit down with your spouse and share. This week we go over our "I'm Thankful For..." list with each other and you. During this time we listen, acknowledge, and respond to what we say to each other. When you dig deeper into your emotional intimacy will pay dividends in your marriage for years to come. I'm Thankful For... is one time during the year when each of you can let loose and pour out all the goodness that has and is happening in your marriage. It's a time to celebrate all that you are thankful for in your life. Go on and get that list going so you can share it with your spouse. Jesus Calling Les Mills Pump How-to Jump Start Your Sex Drive with Libido Boosting Vitamins and Minerals Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You're hiding something from your spouse and it is weighing you down. Maybe you have an addiction that your spouse doesn't know about. Perhaps you've spent more money than you shouldn't have and you haven't told them. Has that lunch partner become something more? Living with these burdens can stop you and your spouse from connecting emotionally, physically, spiritually, and sexually. You are constantly looking over your shoulder wondering if someone might let the secret out. You know you need to tell the truth and yet you don't know how to approach your spouse. In this episode we share a number of times in our past when we came forth and told the truth. Telling the truth has brought us closer to each other and one reason why our marriage has exploded over the past 5 years. It's time for you to start living your life without lies or deceit. Living a life of deception will wear you out. Create the extraordinary marriage that you desire by telling the truth. The 50% Divorce Rate Is a Myth (Faith Permeating Life) Right click to download | Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It can be tough to bring two families together and blend them into one family. Between exes, kids, alimony, child support, and ex-in laws it can be a real challenge for the two of you to find time to make intimacy a priority in your marriage. It is time to fight for your marriage and your blended family. Communication is the key to making this marriage work. Take off your masks, place all of your baggage on the table and decide that the two of you are committed to making this marriage work. It starts when you get your priorities in order: God, spouse, kids, work and finally other activities. Yours, Mine and Ours Right click to download | Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You may have come to a point in your marriage where sexual intimacy isn't happening any longer. The thought of you and your spouse having sex brings up anxiety in you. This in turn is stopping the both of you from moving forward and having the sexual intimacy you desire. This week we answer in detail how you can get the sexual intimacy back in your marriage. It's simple and something the two of you have done many times before. The thing is that you may not be giving this as much attention as you should. Start from the beginning of when you first were physically intimate with each other and start kissing with passion. Text the Romance Back (aff link) Right click to download | Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Sometimes it seems like life is just too busy. You are running around here, there, and everywhere. The thing is that you sense a distance from your spouse and you need to connect. You need to connect emotionally, spiritually, and sexually. It's time to get radical in your marriage and make a change! This week we share all about the Intimacy Lifestyle. That's right, scheduling sex so you can connect in all areas of your marriage. FREE E-BOOK: 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That LastIn the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free ebook.6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices