ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show

In your marriage the power of touch, non-sexual and sexual, are vitally important to your well being. Did you know that touch can ease your pains, lessen anxiety in your marriage, soften the blows of life that come your way, generate hope and has the power to heal you? Your hand upon your spouse can also slow their heart rate, give them a feeling of relaxation and the spiritual connection is long lasting. When words can't say everything you hope for touching your spouse can speak volumes. In this podcast we'll cover four forms of touch that you can have in your marriage. Connecting Touch Light Touch Companionship Touch Intimate Touch Which of the touches do you do most often in your marriage?  Right click to download | Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Sexual rejection is tough on the spouse who is initiating sex. In our society the focus has been that of the husband getting rejected when initiating sex. Unfortunately, it's becoming more common for the husband to reject his wife. Long hours at work, gaming late into the night, pornography, emotional affairs, and other distractions are contributing to this behavior. In this show we look at the role reversal of when a wife initiates sex and continuously gets rejected. The impact this has on a marriage can cause insecurities that will effect both of you. Having been through sexual rejection in our marriage there are some questions you need to ask yourself so that you can break free of this cycle. How do I connect with my husband before we walk into the bedroom? Are there underlying issues that need to be addressed? Would an Intimacy Lifestyle benefit our marriage? We believe in both of you and your willingness to serve each other. What makes initiating sex with your husband difficult?  LIVE EVENT Oct. 13, 2012 - He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path 7 Days of Sex Challenge Right click to download | Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week Tony and Alisa catch you up on all of the exciting developments that are being worked on at ONE Extraordinary Marriage. Over the last year the growth of listeners and readers has been amazing. All of your input via email, voice mail, or commenting on Facebook or Twitter have had us discussing how we can impact you and more marriage now and into the future. We need your help and prayers as we continue on this journey. He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Live Event - Our 1st live event will be held October 13th, inSan Diego.  Who do you know that needs to work on their communication?  Who can you introduce us to that we might be able to help us promote this event? Live Talk Radio Show - It is our desire to connect with you in a live talk show format, where you can call in and get your questions answered on the air. This will be on internet radio so that no matter where you are you can still listen in. Right now our biggest needs are advertisers to launch the show. New Products - It's time to help you build your marriage toolbox and we are creating the tools to help you do just that.  Through step-by-step exercises we will get you moving toward that extraordinary marriage. Make sure you sign up for the ONE Extraordinary Marriage Newsletter. Right click to download | Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Facing those skeletons in your closet can be hard. This week Tony shares about getting his girlfriend pregnant in college and then paying for the abortion. This event still impacts him 21 years later. Bringing up the skeletons in you past might not be worth the anguish to you. Fear, anxiety, and judgement stop you from letting go and releasing the skeletons. Instead you are held hostage, afraid to become the spouse you desire. You probably hear those voices telling you that you can't bring up these events to your spouse. The voices tell you that you are not worthy and by sharing you are only going to do damage to your marriage. The reality is that you can do it! You are brave! Jesus is holding out his hand right there next to you. He has come along side you to be there when you go through this time.  He's there with a listening ear, not trying to solve the problem but a source of hope and love. Taking that step out of the boat and onto the crashing waves and toward Jesus can be life-changing.  Your marriage will grow and flourish because you are being your most authentic self. What's keeping you in your boat? He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path (Live Event) Voice of Truth - Casting Crowns Right click to download the MP3 | Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question or call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Is sex a stigma in your marriage? Has the past held you back from completely enjoying the amazing bond you could be having with your spouse? Sex ed or learning about the birds and the bees are an integral part of how you view sex in your marriage. Parents or other respected individuals may not have talked to you about sex, told you it was bad, or mentioned very little that didn't help you prepare for sex in marriage. You may have even been called names or had labels put on you because you looked a certain way. The lack of sex education combined with being labeled growing up has left you frustrated. Friends, movies, porn, or experimenting played a big part in how you approach sex in your marriage, but you can't seem to let the past go. This week Tony & Alisa share what they learned or didn't learn about the birds and the bees growing up. They want to help you overcome the past so that you can fully enjoy sex with your spouse. Right click to download the MP3 | Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question or call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The lights are dim in your bedroom and in the corner there is a blue chair. Jesus is sitting there. He is omnipresent in your life and right now he is waiting for you to allow Him into your sex life. Unfortunately, the reality is that you are to quick to compartmentalize Him out of your bedroom. You want to control this area as the thought of Him being there is a bit weird. Instead of developing a reliance on God to help flourish your marriage you are trying to control all aspects of it. You cannot do this thing called marriage by yourself.  We challenge you this week to invite Jesus into your marriage, into your bedroom. Jesus is sitting in a blue chair in your bedroom as you make love to your spouse. What’s running through your mind? See what others had to say on Facebook. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Illness, sickness, injuries, and other long term ailments can change the dynamics of your marriage. When this happens you have to adjust to having "A New Normal." In this episode we share how you have to re-learn all of your intimacies in light of changed circumstances. In your marriage that may mean figuring out new ways to be physically intimate, exploring different types of recreational intimacy or a renewed focus on spiritual intimacy. Look at these life changes as opportunities for growth rather than as obstacles blocking your path. What have you and your spouse done to connect during a extended sickness? Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The wedding bells ring, you say your "I do's", and the honeymoon is bliss. You're married, the two of you have become ONE and yet you're not on the same TEAM. Shortly after that blissful day you find yourselves on opposite sides working against each other. You didn't expect this to happen in your marriage, yet it has. In this episode, we introduce you to another way to focus on your TEAM. Looking at each of these will enable you to tackle issues in your marriage with a plan. T - Talk: He said to them, “For whatever is hidden is meant to be disclosed, and whatever is concealed is meant to be brought out into the open. If anyone has ears to hear, let them hear.” Mark 4:22-23 E - Effort: As the body without the spirit is dead, so faith without deeds is dead. James 2:26 A - Attitude: May the God who gives endurance and encouragement give you the same attitude of mind toward each other that Christ Jesus had... Romans 15:5 M - Motivation: Serve wholeheartedly, as if you were serving the Lord, not people... Ephesian 6:7 What will you do to be on the same TEAM with your spouse? Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This past week we received an email from a listener asking why her husband won't come right out and ask for sex. There is cuddling, kissing, and yet he won't come out and ask for sex. Join Tony and Alisa as they talk about the fear of rejection, the different love languages in marriage and why it's so important to have conversations about sex before they grow into something larger. The 5 Love Languages (affiliate link via Amazon) Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

As you sit in your living room laughing from the depth of your belly, tears rolling down your face, the world is left behind and all you see is your spouse smiling and laughing too. Both of you enjoying a moment that has pushed aside the emergencies of the day and allowed the two of you to enjoy one another. Laughter is beneficial in many ways. In your marriage laughter allows for you to let loose and have fun. Your endorphines, your body's natural feel good chemicals, are released and you never know where you might go from there. In this weeks show Tony and Alisa talk about how laughter hasn't been a big part of their marriage. They share their struggles with this and what they are doing to get some laughter back into their house. Heaven is for Real (Aff link) Things Not to Say to Your Wife by Tim Hawkins Sinbad Where You Been? (Marriage segment starts at 12:00 mark) Laughter is the Best Medicine What do you and your spouse do that makes both of you laugh? Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices