ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show

Learn a number of different date ideas you can enjoy so your marriage doesn’t take a vacation during all your summer fun. | Remember the tans will fade but the memories will last forever. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Learn how your commitment to marriage is the ultimate marathon with an unknown finish line. | Your marriage vows say for as long as life shall last NOT until you get tired or you don’t want to anymore. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You are not just waiting in vain. There is a purpose behind every delay. —Mandy Hale | Learn about the reasons why he can’t orgasm and how the two of you can get through this together. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Your life does not get better by chance it gets better by change. —Jim Rohn | Learn how you can have mind-blowing sex and surprisingly it has very little to do with the act itself. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If you take everything personally, you will remain offended for the rest of your life. What other people do is because of them, not you. —Vivian Benson | Learn what happens when you are offended and how to work through offense with your spouse. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Each generation will reap what the former generation has sown. —Chinese Proverb | Learn how to break free of those negative parenting behaviors that have held you back from having the extraordinary marriage you desire. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

"Honor the space between no longer and not yet." —Nancy Levin When you are married, transitions don’t only affect you, they also affect your spouse. Transitions can impact the different intimacies in your marriage. Marriage is full of transitions: First house First baby Moves Job changes Job losses Taking care of kids Taking care of your parents One income Two incomes Kids becoming adults And the list goes on You can seemingly be going along thinking... "Ah, life is good, we’ve got everything figured out", then BAM transition comes. Or, you’re planning for a natural transition, kids growing up, buying a house, moving and yet, no matter how much you plan for it, there are still situations in that transition that catch you off guard. Everyone handles transitions differently. Some people jump right in, put their blinders on and power through whatever that change is. Some people can become paralyzed with all of the decisions that have to be made, they can feel helpless in those seasons, not knowing which way is the right way to go and so they withdraw from doing anything. For some, transitions feel very uncertain, and there is a high level of fear. For others, the transitions may be unwelcome or unplanned and there is a high level of anger or sadness. All of these reactions will impact you and your spouse. In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about how you can navigate life, work and other transitions you will face together as a team. EPISODE SPONSOR | HelloFresh HelloFresh is the meal kit delivery service that makes cooking fun, easy, and convenient! Each week HelloFresh creates new delicious recipes with step-by-step instructions designed to take around 30 minutes. For novices to seasoned home-cooks who are short on time HelloFresh sources the freshest ingredients, measured to the exact quantities needed so there’s no food waste.  Take $30 off your first week of deliveries when you enter promo code OEM30. Other Resources: 140 - Scheduling Sex Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

"Never stop showing someone how much they mean to you." Over time you have lost the anticipation and excitement of your relationship. Your marriage has become something you have to tolerate, something you have to survive or make it through. For some it's like the song from the Righteous Brother’s “You’ve Lost That Loving Feeling”. You may have lost that loving feeling and you're wondering on what to do next. Do you remember when the two of you were courting one another? There was anticipation and excitement when you would spend time together. During your courtship both of you invested in the relationship by getting to know one another, spending time together and being intentional about your time together. You prepared and thought about the other’s needs. You planned for dates, conversations, and everything else. It wasn’t just “anything goes” rather it was a season of “let me put my best foot forward. After the honeymoon and many years together your lives fall into routines. You have a comfort level with one another and if you are really truthful with yourselves you've become lazy in your marriage. Time together has not been important, you don’t do the little things anymore, you've stopped having conversations that meant so much when you were courting one another. You're beginning to hear these phrases more and more: This is too much work. You’re too needy. Why won’t you spend time with me? It's time to get those loving feelings back by courting your spouse like you did when you first meet. In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about how you can have those loving feelings of affection and connection with your spouse once again. EPISODE SPONSOR | StoryWorth StoryWorth is an amazing way to preserve memories and to learn about your spouse, mom, dad or any relative or friend with their responses. Each week StoryWorth will send your loved one an email with a question to be answered (you can either choose from the questions provided or come up with your own). At the end of the year, the stories will be printed into a hardcover book. Don’t miss out on this opportunity to capture life’s most treasured moments. Grab your subscription to StoryWorth today! Other Resources: 3 Marriage Tips From A Pageant Coach Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

"Never be afraid to try something new BECAUSE life gets boring when you stay within the limits of what you already know." The first sex challenge we completed happened 9 years ago in the fall of 2008. We had been married 11 years and these years were not the best years. Two kids ages 2 and 5 years old had taken up much of our times We lived as roommates with little to no intimacy. It was at this time that we decided to take on the 60 Days of Sex Challenge. A bit crazy... Yes. Worth it... Absolutely. We had no idea at the time what would happen in our life when one question was asked and the one answer was given. The same thing is true in your marriage. There are so many pivot points in a relationship. So many times when you could go left or right, working with each other or working against each other. We made one decision, 9 years ago, to make sex a priority in our marriage, to go from living like roommates to living like lovers, to being open about our sexual needs and to being transparent in the bedroom, and out of it Your marriage can experience the same. In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about what can happen in your marriage when the two of you take on a sex challenge. EPISODE SPONSOR | CanvasPeople.com CanvasPeople.com has a very easy to use Photo-to-Canvas service that takes your favorite photo memories and turns them into beautiful artwork for you to enjoy every day.  Instead of snapping that beautiful photo and letting it rot on your cell phone – you can bring that photo to life on your walls at home, in your office, or to give as a great gift. Limited Time Offer: Order an 11x14 canvas for FREE. All you pay for is shipping. Use Promo Code: marriage at checkout. Grab your FREE canvas today! Other Resources: Intimacy Ignited 7 Days of Sex Challenge 19 Questions to Amazing Sex Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

"She's not nagging. She's trying to tell you something. The only reason she's being persistent is because she cares. When she stops nagging, you should be worried because at that point she no longer cares." Nagging usually doesn’t start out as a problem in marriage. As time goes on though you begin to share things with your spouse that are bothering you. You don't see any change in behavior so you repeat yourself, over and over again. Then you get demanding. Sometimes you get mean and angry. Other times you get loud because you want to make sure they hear you. And still no results. You continue to nag and to you it seems that your spouse just ignores your requests. Why? Because nagging isn’t solving your communication problems. In fact it could be making  your communication worse. When nagging is present in your marriage, it’s time for both of you to evaluate what’s going on. If you are repeatedly nagging your spouse you need to ask yourself... Why aren’t your requests being heard or acted upon? Are you treating your spouse like a partner or like a child? Do they hear encouragement from you or is it only criticism? If you are continuously feeling nagged you need to ask yourself... What is my spouse trying to tell me and what action(s) do I need to take? What is my spouse pointing out that I don’t want to change or acknowledge? Nagging is a symptom that there is disconnect in your marriage and when nagging is present it’s time to take action. Nagging over time is incredibly destructive as it literally chips away at the foundation of your marriage, one comment at a time. In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about the impact of nagging on your marriage and the strategies you can use to stop this style of communication. EPISODE SPONSOR | CanvasPeople.com CanvasPeople.com has a very easy to use Photo-to-Canvas service that takes your favorite photo memories and turns them into beautiful artwork for you to enjoy every day.  Instead of snapping that beautiful photo and letting it rot on your cell phone – you can bring that photo to life on your walls at home, in your office, or to give as a great gift. Limited Time Offer: Order an 11x14 canvas for FREE. All you pay for is shipping. Use Promo Code: marriage at checkout. Grab your FREE canvas today! Other Resources: 295: The No Rejection Zone 334: The Emasculated Man 335: She’s Not Your Mother Feelings List Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices