The story of Angie Lee has grown on me through the years and she has come highly recommended by many to come on the show. Today we made that happen.    We unpack Angie's journey of how her childhood inspired her own personal transformation which included dropping out of college and the corporate world on blind faith to becoming a  SEVEN FIGURE serial entrepreneur through her top rated podcast, blog, courses, events and CBD company. She also the author of her new book “Ready is a Lie,” which will be released soon.    Bio: Angie Lee is the host of the top rated podcast The Angie Lee Show, highly sought after motivational speaker, business and marketing coach, Co-Founder of Soul CBD and author of "Ready is a Lie," which is coming soon.     ***Giveaway alert: Share this episode and tag Angie and myself and your top takeaway and be entered to win a baby grandma mug!    Connect with Angie Website - http://www.angielee.com Podcast - The Angie Lee Show Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/angieleeshow/ Youtube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCIEqg2HH53VhStvEnyKxpew Courses - https://www.angielee.com/1000                  http://angieleepodcastcourse.com/   Connect with Soul CBD Website - https://mysoulcbd.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/mysoulcbd/   Connect with Doug: Instagram: @dougbopst Facebook: Doug Bopst Website: www.dougbopst.com/gift Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How to Break Free From Your Past For Good   Joining me on the show today is Bizzie Gold.    Labeled the millennial voice of personal development, Bizzie’s efforts are towards changing our cultural view on mental health and helping people rewire their thinking to become the best version of themselves.  Bizzie has featured on major mainstream media platforms to discuss her unique and sustainable approach to mental health.  She’s been praised globally for the swift breakthroughs she helps her clients achieve during their healing journey.  Bizzie’s life journey. How you handle adversity, according to Bizzie, comes down to how you were raised by your parents.  Bizzie’s parents were ever positive and taught her to never be afraid of expressing herself and what she thought. They raised her to be a self-reflective and a confident go-getter in life. For this reason, Bizzie has always believed in her skills and what she is capable of accomplishing.   In fact this mindset has been the key to her success. Every time she’s faced with a problem, Bizzie is at her mental best and drafts the best ideas and solutions to what she’s going through.  She has learned and mastered the art of staying calm and thinking clear when she’s in the eye of a storm. She yearns for obstacles, as they help her dig deep and find the best version of herself.   Buti Yoga. With approximately 6,000 instructors in 35 countries, Buti yoga is a global brand that Bizzie uses to spread her mental, physical and spiritual healing techniques.  Buti Yoga, comes from an Indian Rothi word which means something that’s hidden away or kept secret. In our consumer driven society, a lot of people are obsessed with finding some kind of trick, cure or gadgets to improve the quality of their lives. However, the simple truth is that tapping in and resolving what’s inside us is the key to a better and sustainable lifestyle.  Only deep self discovery can ignite the flame of bringing permanent change and habits in your daily life. In Buti Yoga, Bizzie teaches people how to take a full grasp of what’s happening in their bodies as they’re progressing and use it to fuel their healing journey. Breaking the victim mentality.  A lot of therapy models have sprouted up over the years. Bizzie’s model works on the basis of tapping into the subconscious traumatic patterns and starting the healing process from there. Bizzie helps her patients learn how to catch their intrusive thoughts when they occur and restructure them in order to build a final layer to completely change who they are, all while still being their authentic selves.   A lot of our subconscious brain patterns are anchored between the age of 2-5 years. That’s the reason why so many people are stuck in a loop of blaming their personality as the reason why they act or react in a certain way. ‘I’m an angry person, it’s just the way I am’ Such people respond on autopilot rather instead of responding to a situation based on their current environment and stimuli. In her break therapy method, Bizzie helps her clients take a deep dive into their personality and find the actions that trigger the subconscious pattern of judging the current situation through the lens of the past.   Structured container Part of Bizzie’s healing therapy module is creating a highly structured environment with different tools that force her patients to get triggered and react.  Bizzie then measures how you respond to the different triggers . Once the reactions are measured. Bizzie teaches her patients how to map out and understand themselves better through the emotional trigger and reaction that occurred.  What makes this method so effective is that all the different tools used in the structured environment make sure that you’re honest not just with the facilitator, but your inner self too.    And no matter what, the end result is always the same. You come out knowing everything about yourself, including the truth that you’re not comfortable to address.   Owning up and taking full responsibility is also part of the healing process. Because a lot of people are comfortably addicted to the victim mentality and only point fingers to explain who  did them wrong.  By learning to break your emotional response under different environments, you can learn how to shift your perspectives and reflect on the facts before reacting to a trigger. Bizzie, through the Eli Model teaches her patients how to interrupt their emotional response system with logic. This stops the flow of neuro-transmitters. Once this happens her patients can then tap into their logic and intuition in order to make a decision based on their current environment.  A lot of people try to run away or avoid their triggers. The truth is, you can never grow or learn to rewire your responses by hiding from your triggers.  The only solution to this is creating a solid plan and structure where you can rapidly trigger and repattern yourself.   Connect with Bizzie Website - https://www.bizziegold.com/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/BizzieGold/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bizziegold/ Twitter - https://twitter/bizziegold   Break Method Instagram - www.instagram.com/breakmethod Website - https://breakmethod.com   The Break Method is structured self-inquiry program that uses scientific processes to evaluate your belief systems, uncover your emotional addiction patterns and triggers while rapidly rewiring them with logical tools rooted in cold-hard neuroscience. Use code ADVERSITY20 at checkout to receive 20% off the next Break Method semester that starts August 15th!  Click link below to register: https://breakmethod.pages.ontraport.net/fall2020semester Connect with Doug: Instagram: @dougbopst Facebook: Doug Bopst Website: www.dougbopst.com/gift Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Connor Beaton: Winning your battles through facing your shadow I’m pleased to host Connor Beaton as today’s special guest on the show. Connor is a male relationship and mindset coach. Alongside his wife, Vienna Pharoan, Connor has been making a positive impact in the lives of many couples throughout the world. The current pandemic that we’ve found ourselves in as a result of covid 19 has undoubtedly caused havoc in many relationships. Relationships not just with our partners, but ourselves too. Connor helps us unravel why so many individuals are having a hard time right now and how we can use the power of self-awareness and conflict management to live a better life with ourselves, and other people.  Facing your shadow. Our mind consists of three parts. The conscious, subconscious, and unconscious mind. Also referred to as the Hurt Locker, The Shadow is the part of our mind where we lock up all the past events of our lives that we don’t like.  The shadow is part of the unconscious mind, and it’s where we store our insecurities and things that we tend to avoid or hide from the world. What’s interesting about the Shadow, is that it’s not only the place where we store our painful past experiences but also where we lock up a lot of our potential too. For example, imagine a small boy who has an abusive parent who constantly tells him that he’s stupid or not smart enough.  This will have a psychological impact on the child. The child will not only adopt a personal story of not being smart enough, but he’s also going to take part of the potential of who he can be and lock it away in the unconscious mind. It’s only through facing these past demons and shadows, that we allow ourselves to move into a space where we are psychologically complete.   Why men need more of shadow facing We all have moments where life showers challenges in our lives. And this has a major impact on men than it does on women.   As a result of cultural pressure from fellow men and society, a lot of men have adopted a natural philosophy of handling problems in isolation, without seeking help or guidance from anyone.   We’ve been taught as men that our highest value is in our ability to perform and solely find solutions to problems.   Connor’s rock bottom. Growing up Connor lacked a sense of self-worth. He wasn’t very sharp in academics, he was average in sports, but excelled when it came to women. With time, Connor built a sense of self worth around the attention that he got from women. This turned him into a womanizer and an infidel partner who casually slept with other women for fun. All of this took a turn when Connor’s partner found out about his cheating ways after finding him with another woman. It was at this moment that Connor fully realized the impact of his actions. Having led a double life of hiding the truth and only showing what a happy and successful life he was living; Connor was too ashamed to face the world.  And so, he took all of his shame and guilt and stored it in his shadow. This went on for a few weeks up until Connor got to his breaking point. He was living at the back of his car; sad, lonely, and depressed. That is when he decided to reach out to his friend and ask for support; leading to a self-discovery journey of facing his shadow. Through the process, Connor was able to focus on his insecurities and the part of him that was constantly seeking validation from women in order to be happy. The part of him that was using sex and porn as a distraction to get through his days and get through life.   The time is never right to make a change. The narratives that we tell ourselves about our lives are very important, as they dictate the trajectory that we’re going in life. After working with men, women and couples for close to a decade now. Connor has noted that so many people believe change won’t happen unless we hit rock bottom. Unless we’re completely destroyed. A lot of individuals live under the mentality that growth can’t happen in a consistent and substantial way unless we’re bartered, beat and broken. In contrast to this belief we actually tend to hide our feelings and escape from reality when we feel pain, suffering, or insecurities.  Our brains have been naturally designed to resist change because it can’t predict the outcome that will result from the change. And just like in Ryan Holiday’s book The Obstacle Is The Way, we should learn to accept and live by the universal truth that facing our challenges, especially when we least feel like it, is when we absolutely need to do it.  Dark and Light Motivation There are two types of motivation. Dark motivation is fuelled by shame or the belief that we are not good enough. And most people build their lives, businesses, relationships and families based on this motivation. The sad truth is that this motivation will wear out with time. Light motivation on the other hand is a result of us moving into and facing the darkness in our lives. Even though we’re naturally designed to run away from troubles and challenges, light motivation is about facing your inner critic and conquering it. It’s at this moment  we realize that true freedom can only come when we decide to face what we’ve desperately been trying to escape from.   Handling the stress and conflict that’s a result of the current pandemic. How you’re acting right now to cope with your troubles, is an amplification of what you normally do when faced with the unknown or things that are out of your control. Right now is the perfect time to lean into the discomfort you’re feeling and do the things you normally wouldn’t do in order to change your lifestyle for the better. A lot of relationship routines have been destroyed by the covid pandemic. These routines are normally what hold the continuity of connection and communication in relationships.  So if you’re having a hard time with your partner, don’t worry, you’re not the only one. So many people are experiencing the same globally. To help manage this, you can; Create a personal routine that helps you build intimacy with yourself Create a couple routine that helps you build intimacy with your partner Since conflicts are a normal part of any relationship, you can do the following to build a great conflict management system with your partner. Know your personal relationship towards conflict. Get familiar with how you react in a moment of conflict.   We all react differently to conflicts in relation to our character and personality. Label your reaction, eg. I get too angry or manipulative during a conflict. This will help you set boundaries with yourself and your partner. This way, you’ll know when to take a pause when either one of you is at their most reactive during a conflict. Once you’ve taken a pause, you can regulate yourself to solid ground as you wait for your partner to do the same (or reach out if they’ve already cooled off) All couples have conflicts, but the best couples are the ones that can navigate through conflict and find a way to turn it into a connection.   Connect with Connor Beaton Website - https://connorbeaton.com/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/connor.beaton.1 Twitter - https://twitter.com/connorbeaton Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/mantalks/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC2exoyYcKLknC5IWiwdAihQ   Connect with Doug Instagram: @dougbopst Facebook: Doug Bopst Website: www.dougbopst.com/gift Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How to Build an Unbreakable Mindset Joining me on the show today is Nick Santonastasso.  Nick is a global keynote speaker and fitness model. What’s so incredible about his story is he kept pushing on despite having so many reasons to give up.  Born with no legs and an arm, Nick had to fight through depression and suicidal thoughts growing up. With all odds against him, Nick developed a razor sharp mindset to become the success and inspiration he is today.    The Foundation of Nick’s success. Nick owes it all to his parents. They are his superheroes.   As a parent, you cultivate and mould your child’s mindset through your actions and words.  While growing up as a kid, Nick’s parents never treated him any different. They treated him as a normal kid and handed him tasks that they would a normal kid.    It is from his childhood that Nick developed the solution oriented mindset. Everytime his parents placed him in a situation that made him uncomfortable, Nick used it as an opportunity to grow both physically and mentally.    Nick’s journey. Back in high school, Nick used to be a popular prankster. He’d dress up like a zombie and scare people.  After finishing high school, Nick  turned down the offer to attend college and instead chose to pursue a career in acting. And so he moved to LA. Two weeks after signing his first lease, the show he was supposed to perform in got cancelled. He didn’t even get the opportunity to film the pilot episode.  As time went by, Nick found himself broke, with no money to pay rent or buy food. (Looking back at it now, Nick appreciates this lowpoint in his life. Till date, he still believes he can survive even when he lacks a penny in his name.) This forced him to move back home and live in his parents’ basement.  With his pranking career down the drain, Nick decided to shift his focus on body building as his next life project.  He analyzed the fitness industry and created a masterplan to use his unique body features to build a career as a bodybuilder. He would leverage what he had to entertain and motivate people. With this vision in mind. Nick pushed himself to the limit and this led to him being the success he is today.   How Nick uses his mind as a tool to achieve success. For Nick, it’s all about focus and where you place it. Don’t place your focus on things you can’t control or the bad things going on in your life. Instead, you should place it on the positive things happening for you, and how to find solutions for the problems in your life. Work on yourself. A lot of people try to seek validation from other individuals in their lives such as parents, peers and work colleagues. Nick advises you to instead seek acceptance and validation from yourself. And the best way to do this, is to invest in yourself.  When you work on yourself, you create clarity and momentum in your life. You are able to live based on your purpose and end up falling in love with yourself.  Nick worked on himself through bodybuilding. Working out gave him confidence, upon which Nick has built his entire life and career.    Seed planting and persistence.  When his bodybuilding career was peeking. Nick decided to attend a mastermind course.  It's here that he met his business partner and coach, Ratmir.  Inspired by Nick’s story, Ratmir offered to work for Nick for free. Ratmir promised to build Nick a successful career as a public speaker.  With the new journey onset, the duo used all the little chances and resources they could find to build Nick’s PR profile. Every event the duo attended, they would plant seeds in the form of networking and consistently communicating with the top speakers and VIP guests of the shows.  Nick would give talks without asking for pay. Just to build his profile.  With time, they were able to leverage the different relationships they had built through the years and Nick found himself sharing the stage with icons such as Tony Robbins and Tom Bilyeu.  This served to boost Nick’s fast rising career as speaker.  But even after accomplishing so much and establishing himself as a renowned speaker. Nick still does events for free.  As a core principle in his life, Nick believes in doing the same things that you did when you were starting out that got you to where you are. Never derail from your foundation. Hang on to the principles that propelled you to success.   Connect with Nick Santonastasso.    Website - https://booknicksanto.com/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/NickSantonastasso Twitter - https://twitter.com/nicksanto534  YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/user/Nicksanto534 Instagram- https://www.instagram.com/nicksantonastasso/   Connect with Doug Instagram: @dougbopst Facebook: Doug Bopst Website: www.dougbopst.com/gift   More on Earth Echo Foods/Cacao Bliss: www.earthechofoods.com/dougbopst Use Promo code "Doug" at checkout to receive 15% off your order We are also a proud supporter of Belcampo meats  www.belcampo.com Use Promo code "bopst20" at checkout to receive 20% off your order   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode I have none other than Ramsey Personality, Christy Wright on the show to walk you through step by step on how to build a business that's sustainable, enjoyable and mission driven. You will learn how failures, self care and confidence are necessary pillars in order to achieve success. After listening to this, you will have what it takes to finally create the dream business you have always wanted to. Christy Wright is a #1 national best-selling author and inspiring personal development speaker.  As the author of Business Boutique: A Woman’s Guide to Making Money Doing What You Love, Christy is known for her unique ability to connect to her audiences with vulnerability, honesty, and a “You Can Do This” attitude, equipping and challenging women in the areas of faith, life, personal development, and business. Christy is passionate about helping women become more confident in themselves and the God who created them. Connect with Christy Wright Website - https://www.christywright.com Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/OfficialChristyWright/ Twitter -https://twitter.com/ChristyBWright Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/christybwright/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/christywright Amazon- https://amzn.to/30jgybr Connect with Doug Instagram: @dougbopst Facebook: Doug Bopst Website: www.dougbopst.com/gift Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today on the show I have none other than self confidence expert Heather Monahan where we dive deep into her story and how it allowed her to cultivate confidence in the most unapologetic way.  Listen in as she provides you with a step by step guide on how you can rebuild yourself from the ground up and live the life of your dreams.  Heather is a best-selling author, keynote speaker, entrepreneur and founder of Boss In Heels. Having successfully climbed the corporate ladder for nearly 20 years, Heather Monahan is one of the few women to break the glass ceiling and claim her spot in the C-suite. As a Chief Revenue Officer in Media, Heather Monahan is a Glass Ceiling Award winner, named one of the most Influential Women in Radio in 2017 and Thrive Global named her a Limit Breaking Female Founder in 2018.   Heather’s new book Confidence Creator shot to #1 on Amazon’s Business Biographies and Business Motivation lists the first week it debuted on Amazon. Heather is a confidence expert and is currently working with Fortune 500 companies and professional sports to develop confidence in the workplace and on the court. She’s also a member of Florida International University’s Advisory Council to further serve as a mentor and leader in the South Florida Community.  Heather and her son Dylan reside in Miami.   Connect with Heather:  Website - https://heathermonahan.com/ Podcast- https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/creating-confidence-with-heather-monahan/id1462192400 Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/heathermonahanofficial Twitter - https://twitter.com/_heathermonahan Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/heathermonahan/ YouTube -https://www.youtube.com/c/HeatherMonahanOfficial Amazon - https://amzn.to/3fjx3KO   Connect with Doug Instagram: @dougbopst Facebook: Doug Bopst Website: www.dougbopst.com/gift Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you ready to completely change your perceptions on reality and experience change like never before?  If so, then I’ve got two words for you Shaman Durek.    In hands down one of the most soul stirring interviews I’ve ever had, stay tuned into the show and be a part of an uplifting biohacking experience that is certain to change your views on everything you know and believe in.   About Shaman Durek Although he was destined to be a Shaman because of his lineage. Durek had at one point in his life completely pushed the thought of becoming a Shaman away.  Durek then went on a walkabout and chose otherwise, thus becoming the shaman he is today.  Descendent from the West African country of Ghana. Durek’s ancestors were the village medicine people.  As a result of slave trade and colonialism. Durek’s ancestors ended up practicing Lukumi (The merging of African shamanism and modern Catholicism) The merge has had its challenges since the two (African Shamanism and Catholicism) really contradict each other.  Durek for example has always had a view of Shamanism as freedom, liberation, acknowledgment and relationship with everything around you.  On the other hand, Durek views religion as a clause. With consequences as a result of the choices you make.  Growing up and going to school in America was always tough for Durek. Sharing his experience of seeing, feeling and talking to spirits had other kids label him as crazy or evil.  It’s thus been a long journey of trying to incorporate shamanism into the mainstream for him.   The principles of Shamanism You as a human being, already have higher consciousness within you. The only problem is that you haven’t aligned your synapsis and neurological system in order to input the frequencies and codes in your body.  Distractions and inflammations from the environment you are subjected in, is what’s preventing this alignment from happening.    Shamanism is about enhancement and elevation.  To accomplish this, you first need to closely observe your reality and remove the resistance and constrictions that are stopping you from being fully optimized.  These constrictions are belief systems are as a result of what you’ve been taught to understand about yourself and the world you live in. They press against you and prevent your freedom.  Constrictions include; fears, doubts, shame, guilt, worry, insecurities etc   Once you face these constrictions, you’ll be able to operate in autonomy. Your happiness and freedom will no longer be tied down to other people or activities.  Because you are the source of everything you experience.   Blackout.  This is a time when magnetic energy frequencies begin to lift the sediment of things that you have hidden away from your consciousness and society.  A blackout experience is an opportunity to figure out how to stop reacting to everything, and instead, pull deeper into love, acceptance and understanding.    Everything we achieve in life is based on getting acknowledged, noticed, heard, seen, appreciated, valued etc. The black out experience is about learning to break out from this culture.  Instead of hustling and operating under the fear of lacking something, and motivation to get somewhere, you should instead, see yourself as aligned and magnetically drawing everything you need towards you.    The trajectory for success is through cooperation, communication, engagement and authenticity.   If you can apply these principles, then you will be able to come out on the other side as a success.     Why don’t people embrace the Blackout experience then? Because we are naturally designed to be safe.  We are all egocentric control freaks as a result of the system we’ve been programmed to live in.  The key to breaking free is enhancing your spiritual immunity instead of safety.    The Law of Duality  There’s different polarities that are present in our planet.  These polarities are acknowledged by a certain group of people or by an individual more than in other groups or individuals.  We have all, as result, created a very dualistic way of viewing life. Duality has become a tool to understand reality, which of course, is all wrong.  For example, the idea of what’s right or wrong is different in every society, subjective to their belief systems and environment.  Because of this duality, we are stuck in the past and forget that we are changing.  The reality of consciousness isn’t anything that’s dual or solid, rather it’s something that is fluid and transformable. Because the system is ever changing and evolving. Once you accept this reality, then you can be synergetic. You will be liberated from all the attachments, labels, ideas and conditions that have been forced on you subconsciously.    We live in an illogical world.  Your brain operates on frequencies and energy.  If we lived in a logical world, then you would be given the ability to be loved unconditionally, truly express yourself as things happen in your life and maintain your biological system in a functional way.  But because we don’t. Then you do neither of these things.    Being logical means that you know you are free to communicate and operate in intelligence that gives you input, responding to what you want to express.    But because we live in an illogical world, you cannot do all of the above.  So your brain finds a way to compensate for the lack of logic in your environment. It then functions based on protecting you and helping you get what you want.  To be free, means you are possibility driven and open to all ideas.  A wise person is one who can see and consider the diverse options that are at his disposal.   Connect with Shaman Durek  Website - https://shamandurek.com/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/ShamanDurek Twitter - https://twitter.com/ShamanDurek Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/shamandurek/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCvuqLo-Lk6iCp4Q6inOb5Q Amazon - https://amzn.to/2VVZVRU   Connect with Doug Instagram: @dougbopst Facebook: Doug Bopst Website: www.dougbopst.com/gift   More on Earth Echo Foods/Cacao Bliss: www.earthechofoods.com/dougbopst Use Promo code "Doug" at checkout to receive 15% off your order   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sara Kubric: Saving Millennials through Modern Therapy Techniques.   I’m honoured to host Sara Kuburic as the guest on our show today. Sara is a Canadian certified counsellor and a trauma informed clinician. She has a person-centred approach that’s grounded in existential analysis as well as semantic and experiential techniques. She specializes in areas of trauma & abuse, identity relationships with self & others, life transitions, and anxiety. The Millennial Therapist: Sara’s unique and modern approach to healing. When starting out as a young clinician or student in grad school, you’re presented with a diverse range of therapeutic modalities. This can tend to be overwhelming when making your selection. Sara decided to pick a modality that resonates with her personality and character. Based on this criterion, Sara involves her clients in open, honest and genuine conversations with her patients, all of which leads to an effective growth and healing journey. Having initially started off with Neuroscience, Sara found herself switching to an existential approach after stumbling across a patient whose treatment involved performing an existential analysis.   Sara’s modern approach to Psychotherapy In today’s society, instant gratification has led to the striving and application of quick solutions and coping mechanisms to deal with our problems. That is why so many therapists also pick modalities that cater for quick results, and end up ignoring the deep-rooted issues that need to be solved. In contrast to this, Sarah preaches for and practices awareness and honesty as an effective therapy strategy. Growth is sometimes characterised by pain and discomfort, and so it’s counterproductive when so many modern therapists try to make their clients feel as comfortable as they can throughout the entire therapy session. This only serves to limit their growth.   People pleasing. Having grown to be such a big cultural aspect of our society, people pleasing is an attribute that’s been happening for ages.   Sara describes pleasing people as the act of trying to get the approval of other people, regardless of the sacrifice that you have to make in order to accomplish your goal. As a society, we tend to applaud people for placing other people’s needs before their own and criticize the ones that put themselves first.  Self-care is now seen as being selfish. Essentially, the things that we yearn to do in order to gain other people’s approval are things that we can’t always, but partially offer ourselves.   Gaslighting. Being aware that you’re a victim of gaslighting is an incredibly difficult feat. Gas lighting is a relationship phenomenon characterised by toxic manipulation of the victim. It’s so complex to an extent that the victim has a really hard time to connect to themselves and reality. It’s psychological abuse, that leads to the victim going through detrimental suffering, and more often than not, isolating themselves from everyone too.   Setting healthy boundaries. Unlike the popular belief in so many cultures, setting boundaries with your friends and family, is not an ultimatum or control mechanism. Rather, it’s a request to other people to be more empathetic while still protecting our needs, and nurturing our connection with other people. Boundaries are different for everyone and we should feel confident when setting them. Never be afraid to give your honest thoughts and opinions about how other people’s actions, behaviours, and opinions impact us. Inner child. The concept defines re-enactments that we do as adults in relation to our childhood experiences. These acts are triggered by needs that were never fulfilled when you were growing up as a kid. Inner child can sometimes manifest in the form of tantrums. So, whilst we try to fulfil these needs in our adult life, we do so without realizing that we’re doing so in an unproductive or harmful way. Sometimes there’s the beautiful inner child. This is where our intuition, creativity, and playfulness stems from. Thus, as much as the inner child can be harmful, we can learn how to decipher between the productive and unproductive inner child for a happier life.   The Shame tagged with seeking therapy Unlike being able to spot a physiological defect within your body such as a broken arm, it’s difficult to pinpoint what you lack when it comes to therapy. So, most people end up concluding that they’re broken. And this induces a lot of shame. To change this mentality, we can accept our flaws and own the fact that we need help, this way, we flip the conversation from therapy to self-growth and development. Be sure to tune into the show, and grow from insights provided by Sara Kuburic, including how you can use fitness & nutrition as guidelines for a healthy mind, and why humour is one of the best tools to calm a troubled mind.   Connect with Sara Kuburic Website - https://www.sara-kuburic.com/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/sarakuburic/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/millennial.therapist   Connect with Doug Instagram: @dougbopst Facebook: Doug Bopst Website: www.dougbopst.com/gift   More on Earth Echo Foods/Cacao Bliss: www.earthechofoods.com/dougbopst Use Promo code "Doug" at checkout to receive 15% off your order     Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

A lot of you probably know today’s guest as a top and highly sought after motivational speaker on leadership, finance and family.    Joining me on today’s show is Chris Hogan. Chris gives us a backstory of where his passion to help people comes from, and how he’s overcome obstacles in his life to be the inspirational figure he is today. Chris Hogan is a two-time #1 national best-selling author, financial expert and host of The Chris Hogan Show. For more than a decade, Hogan has served at Ramsey Solutions, equipping and challenging people to take control of their money and reach their financial goals.    His second book, Everyday Millionaires: How Ordinary People Built Extraordinary Wealth—And How You Can Too, is based on the largest study of millionaires ever conducted   Growing up with a single mom Despite his dad not being around, Chris grew up with a lot of family members and mentors, all of whom believed in his abilities. From his upbringing and environment, Chris was able to pick up on what inspired him and mould a character from it.   Growth and Mindset Growing to be a better person comes down to one thing. Your heart. You’ll never grow because someone has asked or told you to. You’ll never grow because of something you’ve seen.  You’ll only grow once you decide to look into your heart and make the decision to change for better.  Thus, growth is an internal decision. And the beauty of it, is that it’s not a one time decision. It’s an everyday decision that we have to make. A decision about how we feel about ourselves and how we view others.  And although there’s nothing wrong with glancing back every once in a while to see how far we’ve come, it’s important to always focus on the future. We’ve got more ahead of us than that’s ever been behind us.  Remember to also spend time around supportive people who believe in you and encourage you to reach for your success. Isolating will only lead to a downward spiral of constant backsliding.    Servant Leadership The corporate mainstream has a culture of people at the bottom doing things in order to accomplish what people the top need accomplished.  Servant leadership flips this triangle around. The focus shifts to the people at the bottom. The top level individuals focus on how and what to do to make life easier and better for the ones at the bottom. This kind of mentality, according to Chris, causes leaders to step outside of their title and start looking at people for what they truly are, and that’s people. Ultimately, it’s less about what you do and more about what you do to benefit others. You’re looking for ways to serve and encourage other people through their life journeys.   The power of your inner circle. You think and become like the people you spend your time with. And this is something you should be mindful about. It’s common to have friends who are negative or make you feel uncomfortable, and the key here is to make a choice of not letting them influence you. It’s all about constantly being proactive in deciding what you want to focus on. Take in the good stuff and filter the bad out.   How Chris conquered his biggest adversity Chris’ youngest son was at 2 years, diagnosed with a rare genetic disorder. It was gut wrenching for Chris. No matter how much he tried to be positive, it was extremely difficult and painful for Chris to walk through and acknowledge this reality.  One of Chris’ biggest regrets in life is how he chose to handle that problem. For the first 1 and a half years, Chris chose to isolate to himself and his problems. Eventually though, Chris made the decision to understand and learn about the disease his son had, and with the knowledge, cam awareness. It’s through awareness that we can make life changing decisions from our hearts. In conclusion, it’s important to acknowledge that none of us is perfect. But we are indeed perfectly capable of making improvements.  The most important thing in the self-development process is to identify the areas that you need improvement and begin taking action towards it.  Be willing to forgive yourself for the sake of growth and seek constant guidance from experts in the areas you need improvement. And last but not least, remember to keep a close company to friends and family who support and believe in you.   Connect with Chris Hogan Website - https://www.chrishogan360.com/  Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/chrishogan360 Twitter - https://twitter.com/chrishogan360 Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/chrishogan360/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/user/ChrisHogan360   Connect with Doug Instagram: @dougbopst Facebook: Doug Bopst Website: www.dougbopst.com/gift   More on Earth Echo Foods/Cacao Bliss: www.earthechofoods.com/dougbopst Use Promo code "Doug" at checkout to receive 15% off your order   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jill Coleman Changing Your lifestyle, Purpose and Direction Through Mindset.    Joining me on the show today is Jill Coleman, an established mindset, lifestyle and nutrition coach. In the show  we cover Jill’s journey into the health and fitness industry, building her business brand and how she overcame the heartbreak and self-distraction after her divorce.   Jill’s life path into Nutrition, Health and Fitness. Having played sports throughout her school years, Jill found herself on the losing side every once in a while. She not only got used to the feeling of defeat, but also found a way of getting over it and building a character and personality of resilience.  Passionate about the health and fitness niche, Jill taught her first group fitness class when she was just 16. In school, Jill was always into sports and athletics; from triathlons to avalons and marathons. But dancing was her biggest love. With time, Jill found herself hooked to the transformative power that healthy eating and exercise had in  changing a person’s physical outlook. This led her into winning a figure competition after losing a whopping 20 pounds.  What young Jill wasn’t aware of at the time, was the post competition blues. With numerous compliments, approvals and affirmations being sent her way after the win, Jill got used to her new environment only to find herself gaining 15 pounds in only 2 weeks.  What would follow was a 6 year roller coaster of losing and gaining 20-30 pounds every year.  Confused and depressed, Jill finally decided to make a stand and re-focus her attention into blogging as a way of curbing the need to have a perfect body.  She found her bliss through blogging everyday for 2 years and creating a nutritional philosophy of eating the same meal all year round.   It’s all about your Mindset. A lot of people get into exercise and diet for the wrong reasons.  They don’t really know what they want. This has caused an epidemic of people obsessed with having the perfect body through over-exercising and wrong dieting.  Instead of being happy and grateful for achieving their goals, a lot of people only feel relief and the need to accomplish more goals. Social media has only magnified this through the constant portrayal of fitness junkies, as the perfect reflection of what success and happiness is.  Jill was a victim of this loop, but after shifting her attention and sense of purpose into her newly established business, she was able to pull through. As a mindset coach, Jill advises us to focus more on the process of achieving our goals, rather than the end result. It’s through this that we can accomplish much more than we had set out to.  Having battled through her own setbacks and adversities in exercise and business, Jill points out 3 tips to help us succeed in our business endeavors.  Consistency. People who dive into businesses and careers driven by a sense of urgency to make money only end up burnt and stressed out. Build a strong foundation of passion where you’re constantly driven to pursue excellence through practice and consistency.  Focus on the quality of the value you’re giving. Quantity begets Quality. With enough practice, anyone can become a pro in any business venture. Pull back the curtain and share your own struggles. This is a trust building formula of connecting with your audience. Being open and honest about your past and current struggles will help you bond with your audience at a personal level.   How Jill Navigated through her marital infidelity.  Having been married for more than 10 years. It was heart-breaking for Jill to find out her husband was having an affair.  Jill plunged in helplessness and self-worth doubt when she discovered this. What followed was a destructive path of drinking, dating and working overtime to numb the pain.  Jill felt wronged, in pain and confused.  As much as she was justified to play the victim and point the finger, Jill decided otherwise and was able to transition through personal development and owning up.  Despite being in such a hard spot, she always believed in herself and the power to overcome the emotional wreck she had become. Jill was able to embrace and move past her marriage and divorce to her ex-husband.    Connect with Jill Website - http://jillfit.com/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/JillFit/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/jillfit/ Podcast - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/id1336223187 Connect with Doug Instagram: @dougbopst Facebook: Doug Bopst Website: www.dougbopst.com/gift Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices