The Adversity Advantage with Doug Bopst

Today’s conversation is going to challenge you. It’s going to push you and hopefully open your eyes to different perspectives on subjects like divorce, healing, boundaries, parenting and relationships. My guest is not only a New York Times best selling author, she is also a clinical psychologist whose work focusing on parenting, family dynamics and mindful living is flat-out revolutionary. I am so excited to interview Dr. Shefali. You may be familiar with her paradigm-shifting books including “The Conscious Parent”. Her newest book “A Radical Awakening” will be the focus of our chat today. Dr. Shefali’s unique ability to blend clinical psychology with eastern mindfulness is quite inspiring and changing lives.   Our conversation today touches on becoming aware of toxic patterns and taking the steps to heal from them. Dr. Shefali and I discuss the tricky subject of divorce. This includes her sharing her own recent experience with it and how she embraced her divorce and it led to massive personal growth. Dr. Shefali shares her thoughts on marriage and what she believes makes it work. We talk about the trendy topic of “boundaries” and how to set and uphold healthy ones specifically with family. We also cover conscious parenting, what Dr. Shefali does to be her best self and how to know if you are actually “healing.” and so much more!   Topics discussed:   We why live a "pattern" and not a "life"   How to recognize and heal toxic patterns   The tricky topic of divorce Dr. Shefali's recent experience with it   How she embraced her divorce and it led to massive personal growth   What makes a marriage work?   How to set/uphold healthy boundaries (especially with family)   How to tell if you are healing?   Conscious parenting    What Dr. Shefali does to be her best self   Connect with Dr. Shefali   Website: https://www.drshefali.com/   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doctorshefali/   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrShefaliTsabary   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/DrShefali     Buy Dr. Shefali's latest book "A Radical Awakening:"   https://www.aradicalawakening.com/   Connect with Doug:   Website: www.dougbopst.com/   Instagram: www.instagram.com/dougbopst   Facebook: www.facebook.com/dougbopst   Twitter: www.twitter.com/dougbopst   Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC1xly1FdiIE2s8c5wUr2dgw   Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/690686891674188   More on PaleoValley Beef Sticks:   www.paleovalley.com   Use Promo code "Doug" at checkout to receive 15% off your order                   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Practicing Yoga to Improve Self Awareness, Increase Confidence, Reduce Stress, Relieve Tension and Optimize Your Health (Without Attending a Single Class)!!!   Today’s conversation is going to be relaxing, soothing and empowering because we are talking about yoga with global wellness expert and founder of Strala Yoga, Tara Stiles. Tara brings a revolutionary approach to being, moving and healing to inspire millions around the world with her relatable perspective with regards to yoga, meditation and movement.    Now before you press pause or exit because you aren’t interested in yoga, I invite you to continue to listen to the “Yoga Rebel.”   The New York Times recognizes Tara as such because of her unconventional approach to this sometimes intimidating subject. She isn’t into the dogma of yoga or forcing you to do a bunch of poses or making you chant. Again, if that’s your jam, no judgment from either one of us. I would say that for most people their resistance to yoga is because of the time commitment, inflexibility, feeling insecure, not feeling aligned with the spirituality aspect, etc.   After hearing today’s episode, I can promise you that these challenges will be diminished as Tara’s approach is efficient, relatable, empowering and practical for anyone looking to reap the incredible benefits of yoga. Yoga can reduce stress, relieve tension, improve your confidence, help you sleep better, gain flexibility and so much more.    The focus of our discussion today centers around what the average person can do if they want to get started with yoga and incorporate it into their daily routine or regular workout program. We break down the many walls or barriers that I mentioned previously and why spending just a few minutes a day practicing yoga or even taking one breath can be beneficial. Tara shares why “the better you move” within the poses matters more than how far you stretch. We discuss what you can do to reduce tension and stiffness and Tara shares what she does to help manage her stress. We go "all in" on the topic of hot yoga including the dangers and why Tara thinks most people should stay away from it.   Topics discussed:    Tara's backstory and how she got into Yoga   Why "dogma" in yoga turns people away    How to get started with yoga easily and efficiently   Can yoga help heal trauma?   How to relieve daily stiffness and tension   Is it better to stretch more or move better?   All things hot yoga   The dangers of hot yoga   Why Tara thinks people should stay away from hot yoga   What Tara does to manage her stress   How to find a yoga class that's right for you (if you want to attend one)   Incorporating yoga into a daily routine or regular workout program   Connect with Tara:   Website: https://www.tarastiles.com/   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tarastiles/   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TaraStilesOfficial   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/TaraStilesStralaYoga   Strala Yoga: https://stralayoga.com/   Connect with Doug:   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dougbopst/   Twitter: https://twitter.com/dougbopst   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dougbopst/   Website: https://www.dougbopst.com   More on Earth Echo Foods/Cacao Bliss:   www.earthechofoods.com/dougbopst   Use Promo code "Doug" at checkout to receive 15% off your order Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today’s guest is Steven Kotler. Steven is a New York Times Best Selling Author, an award-winning journalist, and the Executive Director of the Flow Research Collective. He is one of the world’s leading experts on human performance. 10 of his 13 books have become best sellers and his work has been nominated for two Pulitzer Prizes.   Today’s conversation is going to dive into his latest book “The Art of Impossible” where Kotler unveils the secret recipe to help you achieve your goals, overcome obstacles and become your best self. As you will learn from today’s episode achieving the impossible isn’t just about climbing Mount Everest or winning a Super Bowl. Those are more or less what he considers "big I’s” and can’t be accomplished without achieving many "little i’s” along the way. Little i’s in my own words can best be described as “smaller goals” or challenges such as transforming your health, building a relationship, passing a big test, or starting a podcast but Steven will explain this in more detail.   Our conversation goes into the popular and enticing topic of “flow.” We talk about what flow is and what flow isn’t. Steven shares why getting into flow is one of the most important things you can possibly do to learn faster, improve performance and live to your fullest potential. He talks about a recent obstacle that he has overcome in recent times and how it has impacted his life for the positive. We also discuss the science of motivation and what actually gets you motivated and much more!   Topic discussed:    Little "i" vs big "I" when it come to achieving the impossible   A recent obstacle that Steven recently overcame   A masterclass on flow    What flow is and what flow isn't    What are the benefits of flow?   The science of motivation   What is the recipe for getting motivated?    Steven's thoughts on the mental health epidemic that we are facing (what he feels the cause/solution is)   Connect with Steven:    Website : https://www.stevenkotler.com/   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stevenkotler/?hl=en   Twitter: https://twitter.com/steven_kotler?lang=en   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/KotlerSteven/   Books : https://www.stevenkotler.com/books   Steven's gift to you:   www.passionrecipe.com   Connect with Doug:   Website: www.dougbopst.com/   Instagram: www.instagram.com/dougbopst   Facebook: www.facebook.com/dougbopst   Twitter: www.twitter.com/dougbopst   Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC1xly1FdiIE2s8c5wUr2dgw     Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/690686891674188   Support today's sponsor:   Athletic Greens:    www.athleticgreens.com/doug to get your free year supply of Vitamin D and 5 free travel packs! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today’s conversation is one that I think will hit home with many as we are talking all things relationships. Listen relationships are hard enough as is and when you throw in a pandemic, online dating, social media and other challenges it certainly can complicate things.  But, after listening to this episode you are going to feel hopeful despite these challenges.   Today’s guest is relationship coach and author Stephan Labossiere aka Stephan Speaks. Stephan is one of the most popular relationship coaches in the world. His mission, books, content and coaching help millions of people overcome the obstacles in their lives that hold them back from having relationships that last. Stephan’s message is real, raw, and relatable and he speaks the truth.  I can promise you that if you take the advice Stephan provides today and implement it whether you are single or not your relationships will change for the better.   Our discussion today dives into how to heal from past hurts and why healing is a nonnegotiable for finding love and maintaining a healthy relationship. Stephan unveils his insights on things that will make or break a relationship and why people stay in relationships longer than they want to. We also discuss the pivotal role communication plays in partnerships and how to communicate effectively and navigate conflict. Stephan shares why chemistry isn’t the same as connection and how to know if you are truly connected to someone. Plus we also discuss the keys to building relationships that last and so much more!   Topics discussed:   Why healing is critical for finding love, dating and maintaining a relationship   How to actually heal from past hurts   Steps to take to begin dating and how to find the right partner   Why relationships fail (and how to prevent it)   The pivotal role communication plays in relationships and how to navigate conflict   The difference between chemistry and connection   The keys to building relationships that last     Connect with Stephan:   Website: https://www.stephanspeaks.com   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stephanspeaks   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/StephanSpeaksRelationships/   Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/stephanspeaks   Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/user/RelationshipExpert1   Shop Stephan Speaks:    https://www.stephanspeaksshop.com/   Connect with Doug:   Website: www.dougbopst.com/   Instagram: www.instagram.com/dougbopst   Facebook: www.facebook.com/dougbopst   Twitter: www.twitter.com/dougbopst   Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC1xly1FdiIE2s8c5wUr2dgw     Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/690686891674188   More on PaleoValley Beef Sticks:   www.paleovalley.com   Use Promo code "Doug" at checkout to receive 15% off your order       Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

88 million Americans are pre-diabetic and of those 88 million, 84% have NO IDEA that they are pre-diabetic!   So I couldn't of a better time to release this episode!!!   Today I had the pleasure of talking to Cyrus Khambatta Ph.D, internationally recognized nutrition fitness coach and co-founder of Mastering diabetes. Which is also the name of his New York Times bestseller book.    Cyprus takes us through his incredible journey as a type one diabetes survivor and explains how his ailing health inspired a drastic change to his diet plan as well as a career path.   He earned a Bachelor of Science in Mechanical engineering from the University of Stanford in 2003, before bagging a Ph.D. in Nutritional Biochemistry from the University of California at Berkeley in 2012.   Cyrus' evidence-based approach to nutrition has helped thousands of people with forms of diabetes reverse insulin resistance using food and other lifestyle changes.   Some topics discussed:    How to tell if you're prediabetic or not   How Cyrus overcame type one diabetes at age 22 and how the life-threatening condition inspired a drastic change to his life   What Insulin resistance really is and how it relates to being prediabetic and how to reverse it   Whole Carbohydrates and Refined Carbohydrates, which is healthier for you?   The exceptional health benefits of non-starchy vegetables   Some simple steps to reverse type 2 diabetes through lifestyle changes   How to incorporate Fasting, Exercise, and Sleep to further maintain a healthy lifestyle.   Connect with Mastering Diabetes: Website: https://www.masteringdiabetes.org/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/masteringdiabetes/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/masteringdiabetes.org/ Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/mastering-diabetes-audio-experience/id1314224547?at=1l3vwYf   Connect with Doug:   Website: http://www.dougbopst.com/ Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/dougbopst Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dougbopst Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/dougbopst Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/690686891674188   Support today's sponsors:    Legion Athletics:   buylegion.com/doug and use code "Doug" at checkout for 20% off   Athletic Greens:    www.athleticgreens.com/doug to get your free year supply of Vitamin D and 5 free travel packs! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Amy Purdy is one of the top motivational speakers on the planet sharing her story of resilience to people all over the world. At the age of 19 she lost both of her legs below the knees and went on to become a New York Times Best-Selling Author of her book, ‘On My Own Two Feet – From Losing My Legs to Learning the Dance of Life’. She’s a 3-Time Paralympic Medalist, in fact, she is actually the most decorated adaptive snowboarder in Team USA history. Amy has Toured with Oprah and was named on her Top 100 Thought Leader list. You may also recall seeing her grace the dance floor on national television as she was a runner-up on the TV show "Dancing With The Stars" and she is now the host of a new, critically acclaimed podcast all about grit & resilience called Bouncing Forward. Listen in to hear how losing both of her legs led her to where she is today.   Topics discussed:   Amy walks the audience through a horrific tragedy she encountered as a teenager that led to her losing her legs (given less than 2% chance to live)   Why nearly dying actually became a blessing How did Amy establish belief in herself after losing her legs? Why utilizing perspective and gratitude can be game-changing during moments of adversity   A quick mindset hack that Amy uses to boost her confidence  A recent MASSIVE struggle that Amy has had and how she is dealing with it What's next for Amy?   Listen/Subscribe to the podcast: https://adversityadvantagepodcast.com/   Connect with Amy:   Website: https://amypurdy.com/   Instagram: https://instagram.com/amypurdygurl   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AmyPurdyGurl/   Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/bouncing-forward-with-amy-purdy/id1546895069?at=1l3vwYf   Connect with Doug:   Website: http://www.dougbopst.com/ Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/dougbopst Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dougbopst Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/dougbopst Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/690686891674188     Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How to Stop Negative Self Talk and Harness Your Inner Voice   I think we all have a basic understanding that many of the issues that arise in our lives are a result of our inability to control and manage the voice in our head. Not only does this create problems, our ability to solve these problems strongly relies on how we use our thoughts and inner voice in those moments. They can either be used to our advantage and help us grow or to our disadvantage where they become “chatter.” Chatter is when the inner voice becomes toxic and destructive. It’s when we ruminate, obsess, and before we know it we are acting impulsively and making decisions that are not aligned with who we want to become. This leads to turmoil in our lives that can damage our health, careers, relationships and our sense of self if we are not careful. But, there is good news. There is a path forward and after listening to today’s episode you will have multiple tools that you can implement immediately to harness your inner voice, mitigate chatter and use your thoughts to improve your life.     Today’s guest is Ethan Kross. Ethan is one of the world’s leading experts on controlling the conscious mind and the inner voice. He is An award-winning professor in the University of Michigan’s top-ranked Psychology Department and its Ross School of Business, he studies how the conversations people have with themselves impact their health, performance, decisions, and relationships.   Ethan is also the best selling author of the newly released book “Chatter” The Voice in Our Head, Why it Matters and How to Harness It, which was chosen as one of the best new books of the year by the Washington Post, CNN and USA Today and the Winning Winter 2021 selection for Malcolm Gladwell, Adam Grant, Susan Cain, and Dan Pink’s Next Big Idea Book Club. This guy delivers an absolute masterclass on today’s show on the conscious mind, emotion regulation, our inner voice and thoughts, and of course chatter.    What I value about Ethan’s approach  is that it’s simple, proactive and anyone can do it. There is no equipment, financial investment or massive time commitment required. Part of his solution to harnessing your inner voice is practicing things like “distancing” yourself from the situation, creating rituals in your life and controlling the environment around you. Ethan also covers a few tactics that you may think work for controlling our negative thoughts that are actually counterproductive.   This is a discussion that goes into great detail into what your inner voice is, how it’s different from chatter, and why talking to yourself is actually healthy. We also get into how to “hold space” for someone in a way that will help them move forward and why running to social media to share your problems isn’t always the best approach. The cool thing is that many of the strategies that Ethan teaches are also useful for emotional regulation which is also part of today’s conversation. This episode helps you manage chatter in the present moments as well as the future and ultimately assist you in letting the voice in your head become your greatest ally.   Highlights:   Why we have an inner voice, where it comes from and how it’s used?   What is chatter and how is it different from our thoughts and inner voice?    What is really the root cause of people's inability to manage their inner thoughts?   Why the idea of going back to your childhood and addressing the root cause of trauma can be counterproductive   How talking to yourself can be healthy (and why saying your name is important)   Ethan shares some proven tactics to help you stop negative thoughts and chatter in its tracks   Tools for controlling and regulating emotions    Buy Ethan's book "Chatter:"   https://www.ethankross.com/chatter/   Connect with Ethan:    Website: http://www.ethankross.com   Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/ethankross   Twitter: https://twitter.com/ethan_kross   Connect with Doug:   Website: http://www.dougbopst.com/   Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/dougbopst   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dougbopst   Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/dougbopst   Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/690686891674188   More on PaleoValley Beef Sticks:   www.paleovalley.com   Use Promo code "Doug" at checkout to receive 15% off your order           Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

A Deep Dive on Intuitive Fasting, Metabolic Flexibility and How to Boost Your Immune System Right Now!!!   Dr. Will Cole is our first repeat guest on the show and undoubtedly one of the most experienced and educated individuals in the field of Nutrition and Functional Medicine.   He is a leading functional-medicine expert, who specializes in clinically investigating the underlying factors of chronic disease and customizing health programs for thyroid issues, autoimmune conditions, hormonal dysfunctions, digestive disorders, and brain problems. Dr. Cole is also a best-selling author of multiple books and hosts the highly popular podcast, The Art of Being Well.    Today our conversation takes a somewhat similar path as our initial one as we talk all things functional medicine and holistic health. But this time, we talk quite a bit about fasting. And not just fasting, "Intuitive Fasting" which is also the title of his latest New York Times best-selling book.   Much of our discussion today focuses on the science of fasting and how it builds resilience, improves your brain health, reduces your inflammation and boosts your immune system. Dr. Cole shares the importance of having metabolic flexibility when it comes to maximizing our health and why metabolic inflexibility is at the root of so many health problems that we are facing. Believe it or not, fasting is a great way to develop metabolic flexibility which you will learn today.   I also pick Dr. Cole’s brain about what he’s currently advising his patients to do to boost their immunity and help protect them from viruses.  Dr. Cole showcases his 4-week plan to get started fasting in a way that’s comfortable, effective, and of course intuitive.   Essentially this is a conversation that will help you embrace the incredible benefits of fasting without feeling overwhelmed and frightened.   Hopefully, after listening to this episode you will feel inspired to take control of your health so that you can do what you can to reduce inflammation. strengthen your immune system and live longer.    Highlights:   What is Dr. Cole advising his patients to do to keep their immune systems strong?    What is at the root of many health problems?    Metabolic flexibility vs metabolic inflexibilty (the role this plays in your health)   The science and benefits of fasting   What is intuitive fasting?   What can be used to improve brain health, reduce inflammation and build resilience?   Dr. Cole’s 4-week plan to implement fasting in a way that's simple, effective, and efficient.   Connect with Dr. Cole Website - https://drwillcole.com/ Facebook -  https://www.facebook.com/doctorwillcole/ Twitter - https://twitter.com/drwillcole Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/drwillcole/ Youtube - https://www.youtube.com/user/DrWillCole Podcast - https://drwillcole.com/podcast   Buy Dr. Cole's newest book "Intuitive Fasting:"   https://amzn.to/3hnnXAw   Connect with Doug:   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dougbopst/   Twitter: https://twitter.com/dougbopst   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dougbopst/   Website: https://www.dougbopst.com   More on Earth Echo Foods/Cacao Bliss:   www.earthechofoods.com/dougbopst   Use Promo code "Doug" at checkout to receive 15% off your order Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Gretchen Rubin is one of the most influential and thought-provoking experts on the subjects of happiness and human nature who has written multiple New York Times best selling books and hosts the highly popular Happier with Gretchen Rubin podcast. To add to her list of impressive accolades, Gretchen started her career as a lawyer and eventually worked her way up to become a clerk for a Supreme Court Justice until she had an epiphany and realized that she wanted to be a writer. She touches on this in today’s episode but most of our time is spent chatting about her personality test that has helped millions better understand themselves, improve their relationships and become happier.    Highlights:   Why she switched professions at the pinnacle of her career How to stay optimistic while pursuing something that’s challenging Her unique personality test that has helped millions and will improve how you feel about yourself  Which personality type are you and how can you use it to your advantage? Which personality types are most common (might surprise you) What actually can make you happier and what can't Which personalities are more likely to attract one another? What helps Gretchen get out of a rut   Listen/Subscribe to the podcast: https://adversityadvantagepodcast.com/   Connect with Gretchen:    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gretchenrubin   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/GretchenRubin   Website: https://gretchenrubin.com/   Podcast: https://gretchenrubin.com/podcasts/   Books: https://gretchenrubin.com/books/   Connect with Doug:   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dougbopst/​   Twitter: https://twitter.com/dougbopst​   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dougbopst/​   Website: https://www.dougbopst.com   More on Athletic Greens:    www.athleticgreens.com/doug to get your free year supply of Vitamin D and 5 free travel packs! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Alex Warren is a popular YouTuber, TikTok star and internet celebrity who co-founded the famed content house, “The Hype House” The crazy part is just a few years ago Alex was homeless. On today's podcast,  Alex shares how he went from homeless and dead broke to one of the most famous Internet personalities in the world all before his twenty- first birthday.  Listen in to hear how he turned tragedy and trauma into triumph at such a young age.   Highlights:   How he started filming videos at just 11 years old (shortly after his father passed away) The ultimatum his mom gave him: stop filming or get out of the house What life was like as a homeless YouTuber How he crossed paths with Thomas Petrou to form The Hype House. Alex introduces the Hype House’s upcoming Netflix show Behind the scenes of being an internet celebrity A candid conversation about Alex’s mental health   Listen/Subscribe to the podcast:   https://adversityadvantagepodcast.com/ Connect with Alex:    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCX2Pm1JoWF3chsVOR9e1hbQ   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alexwaarren/   Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/alexwaarren/   TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@alexwaarren Connect with Doug:   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dougbopst/   Twitter: https://twitter.com/dougbopst   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dougbopst/   Website: https://www.dougbopst.com   More on Earth Echo Foods/Cacao Bliss:   www.earthechofoods.com/dougbopst   Use Promo code "Doug" at checkout to receive 15% off your order Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices