The Adversity Advantage with Doug Bopst

Todays guest is Amy Porterfield. Amy is an ex-corporate girl turned online marketing expert and CEO of a multimillion-dollar business. During her corporate days, Amy worked with mega-brands like Harley-Davidson, as well as Peak Performance Coach Tony Robbins. Through her best-selling courses and top-ranked marketing podcast Online Marketing Made Easy, Amy has helped hundreds of thousands of entrepreneurs. Amy's action-by-action teaching style provides aspiring business owners with the tools they need to bypass the overwhelm and build a business they love. But, today we are going to get a bit personal with Amy and discuss parts of her journey that you may not be familiar with. Amy gets vulnerable and we dive deep into her personal story, things that she is embarrassed to admit and different forms of adversity that she has faced and overcome. This is a conversation that I thoroughly enjoyed and think you will too. What to Listen For:   0:00 Intro 01:57 Do THESE three things to build your self worth 05:21 When was last time Amy questioned her self worth? 08:25 Dealing with comparison 12:43 Why Amy avoided posting on TikTok 16:00 How her childhood impacted her marriage 18:19 Amy goes off the grid to heal from trauma 20:34 How to make the most out of investing in “self help” 23:55 Overcoming imposter syndrome 27:45 Using milestones to achieve big goals 29:23 Why taking big chances create blessings 32:25 Advice for people making a transition  34:45 Amy was forced to rediscover herself after a business breakup 37:23 Who are Amy’s closest friends in the self help space? 39:10 How to start a side hustle 45:52 How to build an email list & connect with your audience         Episode resources:   Follow Amy:   Instagram YouTube Podcast Follow me on Social Media: LinkedIn Instagram Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today’s guest is Frank Rich. Frank is a former bodybuilder, entrepreneur, men's health coach, and host of The Super Human Life podcast. After living with and battling porn addiction, depression, and anxiety for almost 20 years, he is now on a mission to help men who are suffering with many of the same issues take back control of their lives through the power of faith and fitness. Frank has helped thousands of men transform their physiques through his online coaching platform. He is also the founder and CEO of Rebuilt Recovery, a company based on a growth centric holistic approach to addiction recovery. Rebuilt Recovery provides fitness training for men going through recovery as well as one-to-one coaching for men aiming to break free from porn addiction.    Let’s face it there are a lot of people that struggle with porn addiction. Many are open about it and many suffer in silence. Be sure to listen closely to this episode as Frank shares his incredible story of overcoming porn addiction from start to finish as well as some steps someone can take to break free from porn addiction, rewire their brain and live their best life! What to Listen For:   0:00 Intro 1:58 What steps can someone take if they are addicted to porn? 05:55 Frank discovers porn  08:25 Living a double life 11:19 Breaking free from a 20 year porn addiction  14:32 What helped him during early recovery? 17:22 Negative consequences from his addiction 19:36 How does someone know if they are addicted to porn? 23:51 Changing your identity to recover from addiction 27:09 Overcoming shame and judgment  29:23 What do most men need to keep them away from porn? 33:07 Frank’s thoughts on the “victim mentality” 36:36 Does Frank struggle with intimacy? 40:31 How does he handle attention from women? 44:11 Why is porn addiction so common? 48:28 Can porn be watched in moderation?       Episode resources:   Get Frank's Free eBook:   7 Steps To Living Life Without Porn   Follow Frank:   Instagram YouTube Podcast Follow me on Social Media: LinkedIn Instagram Twitter   DISCLAIMER Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today’s guest is Jillian Turecki. Jillian is a certified relationship coach, teacher and writer who for 20 years has taught others how to transform their relationships with themselves. She is also the host of the popular podcast, “Jillian on Love.”   We talk about why it’s important to reflect on past relationship patterns and how to communicate them effectively to a potential partner. We dive deep into how to find love and how to attract, build and maintain a healthy relationship. We also get into the four questions you MUST ask yourself before exiting a relationship, how to heal from a breakup and more.   What to Listen For:   0:00 Intro 1:12 Why it’s important to identify past relationship patterns 03:55 How to “level up” your relationships  06:31 When healing becomes unhealthy 12:19 Bringing up your past when dating 14:53 The difference between chemistry and connection 17:38 How to separate your head from your heart 19:50 Practicing self trust and rebuilding self esteem 23:13 Learning to “co-regulate” in a relationship 27:09 Why it’s hard to know if a relationship is unhealthy 29:22 How to have difficult conversations with your partner  32:25 4 questions to ask yourself before leaving a relationship 35:25 What to do after a breakup 39:05 How to tell if someone is interested in dating you 41:39 Jillian’s thoughts on chivalry 43:25 How to avoid “losing yourself” in a relationship 45:42 If you wanna be in a relationship, it's not about you anymore 49:06 Communicating your needs to your partner 50:25 How to not get stuck in something that’s “casual”          Episode resources:   Follow Jillian:   Instagram Website Podcast Follow me on Social Media: LinkedIn Instagram Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today’s guest is Alan Aragon. Alan is a nutrition researcher and educator with over 30 years of success in the field. He is known as one of the most influential figures in the fitness industry’s movement towards evidence-based information. His notable clients include Stone Cold Steve Austin, Derek Fisher, and Pete Sampras. Alan writes a monthly research review (AARR) providing cutting-edge theoretical and practical information. Alan’s work has been published in popular magazines as well as the peer-reviewed scientific literature. He co-authored Nutrient Timing Revisited, the most-viewed article in the history of the Journal of the International Society of Sports Nutrition (JISSN). He also is the lead author of the ISSN Position Stand on Diets & Body Composition Flexible Dieting: A Science-Based, Reality-Tested Method for Achieving and Maintaining Your Optima l Physique, Performance & Health.   Thanks to this episode's sponsor:   InsideTracker: Created by leading scientists in aging, genetics, and biometrics, InsideTracker analyzes your blood, DNA, and fitness tracking datato identify where you’re optimized—and where you’re not. You’ll get a daily Action Plan with personalized guidance on the right exercise, nutrition, and supplementation for your body. For a limited time, you can get 20% off the entire InsideTracker store at insidetracker.com/doug   What to Listen For:   0:00 Intro 1:54 Why Alan is sober (and challenges he faced) 11:50 Abstaining from alcohol has helped him professionally 13:50 Understanding people’s emotional attachments 16:38 Why is our society so unhealthy? (and who’s responsible) 20:05 Biggest nutrition myths 24:49 How to effectively lose weight 29:02 Non-negotiables when it comes to fat loss 32:37 How to figure out how many calories you should be eating  37:24 What is NEAT? (non-exercise activity thermogenesis) 39:49 Many people miscalculate how much they are eating 45:54 Best way(s) to track your food 53:29 How to adjust your calories after you’ve lost some weight 57:33 Why do people respect Alan so much           Episode resources:   Follow Alan:    Instagram  Website  Research Review  Follow me on Social Media: LinkedIn Instagram Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Todays guest is Mark Samuel. Mark is a serial entrepreneur. He’s a father and also a health and fitness enthusiast with over 17 years of start-up experience. Hes currently the founder and CEO of IWON Organics, a plant-based food company that makes bold, flavor-infused snacks and cereal made from plant proteins like peas, beans and brown rice - our mission is to help others with their health and nutrition journey. IWON (I'm Winning on Nutrition) is focused on promoting healthy snacking and successful, long-term eating habits based on the principles of balanced nutritional profiles, made up of healthy proteins, fats and carbohydrates. IWON's snacks can be found in over 5,000 stores nationwide, including Kroger's, Wegmans, Sprouts, Whole Foods (SoPac and NorCal regions), Vitamin Shoppe, Safeway, Ralphs, Brookshire’s, and online at iwonorganics.com, Amazon and Thrive Market.  Thanks to this episode's sponsor:   Organifi: Try the new Green Juice Crisp Apple to hydrate, energize, and support cortisol balance. Visit ORGANIFI.COM/DOUG  and use code DOUG for 20% off any item.     What to Listen For:   0:00 Intro 3:08 Why Mark is lucky to be alive 5:17 How has his accident changed his relationship with exercise? 7:20 Managing the mental demons 12:35 Transform your relationship with failure 15:34 Lessons learned from building a successful health food business 18:43 Why Mark doesn’t consume his own products 21:54 How to know if a protein bar/health snack is actually “healthy” 25:17 Raising kids while having a “type A” personality  27:15 Does he only hire people that are as driven as him? 29:18 Passion does NOT equal success 35:23 Consider THESE three things before starting a business 38:37 Dealing with uncertainty in a highly competitive business 41:02 Lessons Mark is teaching his kids 43:25 How did losing his Dad when he was young impact him? 45:50 Mark doesn’t believe in THIS common self-help “saying” 47:57 What is Mark currently working on? (personally and professionally)               Episode resources:   Follow Mark:    Linkedin  Website  Follow me on Social Media: LinkedIn Instagram Twitter   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today's guest is Mimi Bouchard. Mimi is a thought leader in the self-improvement and wellness space. She has helped thousands transform their lives through her actionable and pragmatic approach to personal development. Mimi's guided meditation platform Superhuman has amassed thousands of subscribers that swear by the practice daily. Her top 100 Apple Podcast, Mimi, has almost 4 million unique downloads.    Thanks to this episode's sponsor: Ned/Mello Magnesium: www.helloned.com/doug Use Promo code "Doug" at checkout to receive 15% off your order.   ***DISCLAIMER: Ned also offers other products such as their full spectrum CBD. Please be sure to do your due diligence and make sure that consumption of any products Ned offers are safe for you or the individual consuming it and that it won’t conflict with any extenuating circumstances that you or the person consuming it may have for work, school, probation, athletic commissions, etc.   What to Listen For:   0:00 Intro 1:14 Who was Mimi without personal development? 4:43 Why was her childhood difficult? 10:37 Being alone was hard for Mimi 12:35 Mimi discovers personal development as a teenager 17:03 Booking herself in reality tv to keep her visa 24:42 Reality tv wasn’t what she thought it would be 28:37 Transforming her self image  34:58 Did she use personal development to “escape” dealing with pain? 37:59 Everyone’s healing journey is different 41:28 Advice for people that are feeling lost 45:24 Clarity helps you stay focused  48:22 Embracing failure 52:23 Not your typical meditation app Episode resources:   Follow Mimi:   Instagram, Website Superhuman App Follow me on Social Media: LinkedIn Instagram Twitter   ⚠ WELLNESS DISCLAIMER ⚠ Please be advised; the topics related to mental health in my content are for informational, discussion, and entertainment purposes only. The content is not intended to be a substitute for professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your mental health professional or other qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding your current condition. Never disregard professional advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard from your favorite creator, on social media, or shared within content you’ve consumed.   If you are in crisis or you think you may have an emergency, call your doctor or 911 immediately.   If you do not have a health professional who is able to assist you, use these resources to find help:   Emergency Medical Services—911 If the situation is potentially life-threatening, get immediate emergency assistance by calling 911, available 24 hours a day.   National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org.    SAMHSA addiction and mental health treatment Referral Helpline, 1-877-SAMHSA7 (1-877-726-4727) and https://www.samhsa.gov Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I know I don’t normally release episodes three times a week. But, today is a special occasion because actor Frank Grillo of the newly released movie “Lamborghini: The Main Behind The Legend” joins me on the podcast. You may recognize Frank from “Warrior,” “The Grey” or from some of the Marvel  movies or shows like “Billions” or “Kingdom.” In this episode we are going to get real and you are going to hear a side of Frank that you may not be as familiar with. Frank lost two people very close to him in the last year to suicide and it impacted him deeply. He is on a mission to prioritize his mental health, help his family, and help others do the same which is a big focus of today’s discussion. Frank also gets candid about parenting, divorce, healing trauma, his career and more.   Thanks to this episode's sponsor:   Earth Echo Foods/Cacao Bliss: www.earthechofoods.com/dougbopst Use Promo code "Doug" at checkout to receive 15% off your order       What to Listen For:   0:00 Intro 1:28 What motivates Frank to continue to push himself physically? 3:05 Learning to embrace the journey 5:04 Frank’s role got cut from a major movie 8:07 Is he still waiting for his “big break”? 9:59 Dealing with multiple tragedies  16:03 How Frank manages his mental health  18:11 Empowering his kids & helping them with their mental health  25:51 Why you need to cut people out of your life 28:18 Becoming famous later in life 29:46 How Frank’s childhood impacted him 32:23 Reflecting on his divorce 34:34 Healing toxic patterns (& learning healthy ones) 36:35 Why money won’t solve all of your problems 39:36 How does Frank calm himself down? 42:42 Does he struggle with comparison? 43:45 How Frank’s latest role challenged him (& changed him) 48:27 Dealing with criticism 51:06 What’s his new movie about? Episode resources:   Connect with Frank:   Instagram Watch Lamborghini Follow me on Social Media: LinkedIn Instagram Twitter     ⚠ WELLNESS DISCLAIMER ⚠ Please be advised; the topics related to mental health in my content are for informational, discussion, and entertainment purposes only. The content is not intended to be a substitute for professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your mental health professional or other qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding your current condition. Never disregard professional advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard from your favorite creator, on social media, or shared within content you’ve consumed.   If you are in crisis or you think you may have an emergency, call your doctor or 911 immediately.   If you do not have a health professional who is able to assist you, use these resources to find help:   Emergency Medical Services—911 If the situation is potentially life-threatening, get immediate emergency assistance by calling 911, available 24 hours a day.   National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org.    SAMHSA addiction and mental health treatment Referral Helpline, 1-877-SAMHSA7 (1-877-726-4727) and https://www.samhsa.gov Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today's guest is Mind Pump's Adam Schafer. Adam had a lot of adversity to overcome as a child. He lost his father to suicide at the age of seven and bounced around to nine different homes by the time he was seventeen. Adam was bullied in school which ultimately led to him being home-schooled. In the midst of his childhood turmoil one constant in Adam’s life was his love for sports Adam’s love for sports led him down the path of learning about fitness and nutrition and the rest is history. Adam went on to start the highly popular fitness brand and podcast Mind Pump along with his partners Sal, Justin and Doug. Many of you I am sure are wondering how he transformed his painful childhood into something incredibly meaningful. I guess you are going to have to listen to the full episode to find out how.   Thanks to this episode's sponsor: Masszymes: Masszymes can help ensure that all the protein that you consume breaks down into absorbable amino acids. Go to masszymes.com/DOUGFREE and you will automatically get access to your unique coupon code to claim your free bottle.   What to Listen For:   0:00 Intro 1:50 Tragedy strikes when he was in elementary school 6:01 What was life like after his father’s death? 10:10 The impact of witnessing so much chaos as a kid 15:06 Adam packs his bags and leaves his Mom’s house  23:00 What kept Adam out of trouble? 31:07 How to escape the victim mindset 36:20 Unexpected blessings that came from being a personal trainer 42:33 His clients were early mentors of his 47:11 Adam’s big epiphany 54:06 Healing the relationship with his Mom 1:02:29 Does Adam have trust issues? 1:11:02 Being a Dad has changed Adam’s life   Episode resources:   Connect with Adam:   Website Instagram Podcast Follow me on Social Media: LinkedIn Instagram Twitter       Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today's guest and returning to the podcast for her second appearance is Dr. Nicole LePera or many of you know her as “The Holistic Psychologist.” Dr. Nicole was trained in clinical psychology at Cornell University, The New School for Social Research, and the Philadelphia School of Psychoanalysis. She's the author of the #1 New York Times Bestselling Book "How To Do The Work" and the podcast host of SelfHealers Soundboard. As a clinical psychologist in private practice, Dr. Nicole often found herself frustrated by the limitations of traditional psychotherapy.  Wanting more for her patients— and for self— she began a journey to develop a united philosophy of mental, physical, and spiritual health that equips people with the tools necessary to heal themselves. Dr. Nicole is the creator of the #SelfHealers movement where people from around the world are joining together in a community to take healing into their own hands. In 2019, she founded SelfHealers Circle, the first virtual self-guided global healing membership. Selfhealers Circle has members in over 60 countries who heal as a collective. Her latest workbook "How To Meet Your Self" will release on December 6th. We chat about how to deepen the connection with yourself and break free from unhealthy patterns so that you can learn how to calm your nervous system, overcome negative thought patterns, make peace with your past and more!    Thanks to this episode's sponsor:   InsideTracker: Created by leading scientists in aging, genetics, and biometrics, InsideTracker analyzes your blood, DNA, and fitness tracking datato identify where you’re optimized—and where you’re not. You’ll get a daily Action Plan with personalized guidance on the right exercise, nutrition, and supplementation for your body. For a limited time, you can get 20% off the entire InsideTracker store at insidetracker.com/doug   What to Listen For:   0:00 Intro 1:50 Signs your nervous system is dysregulated 7:20 How to know what’s causing daily stress? 11:09 How to regulate your nervous system 15:54 What to do when healing gets hard 21:00 How to overcome fear 25:27 Common struggles of people in Nicole’s Selfhealers community 29:16 How to know if you are being “obsessive” with healing 31:57 Does Nicole ever feel “inauthentic”? 35:08 How to become aware of your choices, habits & behaviors (unhealthy patterns) 39:08 How to overcome negative thinking 43:41 Making peace with your past 47:16 How to know if you are living authentically 51:55 Best practices for journaling 55:12 Signs that you’ve experienced personal growth   Episode resources:   Connect with Nicole:   Website Instagram Twitter   Pre order Nicole’s new book here:   How to Meet Yourself Follow me on Social Media: LinkedIn Instagram Twitter     Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today’s guest is Sahil Bloom. Sahil is one of the most popular creators on twitter and the content he provides on wellness, mindset, money, life and mental health is nothing short of world class. What he has been able to accomplish by the age of 30 is absolutely insane. While at Stanford University, Sahil was a 4 year member of the Baseball team where he helped lead the team to two NCAA Super regional appearances. Sahil also won multiple awards for his academics and even was advised by former Secretary of State Dr. Condoleezza Rice. After leaving Stanford he entered the world of finance where he worked his way up to vice president of a firm that managed billions of dollars in capital. However, things took an unexpected turn for Sahil a few years ago and he found himself disconnected, overwhelmed with anxiety and faced with a self induced ultimatum that led him to the world of twitter and media. We get into his comeback story today as well as his thoughts on success, failure, addiction, things that overrated, timelines, mental errors, life transitions, identity and much more.    Thanks to this episode's sponsor:   Ned/Mello Magnesium: www.helloned.com/doug Use Promo code "Doug" at checkout to receive 15% off your order.   ***DISCLAIMER: Ned also offers other products such as their full spectrum CBD. Please be sure to do your due diligence and make sure that consumption of any products Ned offers are safe for you or the individual consuming it and that it won’t conflict with any extenuating circumstances that you or the person consuming it may have for work, school, probation, athletic commissions, etc.   What to Listen For:   0:00 Intro 1:28 What to eliminate to become healthy, wealthy and happy 4:29 The pleasure/pain trap (Sahil’s thoughts on addiction) 7:51 What prompted Sahil to change his career? 11:13 Sahil hits rock bottom 13:59 His thoughts on money 16:35 How does he manage his relationship with dopamine? 19:43 Measuring success 22:00 How to use failure to your advantage 26:01 Dealing with life transitions 27:44 Overcoming imposter syndrome 29:58 How to become a “sponge” for information 32:02 THESE things are often pursued by many but are way OVERRATED 35:55 The best NON financial investments he’s made 39:33 How to become more PRESENT 41:35 Don’t worry about timelines! 45:05 Dealing with regret 46:21 Has your mental health improved? 49:04 The power of boredom 50:57 THESE mental errors will cost you 52:44 Read THESE 3 books! 54:09 Lessons he has taught his Dad   Episode resources:   Connect with Sahil:   Website Instagram Twitter Follow me on Social Media: LinkedIn Instagram Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices