
Mostly Dating
Mostly Dating is a podcast with approachable advice for every stage of dating and relationships. Host Carleigh Ferrante dives into the world of modern dating and relationships with approachable, relatable advice. Tune in weekly for practical tips, listener questions, and conversations that help you build healthier, happier, and more lasting connections—and find us on Instagram @mostlydating.
Latest episodes

Jun 30, 2025 • 37min
How To Plan A Wedding With Less Stress (Actually)
Lara Mahler, a NYC-based wedding planner and founder of The Privilege Is Mine, shares her journey from dance teacher to wedding planning expert. She discusses effective strategies to reduce wedding stress, including setting boundaries and prioritizing tasks. Lara highlights how Gen Z is reshaping traditions for a more personal experience and the importance of collaboration with family. She also explores modern bridesmaid roles and addresses common budgeting disputes, while introducing a handy new wedding planning app.

Jun 23, 2025 • 45min
Should I Give My Boyfriend An Ultimatum After 7 Years?
Welcome back! In today’s solo episode, Carleigh vents about her recent eyebrow disaster, shares about one of the best instant-results facials she recently had in NYC, and a first date suggestion she’s rethinking. We then dive into listener questions about:How to tell if someone is genuine on early datesWhat to do when you’re constantly messaging but there’s no date plannedHow should you feel 14 months into a relationship?Signs a relationship isn’t right even if nothing is “wrong”Is a relationship doomed if it’s been 7 years and he hasn’t proposed?& more!Links from today's episode:Flirtations podcastSisters in Sobriety podcast1-800-Bridesmaid podcastHydrafacialAs always, find me on Instagram @mostlydating and @mostlydatingpodcast and on TikTok @mostlydating. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review! To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, submit it here or email carleigh@mostly-dating.com.

Jun 16, 2025 • 47min
Can You Say No To Being Someone's Bridesmaid?
Welcome back! In today's solo episode, we're chatting about what to do when someone who ghosted you comes back, how to end a situationship once and for all, feeling like "too much," navigating wedding party invitations from distant friends, and more. As always, find me on Instagram @mostlydating and @mostlydatingpodcast and on TikTok @mostlydating. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review! Links I mentioned:FORM workouts & meditationsTo have your question answered on an upcoming episode, submit it here or email carleigh@mostly-dating.com.

Jun 9, 2025 • 49min
Navigating Divorce & Learning To Date With Intention, with Amy Nobile Messing
Welcome back! Today we're joined by returning guest, Amy Nobile Messing, a holistic dating coach with a shocking success rate.Amy shares her journey from a successful career in PR and writing to becoming a holistic dating coach after her own life-changing experiences with divorce and dating in New York City. We delve into Amy's unique approach that combines practical dating advice with intuitive guidance and energy work. Amy discusses the importance of knowing your core values, emotional readiness, and the transformative power of meditation and self-awareness in dating. Tune in for insights on navigating the dating world, embracing vulnerability, and ultimately finding love and fulfillment.Find Amy on Instagram @love.amy.nyc or head to her website loveamy.co to learn more about working with her.As always, find me on Instagram @mostlydating. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review! To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, submit it here or email carleigh@mostly-dating.com.

Jun 2, 2025 • 57min
Is Your Relationship Starting To Feel Boring? Here's Why (with Nicholas Velotta)
Welcome back! Today we're joined by sexologist, relationship scientist, and head of relationship research at Arya, Nicholas Velotta.what we talk about:why (and how) every couple should use Aryathe 4 sexual personas and how to learn which one you aremisaligned sex drives in relationshipsthe problem with the 5 love languagesthe orgasm gaphow to feel more sexy and confidentwhy we crave the early days of a relationshipwhy long term relationships can start to feel boring (and how to fix it)& moreFind Nicholas on Instagram @mind_on_love and sign up for Arya to learn your sexual persona and start improving your sex life.As always, find me on Instagram @mostlydating. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review! To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, submit it here or email carleigh@mostly-dating.com.

May 26, 2025 • 40min
A Roadmap For The Anxious Generation with Carrie Berk
Welcome back! Today we're joined by Carrie Berk, author and creator, to discuss her latest book, Mindfire: Diary of an Anxious Twentysomething.If you're a Gen-Z or Millennial and you've ever struggled with anxiety, OCD, or another mental health obstacle, this one is for you.Find Carrie on Instagram @carrieberkk and TikTok @carrieberkk and check out her first book, My Real-Life Rom Com.As always, find me on Instagram @mostlydating. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review! To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, submit it here or email carleigh@mostly-dating.com.

May 19, 2025 • 49min
Red Flags You Only See In Hindsight with Monica Danus of Love Is Blind
Welcome back! Today we're joined by Monica Danus, who is opening up about her whirlwind experience on Love Is Blind Season 8 (+ the aftermath that's unfolded since it aired).what we talk about:Monica's break from dating before going on the showHer experience in the pods (including her other connections we didn't see on-screen)Red flags she sees more clearly now + how it felt watching the show backOpening up about past trauma in a new relationship **TW: nonconsensual sex**Finding out about Joey's relationship with SarahThe tea on Monica's current relationship status& more!As always, find me on Instagram @mostlydating. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review! To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, submit it here or email carleigh@mostly-dating.com.

May 12, 2025 • 48min
Stop Waiting For A Relationship For Your Life To Start
Open communication is crucial when considering engagement. Discover key conversations to have with your partner before taking that big step. Personal fulfillment should be prioritized before diving into relationships. The podcast tackles insecurities and the complexities of workplace romances. Additionally, it discusses how to evolve casual connections into meaningful relationships and keep the spark alive in long-term commitments. Tune in for insights on adapting friendships amid changing social dynamics!

May 5, 2025 • 42min
Is Comparison Killing Your Friendships?
Welcome back! Today we're doing things a little differently. In this solo episode, Carleigh introduces six new segments:"what should I say?" where a listener asks what to say to their partner, friend, family member, coworker, etc. in a certain situation."keep going or call it?" where a listener describes their scenario and ask whether they should stay in a relationship/go on another date/continue a friendship/etc."expanders" dating/relationship success stories to help be each other's expanders"a letter to my younger self" where a listener writes the advice they'd tell their younger self about dating/life"friendship files" specific to friendship dilemmas/conflicts"not proud of it" anonymous confessionals of the things we do that we wish we didn'tAs always, find me on Instagram @mostlydating. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review! To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, submit it here or email carleigh@mostly-dating.com.Ready to Level Up Your Dating Game? It’s time to make dating exciting again with First Round’s On Me! Discover real, meaningful connections that go beyond the small talk. Grab a FREE month of FROM’s premium Terracotta subscription with the code MOSTLYDATING.

Apr 28, 2025 • 49min
The Best Boundaries To Set On Early Dates + How To Do It
Welcome back! Today's episode is all about *boundaries*: how to set boundaries in early dating, what boundaries you should set for a relationship that lasts, signs you need to set better boundaries, and what to do when someone isn't respecting your boundaries.We also chat about green flags in an argument with your significant other and we answer a wide range of listener questions about dating and relationships.As always, find me on Instagram @mostlydating. And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & review! To have your question answered on an upcoming episode, submit it here.Ready to Level Up Your Dating Game? It’s time to make dating exciting again with First Round’s On Me! Discover real, meaningful connections that go beyond the small talk. Grab a FREE month of FROM’s premium Terracotta subscription with the code MOSTLYDATING.