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The Trouble with Sex

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Nov 15, 2023 • 44min

Swinging & Other Alternative Relationships

Dr. Tammy talks with podcaster, writer and relationship coach Ginger Bentham about her Life on the Swingset, multi-partnering and how to ethically love outside the 'norm'.DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.OUR GUESTGinger Bentham is a relationship revolutionary and sexcation provocateur. She is the Co-host of the podcasts Life on the Swingset and Intellectual Foreplay – dedicated to all humans looking to cultivate creative and fulfilling relationships and for those curious to learn about ethical non-monogamy, BDSM, and other erotic adventures of the heart.  With her partner Ryan, Ginger also hosts adventures around the world for curious and intrepid spirits to find their erotic edge and live fully awake. INTERESTED IN BECOMING a CERTIFIED  SEX THERAPIST?Visit ISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.  If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered. THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFOCHECK OUT DR. T'S BOOK - OPEN MONOGAMY!· To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.· Learn more about love, marriage, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New MonogamyFollow us on Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson.Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson
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Sep 18, 2023 • 42min

Sex and a Modern Cave Woman

Dr. Tammy talks with author and journalist Stephanie Theobald about the importance of staying curious, eco sexuality, reclaiming the word lesbian, and what her sex life is like living in the middle of the desert.DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to: drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.OUR GUESTStephanie Theobald is an award-winning author and journalist known for her playful and thoughtful work around food, fashion, travel, counter-culture and female sexuality.  She has written for the Guardian, The Sunday Times, The Financial Times, Harper’s Bazaar and Vogue. She is the author of four books including the novel A Partial Indulgence,  and her acclaimed memoir - Sex Drive.Stephanie is currently writing her next novel while living in a cave in the California desert.  Follow her journey on Instagram @dvdobaldon as she communes with nature and fellow free-spirits .DATE NIGHT CARD DECKCheck out Dr. Tammy's new Date Night Card Deck that includes 52 conversation starters to help spark passion & grow romantic intimacy in both new and long-term relationships!INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED AS A SEX THERAPIST?Visit ISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.  If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered. THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFOCHECK OUT DR. T'S BOOK - OPEN MONOGAMY!To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.· Learn more about love, marriage, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New MonogamyInstagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson
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Aug 7, 2023 • 44min

Boy Slut

Dr. Tammy talks with bisexual writer Zachary Zane about the complexity of male sexuality, shame and his new book Boyslut: Memoir and Manifesto.DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.OUR GUESTZachary Zane is a Brooklyn-based columnist, author, and sex expert whose work focuses on sexuality, lifestyle, and culture. Through Zachary’s lens of bisexuality and self-described sluttiness, Boy Slut breaks down exactly how sexual shame negatively impacts our lives, and how we can unlearn the harmful, entrenched messages that society imparts to us.  Zachary is the founder of the Boyslut Zine, which publishes real sex stories from kinksters worldwide. He is also the writer of “Sexplain It,” the weekly sex and relationship advice column at Men’s Health.DATE NIGHT CARD DECKCheck out Dr. Tammy's new Date Night Card Deck that includes 52 conversation starters to help spark passion & grow romantic intimacy in both new and long-term relationships!INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED AS A SEX THERAPIST?Visit ISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.  If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered. THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFOCHECK OUT DR. T'S BOOK - OPEN MONOGAMY!· To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.· Learn more about love, marriage, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New MonogamyFollow us on Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson.Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson
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Jun 7, 2023 • 41min

Making Great Relationships

Dr. Tammy sits down with psychologist and New York Times best-selling author Dr. Rick Hanson to talk about communication, appreciation, cultivating erotic interest, and Rick's latest book, Making Great Relationships.DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.OUR GUESTRick Hanson, Ph.D., is a psychologist, Senior Fellow at UC Berkeley’s Greater Good Science Center, and New York Times best-selling author. His seven books have been published in 31 languages and include Making Great Relationships, Neurodharma, Resilient, Hardwiring Happiness, Just One Thing, Buddha’s Brain, and Mother Nurture – with over a million copies in English alone. He’s the founder of the Global Compassion Coalition and the Wellspring Institute for Neuroscience and Contemplative Wisdom, as well as the co-host of the Being Well podcast – which has been downloaded over 9 million times. His free newsletters have 250,000 subscribers, and his online programs have scholarships available for those with financial needs. He’s lectured at NASA, Google, Oxford, and Harvard. An expert on positive neuroplasticity, his work has been featured on CBS, NPR, the BBC, and other major media. He began meditating in 1974 and has taught in meditation centers worldwide. He and his wife live in northern California and have two adult children. He loves the wilderness and taking a break from emails. INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED AS A SEX THERAPIST?Visit ISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.  If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered. THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFOCHECK OUT DR. T'S BOOK - OPEN MONOGAMY!· To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.· Learn more about love, marriage, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy, or read herInstagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson
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Dec 13, 2022 • 36min

Want Me

Dr. Tammy and  journalist Tracy Clark-Flory explore the struggles modern women face with desire, fantasy and feminism as Tracy reveals her own sexual journey depicted in her memoir Want Me: A Sex Writer's Journey into the Heart of Desire. DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.OUR GUESTTracy Clark-Flory is a journalist and author of the memoir Want Me: A Sex Writer's Journey into the Heart of Desire (Penguin, 2021), which New York Times bestselling author Rebecca Traister calls "intimate, challenging, and so very smart.” She's written for Cosmopolitan, Elle, Esquire, Marie Claire, Salon, The Guardian, Women's Health, Jezebel and many others. She writes about sex, feminism, gender, motherhood, pop culture, technology, and more. INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED AS A SEX THERAPIST?Visit ISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.  If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered. THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFOCHECK OUT DR. T'S BOOK - OPEN MONOGAMY!· To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.· Learn more about love, marriage, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy - or her book by the same name. ·  Want more Dr. Tammy?  Read: The New Monogamy, When You're the One Who Cheats.Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson
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Sep 30, 2022 • 41min

Your Brain & Sex

Did you know that your brain doesn't know the difference between lust and love? Join Dr. Tammy as she talks with neuroscientist, psychologist and researcher Dr. Nicole Prause, about what happens to the brain during orgasm, how sex is medicine, and how it could be used to help treat ailments like trauma and depression.DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.OUR GUESTNicole Prause, Ph.D. is a scientist and licensed psychologist working full-time as a researcher and mental health care provider. Trained at one of the birthplaces of clinical science, Indiana University, Dr. Prause clinically interned at Boston Consortium and was a research fellow at Harvard University. This prepared her for ten years leading laboratory research into human psychophysiology to understand approach motivation and pleasure. These academic faculty appointments included Albuquerque's neuroimaging facility Mind Research Network and the University of California, Los Angeles. With this strong dual training as a scientist and clinician, Dr. Prause is determined to develop and advocate for better therapies for improving patient care. In service of this ideal, she is concerned about how to measure therapeutic success, making empirically-supported therapies accessible for clinicians, how to identify and prevent the use of ineffective therapies, and promoting clear communication with clients about process. INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED AS A SEX THERAPIST?Visit ISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.  If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered. THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFOCHECK OUT DR. T'S NEW BOOK - OPEN MONOGAMY!· To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.· Learn more about love, marriage, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy - or her book by the same name. ·  Want more Dr. Tammy?  Read: The New Monogamy, When You're the One Who Cheats.Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson
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Aug 2, 2022 • 34min

Using Your Intuition in Love & at Work

Want to develop your intuition as a tool to  make better decisions and improve your relationships at home and at work?   In this episode, Dr. Tammy talks with acclaimed psychic, intuitive counselor and author, Melanie Barnum (who is alsoTammy's  sister!) about intuition, love and life.DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com. INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED AS A SEX THERAPIST?Visit ISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.  If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered. GUEST BIOMelanie Barnum  is a psychic & medium. She was the Keynote Speaker for INATS, The International New Age Trade Show for their 2022 year. She is an international author who recently won the Coalition of Visionary Resources (COVR) Gold Award for her latest Book, Intuition @ Work.  An intuitive counselor, life coach, reflexologist and hypnotist, she has been practicing professionally for over twenty years. Melanie enjoys helping others connect to their loved ones, discover their own greatness, and dive into their intuitive abilities through individual sessions, workshops, and mentoring.  Her 8 books have been translated into multiple languages and also include “The Book of Psychic Symbols”, “The Steady Way to Greatness”, “Psychic Abilities for Beginners”, “Psychic Vision”, “Llewellyn’s Little Book of Psychic Development”, “Psychic Development Beyond Beginners”, all through Llewellyn Worldwide Publishers. Also, available are “Manifest Your Year” and her card deck, “Psychic Symbols Oracle Cards”.    THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFOCHECK OUT DR. T'S NEW BOOK - OPEN MONOGAMY!· To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.· Learn more about love, marriage, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy - or her book by the same name. ·  Want more Dr. Tammy?  Read: The New Monogamy, When You're the One Who Cheats.Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson
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Jun 2, 2022 • 33min

Open Monogamy - Could It Work for You & Your Partner?

The idea of monogamy and marriage  are no longer simple concepts. Can you have a loving, trusting relationship while exploring new direction as a couple? In this episode,  Dr. Tammy introduces the concept of Open Monogamy by answering listener questions and talking with a couple first-hand about what open monogamy means to them and how they successfully began redefining  their traditional relationship over ten years ago. DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com. INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED AS A SEX THERAPIST?Visit ISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.  If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered.THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFOCHECK OUT DR. T'S NEW BOOK - OPEN MONOGAMY!· To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.· Learn more about love, marriage, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy - or her book by the same name. ·  Want more Dr. Tammy?  Read: The New Monogamy, When You're the One Who Cheats.Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson
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Feb 23, 2022 • 30min

Hearts Not Parts: Understanding Gender-Expansive & Trans Sex

Do you or someone you love identify as non-binary or trans? Dr. Tammy talks with trans femme sex therapist  Lucie Fielding to answer your questions about gender, pronouns, and exploring sex as a trans person, or partner of someone who is gender-expansive.DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com. INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED AS A SEX THERAPIST?Visit ISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.  If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered. GUEST BIOLucie Fielding is a queer, non-binary, trans femme sex therapist and educator who specializes in working with individuals and relationship units including couples, triads, D/s relationships, polycule, and groups to develop empowered visions of sexual and relational health. Lucie is an expert in kink and CNM-/ENM-knowlgeable, and she also specializes in providing affirmative support to sex workers as well as queer, trans, non-binary, and gender expansive adults. As a queer and trans provider, she is particularly attuned to the ways that social stigma, discrimination, and oppression manifest in disruptive ways and can lodge themselves in the body. Her book, Trans Sex: Clinical Approaches to Trans Sexualities and Erotic Embodiments aims to equip clinical providers with both conceptual frameworks and concrete tools for better engaging their trans, non-binary, and gender expansive clients in pleasure-centered discussions of sexual health.THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFOCHECK OUT DR. T'S NEW BOOK - OPEN MONOGAMY!· To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.· Learn more about love, marriage, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy - or her book by the same name. ·  Want more Dr. Tammy?  Read: The New Monogamy, When You're the One Who Cheats.Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson
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Jan 21, 2022 • 39min

Meet Dr. A Hole

If you have ever had a hemorrhoid or fissure, you know how important it is to take care of your bum. And for those who enjoy anal sex and play, your tush needs extra care.  Meet proctologist and anal surgeon, Dr. Evan Goldstein (affectionately known as Dr. Asshole),  as he and Dr. Tammy talk sex tips, proper healthcare and what NOT to do with pool balls...DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.  INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED AS A SEX THERAPIST? Visit ISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.  If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered. GUEST BIODr. Evan Goldstein is a nationally renowned anal surgeon and the Founder and CEO of Bespoke Surgical, the leading private practice specializing in an elite standard of sexual health and wellness care in New York City. His practice caters to a wide range of clientele; however, the majority of his patients are LGBTQ+. Dr. Goldstein is also the Co-Founder of Future Method, an innovative sex care brand that is the result of Dr. Goldstein’s years of experience working with his clients and understanding their sexual needs which has been embraced by people from a wide spectrum of sexualities.As the preeminent expert and thought leader in the field, Dr. Goldstein is committed to education and awareness—not only bringing the important issues surrounding sexual health to the forefront but also eliminating the stigma attached to anal engagement. Relating to a wider audience, Dr. Goldstein leaves the medical jargon behind and communicates in a straight-forward, direct manner, breaking down taboos and allowing for more conversational and open discussions.THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFOCHECK OUT DR. T'S NEW BOOK - OPEN MONOGAMY!· To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.· Learn more about love, marriage, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy - or her book by the same name. ·  Want more Dr. Tammy?  Read: The New Monogamy, When You're the One Who Cheats.Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

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