Enneagram and Marriage

When Ebenezer Scrooge is hit with the alarming totality of death in a fever-dream like observation of his past, present, and future, he is awakened to the magnificent springboard of joy that comes with the awareness of all the good one can still do in the world with and for others. You too, as you look deeply at your life with us in this episode, can view your past, your present, and your future with intention and intentionality. Join us in this fun episode where Christa coaches you into daring to push past fear and into more light and life-giving love together. Watch episode on YouTube! You'll also learn a bit about the past, present, and future Enneagram stances in the glossary of her new book "The Enneagram in Marriage", and as illustrated through the life of Dickens', "A Christmas Carol" so well! Get her book here on sale using the code (time is running out for the code EMPOD40 at Baker Book House!) here! Catch all of our blogs and goodies at www.EnneagramandMarriage.com and make sure you're on our email list for all the SALES! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this two-for-one episode, you get a chance to first learn soul care from coaching duo Travis and Jessica Vangsnes (8-4 pairing), who are both trauma-informed E + M Certified Coaches with skills in emotional intimacy building. First, take a deeper dive into what soul care is and how you can attune with yourself in the heart, mind, and body individually and together with these trauma-informed expert coaches who help us through integrating contemplative prayer practices and ideas for each of us on the journey to healthier soul care.    In the second episode of this DOUBLE EPISODE series (TIMESTAMP: 47:00) we gain insight together into how men can realistically excavate their emotional landscape in marriage better with Travis. Along with all the resources and tips you glean today, don't forget to sign up for their soul care online FREE retreat soon! Sign up at the link here for Travis and Jess' Dec 10th FREE Virtual event; Shiny Eyes and the Care of the Soul https://www.eventbrite.com/e/shiny-eyes-and-the-care-of-the-soul-tickets-764877979627    PODCAST LINKS   Enneagram and Soul Care Guided PACE Coaching https://guidedpace.com/coaching/   Shiny Eyes Retreats https://guidedpace.com/retreats/   Shiny eyes book https://www.amazon.com/Shiny-Eyes-Seeing-Better-Through-ebook/dp/B09KMKKQR3/ref=sr_1_1?crid=27SICCYRYUISS&keywords=shiny+eyes+book&qid=1701118895&sprefix=shiny+eyes+boo%2Caps%2C291&sr=8-1   Link for Dec 10th free Virtual event; Shiny Eyes and the Care of the Soul https://www.eventbrite.com/e/shiny-eyes-and-the-care-of-the-soul-tickets-764877979627   Facebook @Shinyeyesretreat  https://www.facebook.com/shinyeyesretreat?mibextid=LQQJ4d   Men and Emotional Health   Shiny eyes book https://www.amazon.com/Shiny-Eyes-Seeing-Better-Through-ebook/dp/B09KMKKQR3/ref=sr_1_1?crid=27SICCYRYUISS&keywords=shiny+eyes+book&qid=1701118895&sprefix=shiny+eyes+boo%2Caps%2C291&sr=8-1   Travis' blog stainedglasseyes.com   Facebook @Shinyeyesretreat  https://www.facebook.com/shinyeyesretreat?mibextid=LQQJ4d   Get the Enneagram in Marriage: Your Guide to Thriving Together in Your Unique Pairing right here for your loved ones this Christmas on sale!   Find our new Substack right here!   Be sure to visit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com for all of your relationship needs. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this fun Christmas movie episode, we take a break with our favorite holiday drink to allow cinematic mastery to woo us into a healthier intimate dance of relationship together in middle marriage. Here, Christa is joined by Hannah Hardin, 4 as we talk about a favorite family and more realistic middle-marriage movie to watch during the holidays (and a modern nod to It's a Wonderful Life), The Family Man with Nicholas Cage, Tea Leoni, Don Cheadle, and Jeremy Piven, as well as another family fave. We not only talk about the personality type growth we see happening on screen, but we also connect it to YOUR relationship and how you too can enter a more magical realm by enjoying what is already yours to behold with gratitude this season. Watch on YouTube here!   To read Christa’s book for more details on the seasons of marriage, click here and use the code EMBOOK40 for 40% off + free US Stardard Shipping!   To join the 5 week course where we’ll go through her book in depth, click here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If you're deeply hurt but you keep moving, but you’re locked up with resentment, you and your spouse and family can feel it on an internal level. It robs you and threatens your felt sense of safety and regulation, and it chokes you of joy, peace, and compassion. Today in this experiential episode where we discuss forgiveness and experience a forgiveness practice together, Christa takes time with the Enneagram & Marriage community to walk through the best ways to heal an attachment wound and forgive. Use this episode for your marriage issues, extended family issues, issues with children, friends, colleagues or anyone else you’ve been holding out unforgiveness toward. This is a life and peace-giving episode meant to free you from the grip of despair, rage, or fear, so don't miss it! Watch on YouTube!   To join the Collective Membership on CYBER MONDAY ONLY, visit www.enneagramandmarriage.com now!   To read Christa’s book for the full forgiveness and attachment wound practices, click here and use the code EMBOOK40 for 40% off + free US Stardard Shipping!   To join the 5 week course where we’ll go through her book in depth, click here!     Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Join us for laughs and love as we walk and talk together through the beautiful Little Women story and find the beautiful virtues in this epic holiday tale mini-episode. If you love this book or movie, you'll love leaning in with us as we go type by type in this lighthearted conversation, covering Jo, Meg, Amy, and Beth, along with Professor Bhaer and Theodore Lawrence. We hope this episode brings a burst of joy to your holidays as we remember the joys and sorrows of life, love, legacy, and family together right here! Watch on YouTube!   Also, join us for the "Enneagram in Marriage" 5-week course this Jan and use the code BLACKFRIDAY to get half off through Saturday right here!   Grab Christa's new book on sale! www.BakerBookHouse.com for 40% off and free US Standard Shipping with the code EMBOOK40 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It's never easy to face squarely that the person we signed up to marry has changed - or worse, that we've changed and no longer feel the same level of desire together. In these critical middle seasons of marriage stages of fighting for your family and partnership, we need every tool we can get to add joy and decrease resentment together. Join Christa and world-renowned couples therapist and author Dr. Tracy Dagleish, Ph.D., Enneagram 1 (1-9 marriage), as we discuss exactly what you can do when you find you and your spouse are bringing out the worst criticisms in each other.  Get Dr. Tracy's book here! https://a.co/d/fv5vEJv Give Dr. Tracy's Instagram a follow! https://www.instagram.com/drtracyd/ Get the freebie on her website! www.drtracyd.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Once we pull back the curtain under our conflicts and see what's hindering us, we can work on our issues with one another - that is if we're emotionally regulated. In this quick episode, Christa will help to stabilize you and your conflicts further by helping you open up your relationship window of tolerance. Don't miss this regulating episode right here! Get Christa's book, "The Enneagram in Marriage: Your Guide to Thriving Together in Your Unique Pairing" here paperback, Audible, or Kindle! Use the Baker code "EMBOOK40" for 40% off and free US Standard Shipping here! Watch the episode on YouTube here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today we’re joined on the pod by Drs. Bill and Kristin Gaultierre, psychologists and spiritual directors who help us to find one another's gifts amidst the rubble of soul wounds as we learn to offer Christ's compassionate healing to one another. They do this with us with structure but also gentleness and care as a mature 1 & 2 pairing. You won't regret taking the time to dig underneath the anger, shame, and anxiety to journey through the soul with grace and healing from God and one another right here with us. Follow Drs. Drs. Bill and Kristin Gaultierre on Instagram here:https://www.instagram.com/soulshepherding/ Visit their website here (and find their book here!): www.soulsheparding.org  here:https://www.instagram.com/soulshepherding/ Visit their website here (and find their book here!): www.soulsheparding.org Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

85% of adults will have experienced a traumatic event by the time they’re 18, which means that virtually all married individuals need good ways to cope with trauma. In today’s brief episode, Christa walks you through five tried-and-true methods for walking through traumatic conversations and situations in marriage, with as much resiliency as possible. She'll share tips for working through your triggers and enduring vulnerabilities, as well as practical, logical steps, and lots of love. Do not miss this episode before the holiday! Watch on YouTube here!  Visit www.EnneagramandMarriage.com for all of your relationship needs and don't forget the code "EMBOOK40" for 40% off Christa's new book! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The last thing you want are holiday arguments between you or your extended family to carry forward to future generations and this week's shows are aimed at helping you to process, love, and set the boundaries you need. We welcome expert and author, Courtney J. Burg, author (Thomas Nelson, 12/12/23, Loyal to a Fault: How to Establish New Patterns When Loving Others Has Left You Hurting) to the pod today to help you truly find your way together this season, as we discover how boundaries can become an important bid for healthy connection. Watch on YouTube here! Find Courtney's website here, including her book "Loyal to a Fault: How to Establish New Patterns When Loving Others Has Left You Hurting", along with her bonuses, and her wonderful course here! Pre-order Courtney's new book, Loyal to a Fault, here!  *Thank you to the Personality Path for including this podcast on their list of the top Enneagram podcasts of 2023! You can take their test, which has been taken by over a million people right here! Get all your relationship needs met here at www.EnneagramandMarriage.com    Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices