Enneagram and Marriage

If you’re serving clients, patients, kids, families, students, or helping at work in a fast-paced environment, inviting in restful rhythms in life or marriage may feel audacious and impossible next to your never-ending to-do list. However, those who are natural givers often deeply struggle to thrive because of this tendency to serve until burnout. Here you're invited to lean into practices that will help you to give for the long haul as we chat with Holly Oxhandler, Ph.D., MSW, author (Soul of the Helper) Enneagram 2 (2/9 pairing), mom, wife, associate professor and associate dean at Baylor University’s school of social work. Don’t miss this chance to learn how it’s truly possible to slow down as well as love your people well. Watch on YouTube here! Holly K. Oxhandler, PhD, LMSW, is an associate professor and the associate dean for research and faculty development at Baylor University’s Diana R. Garland School of Social Work. Dr. Oxhandler has developed various instruments to measure the integration of clients’ religion/spirituality in mental health treatment, the integration of the helping professionals’ faith in their work, as well as clients’ views toward discussing their spirituality in treatment. Learn from Holly on her website with her offerings right here! Here is her Instagram also! Get her book on Amazon here! It's here! Sign up for the FREE Enneasummit on Love & Relationships right here! Get the All-Access Pass to the Summit here! Get on the email list at www.EnneagramandMarriage.com for all of the fun news and events, too! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Although the Enneagram is a wonderful tool to assess our relationship depths, other personality assessments also offer us excellent insight for our relationship love styles. Here Christa introduces you to Myers Briggs (the MBTI) in this listener-requested mini episode to give you a brief tutorial on how you may grow in love and work life together using this robust system. Explore Introverting versus Extroversion (I/E), Sensing versus Intuition (S/I), Thinking versus Feeling (T/F), and Judging versus Perceiving (J/P). As you learn, allow yourself to lean into your partners' type as well as to your lesser activated styles of relating too as you consider your differences for a fuller life experience. Don’t know your types?  Watch On YouTube Here Take the TypeFinder/16 Personalities (their free MBTI variant) on Truity.com Sign up for the FREE Enneasummit on Love & Relationships right here! Get on the email list at www.EnneagramandMarriage.com for all of the fun news and events, too! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Often you want so desperately to relate well and with joy together, but when a relational rupture happens, we don't know how to repair it with healthy shifts and boundaries. Here we are joined by neuroscience expert and licensed marriage and family therapist Juliane Taylor Shore to help us sort out how to handle more difficult experiences together. Juliane takes us through the heavy lifting of relationships at their best - and their worst - with comfort, empowerment, and a head, heart, and body approach to help us discover what we can do when we are lost and feeling unsafe in our relationships. Watch the uncut version on YouTube here! Join Juliane Taylor Shore at her website with her offerings right here! Get her book on Amazon here! Sign up for the FREE Enneasummit on Love & Relationships right here! Find your pairing's light/glow together here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/store/c4/enneagramglow Get on the email list at www.EnneagramandMarriage.com for all of the fun news and events, too! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Humility is the absence of pride and conceit in a relationship, and unfortunately, the underbelly of an individualistic Western philosophy is often a lack of it. Yet, sometimes we believe that if we’re humble, our partner will take narcissistic advantage of us, and if they’re not healthy, that may well just happen. Tune into this must-listen mini episode for tools for both of you to truly find the essential virtue of humility as well as steps to get there right here healthily for each and every personality type! Watch on YouTube! Sign up for the FREE Enneasummit on Love & Relationships right here! Get the conference all-access pass here! Find your pairing's light/glow together here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/store/c4/enneagramglow Get on the email list at www.EnneagramandMarriage.com for all of the fun news and events, too! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When you share the gifts you have, the whole world is improved, little by little. In contrast, when couples and individuals get caught up in the dark desire to get ahead for themselves despite what happens to others, those who are weaker, elderly, less affluent, less desirable or otherwise more culturally marginalized get forgotten and discarded. In this episode, Christa walks you through sharing your light, even through discouragement, through the lens of the magnificent WWII novel, "All the Light We Cannot See" along with her husband Wes, who joins in for a conversation walking through the important elements from the accompanying Netflix series. Tune in here for reminders of how to love in each of our own very small but also very significant ways! Watch YouTube here! Sign up for the FREE Enneasummit on Love & Relationships right here! Get the conference all-access pass here! Read or watch All the Light We Cannot See here: Netflix Series:  https://www.netflix.com/title/81083008 Book: https://www.amazon.com/All-Light-We-Cannot-See/dp/1501173219 Find your pairing's light/glow together here! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/store/c4/enneagramglow Get on the email list at www.EnneagramandMarriage.com for all of the fun news and events, too! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What do women find attractive long-term? How do you show strength and softness as a man? How do you allow for femininity without becoming weak? Join us today for this special love episode as we give tips for all of this, and moreover, as we give your love just the boost it needs in this mini-must listen episode on ascending the peaks of your relationship together! Watch on YouTube here! Sign up for the FREE Enneasummit on Love & Relationships right here! Get the conference all-access pass here! Join the E + M Coaching Certification here! Use code MASTERCLASS for $500 off! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-e-m-coaching-masterclass Get on the email list at www.EnneagramandMarriage.com for all of the fun news and events, too! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

So many times in marriage there are arguments that don't get resolved, underlying anger that doesn't get diffused, and tempers flying out of control, depending on your personality type. Today we are joined by world-renowned mediator and attorney Hesha Abrams who is an expert at not only helping you to find your power and self-control, but also in truly finding intimacy through actually resolving the conflicts at hand together in your marriage and other important relationships. Tune in here! So many times in marriage there are arguments that don't get resolved, underlying anger that doesn't get diffused, or tempers flying out of control, depending on your personality type. Today we are joined by world-renowned mediator and attorney Hesha Abrams who is an expert at not only helping you to find your power and self-control but also in truly finding intimacy through actually resolving the conflicts at hand together in your marriage and other important relationships. Tune in here!Watch on YouTube! Get Hesha's book Holding the Calm: The Secret to Resolving Conflict & Diffusing the Tension here on Amazon Find everything you need at Hesha Abrams' website here! Join the E + M Coaching Certification here! Use code MASTERCLASS for $500 off! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/emcoaches Get on the email list at www.EnneagramandMarriage.com for all of the fun news and events, too! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Music can speak to us in a way that words alone often cannot. In this week between the Grammys and the Superbowl, we're having fun sharing songs by Taylor Swift for each and every Enneagram type to enjoy in love, life, and times of lament, too. Watch on YouTube here!   Enjoy this E + M curated Taylor Swift & the Enneagram Spotify Playlist here. There are 2 songs for each type, in order 1-9, per the episode here! Join the E + M Coaching Certification here! Use code MASTERCLASS for $500 off! https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/emcoaches Get on the email list at www.EnneagramandMarriage.com for all of the fun news and events, too!   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Parenting requires nuanced architecture and then releasing kids to learn for themselves bit by bit - and all of this as you're navigating mood changes that start becoming real even in the grade school years. To help us through this sensitive topic, we are gifted with parenting expert Nellie Harden of Family Life, Enneagram 2, who shares her relational and brain-based biological expertise, as well as what she's gained from parenting four teen daughters along with her husband. Recollect your own teen years and learn what's ahead with kids or grandkids as we approach parenting with peace, grace, and wisdom. We dig into some of the most important questions together, including how to walk through hormonal moments with kids, dads and daughters, and how we can launch healthy and regulated adults one day, too. Don't miss it! Watch on YouTube! Nellie Harden's book and steps! https://www.nellieharden.com/ Leave a review on Apple here if you enjoyed this episode! https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagram-and-marriage/id1493137938 Join the E + M Masterclass here! Use code MASTERCLASS for $500 off. https://www.enneagraminyourmarriage.com/emcoaches Sign up for the Equip + Activate Leadership Conference below!  https://www.simplywholehearted.com/2024conferenceregistrationpage?ref=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.simplywholehearted.com%2Fa%2F2147770674%2FkFLz5sF6 For all your relationship needs, visit here! www.EnneagramandMarriage.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Emotional agility is a necessary skill for relationship-building, so that when we find ourselves dysregulated, we can self-soothe. We need this practice time and again considering all of the ways we lose our footing in life and relationships. Enjoy and save this episode so you have a special practice to help you find your way back to joy and peace time and again. This guided imagery and relaxation episode helps you move from stress to finding your steps again when you feel triggered. Watch on YouTube here! Leave a review on Apple here if you enjoyed this episode! https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enneagram-and-marriage/id1493137938 Become an E + M Certified Coach here! https://www.enneagraminyourmarriage.com/emcoaches Sign up for the Equip + Activate Leadership Conference below!  https://www.simplywholehearted.com/2024conferenceregistrationpage?ref=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.simplywholehearted.com%2Fa%2F2147770674%2FkFLz5sF6 For all your relationship needs, visit here! www.EnneagramandMarriage.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices